We have come across several profiles whilst in the chat rooms that say something akin to this:
WE ARE SICK OF TIMEWASTERS AND WE HAVE DECIDED NOT TO BOTHER MEETING ANYMORE....
To us, we think that if you are really committed to this premise, you should not have an active profile. End of story.
If your profile says you are not interested in meeting, and if you are in a chat room, you are effectively saying that you like the idea and fantasy of being a swinger. If you are reading this and getting angry....don't, just our opinion and view based on what we have seen and read from people's profiles.
If you are reading this and thinking....'Hey, I'm here because I like the social aspect of it.'
That's fine but to be sociable, you have to...at some point....meet up with real live people. Going against the grain of what is written on your profile. If you do not swing, why are you here? There are now lots and lots (hundreds and thousands) of sites in which social networking can take place. Many of which do not talk about swinging, or anything sexual. If you are on a swinging site you should, quid pro quo, be into swinging. It irritates us (and myabe lots of genuine other swingers who also like looking for other swingers) that there are many people on the site who DO NOT meet anyone (as a couple or on thei own).
I move that it is THESE people who are the timewasters, and therefore should be struck from the site (unless of course they have a fully paid up membership fee).
Discuss....
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Sex God
So you want people removed from the site cos you disagree with their reason for being here - unless they are fully paid up members. Why does whether they have paid matter?
Or is this just an attack on the people who have been here long enough to be non-payers?
It isn't up to YOU to decide who is on here. It is not up to YOU to define the criteria for being a member.
If someone wants to be on here but not meet others for sex, so what? I bet there are loads of people who don't meet but don't mention the fact. Do you think we should all be investigated to make sure we are meeting the regulation number of times in order to qualify for membership. It's a FUN SITE not a bloody job FFS!
Your thread is a load of twaddle, clearly written to trigger a fight (well done, you got one), and should be locked.
Or is this just an attack on the people who have been here long enough to be non-payers?
It isn't up to YOU to decide who is on here. It is not up to YOU to define the criteria for being a member.
If someone wants to be on here but not meet others for sex, so what? I bet there are loads of people who don't meet but don't mention the fact. Do you think we should all be investigated to make sure we are meeting the regulation number of times in order to qualify for membership. It's a FUN SITE not a bloody job FFS!
Your thread is a load of twaddle, clearly written to trigger a fight (well done, you got one), and should be locked.
and have you noticed.....that a great many of these people that put " fed up of time wasters etc etc " never seem to go to a social or arranged group meet. Perhaps if they did...they would indeed meet plenty of good natured, friendly, people that do have a desire to swing.
Also may I say....if a person or couple say no thanks to a meet....that does not make them time wasters. It simply means they have preferances, and you don't fit into them.
I have said before, and I'll say again....that 90% of the people on here are genuine and it is not that difficult to weed the ones that aren't.
Also may I say....if a person or couple say no thanks to a meet....that does not make them time wasters. It simply means they have preferances, and you don't fit into them.
I have said before, and I'll say again....that 90% of the people on here are genuine and it is not that difficult to weed the ones that aren't.
if the site owners did as you want and got rid of people who arnt meeting then they would be getting rid of me (and gary)
we arnt meeting anyone at the moment due to various things but mainly family stuff and ill health however thats not to say that we wont start meeting people again in the future when hopefully life and health is more sorted out
we were both here as singles and both met others, me more so than gary i think
we also went to munches and socials together and i also went alone
as a couple we have had meets but have found it far harder to sort them out than as singles and because of other life stuff it simply isnt viable at the moment to keep trying to arrange them
so we are taking a break, for how long i dont know tho
but we still like to come on here for a chat and to read the forums
if we were forced to leave because we arnt actively swinging then we simply wouldnt be back here because we would have to pay !!
we arnt meeting anyone at the moment due to various things but mainly family stuff and ill health however thats not to say that we wont start meeting people again in the future when hopefully life and health is more sorted out
we were both here as singles and both met others, me more so than gary i think
we also went to munches and socials together and i also went alone
as a couple we have had meets but have found it far harder to sort them out than as singles and because of other life stuff it simply isnt viable at the moment to keep trying to arrange them
so we are taking a break, for how long i dont know tho
but we still like to come on here for a chat and to read the forums
if we were forced to leave because we arnt actively swinging then we simply wouldnt be back here because we would have to pay !!
One day I will discover a way to establish a swinging site that excludes the tourists fantasists and ego rubbers and become a millionaire. In the mean time I am happy to live with things as they are.
Yes I know the ego cams(by which i mean people who go on cam simply for the attention with no intention of meeting) can be mildly irritating but then they can also inspire a room to become busy enough to find fellow swingers. The constant stream of dial a shag requests in chat is equally irritating and I cant think of an upside to that.
The folk who arent meeting anymore well they are the least of our worries and anyway when i retire from recreational fucking I would quite like to think I would still be welcome in chat.
Yes I know the ego cams(by which i mean people who go on cam simply for the attention with no intention of meeting) can be mildly irritating but then they can also inspire a room to become busy enough to find fellow swingers. The constant stream of dial a shag requests in chat is equally irritating and I cant think of an upside to that.
The folk who arent meeting anymore well they are the least of our worries and anyway when i retire from recreational fucking I would quite like to think I would still be welcome in chat.
Sex God
I'd like to add.
We are PEOPLE not opportunitites for sex. Banning people for not having enough sex, with enough people, turns this into no more than a meat market.
If someone doesn't like my reasons for being here - tough. I'm not here for THEIR pleasure - I'm here for mine and that of my chosen meet-partner.
Is anyome else offended by the basic premise of the OP?
We are PEOPLE not opportunitites for sex. Banning people for not having enough sex, with enough people, turns this into no more than a meat market.
If someone doesn't like my reasons for being here - tough. I'm not here for THEIR pleasure - I'm here for mine and that of my chosen meet-partner.
Is anyome else offended by the basic premise of the OP?
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Is anyome else offended by the basic premise of the OP?
If I didn't think the comment was ill thought out, I might be
I have nothing in my profile that suggests I am here to meet.
I have no pictures.
I have no ads.
But I did meet the OP at a social on Saturday night. Unsure what that says
I've had recreational sex with more people than inhabit Easter Island. And that includes the statues.
Many of these *ahem* cultural exchanges have been in classic "wife swapping" situations. It's been, on and off, a big part of my life- of my growing up- and of the making of who I am.
I currently don't swing. That's predominantly because as well as my non 'nilla husband- I have an utterly 'nilla lover who I've been "with" for quite a few years now- and he finds the concept difficult enough as it is. I respect his feelings- and as I was jaded with the whole thing anyway, decided to see how this "triangle" works out.
I'm here because I have friends here I can talk to in an open minded manner. Friends who dont get :shock: when I tell an anecdote about being chucked out of a motel with three other people at 1am..etc etc. Friends- and other forumites- I can discuss complicated sexual issues with without being judged.
One day, I might change my mind and shag everything/everybody in sight. I might chuck in the towel completely and be *monogamous for the rest of my days.
There are half a dozen reasons I might leave this site. However, your not having the patience to skip to the next profile is not, and will never be, one of them.
*Excuse my language.
Many of these *ahem* cultural exchanges have been in classic "wife swapping" situations. It's been, on and off, a big part of my life- of my growing up- and of the making of who I am.
I currently don't swing. That's predominantly because as well as my non 'nilla husband- I have an utterly 'nilla lover who I've been "with" for quite a few years now- and he finds the concept difficult enough as it is. I respect his feelings- and as I was jaded with the whole thing anyway, decided to see how this "triangle" works out.
I'm here because I have friends here I can talk to in an open minded manner. Friends who dont get :shock: when I tell an anecdote about being chucked out of a motel with three other people at 1am..etc etc. Friends- and other forumites- I can discuss complicated sexual issues with without being judged.
One day, I might change my mind and shag everything/everybody in sight. I might chuck in the towel completely and be *monogamous for the rest of my days.
There are half a dozen reasons I might leave this site. However, your not having the patience to skip to the next profile is not, and will never be, one of them.
*Excuse my language.
Sex God
I'm busy for the next few weeks. I won't be meeting anyone nor attending any socials.
Do I leave now?
Do I leave now?
how insulting and rude.
if you dont like the fact some people are here and taking a breck from actually meeting for sex then in my eyes you have the wrong impression about being a swinger.
swinging is more than a fuck, its about friendships, having a laugh, finding support, basically having a circle of friends who accept that sometimes you have some friends whom you may have sex with.
if your looking for a sex site im sure google can assist you.
now swinging to some people isnt the latest buzz, its a life style choice.
they may support a football team, but just because they havent had the time to watch a match or play a game does not mean they can no longer support that team.
do you/ would you discard your friends you have made via swinging sceene if they, for what ever reason, decide they dont want sex with you any more?
Profiles here are just that, a profile, people can chose to fill them in, or say feck all.
by saying they are not currently looking to meet is not a reason to say well fuck off out of our way then... to be frank you come across as sleazy sex hunting un emotional animals.
i have been a swinger for over 22 years, if for what ever reason ( and that reason is mine to know and the publics if i choose to share that) i decide to step back from meeting then i can i will and i do.
i am not wasting anyones time by being here. unless your so blood thirsty you cant stand to waste 2 mins reading my profile to find out im not currently swinging is such a waste of your time you feel my punnishment is to fuck off or be kicked off the site?
Now if i was wanting to meet people i would have a AD.
yep thats those things you fill in when seeking a sexual partner. Not profiles.
it would be more likely considered a waste of time if my profile wasnt clear and someone wasted their time messaging me asking for a meet when i hadnt made it clear i wasnt meeting.
you seem to have been swinging for just a few years, i hope if you find your relationship does not last, you fall ill, you have a stressfull load of crap going on at home/work etc that when you come here to see your mates we dont tell you where to get off because unless your free meat ready for the fuck we dont want to know.
this is a swingers community site , not a sex site.
xxx fem xx
if you dont like the fact some people are here and taking a breck from actually meeting for sex then in my eyes you have the wrong impression about being a swinger.
swinging is more than a fuck, its about friendships, having a laugh, finding support, basically having a circle of friends who accept that sometimes you have some friends whom you may have sex with.
if your looking for a sex site im sure google can assist you.
now swinging to some people isnt the latest buzz, its a life style choice.
they may support a football team, but just because they havent had the time to watch a match or play a game does not mean they can no longer support that team.
do you/ would you discard your friends you have made via swinging sceene if they, for what ever reason, decide they dont want sex with you any more?
Profiles here are just that, a profile, people can chose to fill them in, or say feck all.
by saying they are not currently looking to meet is not a reason to say well fuck off out of our way then... to be frank you come across as sleazy sex hunting un emotional animals.
i have been a swinger for over 22 years, if for what ever reason ( and that reason is mine to know and the publics if i choose to share that) i decide to step back from meeting then i can i will and i do.
i am not wasting anyones time by being here. unless your so blood thirsty you cant stand to waste 2 mins reading my profile to find out im not currently swinging is such a waste of your time you feel my punnishment is to fuck off or be kicked off the site?
Now if i was wanting to meet people i would have a AD.
yep thats those things you fill in when seeking a sexual partner. Not profiles.
it would be more likely considered a waste of time if my profile wasnt clear and someone wasted their time messaging me asking for a meet when i hadnt made it clear i wasnt meeting.
you seem to have been swinging for just a few years, i hope if you find your relationship does not last, you fall ill, you have a stressfull load of crap going on at home/work etc that when you come here to see your mates we dont tell you where to get off because unless your free meat ready for the fuck we dont want to know.
this is a swingers community site , not a sex site.
xxx fem xx
Sex God
Quote by goldenandboytoy
We have come across several profiles whilst in the chat rooms that say something akin to this:
WE ARE SICK OF TIMEWASTERS AND WE HAVE DECIDED NOT TO BOTHER MEETING ANYMORE....
To us, we think that if you are really committed to this premise, you should not have an active profile. End of story.
If your profile says you are not interested in meeting, and if you are in a chat room, you are effectively saying that you like the idea and fantasy of being a swinger. If you are reading this and getting angry....don't, just our opinion and view based on what we have seen and read from people's profiles.
If you are reading this and thinking....'Hey, I'm here because I like the social aspect of it.'
That's fine but to be sociable, you have to...at some point....meet up with real live people. Going against the grain of what is written on your profile. If you do not swing, why are you here? There are now lots and lots (hundreds and thousands) of sites in which social networking can take place. Many of which do not talk about swinging, or anything sexual. If you are on a swinging site you should, quid pro quo, be into swinging. It irritates us (and myabe lots of genuine other swingers who also like looking for other swingers) that there are many people on the site who DO NOT meet anyone (as a couple or on thei own).
I move that it is THESE people who are the timewasters, and therefore should be struck from the site (unless of course they have a fully paid up membership fee).
Discuss....
I move that you have no right to make a judgement on me or anyone else as to whether I should be here or not on the basis of my profile or anything else for that matter.
Effectively you've just struck yourselves off though! Good job! :thumbup:
Might wanna discuss that! :mrgreen:
Sex God
who reads profiles?
the Interviewrers took control of my profile and I feel gave a rather bad impression.
I'm not really suppoded to be here at all, though they won't let me leave until I've answered all of thier questions fully and succintly.
A dificult one this, as they also seem to have left me... alone, in this tiny and musty room.
anyway... what is swinging?
lp
I'm not really suppoded to be here at all, though they won't let me leave until I've answered all of thier questions fully and succintly.
A dificult one this, as they also seem to have left me... alone, in this tiny and musty room.
anyway... what is swinging?
lp
To be honest Golden i dont think its really up to you what people say or specify or indeed do with their time or profiles.
I started on here as a single fem, met my partner who was a single guy and turned out to be the love of my life and therefore we decided only have sex with eachother, however, we do like to go to socials as we`ve met some great people, and we like to go to parties, and we like to meet other couples for drinks, just becuase we dont fuck everything in sight doesnt mean we shouldnt be on here.
People on here are varied, not just couples for full swap, its not a fuck site, and i`m glad its not becuase we have met some people who we like to think of as friends, not just predetary shaggers.
I started on here as a single fem, met my partner who was a single guy and turned out to be the love of my life and therefore we decided only have sex with eachother, however, we do like to go to socials as we`ve met some great people, and we like to go to parties, and we like to meet other couples for drinks, just becuase we dont fuck everything in sight doesnt mean we shouldnt be on here.
People on here are varied, not just couples for full swap, its not a fuck site, and i`m glad its not becuase we have met some people who we like to think of as friends, not just predetary shaggers.
I'm here as a single female. I sometimes meet single guys or single fems but mostly I use the site for social reasons.
A couple of times over the past 4 years of being a member I've been involved in a vanilla relationship and when that happens, I don't meet anyone. That doesn't stop me continuing to use this site or to socially meet the friends I've made on here. If certain people on here don't like it, I don't give a flying fart! Deal with it and move on to the next profile
A couple of times over the past 4 years of being a member I've been involved in a vanilla relationship and when that happens, I don't meet anyone. That doesn't stop me continuing to use this site or to socially meet the friends I've made on here. If certain people on here don't like it, I don't give a flying fart! Deal with it and move on to the next profile
I've been away from the site for about 2 years (with the exception of a spuratic post here and there), and whilst I haven't done that much swinging when I was, I'd like to think of myself who has the appropriate/correct attitude when at a Munch/Social/Club/Private party.
However, if the opinion of some was to be implemented, I think I'd best be off now :shock:
(Don't think for one moment I'm leaving so soon though.... :twisted: )
However, if the opinion of some was to be implemented, I think I'd best be off now :shock:
(Don't think for one moment I'm leaving so soon though.... :twisted: )
Sex God
Dollllllllllllllllllllllllllop!!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
How the hell are you?!
How the hell are you?!
Quote by Dlep
I've been away from the site for about 2 years (with the exception of a spuratic post here and there), and whilst I haven't done that much swinging when I was, I'd like to think of myself who has the appropriate/correct attitude when at a Munch/Social/Club/Private party.
However, if the opinion of some was to be implemented, I think I'd best be off now :shock:
(Don't think for one moment I'm leaving so soon though.... :twisted: )
Bloody hell! WB Dollop!
:waves:
Quote by Dirtygirly
Dollllllllllllllllllllllllllop!!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
How the hell are you?!
Well, without hijacking the thread (and you know how I used to be with that
) I'm in a better situation than I was (mainly my own fault :roll: ) and am using one of them mobile bb thingies, although full internet service will begin sometime in October (hopefully have money spare then...) 
(How's you?
) Quote by Witchy
I've been away from the site for about 2 years (with the exception of a spuratic post here and there), and whilst I haven't done that much swinging when I was, I'd like to think of myself who has the appropriate/correct attitude when at a Munch/Social/Club/Private party.
However, if the opinion of some was to be implemented, I think I'd best be off now :shock:
(Don't think for one moment I'm leaving so soon though.... :twisted: )
Bloody hell! WB Dollop!
:waves:
Thank you
Sex God
Quote by Dlep
I've been away from the site for about 2 years (with the exception of a spuratic post here and there), and whilst I haven't done that much swinging when I was, I'd like to think of myself who has the appropriate/correct attitude when at a Munch/Social/Club/Private party.
However, if the opinion of some was to be implemented, I think I'd best be off now :shock:
(Don't think for one moment I'm leaving so soon though.... :twisted: )
Bloody hell! WB Dollop!
:waves:
Thank you
I'm not gonna welcome you back yer big lump
(btw, hope you had a good birthday)
Sex God
Quote by Dlep
Dollllllllllllllllllllllllllop!!! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
How the hell are you?!
Well, without hijacking the thread (and you know how I used to be with that
) I'm in a better situation than I was (mainly my own fault :roll: ) and am using one of them mobile bb thingies, although full internet service will begin sometime in October (hopefully have money spare then...) (How's you?
)Oh I really don't think anyone will care about the hijack... its not like we're supposed to be here!! :giggle:
Glad you're back, lovely to see you!
I'm great... about to go on holiday so attempting to pack and having a bit of a shoe crisis!
ops:My bag weighs exactly 20 kilos! I couldn't have done that better if I'd tried!
Quote by Dirtygirly
Oh I really don't think anyone will care about the hijack... its not like we're supposed to be here!! :giggle:
Glad you're back, lovely to see you!
I'm great... about to go on holiday so attempting to pack and having a bit of a shoe crisis!
My bag weighs exactly 20 kilos! I couldn't have done that better if I'd tried!
Well, you know old habits die hard
And Meaty....
(Thank you
) Must admit, I have some sympathy with the original point, though not to the extreme of excluding those who are confessed non-swingers or not swinging for whatever reason. I see no reason why anyone should be excluded for not participating, swinging is all about choice and that includes the choice not to play.
However I must also agree that tuning into some profiles at times is akin to knocking on someones front door, only to have it slammed in your face with a hearty "Feck off!" being yelled from behind it. Profiles with messages like "I'm not meeting anyone ever. So feck off.", "Don't call, message, text, come round and stalk me, leave stained hand-written messages in shaky biro on my fridge, send a or a whisper as they won't be answered at all because we are rather self-important and treat all life as scum unless we deign them to be of our own social status and have the sexual organs that could only be blessed by the gods themselves" (apologies monotheists)... Why then join a site that is based on being social and communication at the very basic level? Join and wank yourself into oblivion that way. It certainly works for me.
I understand people get exasperated but it isn't an excuse for rudeness really. It may not be intended but it can come across that way and in that I have some sympathy with the OP in that respect. It doesn't make a good impression really.
But then again, the shite I put on my profile doesn't either, so who am I to talk.
Can I go into my box again now to hibernate?
However I must also agree that tuning into some profiles at times is akin to knocking on someones front door, only to have it slammed in your face with a hearty "Feck off!" being yelled from behind it. Profiles with messages like "I'm not meeting anyone ever. So feck off.", "Don't call, message, text, come round and stalk me, leave stained hand-written messages in shaky biro on my fridge, send a or a whisper as they won't be answered at all because we are rather self-important and treat all life as scum unless we deign them to be of our own social status and have the sexual organs that could only be blessed by the gods themselves" (apologies monotheists)... Why then join a site that is based on being social and communication at the very basic level? Join and wank yourself into oblivion that way. It certainly works for me.
I understand people get exasperated but it isn't an excuse for rudeness really. It may not be intended but it can come across that way and in that I have some sympathy with the OP in that respect. It doesn't make a good impression really.
But then again, the shite I put on my profile doesn't either, so who am I to talk.
Can I go into my box again now to hibernate?
