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Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
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Quote by naughtynymphos1
Personally i think body size does matter to most people, being of a larger build myself i used the bbw chat room a lot and have found that most guys go in there cause they think its a easy shag room, cause somehow bigger women are desparate and will agree to meet easier, personally i think very few of them actually like bigger ladies its just a case of 'any holes a goal' i have come to the dessision for two reasons:
Firstly cause of the way the gusy attention turn when a slim woman goes in the bbw room and goes on cam, i have seen such comments as 'its about time we see a decent body in here' and 'wow lovely u really put the other women to shame' and these are from guys who go in the bbw room at least semi regular and claim to like bigger women when they after a shag!!
And secondly cause of the abuse you get if you do dare actually turn a guy down in there, i have had guys say thing like 'what your turning me down who the hell do you think you are?!!' and well your just a fat cow anyway i can do muc better than you' and i get such comments on a regular basis.
But i do find comfort in knowing that even tho i may be fat and ugly i wouldn't shag someone a didn't find attractive just for the sake of having a shag so make you wonder who the real desparate ones are
NN i feckin luv you I do
tell it like it is Gal :thumbup: Quote by TheOnlyMinx
I used to only meet guys who filled doorways, and as I said to hubby last night, if he hadn't looked that way back then I wouldn't have met him. However I do appear to have relaxed a bit on that score now as I'm happier with myself. Old theory being that there was no point making yourself feel like a beached whale next to someone!
i'm one of the ones who on face value/ instant attraction will go for the man mountain everytime :twisted: , but I dont see it as anything to do with avoiding looking like a beached whale if with a smaller guy, i just like big blokes, always have
I also dont see it as being anything to do with not being happy with myself
I love big thighs and V shaped backs and love handles...ooo shhhh :giggle: ... but like i say, thats just surface attraction, the rest of the package has to be there, but it is what'll get my attention initially in a crowded room. Its a preference I guess, but does not exclude allothers..... there just isnt any sexual attraction for me (yet) to very slim/ small built blokes (and women, as it happens) , just as physically I may not be someone's cup of tea either I adamantly don't "do" small men though...better not shout my theories about that but suffice it to say I think men are very much like dogs, and I don't like jack russells.
I dont know why, but that just cracked me up
Quote by DeeCee
as u can see Jedi.... as soon as u start to enter the "single guy debate" your gonna get met with the same old arguments and views......... which i think is even more of a waste of time......
:dry: Same old same old, but still someone's preference, choice and oppinion about who they will/ wont meet , which you cant simply dismiss as a waste of time because its in a thread , its their fundamental right.
seriously, there was a time when I'd be at work scheming up ways to get on SH in work's time. When i'd check every thread to see if anyone was bantering/ flirting with me, when I'd get all :bounce: :bounce: if it notified me that i'd got a pm. I even used to have people updating me by text if anything significant was going off on the forum
but very soon it all becomes habit rather than necessity, but we've all been there (and still are) with the addiction thing
Quote by westerross
Unfortunately, some people's view of single males generally is clouded by the ones who act like twats - ...
What you mean the ones who send unsolicited PMs??
I was thinking specifically of the quick shag brigade, the 'success by association (tm Dambuster) society' and the 'every hole's a goal club'. Unsolicited PM's arnt a problem (for me), one-liner ones are
Quote by Iceraider
It is a fact, especially in the chatroom, that some single males gives us genune, friendly, non pushy singles a bad name, nothing we can do about it i'm afraid.
We just have to work harder.
:thumbup:
and remember, people do have preferences - if they say No Single Males, it usually means they dont plan on playing with any therefore you're wasting your time.
Unfortunately, some people's view of single males generally is clouded by the ones who act like twats - get over it and find someone who does want to play with a single guy, and dont berate those who dont.
I have to say No, it doesnt ....usually.
But....
there have been odd occasions, like, the takeover for example, and lots of things directly associated with that where the impact was felt into my 'vanilla life' ...texts, phone calls, the general 'split', friends moving elsewhere & the sense of upheaval. I dunno about other people but I found that had an effect in terms of my general mood and sense of loss
Sometimes a thread or a post/ comment/ dig or a pm might really piss me off...and then i'll switch the puter off and I'll stomp round and be generally on one til it just blows over.
certain other things do cross over into my 'day to day' life though - ie a friend going through a rough patch, because then I find myself thinking about them at work etc, or altering vanilla plans to see them/ help them - but that's about the person, not the site
I dont rush home anymore to make sure i dont miss anything etc, logging on is more a habit than a 'ooo i simply have to be on SH tonight' situation, and although some people find the flirting & the banter kinda lifts them - and it used to me - i think i'm just indifferent to it now
So, no, the site doesnt impact on my day to day life..... but some of the people do.
But....
there have been odd occasions, like, the takeover for example, and lots of things directly associated with that where the impact was felt into my 'vanilla life' ...texts, phone calls, the general 'split', friends moving elsewhere & the sense of upheaval. I dunno about other people but I found that had an effect in terms of my general mood and sense of loss
Sometimes a thread or a post/ comment/ dig or a pm might really piss me off...and then i'll switch the puter off and I'll stomp round and be generally on one til it just blows over.
certain other things do cross over into my 'day to day' life though - ie a friend going through a rough patch, because then I find myself thinking about them at work etc, or altering vanilla plans to see them/ help them - but that's about the person, not the site
I dont rush home anymore to make sure i dont miss anything etc, logging on is more a habit than a 'ooo i simply have to be on SH tonight' situation, and although some people find the flirting & the banter kinda lifts them - and it used to me - i think i'm just indifferent to it now
So, no, the site doesnt impact on my day to day life..... but some of the people do.
Quote by onlyme1981
I love receiving a massage. I will only receive from someone I know well and trust though. It's a sensual and very personal thing, especially full body ;)
I wonder whether that's why its not generally thought of as part of foreplay or 'swinging' as such... because it is very personal
If its a really good strong massage, I can be so deeply relaxed its almost a catatonic state, full on 'gone', eyes glazed, ragdoll-like
Unless its with someone you know well or are 100% comfortable, maybe the deep relaxation is not such a good idea? Quote by Dawn_Mids
I've just realised I have never had an all over massage :eeek:
blimey Dawn, right, we need to rectify this asap!
I absolutely adore massage, although these days I'm a selfish bitch and much prefer to be on the recieving end
:inlove: I'm just wondering about this, as most of you will be aware I like soft play rather than full swap but i've never been asked/ offered about massage in a play situation
i dont think i need to answer this
I complain. That said, i wont if in a large group of people for fear of anyone else feeling uncomfortable/ embarassed
What I cant stand is when people complain (used to be a chef, and i've waited tables & various other catering type stuff) and they're unnecessarily rude. That gets my back up, then i'll dig my heels in, and then you can go fuck yourself about getting a refund/ free meal/ voucher for next time etc
- and there certainly wont be an apology :rude:
When i was working in catering, a genuine complaint, pointed out politely and a specific request such as 'we'd like replacement meals/ free desserts/ free wine/ whatever' would be met with a 'I'm really sorry, I'll sort this for you'. It really really does depend on howyou complain
I complain. That said, i wont if in a large group of people for fear of anyone else feeling uncomfortable/ embarassed
What I cant stand is when people complain (used to be a chef, and i've waited tables & various other catering type stuff) and they're unnecessarily rude. That gets my back up, then i'll dig my heels in, and then you can go fuck yourself about getting a refund/ free meal/ voucher for next time etc
- and there certainly wont be an apology :rude: When i was working in catering, a genuine complaint, pointed out politely and a specific request such as 'we'd like replacement meals/ free desserts/ free wine/ whatever' would be met with a 'I'm really sorry, I'll sort this for you'. It really really does depend on howyou complain
Quote by musketeer
I used to be a doorman and one of the best ways of sussing someone I was not too sure of was to say, "Sorry, not tonight" and see what happened. It quickly separated the, "OK Mate" from the abusive, and I still had time to change my mind, and I often did.
Just wondered if it ever worked like that.
Hell yes - and sometimes, sorry not tonightmeans exactly that. Its interesting to see if someone's interested enough to come back a 2nd time, and who isnt.
funny lot us ex-door people
:thumbup: Quote by meat2pleaseu
you're tarting for a shag and a free rub down aren't you dark?
I might be :rascal:
nah, i'm nosey, clearing up after the builders today and found my box of oils that i havent seen in ages, and it made me wonder.... about massage generally and particularly whether folk use it when playing on a sensual/ intimate level as part of the fun, or is it something you reserve for a close partner because it can be so intimate ?
Years ago I used to do alot of aromatherapy and healing art type stuff as well as practising other 'stuff'
I'm just being nosey & am interested to see if anyone else is into massage/ aromatherapy generally, and importantly can 'give' massage or who uses it within their swinging play?
(there's method in the madness, honest )
I'm just being nosey & am interested to see if anyone else is into massage/ aromatherapy generally, and importantly can 'give' massage or who uses it within their swinging play?
(there's method in the madness, honest
) 
Quote by Freckledbird
I think you should go and read the whole 'V' thread as penance!
I have to say, I think we all mean well and that this thread had good intentions but I think Dolly hit the nail on the head for me when she said (in PM, hope she doesn't mind me saying it here) that she understands my protectiveness. I think that it's just down to the fact that it's only really settled back down lately after the upheaval (think Cali mentioned that too) and we'd like a bit of normality for a while?
:thumbup:
Quote by Kiss_Me
i am here...... practically on the verge of a nervous breakdown :taz:
oh happy days :shock:
:therethere:
Poor you! I don't suppose any of the workmen are fit are they? :rascal:
just to update, and if anyone's local enough to pop round.........:rascal:
there are currently 12 men in my house :twisted:
kitchen fitters x3 - fit :twisted:
Heating man x1 - nice but not my type
Fire-ripper-outers X1 - nice but young
new water tank man X1 - ohhhh yes (but young)
trainee x1 - nah, forget it
gaffer x1 - i'm inviting him to stay.... or burying him under the patio .... depending on how much more stressed i get
pipe layers X2 - if ya desperate
man drinking tea and doing sod all else X1 - :taz:
my bloke, doing his nut :scared:
me :rascal:
the dog :shock:
scraggly arse kitten who's still here :shock: :eek:
they're in every room in the house bar this one., drilling, sawing, banging, there are 3 radios on......its absolute chaos.....and i really need my mate Jack
Help!!!!!!!!!!! :shock:
