Advice needed please guys...
Hi all, those of you who know us know we have a sense of humour and as such love a giggle and a laugh as much as anyone... in the few years we have been on this and other sites we have never fallen out with a single soul (not that we know of lol).
The trouble is this.. in a chat room one person has decided to take a dislike to me/us and has started to bad mouth us to others.. it all started over nothing and chance upon chance has been given to this person to make it right but no it just gets more and more personal. It has been reported to Admin and to several mods etc but still it continues. He is obviously saying the same and probably more to the very same.
I know he is bad mouthing as I have been told by SEVERAL people... if there was a reason for his dislike I could understand but there is none.
I could ignore and leave or as I now know his address etc I could just pay a visit and ask straight out... Would this be a good idea or is there another way to resolve this??
Serious answers please lol... if thats possible.
Thanks in advance
Mike xx
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I have...... Tried this and more. It just gets worse and I am being made to look the bad guy.
I'm not happy about it either... I have reported it I have tried asking but nothing but rude comments and snide remarks are being made.
Sorry it upsets but I really want advice on this before I make a choice.. If one other person could say the same as him I would understand... No one but him has an issue.
Mike
I'm not happy about it either... I have reported it I have tried asking but nothing but rude comments and snide remarks are being made.
Sorry it upsets but I really want advice on this before I make a choice.. If one other person could say the same as him I would understand... No one but him has an issue.
Mike
I really wouldn't advise going to their home - you could land yourself in bother over someone else's perceived behaviour. (I know nothing of this problem so don't know the ins and outs.)
The best thing you can do is rise above it and ignore it as much as you can. Collect screen shots and/ or pm responses for the admin team in order to prove that this person is indeed behaving maliciously and breaking the AUP.
Ask those who are telling you that he has said things if they would be willing to confirm this to the admin.
Hope it helps resolve things but ultimately you're never going to get on with everyone. just be sure that you fdon't put yourself in the firing line if someone else is in the wrong.
Jas
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The best thing you can do is rise above it and ignore it as much as you can. Collect screen shots and/ or pm responses for the admin team in order to prove that this person is indeed behaving maliciously and breaking the AUP.
Ask those who are telling you that he has said things if they would be willing to confirm this to the admin.
Hope it helps resolve things but ultimately you're never going to get on with everyone. just be sure that you fdon't put yourself in the firing line if someone else is in the wrong.
Jas
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Quote by Shireen_Mids
Because it serves no purpose HLB.... Mike cant name who it is and he also cant say what is being said so why ask for advice on an open forum when he cant give the full details
All this thread will do is to add further resentment
Well if the resentment is actually a reality then asking for advice might help him to resolve it.
Jas
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don`t go round there mrdr..only add to trouble
think this is the sort of problem for admin to sort out really....but if posting makes you feel better carry on...
think this is the sort of problem for admin to sort out really....but if posting makes you feel better carry on...
I would have to agree with both of Jas' posts.
Mike, I realise that "damage" may be being done while he bad mouths you, but I've always found that in similar circumstances, people will see through the "bad mouthing" and in the end it will say much more about the person doing it than it will about you.
Unless of course it's a so called "long standing, respected member of the forum/chatroom" that may well be defended blindly by others based on a perceived reputation - but even so; Jas' "rise above it" comment is a good one.
More importantly - DO NOT GO VISITING ! ! - Those days are well and truly over.
Mike, I realise that "damage" may be being done while he bad mouths you, but I've always found that in similar circumstances, people will see through the "bad mouthing" and in the end it will say much more about the person doing it than it will about you.
Unless of course it's a so called "long standing, respected member of the forum/chatroom" that may well be defended blindly by others based on a perceived reputation - but even so; Jas' "rise above it" comment is a good one.
More importantly - DO NOT GO VISITING ! ! - Those days are well and truly over.
sorry mike mate...........didnt mean any of it.......and ive only slagged you off to ...3 full chatrooms so i think your exaggerating .........ermmm seriously,...
do not go to his house with your patented mike charm...you`l end up in the nick pmsl,
we had a similar problem in a particular chat room, being slagged off all the time for no reason......behind the back sort of crap..........it`s ended up with the person/s in question being made to look like a fool/s.............if you get an inckling if bad mouthin..then ask em straight.......in full view of the room.............somethin along the lines of....whats your problem ya da yada yada.......weve done nothing to you....etc.......it made us popular and the user in queston unpopular.............same as the gay comment a cpl of weeks ago in chat........everyone wastakin the piss big time...in the end i had people saying.........can we please just leave this now, i think he`s had enough pmsl......<------dunt bother me anyway lol. take care u2 ...see ya 2 mozz
do not go to his house with your patented mike charm...you`l end up in the nick pmsl,
we had a similar problem in a particular chat room, being slagged off all the time for no reason......behind the back sort of crap..........it`s ended up with the person/s in question being made to look like a fool/s.............if you get an inckling if bad mouthin..then ask em straight.......in full view of the room.............somethin along the lines of....whats your problem ya da yada yada.......weve done nothing to you....etc.......it made us popular and the user in queston unpopular.............same as the gay comment a cpl of weeks ago in chat........everyone wastakin the piss big time...in the end i had people saying.........can we please just leave this now, i think he`s had enough pmsl......<------dunt bother me anyway lol. take care u2 ...see ya 2 mozz
I can understand not wanting him to go into details, but from the limited information he has been able to give, the impartial advice he has been given here i.e. not to visit, rise above it and to copy & paste any abusive comments seems to be worthwhile to me.
Yes we don't want people detailing personal issues in the forum, but asking for general advice on managing conflict seems perfectly acceptible to me.
Yes we don't want people detailing personal issues in the forum, but asking for general advice on managing conflict seems perfectly acceptible to me.
also ........i personally dont think this post is in bad taste.......mike hasnt named or shamed anyone, he just wants advice...........sometimes chat ops are too busy controlling the nutters out there to offer decent help..........except bi welsh of course pmsl, and as for using another chatroom to avoid the bad mouther......i dont agree with this at all, why should a decent person/s like MDR2000 be pushed out of a room that he/they enjoy , because an idiot decides to start a slagging match.......i think mike is a little like me....tries to get on with everyone and has the live and let live attitude.........and is a compleat shock when someone seems to hate you for no reason.............need to think of a decent way of stopping these freaks pmsl ........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
i agree 
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I can understand not wanting him to go into details, but from the limited information he has been able to give, the impartial advice he has been given here i.e. not to visit, rise above it and to copy & paste any abusive comments seems to be worthwhile to me.
Yes we don't want people detailing personal issues in the forum, but asking for general advice on managing conflict seems perfectly acceptible to me.
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don`t go round there mrdr..only add to trouble
think this is the sort of problem for admin to sort out really....but if posting makes you feel better carry on...
I have asked Admin and I have asked chat room ops..... untill last night stayed away from his room completely but still in other rooms I am now getting the odd 'your a single guy go away please' and 'we have heard your a single guy sorry' thrown back at me which inflames it more.... would none of you guys be a little miffed if it were you??
I ask advice where I should and get ignored and the problem carries on... I realise this does me no favours but I am bloody mad at this guys arrogance and pure malicious rumour mongering!
Sorry if it offends but the way I was brought up is to resolve things no matter what.
Like I said if one other person could really say anything nasty about me/us I would understand and back off..
Mike xx
Quote by quimninja2003
........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Quote by BiWelshMinx
........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Like I said before..... I avoided HIS room but now find its spread around that I am indeed a single guy who is just perving in couples rooms.....
I'm sure this has started itself........
Mike x
i agree to a degree but...for instance the peson/s....who were slaggin us off...were doing so in the only room we go in now..........coz thats where alot of our mates hang out.........we had to fight it....because we wanted to stay in that room.....were not ones for giving up..lol.........cant mike give you details of when this person is in chat......and read the chat log.....if they are slaggin em off ....then hammer em pmsl ...
nice to see ya agin biwelsh grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
nice to see ya agin biwelsh grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
Quote by BiWelshMinx
........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
wouldntthat make ju.....a single fem...bring it on ju lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Like I said before..... I avoided HIS room but now find its spread around that I am indeed a single guy who is just perving in couples rooms.....
I'm sure this has started itself........
Mike x
Quote by mdr2000
........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Like I said before..... I avoided HIS room but now find its spread around that I am indeed a single guy who is just perving in couples rooms.....
I'm sure this has started itself........
Mike x
Thanks to the advice given....... I realise its all a bit about nothing but I hate being badmouthed for no reason whatsoever....
I am more than happy for all the bloggs to be posted at anytime and let people make there own choices here... I KNOW I did nothing to offend in anyway and its a purely personal attack... Why I do not know he does not know me...!!
Its childish and its playground stuff but still madening as hell when it happens to you!
I am more than happy for all the bloggs to be posted at anytime and let people make there own choices here... I KNOW I did nothing to offend in anyway and its a purely personal attack... Why I do not know he does not know me...!!
Its childish and its playground stuff but still madening as hell when it happens to you!
Thanks Ninja hun but I have offered Mike my assistance via pm 
We'll sort it :thumbup:
Minx x x
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
We'll sort it :thumbup:
Minx x x
Quote by quimninja2003
i agree to a degree but...for instance the peson/s....who were slaggin us off...were doing so in the only room we go in now..........coz thats where alot of our mates hang out.........we had to fight it....because we wanted to stay in that room.....were not ones for giving up..lol.........cant mike give you details of when this person is in chat......and read the chat log.....if they are slaggin em off ....then hammer em pmsl ...
nice to see ya agin biwelsh grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Quote by quimninja2003
i agree to a degree but...for instance the peson/s....who were slaggin us off...were doing so in the only room we go in now..........coz thats where alot of our mates hang out.........we had to fight it....because we wanted to stay in that room.....were not ones for giving up..lol.........cant mike give you details of when this person is in chat......and read the chat log.....if they are slaggin em off ....then hammer em pmsl ...
nice to see ya agin biwelsh grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Trust you ya tart lol....... :twisted:
:lol: :D Quote by mdr2000
Its childish and its playground stuff but still madening as hell when it happens to you!
A bit like you persistantly going into his room then?? You were in there last night even though it is a passworded room and it had a new password.... So how did you get the password and why go in?? Just to keep stirring??
Guess who is fed up now
hummm think were in need of a little proffesional assitance bi welsh he he :-D
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Quote by BiWelshMinx
Thanks Ninja hun but I have offered Mike my assistance via pm
We'll sort it :thumbup:
Minx x x
i agree to a degree but...for instance the peson/s....who were slaggin us off...were doing so in the only room we go in now..........coz thats where alot of our mates hang out.........we had to fight it....because we wanted to stay in that room.....were not ones for giving up..lol.........cant mike give you details of when this person is in chat......and read the chat log.....if they are slaggin em off ....then hammer em pmsl ...
nice to see ya agin biwelsh grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
........electrical shocks through the keyboard when they slagg anyone of....what ya think lol
One chat Op has requested this facility for members who can't read the rules ;)
Seriously this appears to be a clash of personalities (so what? that's life!) I appreciate that Mike is merely asking for advice, but as he has rightly done he has given limited information which I personally think it is difficult to advise on. There are plenty of chatrooms out there, I give other chatters the same advice too, if there is a member you clash with then just find a different room to chat in or create your own.
Minx x x
Quote by mdr2000
Thanks to the advice given....... I realise its all a bit about nothing but I hate being badmouthed for no reason whatsoever....
I am more than happy for all the bloggs to be posted at anytime and let people make there own choices here... I KNOW I did nothing to offend in anyway and its a purely personal attack... Why I do not know he does not know me...!!
Its childish and its playground stuff but still madening as hell when it happens to you!
hi , well mike/julie iv no idear why this person is bad mouthing you but i was there one night when they was as you known , your a nice couple and as for been a single guy well your not as iv spoke to julie. well i hope you get it all sorted out soon cause we do have a good laff when your in the chat room hope we meet with you both soon deb and dave xxx
