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Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
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Quote by freckledbird
Well tonight I'm being a taxi - took Chris into town to meet some mates and I'll be going to pick him up when he's pissed
I love to sit in the garden with a nice glass of wine or a few beers, with friends, just having a natter and a laugh.
Chris, pissed :shock: now that I've got to see :giggle:
natter and laughs with friends is good, I dont really have opportunity to do that though, with my daughter around - she's nosey
Garden hasnt been fit to have guests round of late, but I'm working on it! 
This last week we've had some glorious sunshine and late summer nights, tonight i am indoors cos i'm on here and have paperwork to do but usually on evenings like this I'm out in the garden sitting in the warm air enjoying the garden smells ( I have night-scented stock everywhere and I grow climbing roses as a hobby , believe it or not ) with yet more paperwork or just chillin out.
I know lots of people enjoy BBQ's etc, so how do you like to spend your summer evenings?
Do you enjoy family time, or share it with friends here? do you enjoy time to yourself or go down the pub? Go for a drive/ ride on the bike? ..... possibilities are endless, so i'm interested to hear what you lot do to make the most of the weather while we've got it 
but usually on evenings like this I'm out in the garden sitting in the warm air enjoying the garden smells ( I have night-scented stock everywhere and I grow climbing roses as a hobby , believe it or not ) with yet more paperwork or just chillin out. I know lots of people enjoy BBQ's etc, so how do you like to spend your summer evenings?
Do you enjoy family time, or share it with friends here? do you enjoy time to yourself or go down the pub? Go for a drive/ ride on the bike? ..... possibilities are endless, so i'm interested to hear what you lot do to make the most of the weather while we've got it i dont think anyphysical marks put me off - its the mentality that swings it everytime - I'm pretty damn good at spotting it now and the minute i think all is not quite as it seems/ he/she is a twat or any other attributes I dont like, I'm gone.
I think the only thing that really doesnt appeal to me is skinny-to-the-point-of being=able-to-see-ribs/ chicken legs I just dont like it, dunno why - that, and small beady eyes on blokes who look a bit..... shifty :shock: *shudders*
I think the only thing that really doesnt appeal to me is skinny-to-the-point-of being=able-to-see-ribs/ chicken legs
I just dont like it, dunno why - that, and small beady eyes on blokes who look a bit..... shifty :shock: *shudders* I'm very like you HLB, actual swinging really isnt the be all and end all, its definately the icing on the cake - but I can totally take it or leave it.
I think my perspective on the whole thing has changed and i'm very much more into the social side now - which also fits nicely into my life at the mo: ie I can manage ( and enjoy) my coffee meets and 'doing lunch', I'm not good at being 'available' generally to travel far or for more than a couple of hours at a time cos I have other 'stuff' to attend to.
I'm a sessional worker rather than part/full time , some weeks I work 12 hours, some I work 50 - its very irregular so actually trying to pin me down for a 'meet' is difficult. On top of that I have a family, studies and a home to run and if i'm on a 50 hour week I'm afraid swinging goes on the back burner because they will always come first. I tend to play at/ after munches or other stuff I've had organised for ages which really takes the sponteneity out of it :cry:
This time last year I had an FB i could just call up as and when, and it worked brilliantly. I dont have that now and I miss it. On that point though I'm not willing to compromise or swing just for the sake of it, so right now I'm not actually swinging at all as there's no one in the pipeline :shock: :cry:
I think my perspective on the whole thing has changed and i'm very much more into the social side now - which also fits nicely into my life at the mo: ie I can manage ( and enjoy) my coffee meets and 'doing lunch', I'm not good at being 'available' generally to travel far or for more than a couple of hours at a time cos I have other 'stuff' to attend to.
I'm a sessional worker rather than part/full time , some weeks I work 12 hours, some I work 50 - its very irregular so actually trying to pin me down for a 'meet' is difficult. On top of that I have a family, studies and a home to run and if i'm on a 50 hour week I'm afraid swinging goes on the back burner because they will always come first. I tend to play at/ after munches or other stuff I've had organised for ages which really takes the sponteneity out of it :cry:
This time last year I had an FB i could just call up as and when, and it worked brilliantly. I dont have that now and I miss it. On that point though I'm not willing to compromise or swing just for the sake of it, so right now I'm not actually swinging at all as there's no one in the pipeline :shock: :cry:
Quote by Vix-n-Reese
Now, those of you who know Vix & I know that weekends (late Friday nights and the entirety of Saturdays) are the only times we have an opportunity to swing. Thus, to have two bail out in one weekend is a total loss.
...Secondly, I'm a rapidly-ageing, beardy American bloke! Then again, I can see it from Vix' perspective as well: Is she too aggressive for most guys' tastes? Are people really frightened of her?!
... We take our swinging seriously, and expect a commitment for a meet to be just that - a commitment. Sadly, this has not been the case.
So, any suggestions? Do we really put prospective swinging partners off that much?! I need to know...
Cheers,
~Reese!
At 4am, the best I can come up with is a direct Maybe it's that expectation of committment that's the problem?? You are both confident people and many might find that intimidating - be it either (a) approaching you in the first place and (b) being able to say 'actually, I've changed my mind, sorry'
although when you said
P.S. ...and the really depressing thing is that both of the blokes for this weekend had met up with us before, and had subsequently expressed an interest in meeting up with us againit kinda blew my theory out of the water - or did it?
From my own experience I am aware that 'straightupness' , confidence and often experience, scares the shit out of some folk here. Some find the honesty refreshing, others will (and do) run for the hills because there's always a chance you'll say exactly what you think and that might include rejection or telling him he's not 'doing it right', ya know?
Quote by foxylady2209
Do stretch marks count?
Guys how do you feel about them? My stomach looks like - well, like I had a baby. LOL
I love scars - really bad ones on the face are a bit of a shock at first - but they don't make someone unattractive.
That's exactly it Foxy, they dontmake someone unattractive - well, I dont think so anyway. More part and parcel of the person and usually if I like someone enough to get naked with them I dont even 'see' the physical 'imperfections' anyway.
Stretch marks on a woman just dont bother me at all, I have full on 'baby marks' and I got them through having a baby
Its not something I'm ashamed of or hide, and the amount of times I hear women on here 'apologise' for having stretch marks drives me mad! If I'm playing with anther fem it's kinda like I just dont 'see' them, I'm a hell of alot more into them, their body and their mind to think about a few stretch marks! I have a large nasty ceaserean / subsequent ops scar which doesnt look like a nice clean line its suposed to and I do get very concious of it in clubs, it pulls my belly in such a way that you can actually see it through my clothes - but I've never seen anyone gawp at it or do anything to make me more paraniod, more a glance, 'oh, blimey' and carries on what they're doing
Shayz said:
For what it is worth womens scars of giving birth also have to be a badge of honour too?For me, yes I think they are. I think all mother's have a 'badge of honou'r simply cos of what we had to go through to get them! Mine is a permanent reminder of dying in theatre 3 times and still coming out the other side a mother, and on other fems I do tend to see them as generally 'womanly' :shock:
That said, I dont think hipster jeans and a short top with stretch marks on show is 'attractive' - thats just Chav! 
