Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Or better still, could we have an option to personalise this message?
We can
if we pay for the Extras package :shock:
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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
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Quote by blonde
can i suggest people post there ideas for replies to replace Hi & Hi There, maybe Sorry, I don't reply to winks & Please Pm me if you want to find out more would be suitable replacements.
ta very much
Whilst I love the attention I prefer a real mail to a wink, please take a few minutes to make sure that you have read my profile and then why not drop me a personalised message if you think we are looking for the same things..
I think that response is fine !!!
That'll do for me hun, sounds good! :thumbup:
As a fem looking primarily for couples, I wont reply to ads or pm contact if there's no pic of the guy. There are several fems who interest me shall we say , but I hate this idea that she's being used as 'bait' and therefore on principal wont contact/ reply.
That said, I dont want cock shots clothed body pics with face obscured are fine, I just want a basic idea of who's who and what's on offer Actual face pics are always good but very rarely found on the ad itself - if the ad and maybe the pics interest me then I will contact & ask for them (I dont have pics up either, but am happy to send them out privately, I expect the same courtesy in return or preferably before.
As things stand though, I usually meet people in person socially at a munch etc first anyway and thencheck out their ad :twisted:
That said, I dont want cock shots
clothed body pics with face obscured are fine, I just want a basic idea of who's who and what's on offer Actual face pics are always good but very rarely found on the ad itself - if the ad and maybe the pics interest me then I will contact & ask for them (I dont have pics up either, but am happy to send them out privately, I expect the same courtesy in return or preferably before. As things stand though, I usually meet people in person socially at a munch etc first anyway and thencheck out their ad :twisted:
Quote by Beamer121
We've got a good relationship, so I guess I could live with and know all the guys in this cafe are thinking you're mad :shock:
:inlove: awwwwwwww
you've made me go all pink and fluffy now
you could always play with another couple - that way you can both enjoy oral and she doesnt have to put owt in her mouth!
Quote by Beamer121
Personal hygiene is not a problem I spend more time in the bathroom than her lol!
I am very conscious about my grooming. Clean shaven all the time!
I guess it's something that she has tried for my sake but doesn't want to do it again. Shes says she doesn't like it -END OF! lol
I'm just looking at the big picture here hun, it was a possible reason, that's all.
Hmmmm tried it for your sake? that might be a significant part of the issue then.
ok, i'll throw another one in - is it something to do with size? big cocks are pretty intimidating when you've got one in your mouth (
) especially if you have any kind of 'issues' with gagging/ choking/ not getting the breathing right and start suffocating ( ), plus it gives ya chronic jaw ache :cry: Flip side of course is a small cock... well I cant think of reasons but personally speaking I just cant suck small cock
its a bit like that nails down blackboard feeling But, if you're saying she's put her foot down, she hates it, there's no way she's giving you oral etc then yep, like you say, end of.
but - is the rest of your relationship not worth the sacrifice ?? or is getting a BJ the be all and end all and you dump her and look for someone else?
Beamer, maybe there's a reason she thinks its disgusting??????????
:arrow: maybe previous experience put her off? someone pushed her head down too far and made her gag etc? maybe she;s been bought up with the idea that oral sex is unnatural or something? - you wont know unless you talk about it
:arrow: doesnt like the idea of cum in her mouth? - condoms? or trust in you to 'pull out' before you cum and finish off by hand?
:arrow: hate to say it, but perhaps your personal hygiene needs attention? or she hates pubes near her mouth?
there's a load of reasons why she might think its 'disgusting' - but unless you talk to her (and I do not mean any of this ' owww go on babe, just try it, you'll love it if you just have a go' business ) you cant do anything to reassure, encourage or 'help' her.
That said, it may well be that she just doesnt like it, for whatever reason. I have vanilla friends who just wont suck cock, ever, and i've never understood why - but this is your Mrs we're talking about, and maybe part of the problem is that you're talking to us about it, not her?
:arrow: maybe previous experience put her off? someone pushed her head down too far and made her gag etc? maybe she;s been bought up with the idea that oral sex is unnatural or something? - you wont know unless you talk about it
:arrow: doesnt like the idea of cum in her mouth? - condoms? or trust in you to 'pull out' before you cum and finish off by hand?
:arrow: hate to say it, but perhaps your personal hygiene needs attention? or she hates pubes near her mouth?
there's a load of reasons why she might think its 'disgusting' - but unless you talk to her (and I do not mean any of this ' owww go on babe, just try it, you'll love it if you just have a go' business ) you cant do anything to reassure, encourage or 'help' her.
That said, it may well be that she just doesnt like it, for whatever reason. I have vanilla friends who just wont suck cock, ever, and i've never understood why - but this is your Mrs we're talking about, and maybe part of the problem is that you're talking to us about it, not her?
Well, the threads been locked so I cant quote it, but I am liking this 'opt out of recieving winks' thing that is allegedly forthcoming
i feel a solution to one problem coming on.......
and imagine how pissed people are gonna be when they send one of these crappity winks and it just pings back to them saying u'd like a more personal approach please
right now, I'm liking this idea. Just the stealth mode to work on then
i feel a solution to one problem coming on.......and imagine how pissed people are gonna be when they send one of these crappity winks and it just pings back to them saying u'd like a more personal approach please
right now, I'm liking this idea. Just the stealth mode to work on then
Quote by Dawn_Mids
I think for a lot its about being relaxed enough to feel that they can and that can invovle trust...
Nothing to do with being relaxed enough to feel able to gush, it is all to do with the right stimulation in my books
I dunno about that Dawn - I think it maybe is something to do with feeling relaxed enough - or certainly comfortable enough to 'let go' or at least have no inhibitions or 'issues' with gushing/ squirting
I can manage it bear on every time if I'm on my own - with others its a whole different ball game - kinda like I'm not a performing seal (TM Dambuster) and I cant do it to command or even if someone really wants me to - if it happens fantastic, if it doesnt, tough!
Correct me if I'm wrong here - and feel free to give me some evidence ........ as I've read it & understood it, there isnt a major issue with the Extra's package. The issue is the stealth mode cam viewing (which goes against the very ethos of consent & respect which underpins swinging - and therefore against this site because it is (was) a Swingers site. ) The other issue is the winks facility - which as you rightly say, can be edited by paying members into a message of their choice. Problem is its not being used by 'premium members', its being used by the quick shag brigade and filling our pm boxes full of crap. I'm sure that given a couple of weeks, this will calm down.
My problem and issue is this sudden rising of the attitude that because you've paid for it, it makes you 'special'. It makes you more 'important' than the rest of us.
I agree you have paid for a 'service' and expect to get what you've paid for - however, dont for one minute think that it automatically puts you higher up than anyone else - and that to me is certainly the way you are coming across right now. I dont care who gets Admin's attention first and all that, you've paid for it, you go for it....... but to expect that £25 quid entitles you to this holier than thou attitude is a big mistake.
you said:
and I say : Bollocks
My problem and issue is this sudden rising of the attitude that because you've paid for it, it makes you 'special'. It makes you more 'important' than the rest of us.
I agree you have paid for a 'service' and expect to get what you've paid for - however, dont for one minute think that it automatically puts you higher up than anyone else - and that to me is certainly the way you are coming across right now. I dont care who gets Admin's attention first and all that, you've paid for it, you go for it....... but to expect that £25 quid entitles you to this holier than thou attitude is a big mistake.
you said:
Dont assume that as a free member you have equal voice/say and options as paid members
and I say : Bollocks
Quote by Tv_Susie_Kent
See, this is what i dont want having just paid, free members/ops/mods bullying the admin into taking away or restricting options i have paid for.
IMO as free members they havent got a say in what option PAID members should and shouldnt have.
Veiled threats to leave etc i hope will fall on deaf ears.
We lowly free members are what make this site what it is Susie. We always have, and always will be the backbone and foundations of this site, and IMO just because you've been daft enough to pay to make your profile all pink and girly and view people's cams in stealth mode - and expect us to like it - does not entitle you to more of a say than anyone else. Being a 'premium member' aint gonna get you any further in terms of meets and swinging, and at the rate your going, it aint buying you any friends either.
As an aside, you're outdoing Tramper with the trolling skills. Congrats.
