Just a general query.
Why, on lists for socials and Munches, do the organisers seperate the guests into "singles" and "couples"? What purpose does it serve?
If it was a playing party, I could understand - you may want a nice balance of fem:male or cpl:single but at social events it's not meant to make any difference.
I actually don't like being pigeon-holed like this just 'cos I'm single.
How do you lot feel?
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Casanova
From my experience people are worried about these events being filled with just 100s of single males..
So asking for couples does at least mean you will get a male and a female..
So asking for couples does at least mean you will get a male and a female..
Sex God
Quote by AtomCom2001
From my experience people are worried about these events being filled with just 100s of single males..
So asking for couples does at least mean you will get a male and a female..
I don't think Marya meant that organisers ask for couples - she just meant how the list was presented.
Oh, and there are also mm and ff couples on here - so asking for a couple doesn't necessarily mean you'll get a mf couple.
I don't really mind how the list is presented but I can see why some might object.
Quote by AtomCom2001
From my experience people are worried about these events being filled with just 100s of single males..
So asking for couples does at least mean you will get a male and a female..
It's a SOCIAL event, not shagging, so why would that matter?
If you are not interested in meeting single males for sexual experiences, does that mean you wouldn't speak to them at a social event too?
Btw, FB is right, as per!
Casanova
Quote by Freckledbird
From my experience people are worried about these events being filled with just 100s of single males..
So asking for couples does at least mean you will get a male and a female..
I don't think Marya meant that organisers ask for couples - she just meant how the list was presented.
Oh, and there are also mm and ff couples on here - so asking for a couple doesn't necessarily mean you'll get a mf couple.
I don't really mind how the list is presented but I can see why some might object.
Oh sorry I did miss read..
Though I have to admit I like to see lists so I can see the sort of mix of people that are going to be there..
But I suppose you could also ask though why people have lists of people that are going anyways... Before you go into a pub or club do you need a list of who is going in there as well.... ?
Sex God
Quote by AtomCom2001
But I suppose you could also ask though why people have lists of people that are going anyways... Before you go into a pub or club do you need a list of who is going in there as well.... ?
Some people like to know who else is going and make a note to find them if they've not met before.
Some like to know who's going so they can avoid particular people.
A guestlist is good (for me) 'cos I want to see who's going - either so I can make a point of meeting them or so I can avoid them - honestly!
I've chosen not to go to certain events that some people go to as I don't wish to be in their company.
Seperating is by "marital" status seems pointless to me at a social event. Might as well do lists for blondes and brunettes or fat and thin.
If I intend to come to the social/Munch with a fuckbuddy who is also a site member do I get upgraded to couple status?
If only one member of a couple can come to the event are they down as a single?
I'm not being argumentative - honest!
I just looked at a list for a social I am attending and I just thought - why does there have to be a singles/couples list? I decided I didn't like it and then thought of loads of other crap while I was making my eggy bread.
I happen to know a couple of females who are in couples but occasionally attend socials without their partners. They don't like people to know they are coming on their own. Never asked why, maybe I should?
I've chosen not to go to certain events that some people go to as I don't wish to be in their company.
Seperating is by "marital" status seems pointless to me at a social event. Might as well do lists for blondes and brunettes or fat and thin.
If I intend to come to the social/Munch with a fuckbuddy who is also a site member do I get upgraded to couple status?
If only one member of a couple can come to the event are they down as a single?
I'm not being argumentative - honest!
I just looked at a list for a social I am attending and I just thought - why does there have to be a singles/couples list? I decided I didn't like it and then thought of loads of other crap while I was making my eggy bread.
I happen to know a couple of females who are in couples but occasionally attend socials without their partners. They don't like people to know they are coming on their own. Never asked why, maybe I should?
Easy answer?
we do it because it's easier to count the numbers. If we have a couples list, we just double it, then add on the singles. It's also easier to search for members that way if we know they are a couple, single male or female. Nothing underhand. We have a capacity governed by the location and we're not bothered if we get 100 single guys, 20 single females and 5 couples, the mix is the mix, we don't try to set it with any bias at all.
hope that helps
Mal
we do it because it's easier to count the numbers. If we have a couples list, we just double it, then add on the singles. It's also easier to search for members that way if we know they are a couple, single male or female. Nothing underhand. We have a capacity governed by the location and we're not bothered if we get 100 single guys, 20 single females and 5 couples, the mix is the mix, we don't try to set it with any bias at all.
hope that helps
Mal
Why not just write a total number at the bottom of the list then? 
I've just looked on another social event and the female half of a couple is attending on her own. Her name is on the couples list but in brackets is says she's coming alone.
I just don't get it, really.
edit: NOW I'm being argumentative: I wonder if the couples would mind the listing if they were single females?
I dunno .... it's bad enough being pounced on cos of the little pink symbol in chat nevermind being singled out (no pun) on a list for a piss up.
I've just looked on another social event and the female half of a couple is attending on her own. Her name is on the couples list but in brackets is says she's coming alone.
I just don't get it, really.
edit: NOW I'm being argumentative: I wonder if the couples would mind the listing if they were single females?
I dunno .... it's bad enough being pounced on cos of the little pink symbol in chat nevermind being singled out (no pun) on a list for a piss up.
Sex God
I don't think it matters in the slightest, I don't think it's trying to 'put you in a box', that's already been done by having a 'status' on the site anyway.
It makes it so much easier to know who people are when you look through the lists. End of!
m xx
It makes it so much easier to know who people are when you look through the lists. End of!
m xx
Quote by mazandden
I don't think it matters in the slightest, I don't think it's trying to 'put you in a box', that's already been done by having a 'status' on the site anyway.
It makes it so much easier to know who people are when you look through the lists. End of!
m xx
who though? you as the organiser who should know who is who anyway or you the guest? why should it make a difference whether they are single or a couple since it's a social event?
You can check on single/couple status by looking at the profile so why the need for a list as well?
next social I'm doing, you're all going on it by hair colour.
See how you like being on the ginga list! :lol: Quote by Marya_Northeast
Why not just write a total number at the bottom of the list then?
and where do we get the total from? We have to COUNT them!!
that's why it's easier for us to split couples from singles as they count two places. I can't say that others do the same.Quote by Marya_Northeast
I dunno .... it's bad enough being pounced on cos of the little pink symbol in chat nevermind being singled out (no pun) on a list for a piss up.
You? Pounced on? Just because you've got the nicest tits they've seen in the last five minutes?
hwoar: Surely not!! :lol: 
Mal
Sex God
I've never organised a munch/social, and if I am attending one, I like looking through the lists set out that way to know who's who, without haven't to go look at hundreds of profiles! so much easier!
If I just saw the name, I would probably struggle to remember who a lot of people were, if I see it linked to couple/single male etc, it helps to jog my memory. I certainly wouldn't bother clicking through everyones profiles to see!
If it was down as hair colour, then that would be no help, as it wouldn't help me work out who anyone is!
M xx
If I just saw the name, I would probably struggle to remember who a lot of people were, if I see it linked to couple/single male etc, it helps to jog my memory. I certainly wouldn't bother clicking through everyones profiles to see!
If it was down as hair colour, then that would be no help, as it wouldn't help me work out who anyone is!
M xx
Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
next social I'm doing, you're all going on it by hair colour.
I'll be top of that list then!
Quote by Mal
next social I'm doing, you're all going on it by hair colour.
Which list do I go on then? Or don't I get an invite? :upset: :moon:
Mal
You can go on the nice bum list :wink:
Sod it. All future events, I want a list all of my own. :smug:
Sex God
Quote by Mal
Easy answer?
we do it because it's easier to count the numbers. If we have a couples list, we just double it, then add on the singles. It's also easier to search for members that way if we know they are a couple, single male or female. Nothing underhand. We have a capacity governed by the location and we're not bothered if we get 100 single guys, 20 single females and 5 couples, the mix is the mix, we don't try to set it with any bias at all.
hope that helps
Mal
:thumbup:
Plus it makes life easier for badges. Say you have "Good2Go"... this name doesn't give you any kind of clus as to the status, so it's dropped into "couples" and when I send the list off to the very nice person that makes the badges for me they know to print off 2. ;)
And yes, I could put "x2" next to the name, but it's just the way things have been done before. :P :giggle:
Plus it helps for me to be able to target single bi-fems easily for some special easy attention.
............. bloody dodgy boob-flashing folks coming along with their modern "outside the box" thinking ...
:P :lol2: Sex God
Quote by Mal
next social I'm doing, you're all going on it by hair colour.
Which list do I go on then? Or don't I get an invite? :upset: :moon:
Mal
Same here
:cry: Quote by Marya_Northeast
...........Sod it. All future events, I want a list all of my own. :smug:
No probs....
Excluded:
Marya_Northeast
:giggle: :P
Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
I don't think it matters in the slightest, I don't think it's trying to 'put you in a box', that's already been done by having a 'status' on the site anyway.
It makes it so much easier to know who people are when you look through the lists. End of!
m xx
next social I'm doing, you're all going on it by hair colour.
See how you like being on the ginga list! :lol:aw like that eh list by hair just dont want me to go do ya :lol: nutters, all of ya!
Ok, i knew the answers to my questions really. I just didn't like them.
I don;t know what I was hoping you would say or if I just wanted someone to admit it - "yes, actually, I want to see who the single fems/cpls are so I can target them and who the single males are so I can avoid them". I dunno. I'm bringing my alter-ego to all future events so i can get on the couples list.
Hijack away!!!! :lol:
Norts, for you I'd have a BaldyUneducatedPikeyTwonk List - la!
Sex God
Marya
For events I do, I always list a to z, as I can never keep up with who is coming with whom, which part of a couple might come etc etc etc.
If I get it wrong someone pms me as say did you know that I am coming with xx and not xxx
Then I sit and count up how many are attending, it never bothers me if there are more females than males or the other way round.
Do you want to go on the Munch list for Nottingham??
:evil2:
For events I do, I always list a to z, as I can never keep up with who is coming with whom, which part of a couple might come etc etc etc.
If I get it wrong someone pms me as say did you know that I am coming with xx and not xxx
Then I sit and count up how many are attending, it never bothers me if there are more females than males or the other way round.
Do you want to go on the Munch list for Nottingham??
:evil2:
Sex God
As you wish :lol: :lol:
:lol: :lol: 
Master of Sex
Marya_Northeast, is a straight, single female who (to quote her profile) is “really not looking for anything at the moment”. I suspect that this puts her in a minority on both counts when she attends socials.
I am a straight single male who has attended numerous socials. While I usually end the night having spoken to everybody there (and having enjoyed doing so), my primary aim of attending is not to swap reminiscences with other single males. Like most people attending, my main aim is to extend the circle of people who might match my criteria as potential swinging partners, ie couples and single females.
I like to have looked at the profiles of other attendees before a social, but I don’t want to have to wade through dozens of profiles of other single males, because I can’t identify this from the nickname alone.
If the balance in the swinging world were reversed and I knew that at all socials I attended there would always be just a couple of other straight single males amongst a sea of straight single females and couples (and that I would inevitably be a magnet for attention – no matter how ginger my hair ) I might be tempted to agree with Marya that the division of the attendance lists by status is irrelevant pigeon-holing. Until then …………
I am a straight single male who has attended numerous socials. While I usually end the night having spoken to everybody there (and having enjoyed doing so), my primary aim of attending is not to swap reminiscences with other single males. Like most people attending, my main aim is to extend the circle of people who might match my criteria as potential swinging partners, ie couples and single females.
I like to have looked at the profiles of other attendees before a social, but I don’t want to have to wade through dozens of profiles of other single males, because I can’t identify this from the nickname alone.
If the balance in the swinging world were reversed and I knew that at all socials I attended there would always be just a couple of other straight single males amongst a sea of straight single females and couples (and that I would inevitably be a magnet for attention – no matter how ginger my hair
) I might be tempted to agree with Marya that the division of the attendance lists by status is irrelevant pigeon-holing. Until then ………… 
Quote by Marya_Northeast
Just a general query.
Why, on lists for socials and Munches, do the organisers seperate the guests into "singles" and "couples"? What purpose does it serve?
When I did my social, I arranged the list as you have mentioned, purely for the purpose of getting to know exactly who was coming. Whether they were a couple sf, sm etc so that I knew who I was looking for on the day.
I imagine that most people attending socials also want to see who is coming and I thought it would be easier for them to check people out this way.
Louise xx
Sex God
Quote by Sarah
Marya
For events I do, I always list a to z, as I can never keep up with who is coming with whom, which part of a couple might come etc etc etc.
If I get it wrong someone pms me as say did you know that I am coming with xx and not xxx
Then I sit and count up how many are attending, it never bothers me if there are more females than males or the other way round.
Do you want to go on the Munch list for Nottingham??
:evil2:
Esactly the same reason I split them into couples and singles (but I dont break it down to male or female) and it is so I can keep an eye on the numbers. I have a spreadsheet set up which automatically numbers as I add people and that way I can keep upto date with how many are coming. If I didnt keep seperate lists, I would have to put the couples' name on the list twice or the numbers would be out. Not a problem if it is a small social, but when it is one of the bigger munches with around 200 names, it is just not practical to keep counting them everytime you add someone.
As for the breakdown of singles or couples, it really doesnt make any difference what so ever. The atmosphere is no better if there are more or less couples/singles.
Sex God
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
Marya
For events I do, I always list a to z, as I can never keep up with who is coming with whom, which part of a couple might come etc etc etc.
If I get it wrong someone pms me as say did you know that I am coming with xx and not xxx
Then I sit and count up how many are attending, it never bothers me if there are more females than males or the other way round.
Do you want to go on the Munch list for Nottingham??
:evil2:
Esactly the same reason I split them into couples and singles (but I dont break it down to male or female) and it is so I can keep an eye on the numbers. I have a spreadsheet set up which automatically numbers as I add people and that way I can keep upto date with how many are coming. If I didnt keep seperate lists, I would have to put the couples' name on the list twice or the numbers would be out. Not a problem if it is a small social, but when it is one of the bigger munches with around 200 names, it is just not practical to keep counting them everytime you add someone.
As for the breakdown of singles or couples, it really doesnt make any difference what so ever. The atmosphere is no better if there are more or less couples/singles.
Is Marya on the "Excluded" list for Wigan
:lol: 