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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
0 miles · Greater London
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of course you can be emboldened 
Quote by builderforfun
its not ideal people with out pics ...but try to get know them first and ask them what look like at some point they will have to send you pic.. obviously not months later!... if they look nothing like they said or do not do anything for you take it on the chin and move on mate.. thats my advice
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I'm not sure whether you're just talking about ads Ruislip, but as you've mentioned yourself, many of us here are a little cagey about putting facial pics (any pics in my case) up where anyone who looks can see them.... nosey neighbours seraching within 0 miles of your postcode, for example. I'll always send them privately if asked, but never usually on the first chat. You make up your own mind if that's any good or not but it works for me.
, hotel list on way Quote by earthchild
Ok girls, bring it on.
What’s the challenge then?? What is the 'special job'??
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :giggle: Sarah, hunny, you have a pm
oooh i cant tell you what mine or i will have to kill you, its a surprise for on the night
Earthy xx
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Quote by AndyNudeUK
Welcome to :swingingchair: heaven angleseyfella :welcome:
Looks like you are enjoying it here already :giggle: I hope you find what you are looking for and enjoy yourself :happy:
Why am I here? well to be made fun at and poked at or maybe thats just what I like sexually
But at least youve tried to help so again thanks I generaly get ignored around here coz of my age i get quotes like "bugga i,m old enough to be your mother" seems to be double standards in this place some ppl say ur to old some say ur to young and you lot are supose to be the grown ups ....for me if i find an attraction i go for it ..its ur body thats old not YOU
Ive looked at loads of profiles and found some realy nice ..attractive..interesting...to say the least ppl but not acording to the general view in my AGE group so mabey i should just put up an under 25 chatroom and just ignore the cafe coz i sure aint getting anywhere
Rob i gotta tell you, you were doing really well til the frustration started showing
I would have said carry on as you are, because you certainly dont come across as being 'only 18' , just drop the continual emphasis on your age, cos its you who's bringing attention to it, not us - but then you posted the above and i'm retracting my comment while i'm at it, i may as well say its not 'double standards'
its individual differences and preferences & you might need to get used to that concept Like anything it is hard to get started with something but the important thing is to sit back and enjoy yourself, get to know people, talk to them in the forums and chatroom, have a profile and add(s) that will interest people you are looking for. Then sit back and wait. I would say nothing will happen straight away and could take some time
have you been here before under a different name Andy? or are you just very familiar with internet forums?
that's spot on :thumbup: Quote by miss h
he's only 39 - should he put up with sex 10 times a year?
oooo good question :shock:
and I'm wondering if those who's parents relationships became celibate still 'work' because staying together is the 'done thing' with the older generation? wheras today with higher divorce rates/ single parent families etc its far more acceptable to split than it is to stay together, for whatever reason, including lack of sex
Quote by WibblyWobbly
he needed to find a woman who could give him babies and he would never have left me... so I had to make the move... I hope that makes sense...
blimey, that's a sacrifice and a half hun :shock: I know it's all worked out for the best now, and that he has his son and you have GT, but that must have been so hard at the time.
Saffy wrote:
Sex is more to a woman then just a physical act.A woman needs to know that she is cared for,wanted,is physically attracted to her yes she can get this in other ways but to a woman the sexual relashionship is the final bond it makes her feel physically attracted,gives her confidence in herself as a woman
I dont think that's bollocks at all luv, I think that's spot on personally :thumbup: - especially this bit :
Sex is just a physical act which meets our physical needs but it doesn't meet our emosional ones so you need it all to be complete in a relashionship.Swinging I think fulfills the physical need, and we can always sort ourselves out as a quick fix
Miss h wrote:
to begin with it was just the lack of sex that got to me, but as time went on, i started to wonder whether he found me attractive, cared for me, was committed to me.
then i started to doubt myself and lose confidence in my own sexuality and to imagine that i was too old for him, not pretty enough etc
now that would be the sort of thing that would make me throw in the towel and walk away. I know its been mentioned in the thread, but psychologically there's a difference, imo, between a sexless relationship because your partner cant - through illness etc and wont, through lack of interest.
I am surprised though really at the number of people who would stay in the relationship and sacrifice sex as not being the be all and end all, considering that most of us are swingers and physically enjoy sex and are used to being fulfilled sexually. I thought it might be a bit more of a problem to most
and my head hurts!
Quote by firelizard
What about you Dark, what do you think?
fookin hell, i'll have typers cramp!
it is a bit close to home this one actually, but to be honest i dont know
i know what i think..... but i also know my actions do not represent those thoughts. My sex drive is way way higher and stronger than my other half's - but we deal with that because i can either sort myself out or play with someone here. I think it does becaome a problem though, certainly for me, if he's had a really busy week and comes home knackered, and the 'us' time starts slipping.... but its no threat to the relationship itself.
I really dont know luv hence why i threw the questions open on here, maybe if its just a temporary problem (illness/ busy at work/ whatever) then for me, and most people it wouldnt be a problem, but if it was permanent and the sex life was over.... well, i dunno, depends how strong the rest of the relationship is I guess
(edited to add: Personally speaking, at the moment the crux of my thining is that if asked to give up swinging, and the sex life at home was an 'issue' and there were other things 'wrong' in the relationship, in all honesty I think i'd walk :shock: but it would be giving up a hell of alot for the sake of a shag, so is sex really worth it? is it the be all and end all? hmmmm back to the original question ) it was actually your post in the other thread that started me off Fire, so its all your fault! but its kinda snowballed in my head from a 'what if your partner could no longer give you a physical relationship due to disability' to a full blown 'is sex really that important'
I can think of loads of situations where this might be an issue ... medication, new baby in the house etc, even down to having kids around and not enough 'us' time for fear of being interrupted etc..
what about post natal depression and other illnesses that impact on sex drive?
and the other side of th question would be what about those who are 'playing away' or without their partner's knowledge because lack of sex at home is a problem so they seek it elsewhere? I dont want the thread to go down the 'playing away' route and all the arguements that come with it as to whether its right or wrong - but more a would their relationship survive anyway if one partner wasnt 'getting what they need elsewhere' ?
I can think of loads of situations where this might be an issue ... medication, new baby in the house etc, even down to having kids around and not enough 'us' time for fear of being interrupted etc..
what about post natal depression and other illnesses that impact on sex drive?
and the other side of th question would be what about those who are 'playing away' or without their partner's knowledge because lack of sex at home is a problem so they seek it elsewhere? I dont want the thread to go down the 'playing away' route and all the arguements that come with it as to whether its right or wrong - but more a would their relationship survive anyway if one partner wasnt 'getting what they need elsewhere' ?
This might be a really daft question to ask on a swingers site, but I've been pondering something (:scared: : )
Last week or so we had a thread about disability and someone posted that if thier partner became disabled through illness/ accident then they wouldnt leave etc, they'd just work through it for love...
and this set me thinking - which is never a good thing
Is that possible ? Is sex really the be all and end all of relationships? could you be in a long - term relationship with someone because you love them and sacrifice the sex life to remain in that relationship? what about vanilla's where swinging activities do not feature in their relationship but they're not getting it at home either?
What happens if your sex drive is through the roof and your partner's isnt? would that lead to problems in your relationship or would you just accept it? or is it , do you think, why some people introduce swinging into their relationship?
over to you
: )Last week or so we had a thread about disability and someone posted that if thier partner became disabled through illness/ accident then they wouldnt leave etc, they'd just work through it for love...
and this set me thinking - which is never a good thing
Is that possible ? Is sex really the be all and end all of relationships? could you be in a long - term relationship with someone because you love them and sacrifice the sex life to remain in that relationship? what about vanilla's where swinging activities do not feature in their relationship but they're not getting it at home either?
What happens if your sex drive is through the roof and your partner's isnt? would that lead to problems in your relationship or would you just accept it? or is it , do you think, why some people introduce swinging into their relationship?
over to you
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
There's no conversation, just that dodgy porn music playing constantly. Doesn't do a lot for me.
pmsl @ dodgy porn music
i've never understood why they do that, if its really bad i have to turn the sound off cos its so offputting - and then obviously lose the definate benefit of the 'audio'
(not that there is much, and what there is sounds fake, which again puts me right off )oh i'm sooooo fickle ! :giggle:
Quote by Steve_Mids
Well you have a tongue in your head dont you ????
Ask and you shall have :-)
I asked - and didnt get
Its not as easy for us singles as many think it is! .. but then again I mentioned the immortal words 'a shag is not guaranteed' and cut my nose off to spite my face didnt I (no thats a lie, i did get one offer (thankyou) but would have meant driving miles and miles out their way which wasnt fair...so I still needed to drive down and back hence not drink so kinda defeated the object so I gave up, spat me dummy and didnt bother going
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