and you ignored them
(in edit: Benito asked a genuine question, to which you read the answers and then did the 'oooo look at meeee' thing , tut tut )
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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
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Quote by Morbius
What do SBFs look for in a couple? ...
There seems to be some levelling of criticism of couples and their attitude towards bi-fems - which I do understand, but there's no helpful suggestions or pointers as too where they are going wrong!
I cant answer this properly without giving a really personal viewpoint that I guess only applies to ME - but I'll have a bash.
Personally - this sounds perfect (for me) :
If/when we invite a SBF to join us we are doing just that, asking her to JOIN us, we're looking at having fun WITH a SBF, as in all 3 of us having mutual fun. This is a 3 way!! 3 people, 3 times the fun, 3 people having equal fun.
However - again, I can only speak for me, -
I also get the impression ... that some SBFs that are interested in joining a couple and having most of the fun with the bi-fem of the couple. Now as far as we are concerned, at this moment in time what we're looking for/interested in is having a SBF join US, 3 people equal fun.
My ad does state that I would primarily be looking to play (soft swing) rather than shag the bloke of a couple. That includes just about anything (in edit: exept feet
) you can think of - bar actual penatrative intercourse. That one would depend entirely on the bloke, the couple as a whole and how I feel at that particular moment in time. 
it doesnt come as a guaranteed 'shag' . I get my kicks from pleasuring the fem and seeing what that does for them as a couple, but it only works if its on my terms, and only if I feel it's something I'm 'giving' them, not them 'taking' or using me/ the sbf for ( :shock: I know that probably doesnt make sense but it does to me lol
) I'm looking for fun, giggles, some bloody good company where everyone feels comfy, unpressured and has a good time. I have a particular 'type' I will be attracted to sexually in both men and women, but more importantly, the couple must be people I click with, feel at ease with, can be myself with, no bullshit pretences or false airs and graces - they have to be the sort of people you can get up off the bed from and say 'hold on hun I need to fart' and everyone collapse in fits of giggles , not look at each other like I have two heads, ya know?
They would also need to be people who dont get all awkward after we've played , or let any 'issues' or even the fact we've played affect our friendship (thats my big fear). And they'd need to be solid as a couple because I dont want any issues afterwards. I do state in my ad that I prefer to take a back seat as far as the penatrative sex is concerned because (a) its not something I freely give out and (b) because I am not interested in couples who use the fem as bait when its actually the bloke who wants a shag. I know someone will say 'dont flatter yourself luv' , but its my way of 'filtering' people. Add onto that the fact I want to play with couples who want to play with 'Darkfire' not just another sbf.... and I seriously have my work cut out!
I dunno if that's of any use at all to anyone, but thats what I want, and MY personal pointers as to where couples go wrong with the sbf thing.
RPM, i dont think Munch Galleries are a 'numpty' idea - I used to love the old ones and seeing people just laughing and socialising together - and of course if you didnt go you could at least get some of the 'atmosphere' from the pics 
but, its just one of those things were some people dont mind , some do, and for some its a big no no. So, the photographer has to ask everyone in the shot, then email those people 'proofs', then wait for permission to post, then either leave faces as are or play about in paint shop or similar blanking them out, then finally get round to posting them = have to be resized, uploaded ...see what i mean lol, and even then you can guarantee that someone will decide their arms look flabby or they're no longer friendly with the person they're sitting next to, or their bum looks big..... and want the pic removing.
'tis a proper little minefield this one, not to mention the issue of who gets copies, friends who show other friends, and 'oooooo have you seen XXXXXX ?? here's a pic'. Ok, so it might be a rare occurance - but it happens, and like Les says, alot of 'us' are profession-wise bound to a morality claus, one quick snap shot seen by the wrong person and its bye bye career 
but, its just one of those things were some people dont mind , some do, and for some its a big no no. So, the photographer has to ask everyone in the shot, then email those people 'proofs', then wait for permission to post, then either leave faces as are or play about in paint shop or similar blanking them out, then finally get round to posting them = have to be resized, uploaded ...see what i mean lol, and even then you can guarantee that someone will decide their arms look flabby or they're no longer friendly with the person they're sitting next to, or their bum looks big.....
and want the pic removing. 'tis a proper little minefield this one
, not to mention the issue of who gets copies, friends who show other friends, and 'oooooo have you seen XXXXXX ?? here's a pic'. Ok, so it might be a rare occurance - but it happens, and like Les says, alot of 'us' are profession-wise bound to a morality claus, one quick snap shot seen by the wrong person and its bye bye career Quote by sheddy
... circumstances change people flounce or leave the site or worse still may just decide they wish to out someone (for want of a better phrase) ...
I know most people don't put a face pic on public view on there profile for obvious reasons. So for the same reasons they wouldn't want someone they may not know taking a picture of them or even catching them in the background of a picture they take...
:thumbup: :thumbup:
which would be the problem with MuncH galleries (I know we;ve had them before, and stopped too, because of the trouble the organiser/ photographer has to go to to obtain permission/ blank out faces/ identifiable marks like tattoos etc and because the copy and save button does exactly what it says on the tin)
i dont think its necessarily just about being photographed in 'compromising situations' - even an innocent face pic taken at a munch then put on 'display' is a compromising situation for anyone not particularly ready 'outed' by someone who they might know who stumbles on it.
Quote by Kiss_Me
95% of the time when I'm in a chat room and a bloke is talking to me, he is all nice and interested and having a chat etc, then pretty soon he's asking if I would meet him and his gf - which is fine with me as I always like to know where I stand etc. What I do have a big issue with is if I happen to show any sign of saying no, he then uses the exact same lines on the next fresh female who enters their orbit, while I'm still there lmao!
Surely I can't have been the only one to notice this?
nope you're not the only one, and its not just chatroom (although that's where it's most prevalent) - I've actually had this done in person, right in front of my face :shock:
bloody glad i said No too!!
Quote by redwine_lover
Darkfire
Can of worms - hope not..hope that a reasonale debate will follow with the mods/siteowners confirming what should be the correct course of action when they have listened to peoples views...
RWL
Reasonable debate , of course !
it was more this can of worms I meant :
Quote by redpantherman
But on second thoughts an 'official photographer' with a munch/social photo gallery on SH might be an idea to consider
A golden nugget or two should take care of any extra expense.
no assumptions RWL, I did say that I am very concious of 'background faces' when people take pics , and I did say that I have been snapped without permission as random pics were being taken - but, in this particular case, I didnt take issue because i know who was taking them and i'm pretty damn confident they wont end up somewhere they shouldnt.
but, like i also said, it would be a whole different ball game if I didnt know the person taking pics. (in edit - or if I wasnt asked first)
but, like i also said, it would be a whole different ball game if I didnt know the person taking pics. (in edit - or if I wasnt asked first)
I've always been against pictures being taken at munches in principal.....
but
there's always exeptions to the rule.
I took my camera to NN's birthday social on saturday because I wanted to get some pics of the occasion for her (birthday) and Marcuso (cos he's a poser )
I didnt take other pics bar one with permission and that person has already recieved the pic from me. (but even in that one, there are people visible in the background - and its that which I am very concious of)
I was approached at another munch by someone and asked permission, which I gave, but i was also 'snapped' by at least two ther people who didnt ask permission - but i'm generally ok with it as they're well known & 'trusted' here and i know for a fact that in the past they blank people's faces off pics as a rule anyway so i didnt take issue with it...... but nor did I specifically 'pose' for them either.
With regard to everyone being 'vouched for' who's at a munch anyway - that's not strictly the case at every munch, and I'm afriad I would have issues if I saw someone 'unknown' to me taking pics, and if asked, i'd more than likely say No anyway.
But while I did take pics on Saturday, I would much favour the idea of having an 'official photographer' - one person who everyone knows is the one with a camera so to speak - and no other cameras allowed, if we have to have one at all.
but
there's always exeptions to the rule.
I took my camera to NN's birthday social on saturday because I wanted to get some pics of the occasion for her (birthday) and Marcuso (cos he's a poser
) I didnt take other pics bar one with permission and that person has already recieved the pic from me. (but even in that one, there are people visible in the background - and its that which I am very concious of)
I was approached at another munch by someone and asked permission, which I gave, but i was also 'snapped' by at least two ther people who didnt ask permission - but i'm generally ok with it as they're well known & 'trusted' here and i know for a fact that in the past they blank people's faces off pics as a rule anyway so i didnt take issue with it...... but nor did I specifically 'pose' for them either.
With regard to everyone being 'vouched for' who's at a munch anyway - that's not strictly the case at every munch, and I'm afriad I would have issues if I saw someone 'unknown' to me taking pics, and if asked, i'd more than likely say No anyway.
But while I did take pics on Saturday, I would much favour the idea of having an 'official photographer' - one person who everyone knows is the one with a camera so to speak - and no other cameras allowed, if we have to have one at all.
Quote by Kiss_Me
4 guys giving me a full body massage followed by 4 tongues licking EVERY inch of my body then 2 guys licking between my legs one rimming one kissing my mouth an one on each nipple all simulataneously with a large queue of guys waitng to give me oral sex
nuff said??
oo & i forgot to APOLOGISE for being such a greedy girl
I don't think you need to apologise - I would want exactly the same if you just swapped the guys for girls - yummy! :P
where do I sign up? :notes: :rascal:
Good luck Morbius :thumbup:
(edited cos you dont need lots of conflicting advice this morning! - clear and concise will be fine
)
Hun you'll be fine, you know your subject, and it WILL all be worth it in the end.
Everything's crossed for you, power of positive thought - you know you can do it !!!
deep breaths, read the questions, and go get em kid
(edited cos you dont need lots of conflicting advice this morning! - clear and concise will be fine
) Hun you'll be fine, you know your subject, and it WILL all be worth it in the end.
Everything's crossed for you, power of positive thought - you know you can do it !!!
deep breaths, read the questions, and go get em kid
you are such an arse ! you promised you wouldnt say owt!! 
Oh... and Chaotic Spirit & Pkrams - lovely to meet you, hope you had a fantastic night , Chaotic the dress was lovely, you were worrying about nothing , and shit can you dance! Hope to see you at another doo soon! :thumbup:
Hugs - oh my!! how bloody gorgeous are you??? :shock: Welcome to the world of SH socials Can we swap hair please?
Dave & Debs - lovely lovely couple, brilliant to see you again, hope you enjoyed it and met more of 'us' - i told ya, there's sommat in the water round here
Ali - first time i've seen you all speechless and giggling like a girl you really didnt have a clue did you? - and you'll still be opening all those cards next week !!
Sleazy, as always
Dammy & HLB - hey, you got there , i dont know why people are so scared to get in my car
- but it was good to see you out and having a good night again 
Alleyson - lovely to see you there last night
Stuart & Tanina, thankyou for your help this morning ..... and '21' my ass
Steph - I still smelt yummmmmmmm this morning, but i hurt !
Earthy - words fail me :twisted: :rose:
and to everyone else, new faces and familiar ones, thanks for a really good night once again
, Chaotic the dress was lovely, you were worrying about nothing , and shit can you dance! Hope to see you at another doo soon! :thumbup: Hugs - oh my!! how bloody gorgeous are you??? :shock: Welcome to the world of SH socials
Can we swap hair please? Dave & Debs - lovely lovely couple, brilliant to see you again, hope you enjoyed it and met more of 'us' - i told ya, there's sommat in the water round here
Ali - first time i've seen you all speechless and giggling like a girl
you really didnt have a clue did you? - and you'll still be opening all those cards next week !! Sleazy, as always
Dammy & HLB - hey, you got there , i dont know why people are so scared to get in my car
- but it was good to see you out and having a good night again Alleyson - lovely to see you there last night
Stuart & Tanina, thankyou for your help this morning ..... and '21' my ass
Steph - I still smelt yummmmmmmm this morning, but i hurt !
Earthy - words fail me :twisted: :rose:
and to everyone else, new faces and familiar ones, thanks for a really good night once again
as far as I'm concerened, it aint my fault THEY didnt bother coming to alter the meter, I've paid it as required for the last 6 years (the card meter was already installed when we moved in and would have been charged to remove it) and they can come kiss my ass if they think i'm gonna stump up £600+ because of their fuck up :twisted:
Powergen :kissmyarse: :kissmyarse: :kissmyarse: :lol2:
Powergen :kissmyarse: :kissmyarse: :kissmyarse: :lol2:
