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12 Apr 2007

Quote by Kiss
Speaking from my own experience some women like to feel something inside them and others do like that it can feel similar to a cock.

ah! Maybe its me (i'm still trying to word my thoughts into a coherant post..but it wont come, and if it does you'll all think I'm a complete headcase anyway :giggle smile

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but, this bit really interests me wink

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its that you didnt say 'like cock but not the bloke'...you said 'feel something inside them, and others like the feeling similar to cock' - but not cock.
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i soo need to get myself some gay friends and a thorough education :wink:

12 Apr 2007

what a blinder of a question :thumbup:
this 'll be interesting biggrin

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11 Apr 2007

what's a bit of blood and intestines between friends?
(bad taste I know, but its ok, I washed wink

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11 Apr 2007

i curtailed the steam room post as initially it was a bit of a 'well, this happened tonight' story and less of a rant. In view of the oppinions that have and will be voiced, perhaps I should have left the details in, because it matters not what other people's oppinions are on this one, I'm furious & my daughter's inconsolable.
The footpath in question is in the middle of the Peak District countryside, imo, fox territory. I take my daughter there to teach her about wildlife, Mother Earth, respect for the land and nature, which trees are which etc... and not to be stopped in the middle of our evening walk with the dog by the sight of a dead fox and spent shotgun cartriges, its back end missing and a hysterical child because someone decided to use it as target practice in its own habitat. It would have been obvious to the shooter that this beautiful creature would have been stumbled upon by a passer-by, and I'm livid that it happened to be my 7 year old daughter. I'm furious that I then had to pick it up, move it, bury it in undergrowth and then try to explain to her that some people do not respect nature and wildlife the way we do, and why someone would needlessly kill a wild animal on its own turf. the problem is, I couldnt explain it, other than to say that sometimes humans are more animalistic in their quest for blood than the wildlife itself.

11 Apr 2007

Quote by earthchild
i hate computer games with a passion i flatly refuse to play them

i bet you're lovin this site tonight then! rolleyes

rolleyes

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11 Apr 2007

I dont play any ....but I'm going to learn how to play online poker and win ££££!! biggrin

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yeah right! rolleyes

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11 Apr 2007

rotflmao

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ohhhh i seeeeeee!! :giggle:

11 Apr 2007

Pololady, fancy a shag ? dunno

dunno

rotflmao

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ok, so it was a good post but you'd hate it if I came in and said ':thumbup: worship

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great post Polo!' lol

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11 Apr 2007

Quote by Freckledbird

... wouldnt (as a result of the wishes of the child) treating her as a boy at such a developmental age, in both school and home 'pre-dispose' (cant think of a better word) her to always being David?
David's wishes were, I think, humoured as a passing fad, which then became more. I don't think there are any clear-cut rights and wrongs to conditioning children (I'm thinking of the guns and dolls arguments here).
fook me that's just done my head in! :crazy: (and forgive my ignorance please if there's a very obvious answer to this! )

My responses in red DF.

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I'm not questioning your actions FB, its your example that's made me think about this - and yes, definately the guns & dolls debate wink

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Its hurting my head - which is good!
(uhoh!) - having been humoured as a passing fad, which then turned into more... is Davids gender identity innate or conditioned ?
and how might that affect sexuality at a later date, if at all?
shut up Dark! lol

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- sorry folks as you were redface

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11 Apr 2007

Quote by Freckledbird

There are important stages in a child’s development when they build their perception of gender identity and become gender aware.

And it can be at a very early age too. I worked in a nursery for a while (three and four-year old children). One of the four-year old girls dressed as a boy, acted like a boy and insisted on being called 'David'. She didn't/wouldn't answer to anything else. Used the boy's toilet, even.
Her parents were an average married couple with another little girl (older), who hadn't treated their children any differently from each other. They couldn't understand it but didn't see it as a fault of anyone's, nor did they try to 'correct' their daughter. It just became 'normal' to them and their daughter was perfectly happy.
Oooo now this has completely thrown me lol

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- call me a numpty, but, on that limited information, wouldnt (as a result of the wishes of the child) treating her as a boy at such a developmental age, in both school and home 'pre-dispose' (cant think of a better word) her to always being David?
would it be right to condition her as a girl anyway and make the decisions later? or condition 'David' as a boy from nursery age on the basis of his wishes at the time?
fook me that's just done my head in! :crazy: (and forgive my ignorance please if there's a very obvious answer to this! )
in edit - and its off-topic too! sorry redface

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11 Apr 2007

Quote by Bigpaul45
... but you can at least warm to them like a person on the radio.

Nice Point BigPaul biggrin

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Ooo now, thinking about it, there are a couple of people who I have warmed to (i like that, it soo makes sense more than my innane ramblings :lol smile

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, who's posts interest me, alot ...but havent pm'd them or spoken to really...and I dunno why :shock: maybe its time I did :idea:

11 Apr 2007

Quote by makingcocoa
Oooh, I so know what you mean, Dark! Every now and then I notice a post and think 'Hmmm, I'm going to like this one' :rascal: x

OMG, how did I miss this! :shock: da Cocoa Darling ( lol

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) is back! passionkiss

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God its good to see you! (where have you been, naughty girl smackbottom

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10 Apr 2007

but within that DL, do you find there'll sometimes be a post which perks your interest in the person themselves...makes you suddenly want to find out more about them....which may in turn lead to more?
and how do folk go about that?
do you simply send a pm (about anything) to establish contact...do you actively try to join in threads where they're posting and establish contact that way? quote them, banter with them etc...or do you sit on it a while and wait til you meet at a social etc and use it as your 'excuse' to say hello?
it fascinates me how we go from simply posting bollox in a thread to friendships or sexual play....or not, as the case may be lol

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10 Apr 2007

Oh! I like you & your dry sense of humour already lol

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you can have an extra couple 'o questions now :lol2:

10 Apr 2007

Bollox, bollox and double bollox banghead

banghead

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that'll serve me right for not asking sooner! have a good one y'all cool

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10 Apr 2007

ooo noo, not nasty at all wink

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how familiar are you with forums and websites Salfords? dunno

dunno

NEcouple just gave you the link to the Forum Posting Guidelines page so you didnt have to go looking for it :thumbup: just click on it and read through to get you started.
then, you might find this helpful too - its the link to the newbies help page where you can ask for someone to come 'mentor' you and give you lots of specific help about the site >>>>> http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/81218.html
plenty of bedtime reading there so just kick back, go get a brew and have a good nosey around :thumbup: As already said, most of the really important stuff is 'stickied' (at the top of the list on the first page you see when you come into the forum area with green blobs at the side of them) :thumbup:

10 Apr 2007

for anyone who's not sure what the fook we're on about :giggle:
>>>> http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/84049.html
:thumbup:

10 Apr 2007

it is done :mrgreen: . Darkmatt is officially nominated and has recieved his first pm of the week

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rally the troops HLB, we got ourselves a victim! :happy: :rotflmao:
Welcome to the Asylum Mr Matt wink

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10 Apr 2007

OMG!! does this mean.....surely not....you're shittin me!! .....pm victim of the week is back!!!!!!!! :bounce: :bounce:

10 Apr 2007

I forgot! Munch-day texts are brilliant!! :lol2:
i dont care much for those chain-message texts though - 'send this to 10 friends including me and you'll have good luck' :shock: like, how much fookin credit do u think I've got?? lol

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10 Apr 2007

is that emotional immaturity, or ostrich-syndrome though Flower? dunno

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i'm afraid I'm a bit of an oaf when it comes to thinks like that...first thing I'll say is 'are you ok?' (no of course he's not ok you daft bint :doh smile

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but what else can you do? ..other than ostrich-syndrome it, suddenly find something incredibly interesting in the crack in the pavement or on the back of the bus that's 200 yards down the road etc lol

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to avoid eye contact or acknowledgment :dunno:

10 Apr 2007

hi xman
I'm not sure, but it might be something to do with the 5 min throw out thing, its done it to me before and being the techie numpty I am, I just logged out of SH completely, and back in again. Maybe you're stuck in no-mans land or something? lol

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sorry, cant help more than that, just log out then log back in after making a brew :thumbup:

10 Apr 2007

I work with young people who, in addition to their actual age, are very immature - in both actions and personality. I also work with those who are mature wayyyy beyond their years through life experience & circumstance.
I much prefer the latter because they can, and do, converse on a mature level, even though they need support and guidance in other areas. What I cant stand, and see loads of, is stroppiness, attention-seeking and 'me me me' behaviour that comes part and parcel of immaturity.
with regard to this though:

I've today taken the time to enquire as to someone's wellbeing. If they had of been a little older perhaps I would have received a more mature response, but as such I've been placed with a brick wall

... imo, the mature person will give a short but clear 'I'm ok, just a bit down, it'll pass, thanks for asking' and the immature will give a 'what do u care?', 'i'm not answering you so it makes you worry more' or worse, 'i dont need your help, leave me alone' - which roughly translates as 'gimme attention & if you dont I shall scweam and scweam and scweam *stamps foot folds arms*.
a wise man once said that we put up walls to see who cares enough to break them down. Another wise man said we put up walls to enjoy the attention of someone trying to make a hole in it with a teaspoon. wink

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10 Apr 2007

Quote by earthchild
thank fook we sussed dark archer before i went down that road :shock:
Earthy xx

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:rotflmao: proper laughing head off here :lol:

Quote by Kiss
A person that makes me laugh, I often think I have a warped sense of humour and not many people make me really laugh.
Other more 'minor' things would be a love of nature, the arts and healthy debate!

see what I mean about it being a very individual thing? especially the 'minors' :thumbup: - very often for me, someone will 'slip' something in a post, just in general chit chat/ whatever and it makes my ears ping up :lol: it doesnt have to be something I'm also interested in too such as hobbies/ interests, it'll just 'get me' dunno

dunno

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10 Apr 2007

Quote by Bigpaul45
Then again some of you have obviously taken a dislike to me....I can frecklebird pointed out I was here last year and had a clique of people trying to rip me up...and I nearly stopped posting but for a bunch of very nice they read this then their welcome to publicly support me on this forum. Whatever i say there's always someone gonna put you down...I couldn't give a monkey's.

not quite sure where this has come from BigPaul, but, dont dig in this thread, please.

10 Apr 2007

the one I spotted managed it in 2! :shock: lol

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(but that's just 'perking' me, not pm'ing and meeting :lol smile

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10 Apr 2007

Quote by Bigpaul45
not trying to big myself up...but i've had more pm's from people who like what i've posted on here and friendships and fun have been found !!

well, maybe one or two of those might post in here and say what it is about your posts that 'draws' them? :idea:

10 Apr 2007

Quote by earthchild
i do get attracted to posting styles etc dont know exactly what is that does attract me just something makes me go oooh yea
i remember the same immediate click with a certain lady

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but it's there isnt it, you know what I'm on about and its not just me with my wierd way of doing things then? :lol:
maybe sometimes it is something you cant quite put your finger on...but whatever it is will 'draw' you to someone.
I thought this would be really interesting cos we're all gonna have a different answer - no right or wrongs just individuality. I like that smile

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10 Apr 2007

but you cant see how someone looks from their posts lol

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i mean quite specifically how people here come across, the way, and what they post - is there a particular thing that will grab you?
like, some people will say humour - someone who's post style is funny, quick-witted etc ... but is it enough to make you go look at their profile several times, go see their post history and actively follow their posts?
edited to add:

Quote by Darkmatt1976
a view into a persons mind can be much more interesting than how they look and hold themselves.
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and that Mr Matt (i cant say Mr Dark :rotflmao, ooo confusing!) is exactly what I'm on about! :thumbup:

10 Apr 2007

thinking about people's post-style/ language use/ sense of humour/ your perception of them from their posts alone, do you find your interest in someone 'perked' by something quite specific?
(that makes no sense, I'll elaborate lol

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on another site I use, a newbie has appeared who immediately has made me think 'oooooo, hello interesting one, tell me more' - its very rare I do that, in terms of being this much interested in a person...a full-on and immediate 'i'll keep my eye on this one smile

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' positive feeling...
and I've seen people here say it before - that they'll become interested in someone from their posts alone (no photos, no meet, no face to face contact yet etc) then follow it up at a later date to see if the 'click' is really there...
so, what is it that grabs your attention - remember, from posts alone so this is a bit forum specific - and what attracts you to different people, not just sexually?