Hmmmmm. Confidence.
With my job I am very confident. Hell so confident that I signed a bunch of HMRC paperwork "Abi "... can't imagine why they didn't accept it!!
As for personal confidence. I am finally, after many years of doing what I thought others wanted, confident in myself. I think it really comes from liking who I am. I know that may sound cocky but I do feel that when you like who you are you stand a little taller, smile a little brighter and laugh a little longer. Does that make sense?
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Abilene
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 53
0 miles · Berkshire
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I find being single in this scene can actually be a little lonely at times. No, I am being all sad and pathetic. What I mean by that is ....
When I go to a meet with a couple they at least have each other to help calm their nerves. I only have myself. They only have one person to try and open up to and 'impress', I have two. Then if things do work and we click, they have someone to share the memory with and maybe get some enjoyment out of those memories with. I go home alone and that's it.
Would I date someone who wasn't into this lifestyle? Probably not. It has taken me 34 years to be able to truely open up to myself about what I enjoy and what I want. I feel I would be cheating myself ( and that potential vanilla partner ) by pretending any different. The obvious goal would be to find a guy that I totally clicked with who was already in this lifestyle and who would then continue to enjoy it as a couple with me. My only concern would be that if I met him in this lifestyle would we both be able to give up the advantages that a single person has to then go it together as a couple. I don't know. Just rambling by this poiunt I think. Time to shut up Abi. ;)
When I go to a meet with a couple they at least have each other to help calm their nerves. I only have myself. They only have one person to try and open up to and 'impress', I have two. Then if things do work and we click, they have someone to share the memory with and maybe get some enjoyment out of those memories with. I go home alone and that's it.
Would I date someone who wasn't into this lifestyle? Probably not. It has taken me 34 years to be able to truely open up to myself about what I enjoy and what I want. I feel I would be cheating myself ( and that potential vanilla partner ) by pretending any different. The obvious goal would be to find a guy that I totally clicked with who was already in this lifestyle and who would then continue to enjoy it as a couple with me. My only concern would be that if I met him in this lifestyle would we both be able to give up the advantages that a single person has to then go it together as a couple. I don't know. Just rambling by this poiunt I think. Time to shut up Abi. ;)
OK. My third attempt at adding my thanks. ( stooopid maintenance ;) )
However this attempt will not be as long as the others. lol
To NWC and Jo ... you are stars. What a great event !!!!
Dammie and HLB ... thanks for the drinkies before hand. Thanks for the shirt swapping Dammie ( although I don't think anyone really wanted to see me without my shirt!! ) and thanks to HLB for letting me try her shoes on ( sorry to the poor vanilla norweigan guy who I all but fell all over in my drunken state )
Kaz .. I want that dress !!!
Sorry to the cetain people who I demanded kisses from ... ( not really sorry :twisted: )
It was great seeing everyone again. It really was.
Swingdom also sends his thanks. He is on a plane back out of the country in the morning but wants everyone he met to know he had a great time.
Ughhh this was so much better written the first time .... I am just so damn tired so let me just say this .....
THANK YOU EVERYONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
However this attempt will not be as long as the others. lol
To NWC and Jo ... you are stars. What a great event !!!!
Dammie and HLB ... thanks for the drinkies before hand. Thanks for the shirt swapping Dammie ( although I don't think anyone really wanted to see me without my shirt!! ) and thanks to HLB for letting me try her shoes on ( sorry to the poor vanilla norweigan guy who I all but fell all over in my drunken state )
Kaz .. I want that dress !!!
Sorry to the cetain people who I demanded kisses from ... ( not really sorry :twisted: )
It was great seeing everyone again. It really was.
Swingdom also sends his thanks. He is on a plane back out of the country in the morning but wants everyone he met to know he had a great time.
Ughhh this was so much better written the first time .... I am just so damn tired so let me just say this .....
THANK YOU EVERYONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Quote by winchwench
i have never had a problem with a single guy discretion wise at all
i have however had a married man posing as a single man who i met earlier this year only to start receiving abusive texts from his wife 6 months later, and yes he is still here.
Earthy xx
lol ..I think I know him. Because surely there cant be more than one man being sucj an ass can there????
Right- this was not calling YOU an ass.
Maybe now the facts have been pointed out in black and white you might stop behaving like one.
OMG !! Just saw this .... ta Wench .. i sure didn't call anyone in this thread an ass ... lol ... dammit, causing truble and didn't even know it.
* sits down and sips her wine *
Quote by sheddy
I the undersigned do hereby state that this will be the first munch or social I have been to where I will remain sober, well behaved and not make a complete tit out of myself. :smug:
Sheddy
Yeah like thats ever going to happen
Woo Hoo not long to go now :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Soooooo ... does this mean you won't be trying to kiss me in reception and miss and get my ear instead then?
Quote by Lonni
Best I heard was someone off here arranged a meet with his sister and her husband!
Apparently he didn't recognise her from her photos!
Lonni x
Holy Shit !!! Close family ???
I don't think I have been recognised but there is a manager at one of our other offices who called me one day not long after I had been to my first munch and was asking ALL about my weekend. Really, really invasive questions. It was a little strange.
* mental note *
Peer CLOSELY at each and every person at munches henceforth!!
:evil: :evil: Quote by earthchild
i have never had a problem with a single guy discretion wise at all
i have however had a married man posing as a single man who i met earlier this year only to start receiving abusive texts from his wife 6 months later, and yes he is still here.
Earthy xx
lol ..I think I know him. Because surely there cant be more than one man being sucj an ass can there????
So you wont be sitting on my lap to take some dicktation then? Quote by celestria
Do y'all think someone is trying to tell me something?
On Sat you said "Please stick with me, I know no body in the darn place!"
From what I saw within 5mins of entering said 'the darn place!' I can only think something got lost in translation! :giggle:Says the man with the inebriated sat nav :giggle:
Perfect .. couldn't have siad that better in any fucking language !!!
