Hiya folks
Are you a fem I know from the forum who might be available this weekend (25th - 27th) for some fun in Blackpool, including a night (or two) in Infusion???
I'm asking because I've had this 'swingers weekend' (with hotel accomodation in a swinging friendly hotel) planned for months, its all been booked and paid for (other than the club entry) for myself and a male friend - but now I've had to pull out and cant go. :cry:
I'm gutted, but as its all been booked, I would love another fem to step in and save the day and basically be my friends companion for the weekend. There is no expectation to play etc, he just doesnt want to go alone - and I'd hate him to miss out just cos I cant go!
He is a site member but not on the forums, I can totally vouch for him though, he's a lovely lovely bloke. Please PM me for more details and I'll put you in touch! We've known each other just over a year, he's 40's, straight, well built and really good company.
I know this sounds a bit dodgy, but I promise this is totally above board etc. I'm asking for a fem becuase we've booked the hotel as a couple..... if you happen to already be going to this weekender and fancy some no-strings company, please also get in touch!
the pm button is below!! I wont give out specific details in the thread, sorry.
Cheers, Dark x
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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
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for andy Quote by Mark Horne
I see fat as what we have excess of, - we're not made entirely of it! - but again, this is where other people's attitudes come into it - because those who see fat as unattractive/unsexy, usually only see the 'size', they dont see the heart or the soul, they see the outside excess fat and it clouds their perception of the actual person.
Surely we all have our physical tastes that cloud our perception of how attractive we find the other person? I think it's a bit unfair to label people who aren't attracted to "fat" people as in some way particularly shallow.
I didnt say that if someone is not attracted to 'fat' people that makes then shallow. You're misreading my point. Some people just dont like 'fat', it's their personal preference, and that's fine. Others have such an issue with size that sometimes that is all they see.
This is what makes me feel uncomfortable by the term "BBW" - it often seems to be used in a way that implies "if you don't find me attractive then it's YOUR fault". Personally I find that sort of attitude much more of a turn-off than a particular body shape.
If people dont find me 'attractive' (in a sexual sense) because of my size/ shape etc then that's their preference. It's not a problem to me. If people dont find me attractive as a person because 'size' is all they see, then frankly I just dont care anyway!
Can't we just accept that we're all different, and that we all have different tastes, rather than trying to judge people based on what their particular tastes are?
The 'BBW' themed threads/ debates/ discussions always bring out the best in people
- because we do all have different tastes etc. There is no right or wrong 'preference', we're all individuals. In the same breath then, if I choose a 'label' I personally am perfectly happy to use for myself, I dont see why it should be such a problem for others to accept that I use it and accept that "BBW" is how I percieve myself.Some people might just see me as 'fat' - that's their opinion and they're entitled to it. I see myself as a BBW, and I'm entitled to that opinion too. We dont have to agree on it!
, nor should I be judged by others because I choose to use it. 
Quote by froggystyle
IMHO, the term BBW is a politically correct description of fat women within the subculture of fat admirers to emphasize their confidence, sexiness and attractiveness.
The attraction and beauty is defined by their pleasant appearance, charisma and charm. Personally, I do not see anything wrong with the BBW label. :smitten:
:shock: Oh, well, that's me fucked then :lol2:
my beautiful BBW badge just went right out the friggin' window
well, I kinda like it........but perhaps not as the main logo????
I think we like the oval thingy, as this is reflected in the SH pins that people have taken the time trouble and money to design and produce.......I like the Union Jack reference to this being a UK only site ..... best of British and all that....
am not a graphic designer, so have no suggestions....but it would make a lovely feminine tatt design ( in greyscale) !!
I think we like the oval thingy, as this is reflected in the SH pins that people have taken the time trouble and money to design and produce.......I like the Union Jack reference to this being a UK only site ..... best of British and all that....
am not a graphic designer, so have no suggestions....but it would make a lovely feminine tatt design ( in greyscale) !!
at risk of throwing myself back into this thread head first.....
I hate being called FAT. I may be fat, that's a given, but it comes down to self-perception. I see fat as what we have excess of, - we're not made entirely of it! - but again, this is where other people's attitudes come into it - because those who see fat as unattractive/unsexy, usually only see the 'size', they dont see the heart or the soul, they see the outside excess fat and it clouds their perception of the actual person.
'Fat' is a derogatory term used in name-calling or self-piss taking (usually done before anyone else can do it for you)
'Fat' implies obese, unhealthy, unattractive, unsexy, low confidence, unhappiness, low self-esteem.....it reinforces stereotypes that fat or big is bad and underlines negative body image.
I may be 'fat' size wise, but in attitude I'm a BBW.
Labels, like em or not, can be negative or positive, necessary or unnecessary, but I'm sticking with mine.
I hate being called FAT. I may be fat, that's a given, but it comes down to self-perception. I see fat as what we have excess of, - we're not made entirely of it! - but again, this is where other people's attitudes come into it - because those who see fat as unattractive/unsexy, usually only see the 'size', they dont see the heart or the soul, they see the outside excess fat and it clouds their perception of the actual person.
'Fat' is a derogatory term used in name-calling or self-piss taking (usually done before anyone else can do it for you)
'Fat' implies obese, unhealthy, unattractive, unsexy, low confidence, unhappiness, low self-esteem.....it reinforces stereotypes that fat or big is bad and underlines negative body image.
I may be 'fat' size wise, but in attitude I'm a BBW.
Labels, like em or not, can be negative or positive, necessary or unnecessary, but I'm sticking with mine.
Quote by A_geordie_chameleon
Hi Glasgowfella.
I'm a big lad too. I eat copious quantities, I drink far too occassional gentle stroll along the beach not withstanding I exercise almost not at all. In some peoples eyes I am distinctly unatractive because of it. But you know what? I'm a damn good bloke, a good laugh and loads of people like me, and a lot of women like what I have to offer. I like me and enjoy the lifestyle that created this shape. Even if I lost 6 stone, there would still be a load of women who didn't fancy me, and some others that may start to fancy me....they'd probably just be different women. We all like different things. There are tons of ladies out there who'll fancy you as you are. Are you a sexy BSF, well mate it's not for me to say lol....but it's attitude and confidence that makes the real difference not size.
Stay the same, or change your size, its up to you, but dont do it to try to fit other peoples preferences.
Mick
you want one too do you?
, i like you already! 
:cry: but there wasnt much of a leg/ hind quarters left anyway.Quote by Phoenix
Hmm... I'm not convinced. Surely the word 'Fat' is almost universally understood to be an insult - as visit to any school playground will confirm?
BBW has a much more positive connotation for me, much closer to 'Voluptious" than "Obese".
I think I see where you're coming from here, and I agree - someone who's confident and feels sexy and attractive and has a positive body image 'despite' their size perhaps uses BBW in its sexy, curvy, attractive, voluptuous sense.
Those who have an issue with size = weight problem, unattractiveness, not sexy, obesity, see 'BBW' as a 'pointless' or 'misleading' term that someone uses to cover their 'insecurities' because surely, they cant be happy like that?
Ooooh, this is doin' my head in. Much to philowhatistmalogical.
ohhh your very good at this arn't you
ok ok, I'll stop with the psychobabble, if you leave my BBW tag alone cos she's fine where she is, thanks!
Quote by Mister_Discreet
Hmm... I'm not convinced. Surely the word 'Fat' is almost universally understood to be an insult - as visit to any school playground will confirm?
BBW has a much more positive connotation for me, much closer to 'Voluptious" than "Obese".
Oh and just for the record, I found out two things at the weekend... firstly that I'm a size 14, and secondly that I temporarily wished I was size 10 :shock:
I think I see where you're coming from here, and I agree - someone who's confident and feels sexy and attractive and has a positive body image 'despite' their size perhaps uses BBW in its sexy, curvy, attractive, voluptuous sense.
Those who have an issue with size = weight problem, unattractiveness, not sexy, obesity, see 'BBW' as a 'pointless' or 'misleading' term that someone uses to cover their 'insecurities' because surely, they cant be happy like that?
Quote by davej
It matters not a jot if as a person your comfortable with your shape / size and I find it a bit of a paradox when people say they are very comfortable in themselves, but then go on to label themselves as if it's some sort of prepatory thing should they ever meet anyone, a message that says I'm overweight so be prepared, it just kinda says that deep down they aint as comfortable with themselves as they would admit.
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To me personally, the BBW label is a prepatory thing because it's other people who have the problem and issues with weight/ size/ shape... not me. It is a message that says ' I'm obese so be prepared' because it's other people who are not comfortable with size/shape etc, and if someone does have that issue, they're making an informed choice wether or not to contact me/ get to know me/ meet me/ shag me/ whatever. I wouldnt expect to hear from someone who's looking for a Kate Moss, ya know?
Like I've said, me personally, am happy to be 'big' - i'd be happier losing a couple of stone of course, but then I've said that too. I'm not 100% confident, but I'm confident enough to feel I'm sexy and attractive to the right person. And if someone offered me a 'instant size 10 pill' - yes, I'd turn it down. (if it was an instant size 16 pill, i'd snatch it before ya could say Weight Watchers!)
I love snakes and lizards - was having a chat earlier today about my passion for horses too, but, in all cases, i'm no where near knowledgable enough about reptilia or horses to take on the responsibility of taking one on as a 'pet'.
I can usually be found in a local aquatics centre & reptile house on Sundays admiring their collection from a distance but, until I have the space, time and knowledge to keep a snake :inlove: , i'll be making my sunday trip for a while to come yet! :cry:
but, I do have a ginuea pig and a 3 legged hedgehog!
I can usually be found in a local aquatics centre & reptile house on Sundays admiring their collection from a distance but, until I have the space, time and knowledge to keep a snake :inlove: , i'll be making my sunday trip for a while to come yet! :cry:
but, I do have a ginuea pig and a 3 legged hedgehog!
Quote by naughtynymphos1
This topic always brings out people's differences of opinion doesnt it?!
I really dont mind the 'BBW' label, tag, call it what you will, therefore I choose to use it. Like i've siad before, more for convenience than a "ooooo look at meeee i'm fat but stunning statement". I dont give a flying fluck if people think I fit the BBW label (as in, wether I'm beautiful or not) - maybe its a problem with what 'BBW' means that people find 'irritating/ offensive/ whatever - BBW = Fat but actually quite attractive? Fat but Body Confident Enough to Think I'm Sexy to Some People ?? define it any way you like, it simply means, to me, "I'm a big gal, so dont be expecting a size 10 when you meet me".
Well theres nothing wrong with you dark - believe me :P
i'll second that, even tho she does snore
:shock: :shock: Oi! NN I soooo do not snore! :taz:
and you've got some need to talk !!
Quote by martellnotts
Ode to a BBW
Big as in Beautiful, and as always a Woman, butremember this should you cross a BBW be mindful of the fall out - Yes guys she may be beautiful, she may be busty but shes always a woamn - and a woman scorned is a woman who will get ya
M
:bounce:
Yeah, just remember, ya'll gotta sleep sometime :twisted: Mwhaahaahaaaaahaaaaaa :evil2:
As for you Jane - your Big, Beautiful and definately a woman - Wills a lucky fells
Well theres nothing wrong with you dark - believe me
Tart!
