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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
0 miles · Greater London
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:scared: bloody hell DG :shock:
this is the 2nd time we've thread-started thinking exactly the same things!
I dont mean that as a 'this has been done before' ..more a stop it now you're scaring me' :giggle:
I'll pm you the link to the other/old thread as I dont want to detract from this one...Good topic, btw
to answer your question, cos I dont think it will do any harm to repeat it: Instinct is our own little internal warning system and it rings for a reason. If mine rings, I hear it loud and clear, and no amount of bullshit, pleading or input from others will shut it up I'm past the point of questioning myself over wether the 'feeling' i get about someone is right or wrong...its right, everytime. Life decisions also - career, home, uni, family etc are all based on gut instict as the ultimate deciding factor, because I trust it, implicitly.
this is the 2nd time we've thread-started thinking exactly the same things!
I dont mean that as a 'this has been done before' ..more a stop it now you're scaring me' :giggle:
I'll pm you the link to the other/old thread as I dont want to detract from this one...Good topic, btw
to answer your question, cos I dont think it will do any harm to repeat it: Instinct is our own little internal warning system and it rings for a reason. If mine rings, I hear it loud and clear, and no amount of bullshit, pleading or input from others will shut it up
I'm past the point of questioning myself over wether the 'feeling' i get about someone is right or wrong...its right, everytime. Life decisions also - career, home, uni, family etc are all based on gut instict as the ultimate deciding factor, because I trust it, implicitly. 
heyup you! Thanks Cockslut :thumbup:
not a bad night at all!
- although those who hogged places but didnt bother turning up or letting the organisers know..especially when there were people on the reserve list who I know would have happily made the effort to attend given the chance..shame on you :dry:
Big thanks to Wrats for making me welcome & also to Farmersboy, Andjben & R1Rider for the company & 'looking after', it really wasnt necessary but thankyou all the same 
not a bad night at all!
- although those who hogged places but didnt bother turning up or letting the organisers know..especially when there were people on the reserve list who I know would have happily made the effort to attend given the chance..shame on you :dry: Big thanks to Wrats for making me welcome & also to Farmersboy, Andjben & R1Rider for the company & 'looking after', it really wasnt necessary
but thankyou all the same but it is against the 'norms and values' of the 'community' (as in, those who buy into the social aspect of all this) - the powers that be have set out those norms as rules governing Munches and 'we' therefore are expected to adhere to them 
It may not be illegal per sae, but like dogging, for example, the minute someone 'innocently witnesses' a public act & is offended by those actions or reports it (to the police) it becomes an offence of indecency, under the 2003 Sex Act section 66 & 67 (??? I think) - i'm not sure how that stands with regard to Munches though (private venue for example).
So perhaps its more of a principal thing? people dont expect to see 'live sexual acts' at Munches & legal or not, it will cause offence to some
It may not be illegal per sae, but like dogging, for example, the minute someone 'innocently witnesses' a public act & is offended by those actions or reports it (to the police) it becomes an offence of indecency, under the 2003 Sex Act section 66 & 67 (??? I think) - i'm not sure how that stands with regard to Munches though (private venue for example).
So perhaps its more of a principal thing? people dont expect to see 'live sexual acts' at Munches & legal or not, it will cause offence to some
come on folks, stop it, i'll never meet anyone for playing purposes at this rate!
that said, I, and others who volunteer for door duties at any Munch do take this role seriously. Maybe I take it a little too personally, but the way I see it we're there to 'protect' you, to stop 'gawpers', non-members and people who shouldnt be there from getting in - we're also (and should be - which is where joking like this can get a bit out of hand) approachable by anyone who has a 'problem' or issue they need to raise. There are always lots of jokes about being on the door so we get to snog everyone on the way in etc, but let truth be known, all Munch organisers have a door team to try to ensure everyone attending is 'safe' and discretion is protected etc. Which is , I think, why I am so offended, personally, that anyone would try to take the piss and flaunt the rules and give both the organiser & door team any 'additional issues' to have to think about. You would think that as adults, we have the maturity and decency to self-police and not engage in inappropriate sexual behaviour in the first place.
Some of 'us' are licenced outside of the site, but that badge (if we choose to use it outside our 'day jobs') makes us legally able to physically remove people from venues should it be absolutely necessary.
It should never ever have to come to that, imo.
very basically Cherry because there's (to me) an issue within that in how people who are new or relatively new to Munches feel they cant say anything when they need to...that you personally felt uncomfortable at one of (forgive this) 'our' Munches but didnt know who to go to (and as one of the door team I am mortified at that comment, but that's a personal, not a thread issue) ...and I also am uncomfortable that you (a) didnt know who the organiser was and (b) as a newbie you wern't sure of the rules.
I've tried so hard to word it so it doesnt sound like a dig at you - because believe me it really isnt, but I still cant find the words...
and that's even before I get started on the 'innapropriate behaviour and the gang on egger-onners'
I've tried so hard to word it so it doesnt sound like a dig at you - because believe me it really isnt, but I still cant find the words
...and that's even before I get started on the 'innapropriate behaviour and the gang on egger-onners'
I didn't report it on the night, because as a newbie you aren't sure what the rules are, and also, you don't know who might be friends with whom, and you don't want to cause any grief for yourself
To be honest, it's this ^^^^ which concerns me, greatly. So much so, I still cant write a coherant response
