If you received a mail from someone or started chatting to someone in the chat rooms that caught your attention and you thought someone that you would like to get to know more or would possibly like to meet.
You made contact all was going well plans were moving forward a meet has been arranged. Then you realised they have been lively on the forums so thought you would view their posts, threads etc.
While reading through you came across a few comments they made that were completely against your thoughts, opinions or beliefs.
Would you still meet as meeting is just for fun?
Would it put you off meeting that person? But tell them why.
Would you feel the need to raise the topic with the person, then decide?
Would you cut all ties?
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This is just a hypothetical question
Orgasminator
I think I'd still meet them. We're all so fond of saying that everyone is entitled to their own opinion so why should we let that cloud our judgement when there is obviously something there making you want to meet that person.
Sex God
It depends. I generally don't read people's forum posts before meeting them.
However on a meet once, the guy I was meeting started spouting some offensive racist bile. I got out of there straight away: not my kind of person, why would I sit and listen to it?
It's the one and only time I really questioned my judgement regarding who I meet... but short of demanding to debate their anti-racist credentials prior to a meet, I'm not sure how I could've guessed he would have such vile views.
However on a meet once, the guy I was meeting started spouting some offensive racist bile. I got out of there straight away: not my kind of person, why would I sit and listen to it?
It's the one and only time I really questioned my judgement regarding who I meet... but short of demanding to debate their anti-racist credentials prior to a meet, I'm not sure how I could've guessed he would have such vile views.
Sex God
Why avoid meeting someone just because they've said a few things with which you don't agree? If we did that we'd all be living in Stepford wouldn't we.
Some differences of opinion might stop you being long-term friends - they may not. Even then they may not preclude you having sex.
The Lady hypothesises too much methinks.
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Some differences of opinion might stop you being long-term friends - they may not. Even then they may not preclude you having sex.
The Lady hypothesises too much methinks.
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Sex God
Quote by westerross
Why avoid meeting someone just because they've said a few things with which you don't agree? If we did that we'd all be living in Stepford wouldn't we.
Some differences of opinion might stop you being long-term friends - they may not. Even then they may not preclude you having sex.
The Lady hypothesises too much methinks.
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That about sums up my thoughts :thumbup:
Sex God
Just been thinking about this some more over my morning coffee (aaahhhh, the joys of a day off!)
Yeah, I agree with other people - I've probably muddied the waters a bit with my anecdote above. I have friends who have very different opinions to my own: it doesn't make them bad people.
I'd hate it if someone trawled through all my forum ramblings prior to a meet. Actually, if they did, I doubt I'd get any meets!
Probably why I tend to play with mostly non-forumites!
Yeah, I agree with other people - I've probably muddied the waters a bit with my anecdote above. I have friends who have very different opinions to my own: it doesn't make them bad people.
I'd hate it if someone trawled through all my forum ramblings prior to a meet. Actually, if they did, I doubt I'd get any meets!
Probably why I tend to play with mostly non-forumites! Sex God
Quote by BIoke
Are they kinda like illegal aiens? :rascal:
Oh yeah... under-the-radar, off-the-record, just the way I like it!
I recall a story, I am told it is true. There was this young lady. She spent a lot of time spouting ant-Jewish garbage. Then she went to bed with a man who had been listening to her for far to long. As he came inside her, he asked, "What does it feel like to have a circumcised cock in you."
Punishment?
Punishment?
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
Are they kinda like illegal aiens? :rascal:
Are they like aliens then? :giggle:
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I recall a story, I am told it is true. There was this young lady. She spent a lot of time spouting ant-Jewish garbage. Then she went to bed with a man who had been listening to her for far to long. As he came inside her, he asked, "What does it feel like to have a circumcised cock in you."
Punishment?
Love it!
Quote by westerross
Why avoid meeting someone just because they've said a few things with which you don't agree? If we did that we'd all be living in Stepford wouldn't we.
Some differences of opinion might stop you being long-term friends - they may not. Even then they may not preclude you having sex.
The Lady hypothesises too much methinks.
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Maybe I do
But I don't see that as a bad thing some might!
I like to think before I leap, I don't just accept, all and sundry. I asked the question as I was reading a few threads and a couple of responses I have read to a few posts shocked me.
In how they made me think about the way saying such things could be the way they would precieve others and their general comments about certain issues.
It is so far removed from where I would like society to be I could not meet them without finding out if my feelings were true.
So yes I dont except to share all the same opinions but I do have a standand within society that I wouldnt lower just for a bit of fun.
I dont think that is being shallow I think it is thinking about who you would socialise with as part of this lifestyle as many would say is liking the person and making friends.
Quote by Freckledbird
Are they kinda like illegal aiens? :rascal:
Are they like aliens then? :giggle:
OK, I don't often make typos but you got me and miss nola quoted me before I could edit
And yes, they are like aliens, just with more 'i's' 
I do actually read people's Forum posts sometimes to get a better idea of what makes them tick/turns them on etc.
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
Are they kinda like illegal aiens? :rascal:
Are they like aliens then? :giggle:
OK, I don't often make typos but you got me and miss nola quoted me before I could edit
And yes, they are like aliens, just with more 'i's' I do actually read people's Forum posts sometimes to get a better idea of what makes them tick/turns them on etc.
Sex God
Quote by Theladyisaminx
If you received a mail from someone or started chatting to someone in the chat rooms that caught your attention and you thought someone that you would like to get to know more or would possibly like to meet.
You made contact all was going well plans were moving forward a meet has been arranged. Then you realised they have been lively on the forums so thought you would view their posts, threads etc.
While reading through you came across a few comments they made that were completely against your thoughts, opinions or beliefs.
I never used to go raking through forum posts but I generally do now. :mrgreen:
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Would you still meet as meeting is just for fun?
Just for fun? I guess for some people it is. We've already established that there are people here who would fuck someone they didn't like just because they were attractive to look at so I dare say there are those who would. It wouldn't be for me. I don't think I have any desire to spend either sexual or social time with people I don't like. What's the point? We all have differing opinions, that's one thing... I'm happy to disagree with my friends but there are certain things that just completely put you off and once it's out there, there is no taking it back.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Would it put you off meeting that person? But tell them why.
It would depend on what they'd said and the context in which they'd said it. I'd like to think I'd tell someone why I'd changed my mind but the reality is that I would probably just be polite. So sue me.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Would you feel the need to raise the topic with the person, then decide?
Not especially. I think it would be too late. If they'd said something completely racist for example (although within the AUP this is unlikely to happen here), there's no amount of talking that would have them talk their way out of it so the point would be gone for me. You can't help how you feel and no amount of telling yourself that it's okay to have differing opinions it really won't change how you feel, you'll always remember that one thing they said that you didn't like. Disagreeing is one thing, that's cool, not everyone can have the same opinions but the reality is that I wouldn't willingly spend time with someone who was racist/homophobic/etc. never mind fuck them.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Would you cut all ties?
It would really have to be something pretty serious for that but there are people who post on a forum I use who I have absolutely no time for. The nonsense they spout just makes me roll my eyes and I struggle to spend any time in the company socially. I can remain polite of course but I don't really wish to have anything to do with them so I just avoid them. :mrgreen:
Listen to your instincts... they're always right! :thumbup:
Hmmm... good question.
I've read posts on here that have made me think, crikey - I wouldn't want to meet them, either as a friend or anything more - and I'm sure some people have thought the same when they're read some of my posts.
But it totally depends on what they've said - for example, if someone came across as a bully, or manipulative, or racist, etc, I wouldn't want to meet them.
But if someone's opinion differs from mine, or if someone has an equally viable but quite different take on things, it can be very interesting meeting with them.
One last thought - I wouldn't look too far back, when assessing someone's online personality. People change over the years. I've looked at people's posts from years ago, and have been amazed at how some people have changed.
I've read posts on here that have made me think, crikey - I wouldn't want to meet them, either as a friend or anything more - and I'm sure some people have thought the same when they're read some of my posts.
But it totally depends on what they've said - for example, if someone came across as a bully, or manipulative, or racist, etc, I wouldn't want to meet them.
But if someone's opinion differs from mine, or if someone has an equally viable but quite different take on things, it can be very interesting meeting with them.
One last thought - I wouldn't look too far back, when assessing someone's online personality. People change over the years. I've looked at people's posts from years ago, and have been amazed at how some people have changed.
Quote by Cherrytree
One last thought - I wouldn't look too far back, when assessing someone's online personality. People change over the years. I've looked at people's posts from years ago, and have been amazed at how some people have changed.
This is very true. I mean, I came on here discreetly looking for cock and flirting with freckledbird's husband and now look
I'm an angel, freckledbird is a sassy, single female and I just blantantly look for cock 
(Thanks the gods of swinging that his original profile is gone and nobody can find his first posts) :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
One last thought - I wouldn't look too far back, when assessing someone's online personality. People change over the years. I've looked at people's posts from years ago, and have been amazed at how some people have changed.
This is very true. I mean, I came on here discreetly looking for cock and flirting with freckledbird's husband and now look
I'm an angel, freckledbird is a sassy, single female and I just blantantly look for cock (Thanks the gods of swinging that his original profile is gone and nobody can find his first posts) :thumbup:
OMG I can't believe you just said any of that! Well actually, I can - and it's all true
Except you're not an angel 
Naughty man
Cherry, good point that :thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by Cherrytree
One last thought - I wouldn't look too far back, when assessing someone's online personality. People change over the years. I've looked at people's posts from years ago, and have been amazed at how some people have changed.
You can't actually look that far back... I only got to the first page and then it comes up blank.
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirly
One last thought - I wouldn't look too far back, when assessing someone's online personality. People change over the years. I've looked at people's posts from years ago, and have been amazed at how some people have changed.
You can't actually look that far back... I only got to the first page and then it comes up blank.
You can't if you click 'next', but you can if you click on the page numbers
although it still won't go all the way back to the first page if you're a gobshite 
Edit: just tried it again and it won't
Well, was directed here by a lovely lady - I am totally happy with everything I have posted. If I arranged a meet it would be (is) because I like a person to chat to. Too easy to misrepresent yourself on here. I try not to judge although I judge myself harshly, but one is always your own best critic!!
So in summery - rain followed by sunny intervals.
God I'm a random fella!
So in summery - rain followed by sunny intervals.
God I'm a random fella!
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
Except you're not an angel
Naughty man
And neither are you... I've bumped into at least two bi rugby players in the last week from SHU RUFC to whom the intials FB do NOT mean fuck buddy! :shock:
I'm a bloody angel at the side of you dear :angel:
I think DG summed it up for me. Not that DG is actually capable of summing up but you know what I'm getting at.
It would depend upon what they'd said. If it was something I found morally abhorrent, then yes, I'd be put off. I like to think I can get along with people despite most differences though. Hmm. I've just found myself an "issue."
One of the things I'd find morally abhorrent, like most, is racism. However, one of my very closest friends admits to being racist. I'd known him & grown to respect him hugely before he mentioned this. Now, if he'd ever shown this trait outwardly I'd have kicked his ass to the kerb. However, by the time I found this out I'd already spent time in his company with "coloured" (for want of a better phrase) people. He treated them as he would anyone else- with the utmost respect.
He explained to me that it wasn't something he chose, was something he'd never act upon, and could see the stupidity of. It was something ingrained since childhood. If he could change it he would.
Now, if thats something I'd found out about on here, I wouldn't have taken him into my inner sanctum. Because we were already close, I respected his honesty.
I did have a point. Somewhere along the way, I lost it.
but you know what I'm getting at.It would depend upon what they'd said. If it was something I found morally abhorrent, then yes, I'd be put off. I like to think I can get along with people despite most differences though. Hmm. I've just found myself an "issue."
One of the things I'd find morally abhorrent, like most, is racism. However, one of my very closest friends admits to being racist. I'd known him & grown to respect him hugely before he mentioned this. Now, if he'd ever shown this trait outwardly I'd have kicked his ass to the kerb. However, by the time I found this out I'd already spent time in his company with "coloured" (for want of a better phrase) people. He treated them as he would anyone else- with the utmost respect.
He explained to me that it wasn't something he chose, was something he'd never act upon, and could see the stupidity of. It was something ingrained since childhood. If he could change it he would.
Now, if thats something I'd found out about on here, I wouldn't have taken him into my inner sanctum. Because we were already close, I respected his honesty.
I did have a point. Somewhere along the way, I lost it.
Sex God
Quote by Witchy
I think DG summed it up for me. Not that DG is actually capable of summing up
Oi!!! I resemble that remark!
Quote by Freckledbird
One last thought - I wouldn't look too far back, when assessing someone's online personality. People change over the years. I've looked at people's posts from years ago, and have been amazed at how some people have changed.
You can't actually look that far back... I only got to the first page and then it comes up blank.
You can't if you click 'next', but you can if you click on the page numbers
although it still won't go all the way back to the first page if you're a gobshite Edit: just tried it again and it won't
Yep, you did use to be able to do it.
I wouldn't fuck someone that I knew I didn't like. That would take into account their views, body language, appearance, general attitude, the way they speak,the language they use. If I had access to their views in any way shape or form it makes up a picture and I have not fucked people for less than their forum posts.
So- yup- if I didn't like what they wrote on here then I would not fuck them.
in addition there have been people whose opinion on here I really valued and during the sexual interlude we shared I realised they were a grade A jerk. With that in mind I concede that there will be people on here who appear to me as prats and who may be wonderful in person. I am prepared to take the chance that I have missed a great opportunity by sticking to letting them go by.
So- yup- if I didn't like what they wrote on here then I would not fuck them.
in addition there have been people whose opinion on here I really valued and during the sexual interlude we shared I realised they were a grade A jerk. With that in mind I concede that there will be people on here who appear to me as prats and who may be wonderful in person. I am prepared to take the chance that I have missed a great opportunity by sticking to letting them go by.
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