Common sense

We are not medical Doctors, nor are we qualified in any health related area. However, on a site like this we feel the need to point out that all this naughty recreational sex is fine and dandy, but with it come responsibilities.

Sexual health Info

Ask yourself, is it really worth not using a condom, dental dam or some other barrier method when having sex? Is it really worth risking the rest of your life and the lives of your loved ones over just a few passionate moments? No, of course it isn't.

We have tried to put together a good list of authoritative reference material below, so you can read it for yourselves and make your own informed choices about what you decide you want to do and how you want to do it.

Please, stay safe and have respect for others' safety too. Remember, once the orgasm is passed, the rest of your life is still ahead of you.

Links to Sexual Health Information

NHS choices for details of GUM clinics and more information on sexual health choices.

We do not guarantee the accuracy, completeness or fitness of the above for any particular purpose.

Know the risks

GUM clinics are available throughout uk and provide Free and confidential testing for sexually transmitted infections. As a swinger you will be able to access an ‘enhanced’ service, which will include screening, management (treatment) and vaccination to prevent Hepatitis B if needed.

Sexually transmitted infections are passed on from person to person during any type of sex, anal, vaginal and oral. We recommend screening for sexually transmitted infections regularly- every 3 months or so, especially if you have multiple partners. People often say that they are ‘clean’ because they have regular testing for STI’s but different infections have differing amounts of incubation time (window period) –this means that the test could be negative because it’s just too early for the test to pick up the infection. Using condoms will help to reduce the risk of sti’s.

If you have symptoms please contact your local clinic as soon as possible.


Some infections may not show any symptoms.

  • Chlamydia - often symptomless, but you may have a bit of discharge or pain when you pass urine.
  • Genital Warts - symptoms include warts that appear on the genitals, weeks, or even months after contact.
  • Genital Herpes - symptoms include soreness, leading to painful blisters on the genitals and surrounding areas.
  • Gonorrhoea - symptoms include discharge from the genitals or bottom, or a burning sensation when going for a wee.
  • Syphilis - symptoms include sores in the mouth or genitals, followed by a sore throat, rash or swollen lymph glands.
  • HIV - symptoms may include a high temperature, sore throat and a rash followed by a period of no symptoms.

There are ways that you can reduce your risk of infection without reducing fun. See the guide to safer sex below.

What is safer sex?

Safer sex means having sex with less risk of transmission (catching or passing on) a sexually transmitted infection (STI). STIs include HIV, syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhoea, trichomonas, Herpes simplex (Herpes simplex virus/HSV), hepatitis B, and warts (human papilloma virus/HPV).

The risk of catching each infection is different, and also varies according to the type of sex you are having (such as oral, vaginal or anal sex).

For example:

  • Herpes is often passed on through oral sex, but HIV is rarely passed on this way.
  • Anal sex carries the highest risk of passing on infections such as HIV and hepatitis, followed by vaginal and then oral sex.
  • Non-penetrative sex (such as body rubbing and mutual masturbation) carries the lowest risk, but some infections (such as warts and herpes) can be passed on in this way.

How do I make sex safer?

You can reduce the risk of all infections by:

  • Using condoms for all types of penetrative sex (vaginal, anal and oral).
  • Being tested for STIs before having sex with someone new, and advising that they also get tested.
  • Reducing the number of partners you have sex with.

Getting vaccinated against certain infections.

  • For example, Hepatitis B. If you are at risk - ask a doctor, nurse or health advisor about this.
  • Planning on how you will protect yourself and your sexual partners from infections when under the influence of alcohol or other recreational drugs.

What infections can be passed on through oral sex?

Most commonly passed on infections are:

  • Herpes simplex
  • Gonorrhoea
  • Syphilis

Infections less frequently passed on orally include:

  • Chlamydia
  • HIV
  • Hepatitis A, Hepatitis B and Hepatitis
  • Genital warts
  • Pubic lice

Emergency Contraception

Emergency Contraception can be used if a person has had sex without a condom or the contraception has failed. They are used to try to prevent pregnancy. There are 2 types:

  • The emergency pill - which must be taken within 5 days of having sex.
  • IUD – must be fitted within 5 days of having sex.

Speak to your GP, pharmacist or a doctor or nurse from your local Sexual Health Clinic for advice on where you can access these.

Post Exposure Prophalaxis (PEP)

Post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) is a treatment that can prevent HIV infection after the virus has entered a person's body.

It is an emergency measure to be used as a last resort. For example, if a condom breaks or you have a ‘slip up’ from your usual safer sex routine.

PEP is a combination of powerful drugs and can be hard to get hold of, so it is no substitute for condoms, but it’s important to know about in case one day you or someone you’ve had sex with needs it.

  • PEP is not guaranteed to always work but has a high success rate.
  • It is free of charge but can only be prescribed by doctors and if certain criteria are met.
  • Sexual health and HIV clinics can provide it, as can Accident & Emergency departments of hospitals.
  • Regular family doctors (GPs) don’t give PEP.

Pre Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP)

  • PrEP is a course of HIV drugs taken by HIV negative people before sex to reduce the chance of getting HIV.

How does PrEP work?

Taking HIV medication before being exposed to HIV means there is enough drug inside you to block HIV if it gets into your body - before it has the chance to infect you.

Who could take PrEP?

eople who are at high risk of getting HIV and those in a relationship with an HIV positive partner who is not on successful treatment.

Where do I get PrEP?

Contact your local sexual health clinic for more information.