why is it when someone advertises a meet in the forum the majority of people who seem to reply are the ones who "CAN'T " make it,or not into that particular "event" probably putting other peeps off replying. i don't think you make the person advertising feel any better by saying oh we can't come got something else planned or you wouldn't catch me doing that, do they find the time to reply to ads they have no intention of going to, wouldn't it be time well spent just replying to the events you want to attend?
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sometimes - and I often do this - responding to a thread just to say you cant make it serves as (1) a bump up the page..... (2) a :thumbup: for the person who wants to meet cos I know them and know they're genuine etc so might encourage someone who's interested to reply - a bit like 'vouching for' .... or (3) because its a well written post - not a one liner with no info - and responding to it is a way of wishing them luck and saying 'I cant make this particular meet, but I might be interested in future'.
Now someone asked this the other week just after I'd floated an ad in lmu and to be honest I'd rather have people posting to say sorry wish I could but I can't make it than an ad that sits there with loads of views but no replies. Obviously if its a fem or a couple posting an ad they do get people "trying their chance" by saying hi shame i'm not what your looking for or damb wrong area if your ever down my way ......................................... those are pointless ones in my eyes but then again some might see it the same as I see people replying to me who can't make it. 
Maybe it's a little like real life ?
If I have a call, or text, or :shock: a letter, inviting me somewhere; I will nearly always reply whether I can make it or not.
So if I see someone I know well post for a meet, I might post such a reply, or send a PM.
I see what you mean about the LMU forum to a point.
It can seem as tho strangers are telling strangers they can't come/make it, but could that be seen as "sowing seeds" for future meets.
And let's not forget not everyone knows who knows who.
If I have a call, or text, or :shock: a letter, inviting me somewhere; I will nearly always reply whether I can make it or not.
So if I see someone I know well post for a meet, I might post such a reply, or send a PM.
I see what you mean about the LMU forum to a point.
It can seem as tho strangers are telling strangers they can't come/make it, but could that be seen as "sowing seeds" for future meets.
And let's not forget not everyone knows who knows who.
we personally would like to see people post saying that they cant come.. it gives you the satisfaction that people have taken the time to read the post and the time to reply..ok you may not have got any meets out if these replies but at least you know you are doing something right..
surely its better to have 5 posts saying thanks but no thanks than no replies at all.
its a friendlier way all round..
surely its better to have 5 posts saying thanks but no thanks than no replies at all.
its a friendlier way all round..
I agree - I think that there's nothing worse than lots of views and no replies, or worse still - the poster continually bumping the ad. with things like "any takers?" - after 5 times it does start to look desperate 
As others have already said, I think this kind of thing helps keep the ad. alive. Cockslut - if you personally don't like it, just put something to that effect in the post - I'm sure mostpeople will respect it :P
There is one other thing that does cross my mind.... I do sometimes think that the offending poster hopes that the 'advertiser' will think "Oh go on then.... you have the loveliest cock we've ever seen and will change our date, time, plans, babysitters and sexual habits (the 'bi' thing) just for you" :rascal:
As others have already said, I think this kind of thing helps keep the ad. alive. Cockslut - if you personally don't like it, just put something to that effect in the post - I'm sure mostpeople will respect it :P
There is one other thing that does cross my mind.... I do sometimes think that the offending poster hopes that the 'advertiser' will think "Oh go on then.... you have the loveliest cock we've ever seen and will change our date, time, plans, babysitters and sexual habits (the 'bi' thing) just for you" :rascal:
Sex God
all of the above.
and on a slightly selfish note it also makes the poster aware that we would have made it if we could so please dont forget us on the next invite :rascal:
and on a slightly selfish note it also makes the poster aware that we would have made it if we could so please dont forget us on the next invite :rascal:
There have been a few good points made above, but there's the other part that we all know is there.
Yes it's nice to bumb up a thread or vouch for someone you know is genuine or offer encourage to someone who's written a really good add.
Then there's the flaming.
Yes come on own up. I will.
When I see someone write something ridiculous my hands hover over the keyboard. I try to restrain myself but sometimes it's just too tempting - like waving a red rag to a bull and screaming "flame me, flame me"
Yes it's nice to bumb up a thread or vouch for someone you know is genuine or offer encourage to someone who's written a really good add.
Then there's the flaming.
Yes come on own up. I will.
When I see someone write something ridiculous my hands hover over the keyboard. I try to restrain myself but sometimes it's just too tempting - like waving a red rag to a bull and screaming "flame me, flame me"
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When I see someone write something ridiculous my hands hover over the keyboard. I try to restrain myself but sometimes it's just too tempting - like waving a red rag to a bull and screaming "flame me, flame me"
Who can guess her frame of mind this morning ? :grin:
Go get 'em my sexy little starfish pit bull
I'm not sure I dare post my answers in Pete's Addiction Thread now :scared:
When I see someone write something ridiculous my hands hover over the keyboard. I try to restrain myself but sometimes it's just too tempting - like waving a red rag to a rottweiler and screaming "flame me, flame me"
more than happy to put my hands up to that one too HLB
i hate to say it, ok, that was a fib, i dont hate to say it at all, I like it
... and i like it even more when it goes one of two ways (1) the poster comes back and has a go :twisted:
: : (2) the poster comes back and has a go but kinda sees the error of their ways so to speak and the whole things twists from a flaming/ sarcastic comment thread to a 'welcome to the forums, get your butt over to the Cafe thread'.
Sex God
oh my god
this is the second time this month that u all agree on some thing
never has this happen to sh twice
oh by the way we agree
better to bump than no replies..................
this is the second time this month that u all agree on some thing
never has this happen to sh twice
oh by the way we agree
better to bump than no replies..................
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Now someone asked this the other week just after I'd floated an ad in lmu and to be honest I'd rather have people posting to say sorry wish I could but I can't make it than an ad that sits there with loads of views but no replies. Obviously if its a fem or a couple posting an ad they do get people "trying their chance" by saying hi shame i'm not what your looking for or damb wrong area if your ever down my way ......................................... those are pointless ones in my eyes but then again some might see it the same as I see people replying to me who can't make it.
i quite agree :thumbup:
Sex God
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why is it when someone advertises a meet in the forum the majority of people who seem to reply are the ones who "CAN'T " make it,or not into that particular "event" probably putting other peeps off replying. i don't think you make the person advertising feel any better by saying oh we can't come got something else planned or you wouldn't catch me doing that, do they find the time to reply to ads they have no intention of going to, wouldn't it be time well spent just replying to the events you want to attend?
Have you read all the munch threads?
It could be argued that if you don't intend to go, don't even look. Time better spent reading threads you might reply to/meets you would attend?
Sex God
sorry.................
..... i can't reply to this thread!
..... i can't reply to this thread!
Sex God
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sorry.................
..... i can't reply to this thread!
We need a reason, don't just say you can't reply!
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why is it when someone advertises a meet in the forum the majority of people who seem to reply are the ones who "CAN'T " make it,or not into that particular "event" probably putting other peeps off replying. i don't think you make the person advertising feel any better by saying oh we can't come got something else planned or you wouldn't catch me doing that, do they find the time to reply to ads they have no intention of going to, wouldn't it be time well spent just replying to the events you want to attend?
Have you read all the munch threads?
It could be argued that if you don't intend to go, don't even look.Time better spent reading threads you might reply to/meets you would attend?
but then it could be argued that if any topic title didnt hit the nail firmly on the head, why look?
Sex God
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but then it could be argued that if any topic title didnt hit the nail firmly on the head, why look?
It could indeedy - I often look at the vague ones just to see what they are about!
Thing about munch threads though is that they normally contain enough detail in the title posted, to say where and when. Easier to avoid looking at?
yes, it may well be easier to avoid looking at, if im not able to go, or do not wish to go, but surely its another way of getting more info (ammo?) on people who we converse with, or have met/meet
Surely , if threads, whether they apply to an individual or not, are kept alive, it keeps the forums alive, and therefore gives people reason to read.
there was recently a link entitled Single Doggers tips VOL 1, now, whatever my reasons for being on this site, and community, this subject holds no interest for me, yet i chose to read it, by the same token, if i have no reason to go to a munch in for example, liverpool, id still read it, as id like to see what sort of people would go to that, if those people are people i find interesting, which i have decided via profile, forum or chatroom, then id see if they are likely to go to munches in other locations, which would then give me a reason to read those threads, so i could see if we are ever likely to cross paths
Surely , if threads, whether they apply to an individual or not, are kept alive, it keeps the forums alive, and therefore gives people reason to read.
there was recently a link entitled Single Doggers tips VOL 1, now, whatever my reasons for being on this site, and community, this subject holds no interest for me, yet i chose to read it, by the same token, if i have no reason to go to a munch in for example, liverpool, id still read it, as id like to see what sort of people would go to that, if those people are people i find interesting, which i have decided via profile, forum or chatroom, then id see if they are likely to go to munches in other locations, which would then give me a reason to read those threads, so i could see if we are ever likely to cross paths
Sex God
Absolutely agree with you Essex, and that's probably the exact reason that some people DO read them. However, Cockslut is making comment about people who post that they can't attend said munch. To read the munch threads (with no intent to attend the munch) then complain about the people who say they can't go, is a bit odd.
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Absolutely agree with you Essex, and that's probably the exact reason that some people DO read them. However, Cockslut is making comment about people who post that they can't attend said munch. To read the munch threads (with no intent to attend the munch) then complain about the people who say they can't go, is a bit odd.
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ok it seems me against the rest of the world "lol".on this issue but seriously is no one concerned about what effect it has on the sites performance etc, surely it must slow it down and clog it up with thousands of "threads" that wasnt necessary?
yes your absolutely right there......i couldn't sleep last night worrying about it!
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ok it seems me against the rest of the world "lol".on this issue but seriously is no one concerned about what effect it has on the sites performance etc, surely it must slow it down and clog it up with thousands of "threads" that wasnt necessary?
what you mean like the thousands of threads going over and over the same subject... or the thousands and thousands of threads primarily aimed at drawing attention to the authors profile? Yeah I worry about the effect they have on the site performance
Perhaps we should all undertake a full risk assesment of the impact our posts will have on the performance of the site before we click the submit button in future?
