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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
0 miles · Greater London
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thank fook for that! :thumbup:
LMU is crap for cheering yourself up though - come over to the cafe where the GFZ is open (virtual pub) and come say hello to folk. You might just find all 10 of the ladies you're looking for, but ffs dont ask em to tuck u up and look after you, i borrowed the defibrilator a few weeks back and havent returned it yet, poor bloke :cry:
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LMU is crap for cheering yourself up though - come over to the cafe where the GFZ is open (virtual pub) and come say hello to folk. You might just find all 10 of the ladies you're looking for, but ffs dont ask em to tuck u up and look after you, i borrowed the defibrilator a few weeks back and havent returned it yet, poor bloke :cry:
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Quote by tweeky
However at the moment this event is looking like it will not take place as originaly planned as we wont have enough for the venuedue to lack of interest from this site when the we do make new plans we will not be advertising them here. PM us if you would like directions to the other advert
Cheers
Tweeky luv I'm a bit confused here
is it on or isnt it? what's a mini munch style social? is it a social? or a mini munch? or a new breed devised as a way of getting round the rules?
and given the quote above, is it still open to SH members? or just chatroom users? or not on SH at all?
help!
I've always seen this site as really kinda self-policing. All members have a part in that - whether it be pointing out mistakes, offering some guidance or reporting dodgy ads.
but its the 'fine line' bit that Dambuster mentioned thats the issue when it comes to self-policing vs pseudo-modding, and where do we draw it?
but its the 'fine line' bit that Dambuster mentioned thats the issue when it comes to self-policing vs pseudo-modding, and where do we draw it?
I dont know - i think it depends on who's doing it, and more importantly , why.
I might come back to this later because i'm trying to define in my own head what 'classifies' as pseudo-modding and what doesnt. But I do think it depends on the individual doing it , whatever it is that comes across as pseudo-modding 
But i have to say I disagree with Fire, pseudo-mods, in my mind, would make bad mods, because they're wannabes. Its a power thing. Maybe.
off for a think....... paranoia setting in..... wonders who is considered a psuedo-mod and who isnt.... am i missing something here?
- i think it depends on who's doing it, and more importantly , why.I might come back to this later because i'm trying to define in my own head what 'classifies' as pseudo-modding and what doesnt. But I do think it depends on the individual doing it , whatever it is that comes across as pseudo-modding
But i have to say I disagree with Fire, pseudo-mods, in my mind, would make bad mods, because they're wannabes. Its a power thing. Maybe.
off for a think....... paranoia setting in..... wonders who is considered a psuedo-mod and who isnt.... am i missing something here?
Quote by Missy
My previous partner was happy to swing , and we had many great times. My new partner knows my history and accepts that swinging is an activity I enjoy. She is not sure (would possibly swing if the situation just happened). So, as far as I am concerned her answer is no , at the moment , and as such I will NOT try and push, persuade, force, engineer or any other scenario that springs to mind.
I believe that if you coerce then the end result will be disaster ; and t hat is just not worth it.
Absolutely!!! :thumbup:
A previous partner of mine tried to push me into swinging. We shared fantasies and stuff, realised we both had a massive curiosity towards the swinging scene.
But instead of going at the slowest persons pace (mine), be tried to push things along. The more he pushed, the harder my heels went in.
In the end his constant pushing split us up, because my heels were so firmly in at that point, swinging became the focal point of the relationship, almost a battle. I came out of the relationship convinced I never wanted to swing, that I only thought about it cos of him.
Took another 6 mnths before my curiosity came back again - was only then that I knew I was actually curious myself, not because I was so pushed. Had he given me the time and space to realise that for myself, instead of him trying to 'make' me realise, then I'm sure we would've tested the scene
So Starmanxx, I'm afraid that if your wife has clearly stated that she's not interested, then that's it, she's not. If you try to 'make' her interested, you're treading on dangerous ground and I can pretty much guarantee that eventually it'll end up in divorce, a very bitter divorce.
The only thing I can suggest would be to put yourself in your wifes shoes for a while, look at things from her angle.......... Maybe think of something sexual you would never ever do - then imagine being pushed into doing it. The constant battles and arguments when you're being 'persuaded'
Remember that in swinging the word "No" is a respected right, not a privilege
(Blimey, now I sound like an American Senator with me phrases
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i told you this was a popcorn thread!
you might find this inteesting reading Starman : http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/84507.html
if not, and its simply just a fantasy YOU want to fulfill but she doesnt, you're wasting your time. The only thing you can do is discuss it with her again, and take her answer as given. No means No, and pushing her will simply push her away.
you might find this inteesting reading Starman : http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/84507.html
if not, and its simply just a fantasy YOU want to fulfill but she doesnt, you're wasting your time. The only thing you can do is discuss it with her again, and take her answer as given. No means No, and pushing her will simply push her away.
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Thank you everyone - but I suspect that's yet another thread I have killed! :doh:
I very much doubt it, and hope not.
You have raised the question (as have others earlier) over whether seeking no strings sex outside a sexless marriage/ relationship really warrants the moral highground stance sometimes taken on here - or is it more a case of 'offence' being taken when someone tries to justify their actions like an excuse?
with my bargepole and that's as far as i'm going 
