How come all the beautiful bbw ladies seem to be over the pennines from me? No fair!
postie. Thats about what I was trying to say.
Dont let the world make you cold.
Or as its put bluntly... Don't let the bastards grind you down.
I would rather be hurt than close myself off and build emotional brick walls around myself and keep everyone out.
There are good people out there, but bad ones too.
I think there is a real posibility of this conversation going into the gutter. LOL
Oi, missy, arent you meant to be getting your glad rags on anyway...? :P
Phew I think I managed to dodge out of that then.
SunBunny - being trusting is not a crime... Taking advantage of someones trusting nature for your own ends is the crime.
You are not responsible for the actions of other people and don't go changing.
Temptation is where everything always falls down for me... I can resist anything else, but not that.
For me what I find attractive is kindness and selflessness, smiling eyes and warmth of personality. I have a beautiful wife so I need to feel very secure and safe with a potential intimate partner, as I have to know they will not try to damage what I have.
That's why I only generally sleep with close friends who I trust, and who know the score.
Welcome. Get comfy and enjoy your stay.
Great to have you. ;)
That was a setup though wasnt it? Look at the other autions and buyer details and stuff and its an elaborate hoax - for radio ratings and publicity no doubt.
I'm not a violent man at all, I'm a pussycat.
I didnt realise "fill you in" could be taken as a negative comment.
I assure you that I meant I would like to fill you in the nicest possible way. ;)
If its a woman with a hygene problem, you could take a leaf out of the late great Douglas Adams' book and say "so long and thanks for all the fish" ewwww. Sorry. I cant believe I just said that.
Seriously, just say its over. Its honest and to the point. Dont wrap it in cotton wool but dont wrap it in a wrecking ball either.
If someone has done something to lose your trust or to not deserve your intimate pleasures anymore, then the loss of that will be punishment enough and more.
I have just lost a friend yesterday from suicide, so I do feel your pain and I send you all lots of virtual hugs and healing thoughts in this terrible time of loss.
Please look after yourselves and each other.
Not read all the thread, so forgive me if I say something that's already been said...
The best way of getting revenge on the person or people that have hurt you is to be happy.
Tell them intimacy is not a pie. You can be close with someone and it doesnt mean you have less for someone else. Thats the whole idea isnt it?
Well upto a point anyway - until you get lockjaw or blisters. :twisted:
I've missed out on more chances of a good time from being honest and open, but dont regret a single one of them.
Have respect for her. Tell her you find her attractive and want to be close with her but you are not looking for love and a relationship. Then the ball is in her court and she can make an informed decision.
I'm a married man, and I know a lot of men get their end away pretending to be single or coming out with the "my wife doesnt understand me" crap.
My wife understands me all too well. LOL
Only last night someone I had been talking to for a long time decided they couldnt go down that road with me because although they wanted to be close to me they admitted they wanted more and I cannot give that to them. My friendship is there for anyone and my body is available to be borrowed, my time is there for anyone - but I cant give my heart, it already belongs to someone, and I'm not going to disrespect my wife, or a potential lover by pretending otherwise.
Be honest. She deserves it.
In my personal experience these mags tend to get an rough outline of a story from you, then totally disregard everything you have said and make up something completely different.
I have been in a story in CHAT mag and it was about as far from actual events as possible, and was not flattering to me at all. Grr!