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Quote by Alleyson
I've also noticed that there are fewer munches planned now too. Imho I think it's got something to do with the fact that since the site was taken over, some people have moved onto other sites and are no longer members here and as such can't attend munches. They can however attend socials - socials can't be stickied and unless someone is continuiously bumping the threads they fall off page 1. Could be a reason maybe
Just my two'pennorth for what it's worth
Alleyson xxx
actuallly I think you're spot on with your two'penneth worth :thumbup:
I think many of what would/could have been 'munches' are now being billed as socials because of the politics/ red tape surrounding officially sanctioned events and its just easier for the organiser to handle. Particularly as many of those who regularly attend such gatherings are resident on two sites.
The other one that concerns me is that as there is now a trend to 'do' socials not Munches but Munches are still up there in the 'if you havent munched you havent lived' type category', the reigns that have been dropped by more well known & experienced members are being picked up by those who *perhaps* dont fully understand the beast they're taking on and the responsibility that goes with it.
The other one that concerns me is that as there is now a trend to 'do' socials not Munches but Munches are still up there in the 'if you havent munched you havent lived' type category', the reigns that have been dropped by more well known & experienced members are being picked up by those who *perhaps* dont fully understand the beast they're taking on and the responsibility that goes with it.
Quote by dambuster
But many times in my life, I've been on the way somewhere, or back; and just couldn't resist the temptation to pull over into a layby or services for a bit of quick, passionate - animal rumpitypumpity.
cant say as there are any particular vehicles I've played in....
but I did have an fb with whom I did alot of car-sharing and I dont think we ever managed more than 10 miles without doing 'that look' at each other, veering off down some farm track/ slip road/ driveway/ works entrance/ country park/ grass verge/ woodland area/ beauty spot...and shagging each other stupid in record time before getting back in the car, continuing on our way, grinning like cheshire cats and giggling like girls :giggle:
oh happy days
When I see someone write something ridiculous my hands hover over the keyboard. I try to restrain myself but sometimes it's just too tempting - like waving a red rag to a rottweiler and screaming "flame me, flame me"
more than happy to put my hands up to that one too HLB
i hate to say it, ok, that was a fib, i dont hate to say it at all, I like it
... and i like it even more when it goes one of two ways (1) the poster comes back and has a go :twisted:
: : (2) the poster comes back and has a go but kinda sees the error of their ways so to speak and the whole things twists from a flaming/ sarcastic comment thread to a 'welcome to the forums, get your butt over to the Cafe thread'.
sometimes - and I often do this - responding to a thread just to say you cant make it serves as (1) a bump up the page..... (2) a :thumbup: for the person who wants to meet cos I know them and know they're genuine etc so might encourage someone who's interested to reply - a bit like 'vouching for' .... or (3) because its a well written post - not a one liner with no info - and responding to it is a way of wishing them luck and saying 'I cant make this particular meet, but I might be interested in future'.
I *think* its a glitch
I always use the 'hide your online status' option (super stealth ninja mode) as all it actually does (i think ) is hide my name from the 'members online now' list at the bottom of the Cafe homepage and therefore stops any one-line brigaders from simply clicking on it and sending a crappy pm. If I'm online/ in my mailbox/browsng phto ads it says so in my profile anyway, regardless of wether I show up on the 'who's online' list....
i know it does defeat the object a little - but it is effective at cutting down the off-chance 'ooo there's a name i'll click it' pm's
I always use the 'hide your online status' option (super stealth ninja mode) as all it actually does (i think
) is hide my name from the 'members online now' list at the bottom of the Cafe homepage and therefore stops any one-line brigaders from simply clicking on it and sending a crappy pm. If I'm online/ in my mailbox/browsng phto ads it says so in my profile anyway, regardless of wether I show up on the 'who's online' list....i know it does defeat the object a little - but it is effective at cutting down the off-chance 'ooo there's a name i'll click it' pm's
When I first came here, the hijacking used to drive me bananas, and I did see it as an 'in group out group clique' thing - which I'm sure many new members do too.
That siad, I then began to see it as an acceptance thing - especially when the thread starter doesnt get on their high horse and start moaning about thier thread being hijacked
However, I do think there is a time and a thread for hijacking, and the best example of this I can give is the sbf thread recently. Bloody fascinating thread with some really good insightful comments on it, but like most other threads it was hijacked and that effectively killed the discussion.
I think perhaps the 'discussion' looked like it was done and dusted because it was one-sided. But I often wonder how further we may have been enlightened if it had been allowed to run its course (if it hadnt already)
I do think though that to many, and especially to newer members/ folk who dont use the Cafe that much, that hijacking generally appearsvery much to look like a 'right, we'vehad enough of this one now' than it does 'acceptance'.
That siad, I then began to see it as an acceptance thing - especially when the thread starter doesnt get on their high horse and start moaning about thier thread being hijacked
However, I do think there is a time and a thread for hijacking, and the best example of this I can give is the sbf thread recently. Bloody fascinating thread with some really good insightful comments on it, but like most other threads it was hijacked and that effectively killed the discussion.
I think perhaps the 'discussion' looked like it was done and dusted because it was one-sided. But I often wonder how further we may have been enlightened if it had been allowed to run its course (if it hadnt already)
I do think though that to many, and especially to newer members/ folk who dont use the Cafe that much, that hijacking generally appearsvery much to look like a 'right, we'vehad enough of this one now' than it does 'acceptance'.
fookin hell, i got all excited then!!
can u imagine if one of us lot did win it - and the party/ munch we'd throw for everyone here??? :shock: :shock: :twisted: , well, i would anyway!
other than that, just enough for a little house in the country with land for horses and a small-holding type self sufficient household, good education for my daughter and cash in the bank to never have to worry about how i'll pay the next bill that drops through the door and yep, i'd be well happy
can u imagine if one of us lot did win it - and the party/ munch we'd throw for everyone here??? :shock: :shock: :twisted: , well, i would anyway!
other than that, just enough for a little house in the country with land for horses and a small-holding type self sufficient household, good education for my daughter and cash in the bank to never have to worry about how i'll pay the next bill that drops through the door and yep, i'd be well happy
barstard Quote by Sarah
Does this mean I have to wear my jods and riding boots :giggle:
Sarah, if you want to wear Jods and boots, wear em
, but you could decadent it up a bit with a pretty, cool, (and near see though :twisted: ) white shirt and even a black waspie corset (gypsy style) - ok, so you wouldnt ride ya horse like that..... but riding certainly fits the theme :twisted: 
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However, im finding it rather difficult to establish just how im going to do the decadence part.....in other words, i need assistance with being decadent, and would appreciate your assistance thereto. :shock:
decadent
• adjective 1 characterized by moral or cultural decline.( :twisted: ) 2 luxuriously self-indulgent. ( :thumbup: )
— DERIVATIVES decadence noun decadently adverb.
Decadence and blokes ..... hmm......Dapper????? well, seeing as being swingers we already qualify for the moral decline bit (
) I'm thinking along the lines of clothing/ image/ appearance and attitude and literally being luxurious and indulging yourself and your senses. So, how's about a silk(y) shirt? silk tie? (always useful for later :rascal: ) velvet/ brocade jacket? go posh and come in a dinner jacket/ tux :twisted: you could go the whole 9 yards and dress up as a highway man......breeches and boots type stuff :twisted: or a much simpler way..... .new bottle of fave aftershave..... new bottle of expensive aftershave (or if you're a skinflint, go to one of the perfume counters in Debehams and ask for a 1.5 ml tester vial
) ....wear leather shoes instead of trainers..... have a manicure/ facial on Friday ..... - on top of the self-indulgence side of decadence, and for the ladies you could also look at gothic or renaissance fashion, think Daniel Defoe's Moll Flanders...... Agent Provocateur.....Dita Von Teese.....baroque.....burlesque (google em if you're still stuck :giggle
the easiest way I guess is to do a particular material or colour - purple or black silky shirt for example, or a heavy black velvet jacket/ waistcoat/ silk tie (definately worth a hunt round some charity shops/ ebay etc) - it isnt meant to be full on fancy dress, just something a little out of the ordinary
in edit:
‘dressing up’ is entirely optional of course – but I’m thinking this could be a great excuse to dig out (or treat yourself to) sensual fabrics – velvet, silks, satin, cashmere, leather…. maybe even cocktail dresses & dapper dinner jackets … cleavages and corsets..... Jewel like colours – golds, reds, purples, greens…....
for those who dont want to go the whole hog, be decadent & wear scarlett lipstick....or a corsage.... heady perfumes…..swathes of heels…...pashminas.....silk scarves....velvet chokers....sparkles.....glitter....sequins........ you get the idea! :lol2:
Even something as simple as treating yourself to a lovely long relaxing soak with your favourite bubble bath (or Lush stuff
It’s not going to be a ‘posh doo’ :shock: by any means (come on folks, you know me!!
Remember though - This is a purely social event & it is a private function room within a vanilla establishment so it's 'Indulgent' rather than OTT !
Hope that's of some help - but like I say, its optional, and if you're stuck, pm me!
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Dear Miss Rottweiler, maybe changing your Avatar would generate more interest
Nah, if people are put off by the avatar, then its serving its purpose really isnt it
and i would trust that those who know me can see past the rottweiler anyway, those who cant, well, do they really wanna be at my party anyway? 