Having read thro this thread i have to say i dont think sexual preference is being judgemental, its sexual preference and just that, i personally wouldnt go for a very over weight guy but that dont mean i think theres anything wrong with them, or wouldnt talk to them but of course if i looked at someones pics and didnt like the way they looked, for any reason not just cause of their weight, i wouldnt speak to them with a view of meeting but that dose not mean i wouldnt talk to them at all, but i think that would go for anyone, and i'm pretty sure guys look at my pics and think.....shes not for me.....and thats ok cause at the end of the day noones for everyone and we have to accept that.
I have to say I prefer a larger man!. I love having something to hold on to. Mr lyns is large build and I love that he makes me feel all safe and protected :inlove:.
Now, as a gentleman of conspicuous girth, I have more of an equator than a waist, I have been pleasantly surprised just how many people (swingers) look beyond the purely physical side of a person and much deeper into the personality than I would ever have thought possible before we started down this road. Take a look at TV programs and magazines, and it’s all to easy to fall into the trap of thinking that swingers are predominantly young sexy beautiful people, who would gag at the thought of middle aged spreaders daring to appear on their horizon. All I can say is give it time Mr Bone don’t expect to be falling into bed every five seconds, but you will, provided you make some small effort, find warm and sexy people who will see beyond the shell.
I get interested in someone because of their personality and whether I click with them but whether I'm sexually attracted to them can be different depending on their size. In men, I prefer a larger man, I don't particularly find slim or skinny men attractive. My bf is clinically classed as 'obese' but is not fat - he's got a bit of extra padding on his tummy but I think it's the big muscly arms, legs and chest that contribute to the increased BMI. All I can say is cor!!! He doesn't like skinny girls, whereas I find slim or heavier girls sexy; skinny tho doesn't do it again for me.
Is there a difference between stating your preference positively and negatively? When we take offence at someone's preferences, is it just about political correctness that only seems in this country to be criticisable one way? Only my opinion based on observations but compare how the following entries from the ads make you feel
Would like to meet slim female
Looking to meet fit couple
vs
No hairy people, fat, old or ugly please!
We are sorry to say that looks are important so no fat people please.
Yes people really write this stuff. Personally I don't find people's preferences offensive in the first two examples, I just know I won't suit them so hey-ho, but in the second lot I feel a tad offended and the word 'shallow' comes to mind. You can do the same thing with age and colour too and no doubt any other 'ism' you want. I've noticed some seem offended by 'no over X age' or 'white only' comments. This is getting off the subject somewhat but preferences are preferences and very individual but as with anything, there's ways of saying it.
I think the attraction in a BBW as opposed to a BBM is just the fact that they have big boobs and a big ass. Or am I just simplifying things here?
Using a sweeping generalisation, these are the parts that men are attracted to, and I think there is a huuuge attraction towards BBWs because they most likely have big boobs and big asses.
Unfortunately, being an overweight man doesn't really highlight those masculine characteristics as much as being an overweight female highlights the feminine features.
This is the way I see it anyway.
I'm not attracted to overweight builds at all, we're mainly on here to get a shag with people we fancy, so for us, an attraction from looks not just personality comes pretty high on our list when we're looking to meet, just as meeting people within our own age group comes near the top too.
I'm not bothered about offending people by saying that, it doesn't mean either that I rate myself as particularly attractive, I just couldn't sleep with someone that I didn't find their body type attractive.
Think you may have hit the nail on the head M & D.
Thats a very interesting point that you make about the difference between a BBW and a BBM.
I am of the same mind to, i need to fancy the person I shag first......if that makes me seem shallow then so be it, but I always maintain that most guys shag with their cocks, while most women do it with their minds.
its hard typing with kittens on your arm.
