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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
0 miles · Greater London
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Quote by H-x
My munch hat died :cry:
but I bought a new one - fushia pink suede, and its gorgeous :bounce: :inlove:
problem is it makes me look like BoyGeorge :shock: , so its going on Ebay :cry:
That must be some hat! You don't look anything like BoyGeorge.
I feel a chat room hat modelling session brewing (only if everyone else joins in!)
H.x
me and my big mouth :doh:
Quote by Kiss_Me
Anyway Darkfire... I'm sure you don't attract 'them' - you're just a nice person that's talkative and non-judgemental, where as I'm a very suspicious young thing at times.
xxx
:laughabove: ooooo hunny, u have noooo idea!
Quote by earthchild
If they start to get on my nerves on msn with the ususal idiot questions they get blocked.
Earthy xx
I'm not the only one with a 'screening process' then ?
Quote by splendid33
Me..... well as part of my profession I get to meet the card carrying certificate waving "nut cases" I like to think that I can spot them a mile off. But then the clinical/professional side can kick in and I want to help them. ! :shock:
but mainly outside of work as soon as I sense that something is not quite right then I am outta there. - ignore PMs. block on MSN. etc etc. I cut 'em off without a 2nd thought...
Yes i know exactly what you mean Kiss_Me - professionally I tend to cross paths with the card carrying type, but outside of work, personally, having these people in or attempting to get into your own personal life is different, imo anyway
I wonder if this is the sort of thing that gets many of us branded timewasters? maybe its sometimes a breakdown in communication, or crossed wires, or simply just not on the same wavelength that sometimes is reason enough to think 'sod this' and disappear off msn etc without explanation that sometimes gets misinterprted as timewasting? In the same breath of course is that crossed wires can sometimes lead to us cutting people out our lives altogether.
Then on the flip side of that of course there's those who you kinda get to know for a while before you actually meet, and the alarm bells kick in once you're face to face. (I have a little story about one of those
) Then there's the one's who you actually let into your life - and that's where the danger zone is. I am very 'guarded' like that - and like Earthy says, people need to earn respect and trust before I let them in....... the real problem, wether you trust your insticts or not, is that the fruitcakes/ liars/ dodgy-to-the-point-of-dangerous ones are usually very clever, and very manipulative and you reach a point where you even question yourself and your gut feelings, and possibly even ignore them, and before you know it, Miss or Mr screw-with-your-head has their feet right under the table :scared:
I've made snap decisions based on gut instinct alone in almost every area of my life - people, jobs, money... but my instinct with people has never failed me yet, hence I'm not one to leave it to chance or 'ooo maybe its just a crossed wires thing, i'll give em the benefit of the doubt' .
After a msn chat with yet another complete fruitcake this morning (not someone from here may I add) , I'm wondering what other people's experiences are of those who are not always as they seem?
I know we've had our fair share of characters here who have been firmly placed in the 'dont touch with a bargepole' box, and there's always the couple who's female half is always 'unavailable' if you call.... the single bloke masquerading as a female, and the 'genuine' single bloke who's not really single his wife just doesnt know, etc......
But I also mean the real headcases, the predators, the ones who are manipulative & psychologicllay dangerous.... you know, when you get that niggling gut feeling that tells you that something's not right but you cant put your finger on it.... when the pieces of the jigsaw just dont fit...... and things they say just dont fit to the person or character who's saying them..... the snippet of conversation that leaves you wandering off thinking 'wtf?'.....the way they sometimes get so deep inside your head and start playing about with the bits in there...... and that little voice in your head or the little ache deep in your belly that screams at you to get out now while you can?
Now me, I must either attract these people like a magnet, or i've finely tuned my internal warning system (intuition) to 24/7 red alert and can spot them a mile off. Other times it takes a while.
and I sit there wondering how the hell I didnt spot it sooner.:doh:... but does anyone else pay much attention to intuition, or do you kinda ignore it and see how things go or rely on sounding it out with friends ?
Me, I'm gone, the minute the alarm bell starts ringing. I see it as my innate self defence system.
I know we've had our fair share of characters here who have been firmly placed in the 'dont touch with a bargepole' box, and there's always the couple who's female half is always 'unavailable' if you call.... the single bloke masquerading as a female, and the 'genuine' single bloke who's not really single his wife just doesnt know, etc......
But I also mean the real headcases, the predators, the ones who are manipulative & psychologicllay dangerous.... you know, when you get that niggling gut feeling that tells you that something's not right but you cant put your finger on it.... when the pieces of the jigsaw just dont fit...... and things they say just dont fit to the person or character who's saying them..... the snippet of conversation that leaves you wandering off thinking 'wtf?'.....the way they sometimes get so deep inside your head and start playing about with the bits in there...... and that little voice in your head or the little ache deep in your belly that screams at you to get out now while you can?
Now me, I must either attract these people like a magnet, or i've finely tuned my internal warning system (intuition) to 24/7 red alert and can spot them a mile off. Other times it takes a while.
and I sit there wondering how the hell I didnt spot it sooner.:doh:... but does anyone else pay much attention to intuition, or do you kinda ignore it and see how things go or rely on sounding it out with friends ? Me, I'm gone, the minute the alarm bell starts ringing. I see it as my innate self defence system.
hwoar:
I am scrimping and scraping the pennies to get to Bulldog..... but its looking unlikey :cry:
there's 10 of us so far gonna meet up for drinks/ food and laughs at R&B on the Friday, but I'm now camping with vanilla biker mates - that said, if anyone wants to have that SH camp corner, pm me please
there's 10 of us so far gonna meet up for drinks/ food and laughs at R&B on the Friday, but I'm now camping with vanilla biker mates - that said, if anyone wants to have that SH camp corner, pm me please
