The Congratulations to Mikenorth thread has me thinking about the attrition rate amongst swingers.
First this is nothing to do directly with the thread or Mike, but with the strange turnaround you find on swingers sites.
Look at an older thread, say eight months old and the number of names posting then, that are not posting much now, is surprising. Look at a thread from fourteen months ago and I barely recognise one name in twenty, from two and a half years ago and I hardly recognise anyone.
If swinging is such a liberating and progressive lifestyle, why do so many seem to fade from the scene so fast, do they join and play awhile before deciding its not for them and move on, or do they burn out and fall from the scene in flames? Do they transcend this swinging plane of existence and ascend to a Nirvana like swinging utopia, or does real life suck the joy from their souls and force them back to Vanilla drudgery?
Why do we find the thought that someone has been a swinger on this site for three whole years without going mad so bloody surprising?
Am I about to spontaneously combust in some inevitable Swingers catastrophe or am I destined to fade from SH like a half remembered dream?
Thoughts, opinions?
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Quote by Scandal
Yea some people dip their toes and decide it's not for them, circumstances change, some were looking for something else, some are here just to get bevvied and make mates, the list is endless.
However, what you need to remember is that SH is just one tiny little corner of the Swinging world. Apart from literally dozens of other sites with thousands of active members, there are other networks, club goers only etc etc etc.
Just because they are not active on here any more doesn't mean they are not still swinging.
I won't bother saying anything, you just said what I would have
Sex God
I'll hazard a guess here as I was thinking about this the other day linking it to our situation.
In our situation, we came here to research firstly and learn more about the lifestyle before jumping in. And what a great site for that, we were welcomed with open arms to the Forum. Gradually now we have built up places to go and people to meet, thereby the site is required perhaps a little less.
Also going through the ads and replies is very time consuming when you start off so perhaps people get burn out in the beginning...who knows, I know we need to wean off a little just to get on with life, the overdue piles of ironing have been very evident these last few months!!
However I will say I think that the people who depart this site fall into 2 categories
a: tried it no longer swinging
b: still swinging but found their niche/contacts etc
Just my own views, will be interested to see others.
pink x
In our situation, we came here to research firstly and learn more about the lifestyle before jumping in. And what a great site for that, we were welcomed with open arms to the Forum. Gradually now we have built up places to go and people to meet, thereby the site is required perhaps a little less.
Also going through the ads and replies is very time consuming when you start off so perhaps people get burn out in the beginning...who knows, I know we need to wean off a little just to get on with life, the overdue piles of ironing have been very evident these last few months!!
However I will say I think that the people who depart this site fall into 2 categories
a: tried it no longer swinging
b: still swinging but found their niche/contacts etc
Just my own views, will be interested to see others.
pink x
Quote by Freckledbird
Yea some people dip their toes and decide it's not for them, circumstances change, some were looking for something else, some are here just to get bevvied and make mates, the list is endless.
However, what you need to remember is that SH is just one tiny little corner of the Swinging world. Apart from literally dozens of other sites with thousands of active members, there are other networks, club goers only etc etc etc.
Just because they are not active on here any more doesn't mean they are not still swinging.
I won't bother saying anything, you just said what I would have
Ah!...............
.so SH is just a swingers training pool, and there really is a swinging Nirvana just waiting to be ascended to….
Ohmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
:happy:
Sex God
Could it be that people start off on here as an introduction, but as they get to know more people and become part of their own 'swinging social circle', they don't need the site to keep in contact with so many people? 
Sex God
I posted that last post ages ago, but it disappeared into oblivion again!
Was basically trying to say what bluenpink said, but i got sidetracked!!
In our case, we tailed off from the forums and chat for a bit because both our jobs changed and got very busy, and we didn't have time to come on the site.
Over the xmas hols, work was a little quieter and we both had plenty of procrastinating time to come on here!
The next few months will be busy for us at work, so we will again tail off with the site for a bit (everyone heaves a sigh of relief!)
We've also built up quite a good group of friends from the site that we meet up with, so we don't tend to trawl the ads and send out mail like we did in the first place- we'd never have time to meet up with the same amount of new couples, whilst still keeping in touch with those we've already met and like!!
m xx
Was basically trying to say what bluenpink said, but i got sidetracked!!
In our case, we tailed off from the forums and chat for a bit because both our jobs changed and got very busy, and we didn't have time to come on the site.
Over the xmas hols, work was a little quieter and we both had plenty of procrastinating time to come on here!
The next few months will be busy for us at work, so we will again tail off with the site for a bit (everyone heaves a sigh of relief!)
We've also built up quite a good group of friends from the site that we meet up with, so we don't tend to trawl the ads and send out mail like we did in the first place- we'd never have time to meet up with the same amount of new couples, whilst still keeping in touch with those we've already met and like!!
m xx
Sex God
Interesting point, Stormwalker. I think the turnover of people in and out of the swing doors (pardon the pun!) in here has more to do with the nature of internet communities in general (whatever interest brings them together initially) rather than anything specifically to do with swinging. The net is anonymous, people can drop in and out of any site/forum/community any time without making any sort of commitment which anyone else is going to attempt to hold them to. It's a shame in a way, I miss several people who have been in here in the past, but those of us who have been on the net for years - it's 11 years for me now - just become used to it, here in SH as anywhere else.
Mike.
Mike.
Quote by Stormwalker
Look at a thread from fourteen months ago and I barely recognise one name in twenty, from two and a half years ago and I hardly recognise anyone.
A lot are still around - they just don't come out until some other server goes tits-up
Quote by Stormwalker
...there really is a swinging Nirvana just waiting to be ascended to….
So 'they' say ,but then it closed... and another opened... and then ... well you get the drift
Quote by PoloLady
Look at a thread from fourteen months ago and I barely recognise one name in twenty, from two and a half years ago and I hardly recognise anyone.
A lot are still around - they just don't come out until some other server goes tits-up
Quote by Stormwalker
...there really is a swinging Nirvana just waiting to be ascended to….
So 'they' say ,but then it closed... and another opened... and then ... well you get the drift
:giggle:
Quote by markz
We are like a herd of maurading elephants we move to an area eat our fill and then move onto another area as the grass is always greener on the other side
Or a plague of rampaging locusts devouring everything in it path and destroying the world as we go…
…oh, hang on, that’s the human race in general and not Swingers specifically. :doh:
Sex God
Some of the oldies still pass by, now and again 
I think in swinging generally, I am not talking about specific swinging websites here, people do move on... their circumstances change, they get bored and get a new hobby etc etc etc...
On swinging websites, the same can be said... I suppose
I think in swinging generally, I am not talking about specific swinging websites here, people do move on... their circumstances change, they get bored and get a new hobby etc etc etc...
On swinging websites, the same can be said... I suppose
Sex God
Some people pop in more or less every day but don't feel they have anything to add ;)
Quote by Bloke2005
Sorry... HAD to post ... bluexxx, Mr-Powers and Angel Chat - now that's a line-up I like to be in
bluexxx, Mr-Powers, Angel Chat ........ and bloke2005 ............... thats a line-up I'd like to be in! :giggle:
The good old days ......... :sigh:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
This is turning into an 'oldies' thread! :shock:
Sex God
Quote by Mr-Powers
and here's the oldest!
Awwwww you're not that old!
