Quote by delilah1971
you need to set out 3 main goals but keep them fluide
1 short term the next 6-8 months
2 midium term 8mth to 2years
3 long term 2yrs +
Fine , i understand that, but how do you first define what they are?
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The big question
To find a lasting happiness, a sense of peace and contentment that comes from knowing that I've lived my life causing as little hurt as possible to others. Given as much respect as I am capable of. Have loved with all my heart. Have listened when others needed me and given support whenever I could.
I live by the basic priciple's of Reiki
Just for today, let go of anger
Just for today. be honest
Just for today, be kind to others
Do not worry and be filled with gratitude for all you have.
( could be total tosh but hey!!! works for me )
I live by the basic priciple's of Reiki
Just for today, let go of anger
Just for today. be honest
Just for today, be kind to others
Do not worry and be filled with gratitude for all you have.
( could be total tosh but hey!!! works for me )
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Quote by delilah1971
well that is where questioning yourself you will find these out
question question question your self is what you need to do
i did it is fun
I agree Delilah, it is the only way. Also remember, we are only here for a short time, live it to the max.
John
You got me Foxy, everything I used to want was so materialistic, but none of it mattered. I got more out of saving a life than everything I own. Sure there is a thrill to blue lights, being the person on the spot, doing the job, but it all means nothing when you can really make a difference and that is all from my part time role. My full time life role brings me mental challenge and good financial rewards but does nothing for me as a person. Life just seems to flow past so quickly...
So before I decide where to go I would need to find the answers to what actually matters, and right now I can't answer that one... Faith helps but what do you do when your mind and faith go in opposite directions? No not worked that one out either.
Where am I going, I wish I knew. I will have to watch this thread as I feel just as confused as you Foxy. We may each be here for a reason, but I have no idea what it is.
So before I decide where to go I would need to find the answers to what actually matters, and right now I can't answer that one... Faith helps but what do you do when your mind and faith go in opposite directions? No not worked that one out either.
Where am I going, I wish I knew. I will have to watch this thread as I feel just as confused as you Foxy. We may each be here for a reason, but I have no idea what it is.
Quote by Andromeda
I live by the basic priciple's of Reiki
Just for today, let go of anger
Just for today. be honest
Just for today, be kind to others
Do not worry and be filled with gratitude for all you have.
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Studying reiki is what started me thinking about my priorities. So thanks for reminding me
And Marms - I agree - Tony Robbins is great source of inspiration.
Foxy - no-one can tell you what will make you happy. Only you can decide that
Sex God
I really should know by now :dunno: I think if I can get through life
1. without thinking I know better just because I am older,
2. without mocking the wild aspirations of those much younger than me,
3. without feeling complacent and thinking that nothing else will surprise me,
4. knowing that i don't have to feel happy all the time - better unhappy than numb I say,
5. without feeling that I have no choice but to just get through life...
then I think i'd be quite content..
1. without thinking I know better just because I am older,
2. without mocking the wild aspirations of those much younger than me,
3. without feeling complacent and thinking that nothing else will surprise me,
4. knowing that i don't have to feel happy all the time - better unhappy than numb I say,
5. without feeling that I have no choice but to just get through life...
then I think i'd be quite content..
Sex God
the goal that every person should strive for is to go to whatever passes as an afterlife (or for some that darkness that we do not return from) safe and secure in the knowledge that we have made a difference to someone, or something or somewhere by being here in the first place.
If we haven't made a difference...What was the fucking point of being here in the first place?
:worship: :worship: damn! i wish i could get that whole succinct thing down!
exactly!
n x x x ;)
Quote by neilinleeds
in all seriousness, this is a huge question for me . . . .
i have never seen myself fitting in with the rat race. i've always rejected it, which means i enjoy at times the "benefits" provided by those who do it, which brings a fair amount of guilt, and i've always failed when i've ((( half-heartedly ))) tried!
taking onboard all the stress associated with having someone on my back, ripping me to bits, and holding the threat of dismissal over my head, to earn a piss poor salary ((( e.g. 14 grand including commission! ))) to then put all the cash i earn into someone elses bank account ((( e.g. a quarter million for the company paying my piss poor wages! ))) has never struck me as a particularly equitable arrangement!
trouble is, the more i reject the whole idea of rat-racing, the more it seems it's the only sensible option, cos it takes money to opt out, so up to a point, you have to do the rat-race before you can even *think* about NOT doing it?
t'is a catch-22 kinda thing? and it's rubbish!
n x x x
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Quote by ockysweeties
This is the question that keeps me up at night :shock:
I have no idea. I thought I did. But I'm 25 and fairly directionless. and mostly terrified.
The quarter life crisis is a growing phenomena. I was in this state of mind last year (Now 25). I seemed to have gained a bit more clarity.
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Timmy and I are hoping to move down south at some point
Jas
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:) :) :) :) :) I got a new life goal!!!
Actually I'm not sure I got much life left after reading this post, it took forever.
The Tony Robinson stuff??? this is a joke!?? right?
I always find these life coahing techniques and 10 point plans to a better happier future are normally just a tool for procrastinating longer and inevitabl delaying making real choices and decisions about where your life is going.
To be honest i dont really think its an issue i have ever worried about. Most people seem to think accumulation of wealth is the be all and end all. However, considering that it's not that difficult to become wealthy i dont reckon its a major feat in itself.
Others say that 'being happy' is their goal, well in order to feel happiness you also need to feel unhappiness for 51% of the time, otherwise how do you know what happiness is?
me? if i enrich other peoples lives in some way, that would satisfy my goals, but i dont let it stress me. Age is irrelavent
Others say that 'being happy' is their goal, well in order to feel happiness you also need to feel unhappiness for 51% of the time, otherwise how do you know what happiness is?
me? if i enrich other peoples lives in some way, that would satisfy my goals, but i dont let it stress me. Age is irrelavent
Sex God
For me, my biggest fear or regret would be that I had lived and not made a difference, which is why I do the job I do, why I am involved in so many campaigns and why no matter what I need to drop, I am and will always there for my friends and family when they need me. To me, the world can be a pretty awful place, so instead of moaning about it, I will spend my life trying to change it in whatever ways I can, in the hope that when I am long gone this may be a better place for thsoe I've left behind.
That said, the world is also a wonderful place, I often take joy just driving to work and the sun is shining, waking and hearing birds singing, the laughter of children playing, the hours spent chatting nonsense with friends, and watching liitle acts of kindness that re-confirm my faith in humanity.
As long as you live your life the way you want to, the expectations you meet are your own and no one elses, that you live your life for you first and foremost then your on the right track.
Go to work to live, don't live to work, (even if you love your job, as I do mine), dare to dream and have the courage to follow those dreams, try new things, go to new places and meet new 't be angry with friends and family lif is far too short, don't be afraid to love or one day you'll lose it and find out to late what you've lost, and above all smile, it not only makes you feel better but all those around you too.
Anyway, enough of my philosophy.....I'm off back to the rat race, well trying to make it better anyway!
That said, the world is also a wonderful place, I often take joy just driving to work and the sun is shining, waking and hearing birds singing, the laughter of children playing, the hours spent chatting nonsense with friends, and watching liitle acts of kindness that re-confirm my faith in humanity.
As long as you live your life the way you want to, the expectations you meet are your own and no one elses, that you live your life for you first and foremost then your on the right track.
Go to work to live, don't live to work, (even if you love your job, as I do mine), dare to dream and have the courage to follow those dreams, try new things, go to new places and meet new 't be angry with friends and family lif is far too short, don't be afraid to love or one day you'll lose it and find out to late what you've lost, and above all smile, it not only makes you feel better but all those around you too.
Anyway, enough of my philosophy.....I'm off back to the rat race, well trying to make it better anyway!
Quote by Horous
well that is where questioning yourself you will find these out
question question question your self is what you need to do
i did it is fun
I agree Delilah, it is the only way. Also remember, we are only here for a short time, live it to the max.
John
Just enjoy each day as it comes & make the most of it, try not to piss ppl off & have fun
