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16 Oct 2006

Quote by jaymar

OMG major flashback to my teens
I had a collection of flourescent socks - Pink, yellow, orange & green :shock:

LOL that's the ones! different colour on each foot mind.. and what about those plastic shopper bags? Kappa jackets and cough seasiders or pods!
I will just mention....roller discos on Saturdays.....Pepe keyrings....BIG earrings and Grolsh bottle tops on school shoes (Pods or Hush Puppies, depending on which gang you hung in)..... and yes, odd neon socks, and the obligatory Capri ski jackets :giggle:
^^^^ i didnt post any of that, someone's hijacked my account innocent

innocent

16 Oct 2006

what's a gym ??? dunno

dunno

lol

nah, seriously I keep thinking about it, but its a bit catch 22 - cant go to the gym cos too fat, cant lose the weight cos dont go to the gym loon

loon

Ok, so I'm making excuses....maybe next week :giggle:

16 Oct 2006

:cry:
my thoughts are with you. x
God bless. x

15 Oct 2006

smile

I'm in!
cos I really am a Bitch wink

wink

15 Oct 2006

Quote by musketeer

I'm no Max Clifford, but I would strongly advise against any involvement at any level, no matter how innocuous it all seems at the time.

Any information they want is already here on the site, 30 minutes will get them all they need anyway. What they really want is names and faces. Keep your heads down.
:idea: indeed !!
but, there are far too many ( "thankyou for all your replies") people on here willing to open their mouths, for whatever reason, directly. The warnings come too late after the invitation went site-wide I'm afriad.
Do I have a problem with all this? you bet I do.

15 Oct 2006

Quote by varca
Was heavily into music associated with that mods and rockers film, scooters and stuff....ohh what was it called, the one with Leslie Ash in?? Ohh that's going to annoy me now

Quadrophenia :thumbup:

15 Oct 2006

I'm still none the wiser redface

redface

I just dont 'get it'
someone help me out here lol

lol

15 Oct 2006

Quote by st3v3
We put the note up for a day and thanks to all of you that replied.

God help us all. *tuts, and shakes head in disgust*
Pololady suggested:

: As participants will be acting as representatives for the site membership, the usernames of the representatives will be made available to the membership.

Amen to that.

14 Oct 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde

I think the only time it gets press worthy is when its somebody really famous

I disagree. It's been a while since I bought a copy of the NOTW, but they used to have a story every other week about some "sordid goings on in a suburban cul de sac" with "acts not fit to be described in a family newspaper"
I agree HLB :thumbup:
I know someone here on SH who had their face plastered in a paper after pictures & details of a 'room meet' (social gathering of swingers on another site, not SH) were 'passed' to the paper. mad

mad

I also have aquaintances from a couple of years back on the same site who have been subjected to being publicly outed as swingers in the national press, complete with face pic. Sleazy, sordid world this swinging malarky you know, particularly when the press gets a foothold.

14 Oct 2006

Quote by Abilene
Thanks for the advice.
Right now my ass and upper legs ( at the back ) look like an army have been marching over them.

:shock: : : :jeeeeeesus. gif: lol

lol

Forgive my naiveity here, but I thought that if 'done properly' (ie: there's a certain 'technique' to spanking / using crops/ paddles etc) there shouldnt be any bruising???
nor should it hurt (in the sense of there being 'good' pain and 'bad' pain dunno

dunno

(i know what i mean even if you dont! redface

redface

)
I'll openly admit to you that I dont know much about this at all, really not my cup of tea, thanks...... but.......I'm thinking specifically of a couple of people who have attempted to 'talk me into' pain play specifically with the statement that 'it wont mark you' ....'no, honest, the welts will be gone by morning'...yadda yadda...... but after a fairly nasty experience many moons ago, no-one's coming near me with owt like that anyway! :kissmyarse: - nor could I inflict it on anyone else (well, ok, yeah I could :twisted: - just not in a 'play' situation lol

lol

)
So, having had a crop used to the point of drawing blood.....and since then being told that 'they' simply wern't 'doing it right' and blood/ bruising/ angry welts for 2 weeks after just shouldnt happen.....to reading this thread with posts about arnica, cold compress & marks/ bruising being dependent on how easily someone bruises anyway...... and fuck meee I'm confused. loon

loon

Some people love the bruises!

each to their own and all that, but I'm wincing at the thought of it! God, I'm so nesh lol

lol

redface

I think i'll be spending the rest of my evening doing some research dunno

dunno

12 Oct 2006

biggrin

or Derbyshire

10 Oct 2006

Quote by poshkate
they will only put people forward to the jouralists if they believed that they would make a true represantation of the site and the swinging world.....

Kate we have debated many times in here over what is or isn't 'swinging' - I dont believe that anyone can give a true representation of this site and the swinging world because every individual is different, is here for their own reasons and as a wise man once said, 'swinging is, what swinging is for you'. The danger is that one persons representation is another persons very significant misrepresentation, in print, available to anyone reading that particular publication.

......I don't read articles like that......or the papers that tend to publish them for that matter.....

so it doesnt affect you then?
i have absolutely nothing positive to contribute to this thread so I'll leave it well alone. I think an open invitation to every site member to talk to the press is a liability, and for those who are happy to talk to journalists about their private lives while 'representing' the rest of the members of Swinging Heaven, on your own head be it.

10 Oct 2006

I cant find the words.....
So this will have to do, saves me typing it.

kiss

kiss

10 Oct 2006

problem being, who's gonna give it to them?
given that the message is viewable to everyone who logs into this site - and lets just say that isnt just ussat here voicing our oppinions/ concerns on it - someone's gonna click that link, someone's going to 'give their side' and the cynical bitch in me says its going to be the 'look at me, 7 shags a night, oops did I name-drop a dogging location and goings-on at the last party I went to into that for good measure while giving people completely the wrong idea about what swinging is, thankyou for the quick buck opportunist, which imo, is exactly what they want to hear.
Professional & positive nature eh ?
wouldnt touch it with a bargepole.

10 Oct 2006

5 posts but no Goosey yet? :shock:
someone switched his radar off didnt they? come on, own up

10 Oct 2006

Quote by lavabubble
Maybe we should just run our own fems only night (perhaps with a man creche somewhere for the attached bi's :P ) for women who don't feel the need to hold their stomach in and are prepared to admit that they look rough after a night on the beer :twisted:

as a bagers arse luv rotflmao

rotflmao

and :giggle: @ man creche

10 Oct 2006

edited as there is no longer a reserve list biggrin

biggrin

If you are expecting an email from me, its en route today :thumbup:

9 Oct 2006

Quote by lavabubble
Bi fems might find the thought of playing solely with women all night as offputting as it might be attractive... I'm not sure that there will be many takers for this event at all as bi women are not averse to spending time in the company of men and lesbians are scarce in the lifestyle so I think its a bit of a funny thing to organise a whole special event for.
..... but I don't think the gap in the market is really big enough to require something like this to fill it!

I see your point Lava - and am surprised at the number of fems who really wouldnt be interested in something like this. I thought bi and especially bi curious fems might welcome the opportunity to play soley with another fem without the 'influence' of a bloke there too....... it appears I am wrong in my thinking.
Or maybe I'm just more of a part-time feminist lesbian rottweiler than I thought :shock: lol

lol

I do agree its a kinda funny thing to organise - but at the same time it does appeal (to me anyway) because it's different dunno

dunno

. Maybe as a one-off it'd work..... but I see your point about the gap in the market just not being as big as I, and the organisers of said party, imagined.
Thanks :thumbup:
in edit : I've just re-read this bit :

I get the feeling that this event might be aimed at a particular type of person and if we turned up as bbw lesbians this would not fit the bill

:shock:
a 'beautiful people' party you mean? dunno

dunno

Bollox, that's my invite gone down the swanny then rotflmao

rotflmao

8 Oct 2006

Quote by rogerndi
Well for us a time waster is a cpl who for one reason or onother do not turn up for an arranged meet without calling to say that they wish to cancel .

yep, that's my definition of a timewaster :thumbup:

I think its a crime that the more newbie people commit, as a lot of them think that signing up on here automatically assures them sex with anyone they fancy/anyone who talks to them.

I agree in part, but I also think a few people who've been here a while are also very like that confused

confused

I've agreed to meets on two occasions in the past where I've got there and 'something doesnt feel right/ I dont like their attitude/ approach/ whatever and it wasn't apparent in pm/ msn/ phone so I've backed out and said I'm sorry, this isnt going to happen - and both times been branded a timewaster. Do I care? not a jot, I'm happy to take the label from people who dont fit the standards if it makes them feel better lol

lol

meeeiow.

8 Oct 2006

have a good 'un smile

smile

and Mr Dark says 'tell her Happy Birthday from me too' and put one of them face things on it >>>> :cheers: lol

lol

7 Oct 2006

Quote by boofy
A friend of ours is a very prolific "squirter", ask a few people who go to Chams!
She gets so turned on she even had an invite to a party withdrawn, because the lady whoes house it was did not want her furnichture to be spoilt, quite understandable but very embarrassing for our friend.
There will be quite a few peeps out there who know who I am talking about, she comes from gods county, Devon.

:giggle: I wouldnt dare speculate
:gagged: in the name of discretion wink

wink

7 Oct 2006

Quote by varca
I did say to him that I would rather not have to tell him the reality of the danger he is putting himself in, I just said that there are some not so very nice people out there who could hurt him or worse but you are right I am going to have to.

'something happening to her' scares me to death, it's my worst fear, as it is all parents and I have been less than 'softly softly' with her about stranger danger and the rest once it was apparent that wrapping her in cotton wool wasnt going to work. She thinks she's invincible, that doing a bit of kickboxing and having a temper will save her & that her dad's 'ard so nothing will happen to his little princess rolleyes

rolleyes

banghead

She knows the dangers, but the 'pull' of her little wayward friends is a bit strong at the mo, I just have to be a stronger influence than they are. Or move confused

confused

Seeing her dad reduced to tears in absolute panic the other night has hit home though....but for how long?

7 Oct 2006

At 16, it'll be handbags at 10 paces in the back garden luv, I can see it now rotflmao

rotflmao

I really really hope to God she grows out of it wayyyyy before then dunno

dunno

- but she's her mother's daughter, so she probably wont. :cry:

7 Oct 2006

you are correct Jane, it is the launch party, hence I have no idea who else, or how many are going dunno

dunno

and i share your reservatons about it not being 'established' ... but then, if people dont go, they're not gonna get established anyway dunno

dunno

No interest in it either from folk here unless people are just keeping schtum lol

lol

- I'm still thinking about going after the curry social (in which case i wont be doing curry in case i end up breathe spicy garlic over anyone :scared: ) lol

lol

7 Oct 2006

Blimey Varca, are we in each other's heads today? :shock:
I almost posted something very similar the other day because right now, my daughter is hell spawn and I cant get through to her at all - and she' s 7 :shock:
She's never been allowed to play out (i live on an estate where kids are out til 9 - 10pm even on school nights and parents dont give a flying fuck where they are or what they're up to) and so far, although I feel guilty, I also know its for her own good, so she's not allowed to play out & i've let her little friends come play in the house. Having just gone up to Juniors though, she's now found a new set of friends, who happen to be the one's who do play out, and naturally she wants to join in.
I eventually gave in after one of her mammoth tantrums, with a set of rules .... dont cross the road, do not go out of sight of the house, do not go around any corners and I need to be able to see you if I hang out of the bedroom window...... and off she goes.
day one, i let her play out for an hour.
day two and she broke every rule - disappearing into thin air, cue her dad ringing me frantic at work, phone turns into a hotline as all local friends are called and they get on the blower to thier friends etc, me driving home breaking every road rule going, bellowing up the street and gone into major panic mode.... and it turns out she's gone to a friends house - within 10 minutes of being out the front door :taz:
Call me the mother from hell, but she's now grounded for life evil

evil

Expaining why has gone in one ear and out the other, so mum has now come down like a ton of bricks. I dont know what else to do, but she'll thank me for it one day.

7 Oct 2006

Quote by lilnfil
but surely Darkfire,if its a couple that are in a long term relationship that are making the porn film,there would be no need for a condom
fil xx

Just to answer you Fil: under those circumstances no, there probably wouldnt be need for a condom, but then as a viewer, all i'm seeing is two or more people having sex, I dont know whether its a long-term relationship or not dunno

dunno

I might feel differently if its a couple I know, but like Les, even with the eroticism of porn, using condoms is so deeply ingrained in me now I kinda need to see it dunno

dunno

I'm afraid I'm one of those who notices the 80's style duvet covers and bubble gum on bottom of shoes too, not to mention the size of that spot on her arse rotflmao

rotflmao

I like it 'real' not 'idealistic' but thats the voyeuristic streak in me wink

wink

7 Oct 2006

I like 'homemade' porn, the more realistic (ie a 'real, average 'normal' couple/ participants having 'real' sex not scripted or acted sex) the better - and in those circumstances condoms usually come part and parcel, as they would do if you were filming inside a house party etc, so it makes for 'better' porn for me dunno

dunno

lol

I also have a habit of looking if people are wearing condoms - both in porn and in RL and I'm afraid to say if they're not, it really is a bit offputting for me dunno

dunno

7 Oct 2006

Quote by earthchild
but i cant see how you could comtemplate playing with another couple if your partner or you for that matter is being 'tolerated' surely that isnt an atmosphere conducive to playing, well it wouldnt be for me anyway
Earthy xx

true :thumbup:
and in the case of these parties specifically, males are not tolertated to the point of complete exclusion..... so, perhaps there is weight in my thoughts that many women won't go because their partner can't ? dunno

dunno

7 Oct 2006

never mind that Wide Boy, you're a bloke, what's your 'take' on fem: fem only parties?

7 Oct 2006

Quote by Kiss
I would only hazard a guess and say that maybe some females feel they might feel like the odd one out if they don't play, maybe the husbands/partners don't like the idea of their girl going to a club without them, maybe the female is interested but doesn't know what to expect?

good questions :thumbup:
as for feeling the odd one out if they dont play....isnt that more of a 'under pressure' issue ? Its the same with clubs or meets etc, you might go with thought of being open to playing but then change your mind/ there's no one you want to play with/ it doesnt feel right ...etc... Me, I could happily attend something as long as there's no pressure, and I dont have that 'oh i've got to play because i'm the odd one out' feeling ....
and I do think there are partners out there who would be entitrely unhappy about 'missing such an opportunity' ....and couples who do have rules about not playing seperately hence the fem wouldnt be able to go anyway.....
oh ffs, i've forgot where i was going with this post now lol

lol

redface

carry on while i go get coffee lol

lol