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Darkfire

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2 Oct 2006

hun, if someone is anywhere near 'annoyed' at you because you've changed you mind, something's not right or you just dont want to - that's their problem and you are wayyyy better not playing with them anyway if that's the case wink

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Never ever feel 'bad' for saying No - if you go through with it just to please others because you feel that you 'cant let someone down' etc, it will make for a crap experience - they might be getting what they want, but what about you?

1 Oct 2006

so, i'm the only one who saw the title and thought 'ahaa, another wink thread' dunno

dunno

lol

1 Oct 2006

Hiya Sara & Graham wave

wave

no probs, pm on way

1 Oct 2006

Quote by MandH
H once had a bloke who sat her on a chest of drawers, then gave her a glass of water.......
He laid on the bed, then told her to bang her heels and flick the water over him........ then he told her to flick the light on and off.
She asked him if they were going to actually do anything, and he said........
"What in this weather???"

M

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haaaaaaaaa haha I like it :thumbup: giggling like a girl here :giggle:

1 Oct 2006

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1 Oct 2006

Good Luck Mal :thumbup:

30 Sep 2006

Quote by littlemee
Could you please let me & Alleyson know the details 'cos we're both so looking forward to our first club visit.

Excellent! :thumbup:

30 Sep 2006

done. its now definately the date you've all had by pm smile

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30 Sep 2006

dont even start me off with that Holy Grail shit again DB smackbottom

smackbottom

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30 Sep 2006

no idea

dunno

but yes, given that they dont protect, what is the point? more research required me thinks, i'm off to play on Google lol

lol

30 Sep 2006

I've just googled it to see if there's any more - Durex Avanti is the one I know is available, its also stocked nationwide at GUM or FP clinics & free distribution funded by local PCT's....
but I just saw another brand called Trojan - which i'm familiar with but cant recommend....... and thought this was worth a mention :

Trojan Naturalamb is the perfect condom for couples who want a latex-free condom with heightened sensitivity. It contains no latex and is made from a natural membrane that delivers its unique sensitivity. Does not protect against STDs.

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30 Sep 2006

Durex Avanti is the one most readily available from chemists etc.

30 Sep 2006

done

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Hope you can make it

30 Sep 2006

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Just to elaborate on how this thread came about:
dammie's perving the ads and comes across a single straight female looking to meet straight males & straight couples.
He's looking rather confused and asks "Why would a single straight female want to meet with a couple? I don't get it. What would she get out of it?"
Me "Well when you were a single straight bloke, what did you get out of it?"
dammie "It was the buzz of knowing the woman's enjoying 2 men"
Then (after me explaining a little further) the penny drops

i'm still thinking about this one lol

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and, as I'm not straight, it isnt the answer you're looking for.....but.... there's perhaps something to be siad for single fems who are 'givers' not 'takers' - those who get their pleasure from giving others pleasure (it makes sense in my head, honest lol

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) ...
So, a straight single fem *may* get her 'kicks' from being accepted and invited by the couple to join them, and would be in it to satisfy the guy sexually, and their fantasies as a couple, and not in it for herself - which is what alot of people dont understand , sometimes its not about the bloke having two fems and satisfying both of them in this sense:

Quote by willxx69
If both women are straight then she reckoned it was going to be a bit demanding on the guy. "He's going to have to be pretty bloody gifted if he's going to keep them both happy on his own." was verdict.

...maybe its about the single fem being being the one that enables fantasies to be played out - and she gets her 'satisfaction' from that dunno

dunno

i might come back to this if it doesnt make sense to folk lol

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- (in edit) I also think single fem 'givers' are very very rare.... and the cynical bitch in me says there's always those who could just be in it to shag the bloke she wants and successfully bypass the wife confused

confused

30 Sep 2006

pm'd you both :thumbup:

30 Sep 2006

you always have a bloody plan lol

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30 Sep 2006

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30 Sep 2006

please read the update on the last page
I'm planning a group visit to Chams in November for people I know - or newbies who I'm familiar with from the site who might like to go with us - hotel drinkies/ meal (purely social) then on to Chameleons club for those who want to.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/clubs/reviews-3.html
It will be a Saturday so I'm afriad its couples/ single fems only, unless one of the fems is willing to partner you for the evening. Single guys are welcome to the drinkies and meal.
I will stress now that although its a swingers club, no one is under any expectation to play - and I fully support this - so if you want to try a club without any pressure, in good, friendly & relaxed company, this is the one for you! At the same time though, it will be a good opportunity to meet up, chill out, have a natter and if anything happens from that, great smile

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Actual date, details, hotels etc available by pm. I do have a date in mind and the club has ok'd it. I will not be publishing the date here in the thread or publishing an actual guestlist - this info is available by pm only for reasons of discretion :thumbup:
This is not a private meet, the club will be open as usual and there will be other people there who are not part of the SH clan, or site members. . I have no control over who attends independently of this organised group hence no date publishing wink

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....if you fancy coming along with us/ meeting in there/ joining us for the drinks & meal, let me know wink

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30 Sep 2006

you too Pete! lol

lol

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30 Sep 2006

Ooooo!! welcome back Lissa!! :happy:
where've ya been, and have you bought your opinions with you?? :rascal:
good to see you back!

30 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
I know where there's a Cock Road and a Bunnies Lane :giggle:

then it must be time to ressurect this again!! :happy: :happy:
I dare you Sassy :twisted:

30 Sep 2006

yeah you could NN!!, come on, spill lol

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29 Sep 2006

Quote by Manolishi
Errr, unless I get asked to sit in Dark's corner of course :rascal:

:rascal:

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29 Sep 2006

pehaps making it clear, before sitting down, that you would like to spend some time with that person - and it's reciprocated - then you both 'sing from the same hymn sheet' and both make a concious effort to sit together dunno

dunno

...'seat bagging', going to the table together etc... although if in a group its inevitable that everyone will chat across the table anyway and exclusive attention is not the name of the game dunno

dunno

the flip side of it being, unless you have been given reason to think they welcome your company, making a beeline for someone and parking your bum next to them for the duration of the meal, coffee and after-dinner chat might render you the one who's the boring fart lol

lol

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29 Sep 2006

Quote by DeeCee
what another place to talk bollox and hijak........
cool

is it?

confused

or is there a very good starting point for discussion being swept under the carpet by the impending hijack??

Quote by dambuster
Just a thought but is there any chance of having a separate forum for these.

Or perhaps a way of separating the forum type socials and Munches from the chatroom type socials and socials dunno

dunno

How about allowing the chatroomies to advertise their gettogethers in the chatroom lounge, and allow the Chatroom lounge to be a chatroom "lounge" as opposed to somewhere to post about just "the chatroom problems/issues/fixes"
*Disclaimer
I think there is a massive difference between "chatroom people" and "forum people" and their attitudes and "ways of doing things"
I acknowledge and embrace that difference.
I'm not trying to widen the "divide" - rather just simply acknowledge it
Personally, I think points raised in this thread are worthy of at least some consideration and discussion, but has been rather 'overlooked' - or blatantly brushed to one side because it might be a bit contentious.
Its certainly been an issue in my mind since the first 'room meet' type socials were arranged, and I do see a big difference in the 'way things are done' in terms of organising, guestlists and mentality.

How about allowing the chatroomies to advertise their gettogethers in the chatroom lounge, and allow the Chatroom lounge to be a chatroom "lounge" as opposed to somewhere to post about just "the chatroom problems/issues/fixes"

What a bloody good idea :thumbup: The chatroom lounge is 'a place for chatroom people to leave messages for one another' - vive la difference and all that, why not organise their room meets in there too ?
Is it just not an issue to other people? a let 'em get on with it type attitude? and no opinion to offer? dunno

dunno

28 Sep 2006

by who's definition sweetie, yours, or someone elses? Labels, never a good thing unless its one you stick on yourself wink

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28 Sep 2006

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be thankful i have this little vice in life otherwise i'd be a feminist lesbian rottweiler all the time lol

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mmmmm, thighs :twisted:

28 Sep 2006

i'm going on my own too dunno

dunno

28 Sep 2006

:bounce: :bounce: did someone say Rugby? :bounce: :bounce:
lol

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28 Sep 2006

not quite what I had in mind Mano hun, but thanks for the suggestions.... i think confused

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