what are the chances of being believed if..

27 Apr 2009

Quote by Melting_pot
as for the debate, I doubt it would go anywhere with the admins either..which is why profile and ad have been restored
my interest is and was more in "how things are perceived"..

Can I just stick in a word for Admin here please (although of course I'm not one of them) - but I had a prob with an advert of mine recently that someone had reported as breaking the AUP - Admin contacted me about it, we exchanged a few messages in which I explained exactly why I had put what I'd put - and in the end it was all sorted out most amicably and my advert was able to stay. Of course - wasn't the same subject matter as yours or concerning a none-member of the site - but I just didn't want you to have the impression that things "don't go anwhere" when Admin are involved - as I found them to be quite charming and helpful.
As to how things are perceived, I'm always a tad suspicious of profiles where there is a 3rd party mentioned who is not on the ad (either the way you're talking about it - or have read female ones too where they talk about a male FB who can join them) - maybe cos I find it quite hard to get my head around the idea of an FB, as I'm a dead selfish girl who doesn't want the responsibility of worrying about anyone else - takes me all my time just to ensure that I have as much fun as possible!!
Best of luck though - maybe, as someone else suggested - you could mention it to one of the girlies you meet, if they show any interest at all in being bi-friendly/curious
Scarlett xxxx

27 Apr 2009

Quote by fem_4_taboo
humm,
i see the issue is that she( the ther person) isnt a member, but what if you are a single member and theres another single member and you do play together but also want to meet others as a couple? you can then say on your single profile that you have another male/female that you play with and would like to meet others with?
but only if your both members, but hw would you know? unless those two single memebrs have to state on each of the profiles that they are paired up for sex with ***** o, infacto breaching discretion?
also if two singles are a couple but liek to remain as singles as they also play alone they cant actually advertise to meet as a couple as they dont have a couples account. or should thay have 3 accounts?
just pondering really.
back the the op.
i wouldnt come across you looking for a bi fem to join you casue if i was looking for a couple you wouldnt come up in the search.
xx fem xx

much better worded than my posts..and it goes to the crux of the matter..
the fact that my friend is not a member can of course be of "concern" to the aup and has some merit, which is why I've pulled the modifications to ad and profile...
but indeed the main concern in keeping the other person unnamed could very well be to protect her privacy or not to tell the world that you're seeing that very person. (which would of course be revealed after the first contact with interested parties)..
and who is to say if that other person is or isn't a member?
I guess however that it would still sound pretty dodgy to most readers..

27 Apr 2009

Quote by ScarletTheHarlot

as for the debate, I doubt it would go anywhere with the admins either..which is why profile and ad have been restored
my interest is and was more in "how things are perceived"..

I just didn't want you to have the impression that things "don't go anwhere" when Admin are involved - as I found them to be quite charming and helpful.

what I meant is that that way the "debate" of the issue would have remained private whilst the considerations of fem4taboo for instance would not have been made..nor debated..

28 Apr 2009

if a single guy emailed us and said he had a female friend then I would look to see what was on the profile, If I liked the look of the guy then I would probably take it to private email or msn so it can be verified before arranging any meetings.
But on the other hand if I didnt like the guys profile then I wouldnt take any further,,,female or not in the frame.

29 Apr 2009

I think the basic contention here with advertising for someone else; is because it is actually verifying or vouching for them. And of course that has always been an argument in this site.

29 Apr 2009

Quote by duncanlondon
I think the basic contention here with advertising for someone else; is because it is actually verifying or vouching for them. And of course that has always been an argument in this site.

Yes, it has.... going back yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeears!