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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
0 miles · Greater London

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I agree Sassy - I feckin love this site , but perhaps because of the people in it than the 'site' itself. I spend way too much time on here but in the same breath I get a little lost without it.
Yes I rant, alot lol , and yes there's whingers, but sometimes I think that helps things stay balanced and 'real'. You cant please 100% members 100% of the time, and without the differing opinions, the rants, the whinges etc it would all be just a little bit too sickly sweet nicey nicey up each other's arses & fake lol. I love how most people say what they think here - as opposed to saying what others want to hear/ expect you to say because of some innate need to 'fit in' - now often someone will get shot down in flames for it, but the fact they say it in the first place - and SH attracts such people - is one of the reasons I stayed..... that, and this:
Some of the threads and posts have had me holding my sides with laughter and have resulted in my coffee being wiped off the moniter on several occasions !

but above all its the people I love - i might not like a few of em ( lol ) but they're what make this site what it is! wink
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Couldn't do that without naming, but it has happened in the cafe when one of the paying members claimed that they deserved to be treated differently.

Ah yes, that one. Not likely to forget her are we lol And credit where its due, a very good and appropriate example but I'm not surprised that its that particular one you've chosen , can you imagine the uproar if a ban hadnt have occurred? :shock:
Most of the bans are made by the site mods and ops, admin investigates and tries to resolve all complaints, we don't want trouble makers here, all of us including mods and ops do try to educate people where we can before banning, but its not always possible.

So, effectively then, Mods and Ops make a decision which is referred to you (Admin) and ultimately rests at your feet for resolution. Would you say then that it's just as simple a process to ban someone who's paid for access to this site for 12 months as it is someone who hasnt? dunno
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Really Darkfire, everybody gets treated equally and all members are expected to follow the rules.

Good.
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Also I'd hate to think that paying members get labelled as being different or more likely to direct or cause abuse, this isn't the case, its the members that don't understand or haven't learnt how to behave that cause issues, the majority have been members here since before we arrived.

I agree wholeheartedly on the bit in bold.... no issues there. And I'm sure I didnt mean that if someone has paid to be here then they're more likley to direct - although for those who dont understand this place and the lifestyle I'm pretty sure there's at least some element of 'well, I've paid for this and want my money's worth'.
But if you can show me evidence to back up the last bit, then I will eat humble pie. wink
Quote by McrM4M-pvtOK
Frankly, if some people don't take the hint after a number of warnings, kicks and 24-hour bans, perhaps it's time to hit the big red button on them and wave bye-bye. They aren't the sort of people we want on here anyway.

Unfortunately, they're usually the one's who've paid the £50 subscription, and hence will be going nowhere in a hurry. rolleyes wink
a shed load? :giggle:
lol lol , excellent. that should last you til oooo at least tomorrow lol
wave Nice intro
Welcome Paul biggrin
( a very very promising start! just dont listen to Sheddy unless he's been on the valium wink )
Quote by Sgt Bilko
I understand what you mean about it being a matter of respect, but once someone is allowed to get away with "It would be nice to see your tits" I can guarantee that that the next person, having seen them get away with that would come back with something like "Yeah! Get em out!!" confused confused confused confused

Agreed
I hate to say it, but when the directors start.... switch ya bloody cam off lol
dont faff about, just turn it off.
that pisses everyone off, the room gets pissed at the directors and the cams stay off until people learn their bloody lesson. Its not that hard....... dunno
oh wait, yes it is, cos *some* cammers play to the attention in whatever form it takes, disrespectul or not. Attention is attention I guess, if ya need it enough. :twisted:
problem is they spoil it for everyone else and while us lot bang on about 'dont direct' and 'be thankful for what you can see', the directors will always find another room where someone is happy to play on cam and take it rolleyes
(see why I was staying out of this? lol )
on a lighter note..... ( lol she's off again ), one of the things that really tickles me is when there's a couple playing on cam/ or a single fem and its obvious from what you can see that they're no where near the bloody keyboard, and very into what they're doing (fantastic biggrin ), and some feckin numpty is repeatedly typing questions and directions at them expecting a response...(ffs rolleyes ) then gets the hump cos the cammers dont respond lol Feckin numpties rolleyes lol
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... but I have noticed some fems on cam who seem to quite enjoy a bit of gentle directing, Caron included. I’m not talking about the crude and yobbish behaviour that can be seen in some rooms.
But Caron, (and I’ve seen others) responds quite well to a little gentle persuasion, and enjoys the attention, so where do you draw the line? After all, directing, is directing, even if it’s polite and considered??
Just thought I’d throw it in for consideration dunno

I was avoiding this, but I'll respond to your post Pete.
I've only recently started using the chatroom and i'll often now nip in if i'm bored. But - the Directors, and the sheer disrespectfulness of their comments riles me beyond words. I never stay long - and thats me, who's had her cam on twice, ever.
The problem is that while its perfectly ok to respond positively to the more gentle requests and compliments, they are few and far between - and my feeling is that the 'get ya tits out luv' and 'go on, slip a finger in' brigade are blind to how such requests are made, they see a fem respond to it and it encourages them even more. The cammer is responding to one polite request, but showing to everyone else who's watching too.
As i dont show on cam my comments may piss a few people off - but as a watcher, and now a 'ffs mate shut up and be thankful for what you can see' comment-maker, I thought i'd give ya my 2p worth wink
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are you volunteering for PM victim of the week, Miss D? wink

yep biggrin
I tell you an even better idea, why dont all you 'nice single guys' drop me a pm so I know who and where you are, and then I'll try to work out where it is I've gone wrong. :thumbup:
Lesson 1.
never be lolled into a false sense of security, the pink fluff is just there for decoration
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I am not a performing seal (tm Dambuster) and i will not come out of nowhere in psycho bitch attack mode just because you've directed( mad ) me to. flipa
(now look, you've made me laugh so it'll be at least another 20 minutes wait for the Dark Goes Off on One Again Show )
rotflmao rotflmao
chatroom directors are a pet hate of mine (alongside a few others lol ), so I'm not even gonna go there!
but, wave Hello again, nice to see you back here and posting biggrin
no hun, i dont think you are....
and you'll find that many folk here may treat every private party like thier first - we still get nervous and a bit unsure etc - and, what makes you think that there isnt a few of us who quite like soft swing/ girl on girl to start of with without the pressure of a 'full-on' party and expectation to full swap?
I'd be very interested in this - but, I'm not new, Liverpool is a pain in the ass for me to get to and mid June is smack bang in the middle of munch season (if there is such a thing anymore lol ) - but I thought I'd give you my thoughts.
The only problem I can see is that you're pretty new yourselves, I dont know anything about you and my only concern would be 'do you know the other people who'd be coming along'. I also noticed in one of your previous posts that you'd need a venue/ use someone elses house - and that, to me, means pulling someone else into the equasion (and being the cynic that i am, i'd question their agenda for offering) It may well be that other people are thinking the same - but I do wish you both luck with it :thumbup: wink
Well, bring him with you lol
do you want me to have words?? :twisted: :rascal:
no seriously luv, i understand... but, if ya change your mind, drop me a pm biggrin
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If you don't like the unwelcome attention from single guys at the club you go to, have you considered going on a Couples & single fems only night? dunno

Why have I got this mad idea about an all girlies-with-attitude SH outing to a club on singles night? :twisted:
allowed to play???? :shock: the only person who needs to give permission here is me lol
get your butt up here hun, you are more than welcome if you want to come
:cry: I'd have replied, if you'd have sent me one (a pm, not a wink)
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