you might also find this useful : http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/81218.html
this: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/main/aup.html
oh, and this: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/10408.html
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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
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Quote by bicuriousberks
has anyone actually used one before? Are they any good?
I have, but I dont recommend it, did sod all for me or them
aside from the visual 'wierdness' , you need to remember to stop pumping immediately when you get to the 'ok, jesus that's 'tight' ' stage, because even when you stop, the pump/ vacuum continues for another couple of seconds to the 'omg get it off me NOW that hurts' stage - and dont attempt to remove it immediately - leave it on a few minutues - thats how you get the 'super industrial strength collagen and very sore looking ' effect
not sure about anyone else, but once 'pumped', i couldnt feel a sodding thing , just swollen numbness - imo it does not increase sensitivity (although you'd think it would given what it looks like
- oh so very tempted to post a pic here :shock: but will spare you )oh, and it takes a couple of hours to 'go back to normal' - so do not attempt using one during your lunchtime quicky!
Quote by essex34m
why not try a meal in chinatown, then wander through soho, and see if anything catches the eye?
ohhhhh i miss that!
one of my fave nights out EVER :bounce: :bounce:
Spend the Saturday (cant remember now if Sundays was the better day
) wandering round Camden market (munch outfits galore, plus theres a fab little coffee/ organic bakery type shopette thing i know what i mean lol that sells freshly pressed apple juice & handmade carrot cake :inlove: ).....dammit i need a lottery win
Quote by girlonamission
You know its not right when....
2) 1 day before the meet, they guy in the couple confides in me for some reason that when he was 13 he played with a dog (NO..the meet did not go ahead)
ah the joys of this game....
:laughabove:
hun, you wouldnt believe how many times this has happened to me !! apparently in person I'm 'real easy to talk to' yadda yadda...... and some of the stuff people have 'opened up' to me about during the first coffee meet have left me gobsmacked : :
there was ....lets call him 'Nigel', who confided in me that he'd been having sex with his sister from the age of 14 :shock: ......
then there was 'Colin' who wanted to see me play with his snake because he 'could see that in me when i walked in' :shock: - and we're not talking the trouser variety here :shock: ......
and a few more I'm not even going to admit to
cos it gives me a complex that I actually attract these people :shock: :scared: but these days when someone utters the words 'oh i feel like i could talk to you about anything'........ I'm out the door
Just so folk are aware, if I dont reply to your post/ pm re this Munch, it's not cos I'm ignorant, it'll be because i'm not online due to building work/ re-wiring / stuff . If you have my number you are welcome to call me, but I should (hope) be able to get on here for a few mins daily to answer Munch-related pm's :thumbup:
Normal service resumes shortly ( well, in about 6 weeks but I'll be 'back' before then!)
Normal service resumes shortly
( well, in about 6 weeks but I'll be 'back' before then!) 
I'm really sorry to hear about this Miss LJI've searched and searched and I cant find any listing for a social in Kent on the 30th June listed in LMU - was it organised off this site? was it meant to be a group social or a meet-up for a drink pre-playing ?
Not sure if the search button is just not my friend as usual or if this was a privately arranged thing .... but I will tell you this much - that's not the way 'our' socials go hun. And frankly I'm disgusted to hear that anyone had to wait alone for an hour expecting a social meet :therethere:
Lets get this sorted - dont name and shame on the forum - pm a mod with your complaint & the name of the organiser, especially if was organised through the site (ie in Lets Meet Up)
oh, and this may be of some interest to you:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/82120.html
No whispers is also a rule in some of the rooms - so if you're in one of those and you/ someone whispers, then the recipient usually copies and pastes it into the room - and the whisperer usually gets kicked.
It is considered rude - but also its 'inconvenient' - some people like to chat openly in the room and being pulled off to one side for a private chat makes the room difficult to follow
its another one of those things that form the etiquette around here - particularly in chat, you'll pick it up pretty quick! :thumbup:
It is considered rude - but also its 'inconvenient' - some people like to chat openly in the room and being pulled off to one side for a private chat makes the room difficult to follow
its another one of those things that form the etiquette around here - particularly in chat, you'll pick it up pretty quick! :thumbup:
oooooooooo quick quick a single fem :bounce: :bounce:
I'm a bit confused as to what's going on here. "Minx and BigDanny" have been here a while ........... with adverts as a couple .....but Minx says she's just found out her other half (Danny??? ) has been here a while without her .....
and is now on a ' i'll get you back for this ya barstool, what's good for one is good for the other' mission' perhaps? its certainly the way it looks to me. am i missing something?
especially with this: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/795151.html#795151
I'm a bit confused as to what's going on here. "Minx and BigDanny" have been here a while ........... with adverts as a couple .....but Minx says she's just found out her other half (Danny??? ) has been here a while without her .....
and is now on a ' i'll get you back for this ya barstool, what's good for one is good for the other' mission' perhaps? its certainly the way it looks to me. am i missing something?
especially with this: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewpost/795151.html#795151
ooo what a quandry!
Markz prompted into doing a sensible post :shock:
She has said she doesnt want to move schools, she wants to be with her current classmates - but, as she moves schools and classes come Sept she'll be making new friends anyway and wont have that much contact with the ones she has right now - plus as she's only 7, she's not allowed to 'play out' so wouldnt be missing out on after-school friends either
Blimey, parenting, what a nightmare!
Markz prompted into doing a sensible post :shock:
She has said she doesnt want to move schools, she wants to be with her current classmates - but, as she moves schools and classes come Sept she'll be making new friends anyway and wont have that much contact with the ones she has right now - plus as she's only 7, she's not allowed to 'play out' so wouldnt be missing out on after-school friends either
Blimey, parenting, what a nightmare!
Quote by shayz1
Hi,
This is a big subject but I think what you also need to throw into a complex personal equation like this is what your children are like and what they would in particular get from this that you can not do yourself....
Hope these thoughts are not too opinionated and you find them useful to do the sums!
best wishes,
Shay
Hiya Shayz - replies are never too opinionated - I wouldnt ask unless I wanted them!
In terms of what she's like and what she would get from the Steiner way I've kinda already weighed up. I do feel that already she is being 'held back' from her abilities - its simple things like having access to sufficient books - she has the reading age of an 11 year old and needs reading books changed daily or loses interest completely - at her current school she's lucky if she gets to change her reading book once a week because there is simply not enough individual attention for someone to listen to her read. She would get that with Steiner. She's also a very focussed creative child, very arty farty - loves music, dance, creative arts, drama.... she even likes Shakespear ffs!
I've been thinking about it seriously for 2 years now, and as she moves up to Junior school in Sept, i'm feeling a bit like 'well, its now or never'. What's topped it off is that for the last 4 weeks running I've taken her to local community arts events - drama workshops, summer galas, short extracts from Shakespear plays and alternative storytelling to music type events - and she is in her element! She is a full-on hippy chick
Corriefem wrote:
I moved mine from a traditional school for my first 2 to put them into a progressive forward thinking school. They ended up later on both having no interest in education and my second son needing remedial support for english because of the progressive individual teaching methods.
Hiya Corrie
see, this is the bit I'm struggling with - I doubt very much that if and once she's attended the Steiner school, that she will 'fit' back in to mainstream ed should the need arise. She is incredibly bright and excels at school when given the opportunity - but Steiner teaching methods are a world away from the local Junior school and i think that once she's in the Steiner school she'll be there til she's 16. Its also a massive financial committment but I feel like I cant skinflint over her education.
Waldorf Steiner schools are fee paying, alternative curriculum Mike,
here's a link to the site:
but in essence, children are not taught to read and write or study academic subjects until they're 7 (mine has already had 2 years of mainsream ed - maths, English, Science, IT etc) - they're taught in a very creative, artistic way (walking round the school is like being at a mini version of Glastonbury Festival for kids )
So to most people the Steiner way is very 'arty farty' and spiritual , but after 7, teaches not only academic subjects, languages and natural science but works on the principal of developing the individual child (through developing brain/ body faculties, social skills, creativity & lateral thinking) rather than delivering a government-prescibed curriculum to a class of 35 children who all have individual learning needs (imo), and encourages individuality rather than acheiving good results for school league tables (although their results generally are very good). Much of what is taught is humanities-based.
Children attend lessons according to ability - so bright 7 year olds can be educated in the same classes as 14 year olds, particularly in vocational subjects. Steiner doesnt follow the National Curriculum as 'we' know it , although they do do GCSE's.
I think! hence why I'm asking!
here's a link to the site:
but in essence, children are not taught to read and write or study academic subjects until they're 7 (mine has already had 2 years of mainsream ed - maths, English, Science, IT etc) - they're taught in a very creative, artistic way (walking round the school is like being at a mini version of Glastonbury Festival for kids
) So to most people the Steiner way is very 'arty farty' and spiritual , but after 7, teaches not only academic subjects, languages and natural science but works on the principal of developing the individual child (through developing brain/ body faculties, social skills, creativity & lateral thinking) rather than delivering a government-prescibed curriculum to a class of 35 children who all have individual learning needs (imo), and encourages individuality rather than acheiving good results for school league tables (although their results generally are very good). Much of what is taught is humanities-based.
Children attend lessons according to ability - so bright 7 year olds can be educated in the same classes as 14 year olds, particularly in vocational subjects. Steiner doesnt follow the National Curriculum as 'we' know it , although they do do GCSE's.
I think! hence why I'm asking! 
Hiya
right, I know this isnt at all swinging related, and there'll only be a few replies, if any, but....
I am very interested in the Steiner education system and wondered if any of you lot were Steiner educated or have children at a Steiner school?
I enrolled my daughter aged 5 but circumstances (money and travel time) meant it just wasnt dooable at that time, but now it is, and we're lucky enough to have a school less than an hour's drive away . I would really like her to come out of 'mainstream' education and go the Steiner way.
Obviously she's been in mainstream ed for 2 years now so has missed the kindergarten emphasis which i feel are the foundation blocks of this alternative system - so, if you're 'in the know' or have any advice at all, feel free to pm me or post in here.
Ta
right, I know this isnt at all swinging related, and there'll only be a few replies, if any, but....
I am very interested in the Steiner education system and wondered if any of you lot were Steiner educated or have children at a Steiner school?
I enrolled my daughter aged 5 but circumstances (money and travel time) meant it just wasnt dooable at that time, but now it is, and we're lucky enough to have a school less than an hour's drive away . I would really like her to come out of 'mainstream' education and go the Steiner way.
Obviously she's been in mainstream ed for 2 years now so has missed the kindergarten emphasis which i feel are the foundation blocks of this alternative system - so, if you're 'in the know' or have any advice at all, feel free to pm me or post in here.
Ta
There's a pub in the town centre of where I live that's thinking about it :shock:
along with regular fetish nights and various other 'events'. I've already been offered exclusive use - but turned it down
Bit too 'on the doorstep' for me , and certainly not the best of ideas when it comes to personal safety and acceptance of 'yocals' :scared:
along with regular fetish nights and various other 'events'. I've already been offered exclusive use - but turned it down
Bit too 'on the doorstep' for me , and certainly not the best of ideas when it comes to personal safety and acceptance of 'yocals' :scared:
Quote by cockslut
i understand what your saying darkfire, but why would people join a swingers site (that now costs you) if they not swingers?
there are many people here who dont actually 'swing'. There are also many who 'swing' on and off, as and when it suits them due to family/ work/ stuff generally. Most importantly though, there's new people everyday who may simply be experimenting, exploring more about their sexuality and are dipping their toes in the water..... They might be considering swinging but havent yet made that decision - and its particularly these folk who are at the back of my mind in this thread, both in terms of not yet knowing the etiquette or definitions of what a social is/ isnt, and wandering feet first into something they didnt expect, or dont know how to deal with.
