What do you do?

26 Jan 2007

I'm a bit fed up at the moment (this is NOT a sympathy-seeking thread) and, apart from drifting in here, I'm mostly doing Sudoku puzzles so that I don't think too much and cry.
What do you do, that you can totally lose yourself in and not think about anything else?

26 Jan 2007

I play a game called Equilibria... I find that helps me to switch off to everything else dunno

26 Jan 2007

When I'm really depressed I sleep. I sleep all day and all night. It's as if my body is switching off to re-boot it self.
To avoid this I do tai chi. The exercise helps and so does the social side.

26 Jan 2007

The only thing I can do that really works is going to bed and sleep. I have to play music or watch a DVD that I know really well till I drop off. I find it really flipping hard to 'turn off' and its bloody annoying rolleyes

Then I end up not being able to sleep during the night and my thoughts really do screw up my head mad

Nice thread FB, I look forward to others suggestions :thumbup:

26 Jan 2007

i would play my pc games like age of empires or play on xbox but as my kids have xbox and not sorted out new pc yet i dont have one. would go on a bike ride till frame broke.
maybe thats why im so stressed mad

:x :x :x :x
on a borrowed laptop

26 Jan 2007

Taekwondo every time. You can't help but concentrate 100%, which means you get a good physical workout, the endorphines start flowing which de-stresses you too, and you get to punch/kick something without hurting anyone.
I guess it's the same for all martial arts, but TKD is my saving grace right now- it's getting me through some pretty tough times.

26 Jan 2007

i cook
loud music, glass of wine and cook, i can lose myself completely and it totaly de-stresses me and never fails.
i am of course lying i meant bottle not glass
Earthy xx
in edit of course there are always just those times when nothing will get rid of it other than crying, i sob my heart out look like shit but feel much better and i always find i sleep after this.

26 Jan 2007

Quote by winchwench
Taekwondo every time. You can't help but concentrate 100%, which means you get a good physical workout, the endorphines start flowing which de-stresses you too, and you get to punch/kick something without hurting anyone.
I guess it's the same for all martial arts, but TKD is my saving grace right now- it's getting me through some pretty tough times.

TKD and tai chi must work in a similar way even though TKD is a combative art and TC is more to do with meditation. You have to concentrate 100% on what you are doing. It doesn't allow room in your head for other worries. I guess other sports are the same.

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
read a good book - that normally shuts me right off

I forgot about reading... I love to snuggle up with a really good crime novel smile

26 Jan 2007

Quote by keeno
Taekwondo every time. You can't help but concentrate 100%, which means you get a good physical workout, the endorphines start flowing which de-stresses you too, and you get to punch/kick something without hurting anyone.
I guess it's the same for all martial arts, but TKD is my saving grace right now- it's getting me through some pretty tough times.

TKD and tai chi must work in a similar way even though TKD is a combative art and TC is more to do with meditation. You have to concentrate 100% on what you are doing. It doesn't allow room in your head for other worries. I guess other sports are the same.
Precisely- I find that doing patterns works as a kind of meditation for me too.
The rest of it is just a case of anything less than 100% concentration and 100% effort gets you pulled up. However, I can't think of one occasion when my mind has been close to wandering-its so full on there just isn't the opportunity.
It means I end up getting 2, 1 1/2 hour sessions of what I deem "relaxation" a week- and it keeps me sane (ish) rolleyes

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Dawnie
The only thing I can do that really works is going to bed and sleep. I have to play music or watch a DVD that I know really well till I drop off. I find it really flipping hard to 'turn off' and its bloody annoying
Then I end up not being able to sleep during the night and my thoughts really do screw up my head
Nice thread FB, I look forward to others suggestions :thumbup:

Same here
But whilst doing that i still think about stuff so dont really help and i do the same thing at night but without the music.
But i dont sleep great anyway since i started the meds im on and dont want to take more to help sleep so its a bit of a circle.
I also will keep upto speed for any other suggestions on what might help.

26 Jan 2007

I play the drums, read a book or go bird watching.
It can be tough to feel motivated to get up and go outside if you are feeling low, but I find even just looking at birds (the flying kind confused

) really lifts my spirits and the fresh air and exercise really help too.
I hope you are feeling brighter soon FB.
kiss

26 Jan 2007

I plug my headphones into the cd player and pop some Cafe Del Mar or Buddha Bar on and really chill biggrin

If I'm on here and need a simple, no nonsense time bandit, I go for JigZone or backgammon

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
I find gardening can be quite therapeutic :shock:
It gives me a sense of perspective, wonder and amazement, life cycles and all that and allows time for a period of self reflection.

Well I would have posted very similar words to your Scandal but thought I may have the piss taken out of me. lol

I find it puts things into perspective and reminds me of the impermanence of everything.

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
I'm a bit fed up at the moment (this is NOT a sympathy-seeking thread) and, apart from drifting in here, I'm mostly doing Sudoku puzzles so that I don't think too much and cry.
What do you do, that you can totally lose yourself in and not think about anything else?

Well sympathy coming anyway!! kiss

:therethere:
If it's the kind of switching off similar to what I had to do a lot of last year - where I needed a break from any emotion. I didn't want to feel upset, anger, pain, sorrow - or even happiness, laughter, smiley stuff (cos even that ended in tears), you want a total escape from any emotion or memory, and you like Sudoku, then I have the perfect thing for you :kiss:

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It's a collection of wonderful, very easy to learn, logic numbery type puzzles - not sums or anything, just puzzles with a number theme, like sudoku is.
This book will let you switch off from any emotion - it's so surprisingly absorbing, that detracts from emotion. I lost many an hour with it.
Another thing, as Sassy says - great little way to just switch off and escape emotion ........ I would say nothing easier than the 247 piece triangles tho, or you won't be absorbed enough!! lol

Hope you're ok soon FB :kiss:

26 Jan 2007

were you in the YOC kiss????

26 Jan 2007

Its got to be confused

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Turn the telly off make a plate of sandwiches & curl up with a book & just while the hours away biggrin

26 Jan 2007

Quote by mazandden
were you in the YOC kiss????

No, but Mrs Kiss was.
I grew up with parents that ran a sanctuary for sick and injured birds of prey. I also used to be really into falconry.
What can I say? I'm a closet tree hugging nature lover and I even got a new pair of binoculars from my mum last Christmas. lol

26 Jan 2007

I'm doing a lot of sleeping atm, quite possibly for simliar reason as you do puzzles, Freckledbird. sad

I used to do Tai Chi and loved it. Fabulous for both mind and body. A good juicy book is great escapism - assuming you have the concetration.
Shutting myself off from the world is how I deal with things in the short-term. Long-term I have no suggestions or I wouldnt be in this situation , I guess. confused

26 Jan 2007

For me it has to be radio, mainly Radio Five Live and Radio 4. Alternatively I read books, newspapers, play music or watch old reruns of detective series on ITV3. Not very creative am I. Never fancied gardening, one afternoon a week in primary school of toiliing in the school garden was enough to put me off for life.

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Shireen
read a good book - that normally shuts me right off

I forgot about reading... I love to snuggle up with a really good crime novel smile

I dont recoommend crime novels confused

- if I need an escape, its usually here - if I immerse myself in it enough.....or, my mate Jack, a Lush bath and candles :thumbup: 9 times out of 10 'needing to escape' comes with pissedoffyness & the need for someone to drop off the face of the earth - & crime books give me too many good ideas :twisted:
rotflmao

and if the Lush bath just doesnt cut the mustard, a good, hard, up against the wall, primative & frantic shag usually works for me lol

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Marya_Northeast
I'm doing a lot of sleeping atm, quite possibly for simliar reason as you do puzzles, Freckledbird.
I used to do Tai Chi and loved it. Fabulous for both mind and body. A good juicy book is great escapism - assuming you have the concetration.
Shutting myself off from the world is how I deal with things in the short-term. Long-term I have no suggestions or I wouldnt be in this situation , I guess.

When the black dog bites :cry: I can't read. mad

I haven't got the concentration for it. I can't watch films :x ditto. It's so depressing :cry: . Which of course why it happens.

26 Jan 2007

Put the music on, normally van Morrison, in particular 2 tracks and turn them up loud! :P
Some times try and read., not much good at that lately as I could see the small print, option says I need glasses :bounce:
Gardening here is out, my garden is on clay and it is like a squiggy sponge out there at the moment

26 Jan 2007

Like any self respecting citizen..............I put on a hoodie and go and perform ASBO related offences in the neighbourhood ..................
rolleyes

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Darkfire
or, my mate Jack, a Lush bath and candles :thumbup:

Aaahhhh yes the Lush bath.... With a crime novel :lol2:

crime books give me too many good ideas :twisted:

Why do you think I read them :twisted: :giggle:

26 Jan 2007

Though an avid reader, when I need to get rid of emotional stuff reading really doesn’t help, I find thoughts invade and put me off the plot, same as films and radio, doesn’t work for me because bad thoughts will always be invasive.
The only thing that works for me is good, stimulating company and the ability to offload. As Chris would say, “phone a friend”
Bend their ear, invite them round, have a darned good gossip, get pissed if that’s your thing, and if its that sort of friend, have mad passionate sex. If not just enjoy remembering that there are people out there who care about you but importantly, face the doldrums, pack em in a bag, and flush em .
Works for me dunno

26 Jan 2007

Quote by Scandal
I find gardening can be quite therapeutic :shock:
It gives me a sense of perspective, wonder and amazement, life cycles and all that and allows time for a period of self reflection.

:thumbup: or spring cleaning
as long as it has a positive outcome

26 Jan 2007

I'm a bit fed up at the moment (this is NOT a sympathy-seeking thread) quote]
I know its not a sympathy thread but we all need a :therethere: cuddle sometimes hun
kiss

just for you

26 Jan 2007

I normaly start some diy project or decorating....problem is my intrest soon wains and i find my level of competency isnt what i thought it was :doh:
so end up with a house of half finished projects some of which end up waiting for me to have the cash to call in a profesional to put it right redface

So if anyone is intrested in buying a 8 bed house in skegness with lots of potential and a project to finish in every room ...let me know innocent

Failing that i go shopping!
Arrh i think i have seen the light as to why i have a negative bank balance :notes:
Nicky

26 Jan 2007

Hmmm what do I do.....
Reading, always got my nose in a book!
Go to the gym, do some yoga.
Play upbeat dance music.
Watch a film.
Tidy the house :shock: If I'm upset I go on a tidying frenzy and I throw out anything that sits still long enough!
Fee
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