Swingers aren’t the elusive bunch you think and are, in fact, everywhere. You’ve likely got colleagues who swing and relatives who swing and even swingers at your local grocery store! The thing is that even though swinging has become far more “acceptable” and mainstream than ever before, it’s still not something that most people will admit or shout from the rafters. Thankfully though, finding swingers isn’t just limited to hard-to-find magazines in seedy sex shops anymore and there is no longer the need to meet in dark alleys and such. We’ve got the internet to thank for that and looking for swingers online is what we will begin with.
The Big Ol’ World Wide Web
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The internet offers endless resources to anyone looking for swingers. There are message boards, local groups that have their own sites, and specialty sites, such as BDSM sites that also seem to attract many swingers. Each of these will have a different set up though. For instance, you will find that some of the sites seem to wish to match people for swinging strictly by age, which is fine if you’re hankering to swing with couples in the same age group as yourself. Some of the bigger and better known adult sites, may offer a section for swingers and then allows you to search all of the members in the swingers’ category or to narrow it down based on criteria like age, location and even body type.
Speaking of where you live; don’t be discouraged by the fact that swinger groups may be difficult to find in small towns. You’ll be very pleasantly surprised to find out that 10% of a 2,000 person population swings regularly in some extremely small towns! That may not sound like much, but remember that ordinarily all you have to do is meet one swinging couple successfully to be allowed into the group.
Sometimes it’s About Who You Know…Or Are Willing to Ask
Let’s assume though that you don’t wish to avail yourself of the Internet for one reason or another, what then? You may find swingers in local newspapers, especially in larger towns, or you may need to visit an adult store and pick up one of the many magazines that cater to swingers. Again, this is a lot less seedy than it used to be and you don’t have to worry about getting those kinds of looks when perusing the swinger’s magazine rack! In larger cities, it’s relatively easy to get a lead on the local swinger’s clubs through the various alternative magazines and newspapers that are published especially for those in the lifestyle or looking to get into it.
If only people could wear signs around their necks announcing, “We’d like to swing with a nice single man” but realistically, unless you attend some very kinky parties, that’s just not going to happen. Use the Internet, don’t be afraid to pore over the swinging magazines, and above all make sure that you always behave yourself in such a manner that you will get referrals, once you do make contact. (We’ll cover that in detail in the next chapter).
Another way to find swingers is through referrals. Referrals aren’t only a tremendous way to find dentists and nannies, you know! Getting these can be easy if you’ve been paying attention to what I’ve taught you so far. All it takes is one good experience with a woman in the scene and you just may find that your phone starts to ring often with invites to parties or smaller and more intimate affairs. Best yet is the amount of fun you’ll have if you’re a desired swinger because you follow the rules, are clean and don’t try any subterfuge. Some of the best advice you can receive is that in order to find swingers don’t ever feel that you need to puff anything about yourself, as can be tempting, especially when chatting online or to strangers. Tempting as it may be to say that you’re a doctor or astronaut or to take on the persona of the likes of George Clooney or the ever-cool Sean Connery; be yourself instead for the best results. Even in the world of swinging, it is an honorable lifestyle that should create respect for any that you swing with. Don’t debase yourself or the lifestyle by way exaggerations or lies. They’re not necessary, risk making you look like a complete ass and will only create problems in the future.
Never discount the power of networking, even when trying to find swingers. You just never know you you’re gonna meet while engaging in some networking in unlikely places. Sometimes it is worth finding out where the gay bars are located, and paying them a visit.
This does not necessarily mean that you’re looking to swing with gay intentions, but rather because the barkeep, or the waitress working in such an establishment will not be judgmental and are probably in the know of swingers clubs nearby anyway. Not sold? Take this for instance; picture if you will, going for a drink in a Playboy Club. Don’t you think that the bartender would know where to find swingers? Do you think that the manager of Hooters may know the answer to that same question? Seriously, that beer at the bar could lead to some very valuable information or connections!
The Internet is full of surprises too when it comes to networking. Did you know that you can set your Facebook profile to indicate that you’re a swinger? You definitely won’t have to find swingers then, because a plethora of swingers and swinger’s groups will contact you instead. Facebook also has groups and pages dedicated to swinging. Bet you never thought that Facebook could help you get the sex you crave, did you?
Another great way to find swingers is by contacting organizations and groups dedicated to swinging. There are a number of ordered organizations that deal with swinging. Should you be visiting the USA the best known of these is of course the original North American Swing Club Association, also referred to as NASCA—not to be confused with NASCAR! This has now become NASCA International, as it is an acknowledged organization worldwide. The organization was originally created in order to disseminate pertinent information with regard to swinging across North America. They’re a great source of information about swinger’s clubs and other associations pertaining to swinging. Keep in mind too that there are many swingers’ conventions also held worldwide, most of which don’t have a rule in place barring single men from attending.
My final suggestion isn’t one that’s always possible because it is a tad extravagant, but a vacation to one of the Hedonism clubs or similar is also sure fire way to find swingers. Some go there to let loose and enjoy all of the debauchery that these amazing clubs have to offer, while others go and end up making connections that last with other couples and yes, even singles who they hope to see again sometime.
Figuring out where to find swingers isn’t hard as long as you know what to do once you have found them.
Take advantage of the many options that you’ve been given here and leave no stone unturned because, the more opportunities you open yourself up to, the better chance you have at meeting a swinging couple that invites you in and opens you up to the wonderful world of swinging from the inside.
