At school I was bullied I know and have felt what bullying was like, to be punched and kicked by 13 girls to me is bullying.
To me sticks and stones will break my bones but words would never hurt me.
I believe as an adult we should have the ability to see an incident about to occur and veer away from that situation.
When on hear I hear the word bullying it makes me wonder what peoples interpretation of the word is.
I see people arguing but, is this really bullying?
I hear ops have to step in to sort problems out, isn't that a bit like running to mummy?
I don't know I always have such strong feelings, that we should be able to sort our own problems out, and never make ourselves victims.
On here it is far easier to ignore someone that isn’t nice, I just think ignore them they will soon leave you alone.
What are others views on this?
I am not ignoring the fact that some people can come across insulting of argumentative.
But is this really bullying?
After all they are words on a page!
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What is bullying?
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
Quote by keeno
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
But people have the ability to walk away on here, when faced with the person in front of you this is harder to do.
By sitting here responding to that person are you not just making yourself a victim?
After all they are just words on a page.
Quote by flower411
In here it is bullying if it stops a person from posting their views.
As you say minx... it`s just words on a page but when you know that whatever you post is going to be dissected and critisized by the same person over and over again, it is unpleasant and may make you think twice about bothering in the future.
Anything that seriously restricts someone from expressing their views in an open forum could be seen as bullying.
The problem, of course is when somebodies views are unpleasant or insulting to others they should be curtailed, which is wny we have mods. But rumour has it that the mods are human and are, therefore capable of mistakes
spot on!
Quote by keeno
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
hmmm i think not,are you talking about discussion
In here it is bullying if it stops a person from posting their views.
I do see your point flower!
But.... in all walks of life you know there are some that you only have to look at sideways and would get offended, there are others that could take all and come out unscathed.
I do just see some that make themsleves victims, not all I must add.
As you say minx... it`s just words on a page but when you know that whatever you post is going to be dissected and critisized by the same person over and over again, it is unpleasant and may make you think twice about bothering in the future.
This is true I don't like it when I see this happening and feel it is totally unfair.
But.... as adults don't we just need to have the strength within us to take no notice of people that are hill bent on doing this, as I feel if they were totally ignored they would get fed up of trying eventually
Anything that seriously restricts someone from expressing their views in an open forum could be seen as bullying.
ok! I still see bullying as a strong word to use for this behaviour.
I see it as one being ignorant, bad mannered, disrespectful
The problem, of course is when somebodies views are unpleasant or insulting to others they should be curtailed,
which is wny we have mods. But rumour has it that the mods are human and are, therefore capable of mistakes
I agree that is when action from a third party should ensue.
As for you last comment..Don't you have work to do?
I do see your point flower!
But.... in all walks of life you know there are some that you only have to look at sideways and would get offended, there are others that could take all and come out unscathed.
I do just see some that make themsleves victims, not all I must add.
As you say minx... it`s just words on a page but when you know that whatever you post is going to be dissected and critisized by the same person over and over again, it is unpleasant and may make you think twice about bothering in the future.
This is true I don't like it when I see this happening and feel it is totally unfair.
But.... as adults don't we just need to have the strength within us to take no notice of people that are hill bent on doing this, as I feel if they were totally ignored they would get fed up of trying eventually
Anything that seriously restricts someone from expressing their views in an open forum could be seen as bullying.
ok! I still see bullying as a strong word to use for this behaviour.
I see it as one being ignorant, bad mannered, disrespectful
The problem, of course is when somebodies views are unpleasant or insulting to others they should be curtailed,
which is wny we have mods. But rumour has it that the mods are human and are, therefore capable of mistakes
I agree that is when action from a third party should ensue.
As for you last comment..Don't you have work to do?
Quote by Phuckers
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
hmmm i think not,are you talking about discussion
If someone perceives they are been bullied. Then to them it is real. Sure they can walk away but some people don't.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
But people have the ability to walk away on here, when faced with the person in front of you this is harder to do.
By sitting here responding to that person are you not just making yourself a victim?
After all they are just words on a page.
They may just be words on the page but they still can hurt.
As I say, I know of people who won't post because they feel they have been bullied.
They feel that others have ganged up on them and given them a verbal kicking.
Quote by keeno
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
hmmm i think not,are you talking about discussion
If someone perceives they are been bullied. Then to them it is real. Sure they can walk away but some people don't.
true but i would rather stand up to bullying than walk away....hey dont bully me into believing otherwise
later guys! Quote by Phuckers
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
hmmm i think not,are you talking about discussion
If someone perceives they are been bullied. Then to them it is real. Sure they can walk away but some people don't.
true but i would rather stand up to bullying than walk away....hey dont bully me into believing otherwise
later guys!Glad you're strong enough to do it.
Me? I walk away.
Quote by flower411
As for you last comment..Don't you have work to do?
It`s a little experiment ...I`ve left em on their own to see if they can cope without me for a couple of hours !!
Be careful! They might cope exceptionally well and you could then be out of a job.
If they do what they`ve been told this afternoon, instead of what they usually do, it`ll just prove that they need me to keep them in control!! :thumbup:
You Bully!!
Quote by GnV
As for you last comment..Don't you have work to do?
It`s a little experiment ...I`ve left em on their own to see if they can cope without me for a couple of hours !!
Be careful! They might cope exceptionally well and you could then be out of a job.
If they do what they`ve been told this afternoon, instead of what they usually do, it`ll just prove that they need me to keep them in control!! :thumbup:
You Bully!!
Brilliant! I wish I had got here first! :lol: Quote by flower411
As for you last comment..Don't you have work to do?
It`s a little experiment ...I`ve left em on their own to see if they can cope without me for a couple of hours !!
Be careful! They might cope exceptionally well and you could then be out of a job.
If they do what they`ve been told this afternoon, instead of what they usually do, it`ll just prove that they need me to keep them in control!! :thumbup:
You Bully!!
Same old story for me :lol:
I`m surrounded by women who need to be told what to do :grin:
oooo Yes o Master!
:bolt:
Quote by keeno
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
But people have the ability to walk away on here, when faced with the person in front of you this is harder to do.
By sitting here responding to that person are you not just making yourself a victim?
After all they are just words on a page.
They may just be words on the page but they still can hurt.
As I say, I know of people who won't post because they feel they have been bullied.
They feel that others have ganged up on them and given them a verbal kicking.
Its a shame people cant handle the forums.
Quote by DeeCee
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
But people have the ability to walk away on here, when faced with the person in front of you this is harder to do.
By sitting here responding to that person are you not just making yourself a victim?
After all they are just words on a page.
They may just be words on the page but they still can hurt.
As I say, I know of people who won't post because they feel they have been bullied.
They feel that others have ganged up on them and given them a verbal kicking.
Its a shame people cant handle the forums.
there are a few people from the forums I would like to handle...
Quote by keeno
Bullying is often in the perception of the victim.
On this site if you post something personal there will always be someone who disagrees. If you then argue your case and a bunch of others turn up and disagree this can be perceived as bullying.
And it fact it has happened and will happen again.
People leave the forum because of it.
Is that bullying?
If you try to force your opinions on to someone else you are bullying them. The more agressively you do it the more distasteful it is.
But people have the ability to walk away on here, when faced with the person in front of you this is harder to do.
By sitting here responding to that person are you not just making yourself a victim?
After all they are just words on a page.
They may just be words on the page but they still can hurt.
This type of hurt I believe comes from the caring side of our nature, it is a mental pain that we are able to control.
It is how we think about something, we can all think it is bullying, but also we are able to switch our minds into seeing it another way.
If someone attacks me in words which I have had on the forums and in chat, my first thoughts are you ignorant idiot, twat or whatever else comes into my head. I don't think victim. To then see someone as an idiot to me takes away their strengh, I don't fear them I just then feel sorry for them for being so ignorant.
I hope this makes sence! I know how hurt and pain from bullying feels, I am not over looking the inportance of that. But I still feel in the written form we have more contrl over how it makes us feel.
As I say, I know of people who won't post because they feel they have been bullied.
This is a shame and these are the people I feel should not stop posting on the back of others.
They feel that others have ganged up on them and given them a verbal kicking.
Any gang of people that get together to form groups to stand behind each other to do this, in my opinion have no strength, on their own are weak, so on an individual basis I see myself stronger than each one of them. So I don't fear them, this is how I have overcome my bullying from school days and how I still see things to this day. I have worked out how weak they are and I see the strength within myself and pride myself that nobody would ever make me feel a victim again
I hope this make sense!
These are just my opinions
bullies are scum.
They pray on people they think will say or do usually they escalate the insults or pressure upon that person until they break.
Then the bully stands back and enjoys the results.
People who bully in the workplace are the worst type of go to work because you need money, Not to have to put up with abuse,threats or foul abusive language.
I currently have a boss who intimidates,abuses and uses threatening language on the staff under because he gets results and pleases management they do nothing.
You can have a verbal go back at him but in the end he just picks on you and makes your live even harder.
The only way people like this scum truely know you are pissed off is when you arrive on there door step ready to put him out of his misery.
I say eye of an someone uses there job as a way to justify bullying then its open season.
Watch,learn movements then strike.
Because when the fucker goes down not one person will say he didnt deserve it.
I hate if what i am saying some people dont agree the only way people learn that you have had enough is when they feel the break of the baseball bat across the skull.
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x
HAVE IT! :x
They pray on people they think will say or do usually they escalate the insults or pressure upon that person until they break.
Then the bully stands back and enjoys the results.
People who bully in the workplace are the worst type of go to work because you need money, Not to have to put up with abuse,threats or foul abusive language.
I currently have a boss who intimidates,abuses and uses threatening language on the staff under because he gets results and pleases management they do nothing.
You can have a verbal go back at him but in the end he just picks on you and makes your live even harder.
The only way people like this scum truely know you are pissed off is when you arrive on there door step ready to put him out of his misery.
I say eye of an someone uses there job as a way to justify bullying then its open season.
Watch,learn movements then strike.
Because when the fucker goes down not one person will say he didnt deserve it.
I hate if what i am saying some people dont agree the only way people learn that you have had enough is when they feel the break of the baseball bat across the skull.
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x HAVE IT! :x
Quote by tyracer
bullies are scum.
They pray on people they think will say or do usually they escalate the insults or pressure upon that person until they break.
Then the bully stands back and enjoys the results.
People who bully in the workplace are the worst type of go to work because you need money, Not to have to put up with abuse,threats or foul abusive language.
I currently have a boss who intimidates,abuses and uses threatening language on the staff under because he gets results and pleases management they do nothing.
You can have a verbal go back at him but in the end he just picks on you and makes your live even harder.
The only way people like this scum truely know you are pissed off is when you arrive on there door step ready to put him out of his misery.
I say eye of an someone uses there job as a way to justify bullying then its open season.
Watch,learn movements then strike.
Because when the fucker goes down not one person will say he didnt deserve it.
I hate if what i am saying some people dont agree the only way people learn that you have had enough is when they feel the break of the baseball bat across the skull.
HAVE IT! :x
Racer I can understand how some people can make you feel like that, but the last part of your comments made me feel somewhat shocked and speechless to be honest. I can never see violence as being an answer but then this is just my opinion.
Bullying can take on many forms, mental and physical, cyber etc., etc.,
I hate bullies with a passion. I've just started a new job and I'm what you call a 'watcher', I've already noticed one lady who is an absolute disgrace, the way she talks to people, no pleases or thank you's, sits on her arse ordering people around and belittles at the first chance, I'm well aware of her and she'll not be doing that to me, newbie or not.
I'm lucky, I can stand up for myself, it's the ones who can't that worries me. What is even more of a worry is more often than enough, a bullied person becomes a bully themselves, or shows immense pent up aggression/frustration in later life.
I hate bullies with a passion. I've just started a new job and I'm what you call a 'watcher', I've already noticed one lady who is an absolute disgrace, the way she talks to people, no pleases or thank you's, sits on her arse ordering people around and belittles at the first chance, I'm well aware of her and she'll not be doing that to me, newbie or not.
I'm lucky, I can stand up for myself, it's the ones who can't that worries me. What is even more of a worry is more often than enough, a bullied person becomes a bully themselves, or shows immense pent up aggression/frustration in later life.
Casanova
I think there are enough bullies that form little gangs, if you disagree with their posts they and their friends bully you.
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x
:x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x :x Quote by Zeddies
I think there are enough bullies that form little gangs, if you disagree with their posts they and their friends bully you.
Sorry do not agree with that at all.
People disagree with me all the time, but I do not think they " gang " up on me.
Sex God
Quote by Zeddies
I think there are enough bullies that form little gangs, if you disagree with their posts they and their friends bully you.
Ah you mean like you tried to with me a couple of nights ago when the thread was pulled???
Casanova
Quote by helnheaven
I think there are enough bullies that form little gangs, if you disagree with their posts they and their friends bully you.
Ah you mean like you tried to with me a couple of nights ago when the thread was pulled???
I did not bully you.... or get anyone to bully you... I think this proves my point
Sex God
Quote by Zeddies
I think there are enough bullies that form little gangs, if you disagree with their posts they and their friends bully you.
Ah you mean like you tried to with me a couple of nights ago when the thread was pulled???
I did not bully you.... or get anyone to bully you... I think this proves my point
Which is? You have a point?
Casanova
Not gonna bother posting again due to bullies....
cant even make a comment withput being bullied by some hell bent people... hope they have fun...
cant even make a comment withput being bullied by some hell bent people... hope they have fun...
Quote by anais
I have opened this thread again BUT if the personal stuff starts it will be locked for good - with deactivation of accounts if necessary:?
Have fun and play nicely :smile:
Thanks Anais,
Hopefully now it will stay on track to the op.
Which was:
At school I was bullied I know and have felt what bullying was like, to be punched and kicked by 13 girls to me is bullying.
To me sticks and stones will break my bones but words would never hurt me.
I believe as an adult we should have the ability to see an incident about to occur and veer away from that situation.
When on hear I hear the word bullying it makes me wonder what peoples interpretation of the word is.
I see people arguing but, is this really bullying?
I hear ops have to step in to sort problems out, isn't that a bit like running to mummy?
I don't know I always have such strong feelings, that we should be able to sort our own problems out, and never make ourselves victims.
On here it is far easier to ignore someone that isn’t nice, I just think ignore them they will soon leave you alone.
What are others views on this?
I am not ignoring the fact that some people can come across insulting of argumentative.
But is this really bullying?
After all they are words on a page!
Quote by flower411
I have opened this thread again BUT if the personal stuff starts it will be locked for good - with deactivation of accounts if necessary
Have fun and play nicely :smile:
Thanks Anais,
Hopefully now it will stay on track to the op.
Which was:
At school I was bullied I know and have felt what bullying was like, to be punched and kicked by 13 girls to me is bullying.
To me sticks and stones will break my bones but words would never hurt me.
I believe as an adult we should have the ability to see an incident about to occur and veer away from that situation.
When on hear I hear the word bullying it makes me wonder what peoples interpretation of the word is.
I see people arguing but, is this really bullying?
I hear ops have to step in to sort problems out, isn't that a bit like running to mummy?
I don't know I always have such strong feelings, that we should be able to sort our own problems out, and never make ourselves victims.
On here it is far easier to ignore someone that isn’t nice, I just think ignore them they will soon leave you alone.
What are others views on this?
I am not ignoring the fact that some people can come across insulting of argumentative.
But is this really bullying?
After all they are words on a page!
Oh my !!!!
It`s Groundhog Thread !!
Bugga I quoted the wrong film earlier in another thread!! Thats the film I mean
:roll: Why did nobody tell me??? :lol2:
