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Derek_kelp
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 56
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What happened to the good ideas/suggestion threads...did we finish them all? 
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It's not a secondary one as I understand it. The orgasm is the contractions and the spasms and then a split second after you ejaculate.
If a man does his pelvic floor exercises and tones those muscles then he can orgasm and hold back the ejaculation. That means that you can orgasm as many times as you like without ejaculating/falling asleep after
Women aren't the only ones to have multiple orgasms...also there are over 10 varieties of female orgasm...I'll let you work that out
If a man does his pelvic floor exercises and tones those muscles then he can orgasm and hold back the ejaculation. That means that you can orgasm as many times as you like without ejaculating/falling asleep after
Women aren't the only ones to have multiple orgasms...also there are over 10 varieties of female orgasm...I'll let you work that out
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Quote by skinny
If the thought of getting your bum shagged actually gets you seriously excited then perhaps you will come close to orgasm from anal play
A lot of men can have an orgasm (wet dream)just by dreaming/sleeping. So it's all about stimulating the brain enough...and sure the physical stuff would certainly help you over the edge ;o)
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The smell doesn't matter, once you rinse it off you just smell like...well...you ;o)
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Marya it is acidic and that is what kills the bacteria. The way I understand it it's about the opposite PH as soap (soap is an alkaline) But unlike soap is doesn't dry you out. I have used various types of vinegar and now I use clear pickling vinegar (it's the cheapest)
Mincepie I choose what to use now. I like the smell of the soap I use and it feels kinda luxurious...more than before. I use vinegar about 50% of the time. I occasionally had a bit of athletes foot but it cured that. If you have any issues then the vinegar feels warmer on that area. Vinegar definitely leaves my skin smoother and less dry.
Mincepie I choose what to use now. I like the smell of the soap I use and it feels kinda luxurious...more than before. I use vinegar about 50% of the time. I occasionally had a bit of athletes foot but it cured that. If you have any issues then the vinegar feels warmer on that area. Vinegar definitely leaves my skin smoother and less dry.
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Quote by mincepie
When on camera, I regularly get people whispering to tell me that I look bored/miserable or to request that I smile...
I have heard this called "screensaver face"
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Howabout
Geroge Thorogood - Bad To The Bone
Tenacious D - F*ck her Gently
Aerosmith - Don't get mad get even?
Geroge Thorogood - Bad To The Bone
Tenacious D - F*ck her Gently
Aerosmith - Don't get mad get even?
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Quote by Marya_Northeast
I know it sounds like a right faff on and it is but I don't have much choice, my skin is too sensitive and dry. If I don't get my routine in order, I spend all day feeling uncomfortable. I'd prefer to just use ordinary soap but my skin won't tolerate it. The kindest stuff is aqueous cream but it doesn't smell too pretty.
I'd be interested to see how you fair with vinegar and no moisturiser. Perhaps try a forearm or somewhere not too sensitive to see if there is a difference?
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Quote by foxylady2209
I tried washing my hair in nothing but water for 2 months - 2 weeks of greasy horribleness followed by 6 weeks of lovely clean bounciness. Hair can cope oerfectly well without soaps, in fact the oil glands oer-react to the too-clean effect. I can't remember why I went back to washing with detergent. I may go back to water.
Pickling vinegar. It's great and leaves you clean and doesn't dry you out. I spray it on wet skin and then use a flannel. Then rinse it off so you don't smell like a chip ;o) I've also used it as a hair conditioner too.
When I don't use this I use Imperial leather soap and water, it kinda feels more luxurious to have the choice.
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I have a geeky...erm...friend and he put me onto 1and1 hosting, they seem pretty good...not sure about the video thing though.
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There is another way to look at it...which is neither right or wrong...you can decide.
Some people live in the past, some in the future. Things seem a lot clearer to me if you live in the moment...especially if that moment is 10minutes at a time
If you are a positive person then you'll be looking for good/fun times and if you are respectful then you'll aim not to hurt anyone.
I reckon if you add communication and honesty then anything is possible
Some people live in the past, some in the future. Things seem a lot clearer to me if you live in the moment...especially if that moment is 10minutes at a time
If you are a positive person then you'll be looking for good/fun times and if you are respectful then you'll aim not to hurt anyone.
I reckon if you add communication and honesty then anything is possible
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Quote by Lizaleanrob
I'm sure for least one person it would produce jealousy and insecurity
so its a no form me :dry:
Everyone gets to choose how to react to jealousy and insecurity...you can use the feelings for good or evil. Why not let it spur you on and get you more fired up? For instance.
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Quote by mincepie
but hey maybe I am just inordinately unlucky and attract prudes.
If the genders libido is equal why is there a massive, massive, massive excess of male sexual desire?
You kind of answered your question yourself there - social pressures, conditioning and suppression is so much worse for women than it is for men, when it comes to sexual matters!
If you feel you are attracting the wrong people then maybe use a different bait?
Seriously though, I have seen it many times; if you don't judge, are openminded, let people do exactly what they want to do and when they want to do it. Then people will open up and that is amazing. Then you both have endless possibilities...why would someone not revel in that?
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Quote by bayboy1664
Despite what the frankly barmy mad idiots at The Guardian say the male sex drive is, has and always will be larger than the females.
I would disagree. If you take away all of the social stigma and give people the choice/freedom to do as they wish with no judgement. Then the ladies are far worse than guys. The most fun thing is doing this and then sharing the incredible ride together...pun intended
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Approx 5% of the creatures on the Earth, mate for life. Bearing in mind that life can be long or short depending on the species and or predators! But that means that 95% of the worlds creatures don't.
Also the way I understand it, manogamous relationships were 1st documented in the Babylonian culture; The Alpha males of that society took several women (generally the best) for their pleasure. Then the Beta males took one each (of the left overs) as their property, in the hope that no-one else would steal her away.
If society tells us the Beta way is the best way then the lesser Beta genes will prevail. If on the other hand we were to adopt the Alpha way, then the genes/human race would get ever stronger (in my opinion)
All this seems to lead to a dichotomy between society and evolution. Also between love and animalistic lust.
It is thought that the ideal length of time that a man would stay with a woman (from a reproduction/human race point of view)is around 3 months. This is so that he know's he has impregnated her. The ideal time for a woman to be with a man is 12-13months. So that she knows the baby is fit and healthy and then she can move on.
Maybe...not sure about the Love thing
I'll take a look at that book, ta. I hear that The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins is another good one.
Also the way I understand it, manogamous relationships were 1st documented in the Babylonian culture; The Alpha males of that society took several women (generally the best) for their pleasure. Then the Beta males took one each (of the left overs) as their property, in the hope that no-one else would steal her away.
If society tells us the Beta way is the best way then the lesser Beta genes will prevail. If on the other hand we were to adopt the Alpha way, then the genes/human race would get ever stronger (in my opinion)
All this seems to lead to a dichotomy between society and evolution. Also between love and animalistic lust.
It is thought that the ideal length of time that a man would stay with a woman (from a reproduction/human race point of view)is around 3 months. This is so that he know's he has impregnated her. The ideal time for a woman to be with a man is 12-13months. So that she knows the baby is fit and healthy and then she can move on.
Maybe...not sure about the Love thing
I'll take a look at that book, ta. I hear that The Selfish Gene by Richard Dawkins is another good one.
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For me, swinging is fundamentally about honesty. With that also comes respect...for yourself and other people.
Cheating, I would suggest, is very different from that.
Cheating, I would suggest, is very different from that.
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This one is all singing all dancing, it vibrates and inflates too. It definitely won't fall out but it probably isn't for the beginner. I certainly would recommend it though.
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A couple of things I heard about is to have the same basic password, this contains a number of letters and numbers. For instance...
Billybob1891...(best not to use your date of birth as the number; it's relatively easy to work out)but then if you use the shift key you can put the same numbers at the front...
!*(!Billybob1891...also notice there is a capital letter too; some site insist on at least one...
Now what you can do is use something in the url of the site you are on, so in this case the 1st, 2nd and last letters of swingingheaven are swn, so...
swn!*(!Billybob1891
So if you use the same combination of letters from each site (i.e. 1st 2nd and last)then most of the time the password is different from site to site...but you should be able to remember it.
Well that's what I heard...of course I don't do any of that stuff...or do I?
Billybob1891...(best not to use your date of birth as the number; it's relatively easy to work out)but then if you use the shift key you can put the same numbers at the front...
!*(!Billybob1891...also notice there is a capital letter too; some site insist on at least one...
Now what you can do is use something in the url of the site you are on, so in this case the 1st, 2nd and last letters of swingingheaven are swn, so...
swn!*(!Billybob1891
So if you use the same combination of letters from each site (i.e. 1st 2nd and last)then most of the time the password is different from site to site...but you should be able to remember it.
Well that's what I heard...of course I don't do any of that stuff...or do I?
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Welcome to the madhouse... :twisted:
Only one bit of advice on here...as in life...try it all
Good luck with it
Only one bit of advice on here...as in life...try it all
Good luck with it
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Quote by pebble
Don't get me started...I'll be here all day
Nodding... Can you see us getting into an endless spiral of grammaticosyntactical pedantry? I can! What fun would that be! Time-consuming, though, better book a day or two off just in case.
Though I WOULD like to know what a split infinitive is, and why it is so EVIL. (Feel free to PM about it - though I won't reply ;) )
I'm the chilled half with regards to this
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Quote by noladreams
D'you know, I was having a similar convo with a friend who was taught English in India only last night.
Wow! One night eh? It's taken me 43years so far and I'm still not finished!
...and that's why I luuuuurve the language
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Quote by noladreams
D'you know, I was having a similar convo with a friend, who was taught English in India, only last night.
:wink:
Don't get me started...I'll be here all day :wink:
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Quote by noladreams
D'you know, I was having a similar convo with a friend who was taught English in India only last night.
Wow! One night eh? It's taken me 43years so far and I'm still not finished!
...and that's why I luuuuurve the language
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Happy Valentines to all the singles on here!
Mr or Mrs Right Now is just around the corner, dont lower your standards lol
Love yourself....Big Hugs
Pam xx
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