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Has any one apart from us got so sick of waiting for the '' Allusive Bi Female'' to come along hired an escort fot the evening.........or are we just wirdo's
Quote by davidandtracy
Has any one apart from us got so sick of waiting for the '' Allusive Bi Female'' to come along hired an escort fot the evening.........or are we just wirdo's

Ok as an ex "ellusive bi fem" I can assure you that this post won't do you any favours. Bi fems are not a commodity and don't like being treated like one. Bi fems aren't like buses or trains. If you'd like a bi fem to join you then you have to make yourselves more appealing to her than any other offers she may be receiving.
I could go on for hours on this subject but please think again before you bundle bi females under that all encompassing heading, it just sounds like you don't care about the people behind that particular label.
it might be worth your while to read this little thread http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/77987.html on the subject
Ok Fair Point, i do apologise.......i will probably get a good ticking off when i get home now.... redface surprisedops: :oops:
Honestly i do apologise!!!!!!!
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Has any one apart from us got so sick of waiting for the '' Allusive Bi Female'' to come along hired an escort fot the evening.........or are we just wirdo's

Ok as an ex "ellusive bi fem" I can assure you that this post won't do you any favours. Bi fems are not a commodity and don't like being treated like one. Bi fems aren't like buses or trains. If you'd like a bi fem to join you then you have to make yourselves more appealing to her than any other offers she may be receiving.
I could go on for hours on this subject but please think again before you bundle bi females under that all encompassing heading, it just sounds like you don't care about the people behind that particular label.
it might be worth your while to read this little thread http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/77987.html on the subject
hiya celestria
are you having a bad day
fil kiss bolt
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hiya celestria
are you having a bad day
fil kiss bolt

Hey fil passionkiss and one for lil too sillyassionkiss:
Nah not having a bad day. Just tired of seeing people ask where all the single bi fems are like they're asking where the rump steak is in Asda. Seek and ye shall find... be yourself, chat and be chatted to, and lo an behold if she likes you she will find you. Well it works for us anyway dunno
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hiya celestria
are you having a bad day
fil kiss bolt

Hey fil passionkiss and one for lil too sillyassionkiss:
Nah not having a bad day. Just tired of seeing people ask where all the single bi fems are like they're asking where the rump steak is in Asda. Seek and ye shall find... be yourself, chat and be chatted to, and lo an behold if she likes you she will find you. Well it works for us anyway dunno
only joking ya smile
lil say's hi and :passionkiss: back at ya
say hi to feklar
fil xx
David & Tracy
I can understand your desire to find a Bi Female, but try and understand what the Bi females are looking for as well.
Celestria has given you a link to a very inciteful post and it's worth reading if you have the time.
As another member who joined as a Single Bi Fem (or SBF) I'll give you an idea of how I used to use this site. Yes this is only my opinion and I fully accept this does not apply to everyone.
In the beginning I found that as soon as people saw my SBF label they would pm me not knowing anything about me or caring about my looks/personality just because I was "the ellusive SBF".
I was also nervous and safety conscious of meeting people on my own.
I then got into the social/munch side of the site and found this suited me more as I'm a much better judge of character in person than on line and I felt I was meeting people in a safe environment.
What I was able to see when I met people was how they would talk to me half interested and then ask who I was with. When I said I was single all of a sudden there's a spark in their eye and they ask "Are you Bi".
All of a sudden they're handing off my every word like I'm thw most interesting person in the universe. I have to say I found it extremely off putting and wouldn't shag them if my life depended on it.
Now the other thing I always do if someone contacts me is:
Check out their profile
Check out the pics
Check out the ads
Check out their posts
You seem like a really nice couple, put bearing in mind your time on the site and the posts you've made regarding SBFs. Some of them are practically ads. You could easily be pigeon holed into the "we want an SBF now - anyone will do" category and to many of the girly's it's extremely off putting.
Having said all that I sincerely hope you find what you're looking for :thumbup:
well i think celery and HLB have summed this one up quite nicely........the only other thing to consider is what you actually want and what u want from a bi fem.......if its purely to meet your own wants and needs the escort route is probably worth considering........u have to remember that with a single bi fem she has wants and needs as much as you do and if you are not interested in meeting her needs what does she gain from the experience?
and have a good read of sexkittens thread that celery posted.....i think you'll find it very interesting reading and will probably answer your question!
opps....its posh typing didn't realise i was in his account.......think i'm having a blonde day!
Sheddy edit: for chuffs sake she steals me heart and me single status now she's even stealing my post count use ya bloody own account lol kiss
HLB
worship
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In addition there's a few "interesting comments" here:
You know it's not rights when...
It's also quite an entertaining read even if I say so myself redface
Apologies to David and Tracy if it sounds like I'm giving you homework :giggle:
hmmm, we don't seem to be having much luck in this department- do you think it has anything to do with our add?:
'We want a SBF NOW! RIGHT NOW!
Looks/personality not important, as long as we all have a good time and get along and fancy each other.
Don't care what you look like, looks are not important to us (did we mention that?)- there doesn't need to be any attraction going on obviously. ( we may wear blindfolds or ask you to wear a paper bag however)
We don't mind how old you are either; 93 year olds definately welcome, again, we can go down the paper bag route, and you could even wear a wig for us to cover the greying granny perm....
Size? who want's to be sizeist? we clearly don't have any of our own opinions or personality so we are happy to go along with whatever you have to offer, honest we're not choosy....
So saying that, we don;t really mind what we get up to in the bedroom, we'll quite happily go along with any of your fantasies ( your pleasure is of our utmost importance) be they quiche fetishes, goldfish fetishes, dirty sock fetishes, you name it, you're the SBF- we'll do it!
We're not desparate, time wasters or pic collectors.
We just want a good time and NO TIME WASTERS
Come on single girls, whoever you are, whatever you look like, we are GAGGING for you!
Get in touch!
ps NO TIME WASTERS
pps NO SINGLE MALES
ppps mmmmmmmmmm quiche........'
What do you think?
Maybe we should edit out the gold fish part? perhaps it's not everyones cup of tea??
you were doing ok til you got to the dirty sock bit, sorry hun you blew it.
H.x
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you were doing ok til you got to the dirty sock bit, sorry hun you blew it.
H.x

Bollocks! I was eagerly awaiting the PMs to start flowing into my box....
What would you prefer instead of the sock thing then?
(ps You still like the quiche n goldfishes, right?!...........)
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hmmm, we don't seem to be having much luck in this department- do you think it has anything to do with our add?:
'We want a SBF NOW! RIGHT NOW!
Looks/personality not important, as long as we all have a good time and get along and fancy each other.
Don't care what you look like, looks are not important to us (did we mention that?)- there doesn't need to be any attraction going on obviously. ( we may wear blindfolds or ask you to wear a paper bag however)
We don't mind how old you are either; 93 year olds definately welcome, again, we can go down the paper bag route, and you could even wear a wig for us to cover the greying granny perm....
Size? who want's to be sizeist? we clearly don't have any of our own opinions or personality so we are happy to go along with whatever you have to offer, honest we're not choosy....
So saying that, we don;t really mind what we get up to in the bedroom, we'll quite happily go along with any of your fantasies ( your pleasure is of our utmost importance) be they quiche fetishes, goldfish fetishes, dirty sock fetishes, you name it, you're the SBF- we'll do it!
We're not desparate, time wasters or pic collectors.
We just want a good time and NO TIME WASTERS
Come on single girls, whoever you are, whatever you look like, we are GAGGING for you!
Get in touch!
ps NO TIME WASTERS
pps NO SINGLE MALES
ppps mmmmmmmmmm quiche........'
What do you think?
Maybe we should edit out the gold fish part? perhaps it's not everyones cup of tea??
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
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What would you prefer instead of the sock thing then?
(ps You still like the quiche n goldfishes, right?!...........)

So long as it's veggie quiche and the goldfish are smiling afterwards it's fine.
Cold baked beans?
(Don't worry, I'll bring my own paper bag - wouldn't want to scare anyone)
H.x
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What would you prefer instead of the sock thing then?
(ps You still like the quiche n goldfishes, right?!...........)

So long as it's veggie quiche and the goldfish are smiling afterwards it's fine.
Cold baked beans?
(Don't worry, I'll bring my own paper bag - wouldn't want to scare anyone)
You know, the baked beans were running through my head, but I didn't want to appear too choosy- gotta let the fem say what she wants! more luck that way...
So we on for meeting tonight?
Den says he has to verify first that you're a SBF by shagging you on his own, before I get home so shall we say around 8?
Don't worry, he'll provide the paper bag.....
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David & Tracy
I can understand your desire to find a Bi Female, but try and understand what the Bi females are looking for as well.
Celestria has given you a link to a very inciteful post and it's worth reading if you have the time.
As another member who joined as a Single Bi Fem (or SBF) I'll give you an idea of how I used to use this site. Yes this is only my opinion and I fully accept this does not apply to everyone.
In the beginning I found that as soon as people saw my SBF label they would pm me not knowing anything about me or caring about my looks/personality just because I was "the ellusive SBF".
I was also nervous and safety conscious of meeting people on my own.
I then got into the social/munch side of the site and found this suited me more as I'm a much better judge of character in person than on line and I felt I was meeting people in a safe environment.
What I was able to see when I met people was how they would talk to me half interested and then ask who I was with. When I said I was single all of a sudden there's a spark in their eye and they ask "Are you Bi".
All of a sudden they're handing off my every word like I'm thw most interesting person in the universe. I have to say I found it extremely off putting and wouldn't shag them if my life depended on it.
Now the other thing I always do if someone contacts me is:
Check out their profile
Check out the pics
Check out the ads
Check out their posts
You seem like a really nice couple, put bearing in mind your time on the site and the posts you've made regarding SBFs. Some of them are practically ads. You could easily be pigeon holed into the "we want an SBF now - anyone will do" category and to many of the girly's it's extremely off putting.
Having said all that I sincerely hope you find what you're looking for :thumbup:

believe it or not I am really pissed off with posting at the mo, cos i just feel a bit banghead :banghead: :banghead: :taz: (lol) and you've just said what I would have said near on word for word :thumbup:
thanks!
How can I resist?
Good idea on the verification front - can't be too carefull.
would suit me better, I have another booking at
H.x
Just read most of that post and found it quite shocking......
As i said in previous posts, if everyone would just be honest this would be a great site (it is the best we have been on by far but could be so much better)
I promise never to use the Fraise ''Bi Female'' ever again.........only when talking about Tracy...............
Peace ?
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I promise never to use the Fraise ''Bi Female'' ever again.........only when talking about Tracy...............
Peace ?

No need to go that far. As I said you seem like a really nice, genuine couple and you're certainly not the only people in the world looking for a Single Bi Fem.
What I posted was purely to try & show the other side of the coin and the potential for SBFs to make judgement on your postings.
There's nothing worse than coming across as "over keen".
Sit back & relax and get to know people at a slower pace :thumbup:
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Peace ?

Oh, ok.
biggrin
H.x
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Peace ?

I will have a peace please :twisted:
Oh thats piece ain't it lol
Shaz x
i've met a few bi fems so they do exsist, maybe you could come to an arrangment with another cpl where one night they get your female for the night and another night you get theirs? just a suggestion but i think a lot of couples that want a bi fem would go for it and if everything goes well maybe it could come a regular arrangment.
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i've met a few bi fems so they do exsist, maybe you could come to an arrangment with another cpl where one night they get your female for the night and another night you get theirs? just a suggestion but i think a lot of couples that want a bi fem would go for it and if everything goes well maybe it could come a regular arrangment.

:thumbup: Is a good way that, we have done it a couple of times with a couple we know before we moved biggrin
Shaz x
i know you're talking about a mutual arrangement thing NN & Shaz.... but i gotta say I still really dont like this passing about like shes a piece of meat to share idea confused
what's next, a rota system?
could be pushing it to fit in the gang bang that we have at , how bout you join that too H_x!?
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i know you're talking about a mutual arrangement thing NN & Shaz.... but i gotta say I still really dont like this passing about like shes a piece of meat to share idea confused
what's next, a rota system?

Nooooo its not like that at all.... for us anyway hun kiss
This was a mutual agreement between a couple we knew quite well that are local to us, they wanted to try a 3some with a female and so did we so we did a bit of swapping... and it worked out that well we did it a second time lol
Myself and the other lady didn't feel like piece's of meat at all hun, we treated her with all the respect just like we would of done if we was meeting a single male or couple and they treated me the same biggrin
If it wasn't handled right then yeah it could make the females feel like a piece of meat...
If the 2 guys was talking and said... "tell you what, you have my woman tonight and we will have yours tomorrow" then i would of told them to f*** off :lol: ... but it wasn't like that... it was us 2 females that did most of the planning and kept the guys guessing... was a lot of fun :twisted:
Shaz x
I love being a 'SBF'...... so nice to be in demand lol :lol: :lol:
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...If it wasn't handled right then yeah it could make the females feel like a piece of meat...
If the 2 guys was talking and said... "tell you what, you have my woman tonight and we will have yours tomorrow" ....
Shaz x

thats the angle i meant luv, i've seen it done.
I acknowledge that what you're (and NN) talking about is a mutually convenient and positive arrangement for you but i've seen it with others when its not quite so positive wink