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So what is sexy these days?

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I have recently decided that my 'weekend' wardrobe needed a bit of updating after suddenly realising that everything naughty that I own is either leather or PVC redface Now I have no intention of giving up my boots but I was starting to wonder about the impressions I must be giving out if all I wear is black and shiney (and sometimes a bit too hot and sticky for warm summer evenings) surprisedops:
So after spending a couple of hours trawling the internet, ebay, anne summers etc etc etc, I still dont know what I like, or what would actually suit me.
I was wondering, what king of clothing do other people think is sexy (more underwear than outdoor) and what things do you normally wear for meets or for playing together? I desperately need an update and any help really would be appreciated.
He He He He smile
Try a Birthdat Suit.
They last a long time wink
Phredd (just for you) kiss
Gosh, do you know what? I don't actually 'do' sexy. I just wear my normal clothes. I wouldn't know how to dress sexily if my life depended on it. I certainly wouldn't dress for a meet.
I do have pretty underwear, but I don't think any of it is black, shiny and certainly no leather.
I shall await others responses. :twisted:
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I shall await others responses. :twisted:

Sat here with credit card in hand (or should that be HIS credit card in hand) desperately awaiting some responses lol
a sexy baby doll nighty and thong is nice babe...;pads of nice ones on ebay....covers enough (what you need covering) and leaves some stuff to the imagination!
you would look good in a potato sack i have to say sugarlips!! sillyhwoar:
I really struggle with this as it is the more difficult it is to get "sexy" underwear, instead bras are like slingshots!
M&S have some nice underwear.
You can't go far wrong with a good plain black corset, that can be matched with a nice jacket, trousers or a nice sexy skirt.
I personally think there's nothing sexier than smart. A lady in a trouser suit with a shirt unbuttoned to 'just' show a little cleavage to me is far sexier than mini skirts and not a lot on top!
But that's just me.
As for indoors and underwear, I prefer nice underwear to dressy ups.
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Hand cuffs and a ball gag for special occasions of course lol

Now I am worried, as that sound sexier than any lacy stuff! Perhaps Im just a sucker for the more unusal kinds of Lingerie :lol:
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a sexy baby doll nighty and thong is nice babe...;pads of nice ones on ebay....covers enough (what you need covering) and leaves some stuff to the imagination!
you would look good in a potato sack i have to say sugarlips!! sillyhwoar:

I tried the potato sack but it made me itch :lol: (thank you) wink
And Phredd, it is way too cold for the birthday suit (also, I am looking for something which hides a few bumps and lumps) :wink:
Depends where and who I am meeting, but generally a decent underwear set (I don't usually do obviously sexy stuff, but it'd be a matching set! By that I mean I'm not really an Ann Summers gal... so I do understated sexy on most meets.)
But then I also have some babydoll type numbers, a fair bit of 'saucy' underwear plus some more fetishy type stuff... so altogether depends on the mood and the type of meet planned.
Oh and some very sexy high heels... wink
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I personally think there's nothing sexier than smart. A lady in a trouser suit with a shirt unbuttoned to 'just' show a little cleavage to me is far sexier than mini skirts and not a lot on top!
But that's just me.
As for indoors and underwear, I prefer nice underwear to dressy ups.

:thumbup: so very definitely not just you! I dress for a meet how I would dress to go out and meet friends for dinner or whatever... on the outside that is!! wink
Ok just to set the scene - this is what I call sexy -

but I can understand it would put some people off and others just seem to think I am a downright perv.
I think I need to google lacy rolleyes
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Ok just to set the scene - this is what I call sexy -

but I can understand it would put some people off and others just seem to think I am a downright perv.
I think I need to google lacy rolleyes

As I said can't beat a black corset worship :worship: :worship: :inlove:
Hell no NWC.... if that's the kinda thing in your wardrobe then worship
If it ain't broke don't fix it!!
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I like to dress in what I feel comfortable in, and according to my other half, and others, if I am comfortable, I am confident, and that is a big turn on!
But I do have some sexy undies which come out for special occasions.. black and red lacy set... black and red lacy would suit you .. if you like those colours! You would look good in anything xxx
The corsetty stuff is all available in white in the summer ranges; you could go white and shiny (but not sticky)in satin for the summer. The equivalent of the white tuxedo season!
Wish that was in wardrobe (well, it will be by next week when it arrives).
I hadn't really thought too much about 'normal' corrsets apart from the one above, as I didnt know if I would be able to breath when everything is squashed in redface
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Wish that was in wardrobe (well, it will be by next week when it arrives).
I hadn't really thought too much about 'normal' corrsets apart from the one above, as I didnt know if I would be able to breath when everything is squashed in redface
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Anyhow back to the subject, what ever you think makes you feel sexy then go for it!! As i am sure you will be radiating sexiness ( as per :rascal: ) and if they don't think so then, sorry thats there loss and also i'am sure HIS credit card wont be anywhere near as worn out!! rotflmao
For me it all depends on the person. If they wear something that is appropriate to who they are physically then that for me is sexy. It doesn't matter if it's jeans and a blouse, or a plain black dress. So long as it sets off the wearer's best points then that will get me every time.
It doesn't need to be overtly sexy, it doesn't need to be overly smart, it just needs to suit the person in it.
I can't stand someone trying too hard and trying to give off an image that is so not them.
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I can't stand someone trying too hard and trying to give off an image that is so not them.

:notes: Note to self: exercise some restraint and caution in the costume department at the Wigan School Disco Munch or face Peanut's wrath.... :twisted:
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I can't stand someone trying too hard and trying to give off an image that is so not them.

:notes: Note to self: exercise some restraint and caution in the costume department at the Wigan School Disco Munch or face Peanut's wrath.... :twisted:
Stuff that, I am showing no caution for that night (but nothing pervy, leather or pvc)
Sorry PN wink
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I can't stand someone trying too hard and trying to give off an image that is so not them.

:notes: Note to self: exercise some restraint and caution in the costume department at the Wigan School Disco Munch or face Peanut's wrath.... :twisted:
Stuff that, I am showing no caution for that night (but nothing pervy, leather or pvc)
Sorry PN wink
Who's to say that it won't be you? From your pics I haven't seen anything to think that you wouldn't be dressed in a manner that doesn't suit you.
What I was actually thinking of when I wrote the above was the way my ex-wife is trying to fend off her increasing age. She has a hairstyle that does nothing for her and would look fine on someone on the telly, but not a Manchester postwoman. She wears clothes that the kids continually berate her for (mint sauce being a clue as to what they call her). Let's face it the number of middle-aged woman who can dress like a member of girls aloud are in the minority, and it is most definitely not sexy.
That's what I meant. I don't see a swinger dressing in a corset to be inappropriate, only if if doesn't actually suit them physically. It's just how it is, some woman cannot pull off the sexy dom theme, and a lot can.
From what I've seen Mrs NWC, you most definitely can. redface
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...... trying to fend off her increasing age.

You may have touched a very raw nerve here, and maybe some of this is an age thing (or should that read, me trying to deny my age) but I do take your point about sheep and lamb sauce :kiss
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...... trying to fend off her increasing age.

You may have touched a very raw nerve here, and maybe some of this is an age thing (or should that read, me trying to deny my age) but I do take your point about sheep and lamb sauce :kiss
FFS and pish pshaw woman!!
what are you late 30's....??
I have those issues too NWC- I'm finding myself trying to find a new "me".....but it just doesn't seem to "fit."
I was drawn into this by the use of the words "costume" and "restraint" in the same thread :crazy:
I don't do restrained costumes, some of you may have noticed...innocent
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I have those issues too NWC- I'm finding myself trying to find a new "me".....but it just doesn't seem to "fit."
I was drawn into this by the use of the words "costume" and "restraint" in the same thread :crazy:
I don't do restrained costumes, some of you may have noticed...innocent

Again, restrained is not an absolute, some woman can pull off unrestrained and some can't. I think appropriateness is the name of the game.
WW, the dressing up antics I've seen your pictures of are what I'd call semi-unrestrained and you seem to have carried them off beautifully.
Also, this is not something that is limited to women. I've seen auld pharts trying to dress like a cross between and urban gangsta and Ali G and it just ain't sexy.
As I said in the earlier post, some women can look sexy in a basic jeans and blouse, some look sexy in fuck-me pumps, stockings and a pencil skirt, some in a full on Goth corset rig and some in a black moo-moo. It's whatever works on an individual basis.
Can I also add that I am not including role-playing scenarios. In those anything goes regardless how appropriate or inappropriate! lol
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...... trying to fend off her increasing age.

You may have touched a very raw nerve here, and maybe some of this is an age thing (or should that read, me trying to deny my age) but I do take your point about sheep and lamb sauce :kiss
Please don't take what I say as an absolute for all women. It's all about what is appropriate for each individual woman on a case-by-case basis. And like others I've mentioned I haven't seen anything in your pics that leads me to believe that you dress inappropriately to who you are both physically and mentally.
:shock: Right, ok then... Mrs NWC you'll look lovely in your costume... Winchwench, gorgeous as always... confused As for you Noladreams, dunno well turn up to the munch in a costume, or in a bin bag, who cares... whatever, 'cos clearly Peanut ain't arsed one bit, not diddly squat what you'll look like or if it's appropriate or not. :violin: Ah well... noone loves me surpriseduch: Hah! They think Mrs B can flounce... innocent
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Semi unrestrained eh? I like the sound of that. Almost sounds like I have a clue what I'm doing. :smug:
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:shock: Right, ok then... Mrs NWC you'll look lovely in your costume... Winchwench, gorgeous as always... confused As for you Noladreams, dunno well turn up to the munch in a costume, or in a bin bag, who cares... whatever, 'cos clearly Peanut ain't arsed one bit, not diddly squat what you'll look like or if it's appropriate or not. :violin: Ah well... noone loves me surpriseduch: Hah! They think Mrs B can flounce... innocent
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Correct, I'm not arsed what people are dressed in, it's the people I'm interested in not the clothes they come in.
And I'm really, really looking forward to meeting Mrs NWC and FB and anyone else who's there that doesn't want to smack me smile
NWC why don't you order some stuff online, try it on and take pictures. Post the pictures here and we will tell you how sexy you look and what items to keep :thumbup: