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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
0 miles · Greater London
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,A perfect evening - which i'm not going to get tonight, but am very much looking foward to soon ...
a light dinner cooked in my new kitchen, on my new cooker, taken outside to the pergoda to the company of some select friends, good wine, chimnea lit and warming home made bread rolls and candle lanterns burning slowly, bloody good conversation over yet more wine, taking in the scent of the garden flowers (white jasmine, roses and night scented stock) and enjoying the intimate closeness and summer air until late .
:inlove:
ok ok someone smack me on the head with something heavy and make me normal again please
a light dinner cooked in my new kitchen, on my new cooker, taken outside to the pergoda to the company of some select friends, good wine, chimnea lit and warming home made bread rolls and candle lanterns burning slowly, bloody good conversation over yet more wine, taking in the scent of the garden flowers (white jasmine, roses and night scented stock) and enjoying the intimate closeness and summer air until late .
:inlove:
ok ok someone smack me on the head with something heavy and make me normal again please
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How's about we just award them this !
I'm not sure about this one Sassy & Foxy luv... from tongue in cheek jesting big oak trees grow and all that
we get newbies all the time who are kinda expected to ask questions (just not the same 'chatroom one' every ten minutes
) - and I think some of us actually like giving advice etc, it gives us a sense of worth in the big scheme of things (in terms of the site, and helping others find their feet) Admittedly though, there is a great big list (the FAQ's) that we could be spared, if people who are new to swinging spent a little time doing some research/ reading threads/ talking to a mentor before jumping straight in feet first with the first question that springs to mind simply because they're eager to join in ............. i wouldnt like to dish the Numpty Award out, its a bit like saying 'you're new here but you should know everything before you even sign in, and branding them as such.
although i'll happily accept one for my techy abilities, or lack of
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Because we remember how tense we were making the other couple feel 'at home' is important, as is making clear that we will do nothing more than all are happy with. Its not always teh ladies who are too tense, we have met some couples where the man is so on edge as well.
CnG
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Welcome to the Cafe btw
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karin slaughter is my favourite author right now, i also love the mother/daugher writing team pj tracy, and the jeffrey deaver "lincoln rhyme" series is great too...i dont read half as much as i want to these days...im on here too much!
I generally read factual books but when on holiday or relaxing I like to read anything about medical examiners or pathology etc.
I must have read all of Patricia Cornwell's books at least twice.
Martina Cole also writes a gritty story.
yeh i have a penchant for the pathologist/criminologist too, i have to say ive tried patricia cornwell but not been able to get ino her so to speak ahem is there one youd recomend?
I'm a big Cornwell fan - the one I'd recommend is the Body Farm, but you're far batter to read the whole series in order to follow the path of Scarpetta. They do get a bit 'more twists than a spiral perm' the more recent the publishing - I was very dissapointed with Predator after having to wait 6 moths to read it
but I still love her books. Nicki French also writes in this genre but imo her books a patch on the pathology insight Cornwell has.
Please note, for anyone who is new to Munches or has not had a Munch badge before, There is an update on the first post on page 1.
Kazswallows is very kindly providing Munch badges for this and will need your username / your names you require on your badges pm'd to her in plenty of time please. You can pm Kaz here or me if you have any questions :thumbup:
All names for munch badges will be checked against the guestlist before the night. You must be on the guestlist to gain entry.
Kazswallows is very kindly providing Munch badges for this and will need your username / your names you require on your badges pm'd to her in plenty of time please. You can pm Kaz here or me if you have any questions :thumbup:
All names for munch badges will be checked against the guestlist before the night. You must be on the guestlist to gain entry.
Quote by goose35
whats a vanilla partner??????
I've heard that ref but not 100% myself.
But i think it's a term for non swingers but i will be corrected if wrong.
:thumbup: - its how I describe my partner
long term relationship, been together 13 years. live together, have a child together but he doesnt swing, with me or alone, or have any wish to be part of the 'scene' -therefore he's vanilla
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but here's where I get confused :huh: - I'm only 'bi' - as in full on fancying another fem if they 'fit ' a particular type. I'm not attracted to all women, just as i'm not attracted to all blokes, she has to 'fit'
Same here Darkfire
but surely that goes without saying? i mean.....just coz someones gay it doesnt mean they fancy every other person of the same sex does it? so being bi doesnt mean youre looking at every other woman with that "head" on. im bi and just as i have a type of bloke i go for....i have a type of woman i go for too.
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it goes without saying hun, but we've been here before with the SBF thread! if a fem says she's bi, she's contacted by others wanting a SBF, regardless of whether she's your 'type' or not
I've met people who assume that I'll play because I'm bi - and therefore must fancy them 
, I've also had a couple of occasions when I've been pretty friendly with another fem and things have got a bit 'rocky' because she assumes because I'm bi there's an underlying agenda to our friendship fook me I'm lost already
but, from my own perspective, I've played with women, and am attracted to women as well as blokes, therefore in my own mind, I'm bi, because i've 'done it' and liked it and want to do it again
Bi-curious, to me, is thinking about it, fantasising about it, and kinda being attracted to other fems but wont be 100% sure til you've tried it, as in played with, not just snogged
I like 1:1 with another fem, not just to play as part of a 3some.... but I like (shock horror :shock
blokes far too much to want a relationship exclusively with another fem (cant call it lesbian, cos I like blokes too much, even though I rarely play with blokes from here ) - does that make any sense?
but here's where I get confused :huh: - I'm only 'bi' - as in full on fancying another fem if they 'fit ' a particular type. I'm not attracted to all women, just as i'm not attracted to all blokes, she has to 'fit'
but, from my own perspective, I've played with women, and am attracted to women as well as blokes, therefore in my own mind, I'm bi, because i've 'done it' and liked it and want to do it again
Bi-curious, to me, is thinking about it, fantasising about it, and kinda being attracted to other fems but wont be 100% sure til you've tried it, as in played with, not just snogged
I like 1:1 with another fem, not just to play as part of a 3some.... but I like (shock horror :shock
blokes far too much to want a relationship exclusively with another fem (cant call it lesbian, cos I like blokes too much, even though I rarely play with blokes from here ) - does that make any sense? but here's where I get confused :huh: - I'm only 'bi' - as in full on fancying another fem if they 'fit ' a particular type. I'm not attracted to all women, just as i'm not attracted to all blokes, she has to 'fit'
