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27 Nov 2008

We have members on here who are American and members on here who are from loads of other different countries and who celebrate loads of different things. I'm not American or from a different country to where SH HQ is but I'm still happy to wish anyone well who does celebrate something special to them and their country.....so....HAPPY THANKSGIVING to my American friends!!!!!! kiss

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So there!

27 Nov 2008

Awww, where's Abi when you need her???

27 Nov 2008

What d'ya think this is...the bluddy travel desk rolleyes

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:notes: come on here for a quiet perve :giggle:

27 Nov 2008

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<<<<<<< PM box that way Meaty if ya need real help
If it's just suggestions then I would suggest the warmest areas as being Egypt, Canaries, Goa (in India) you will need a visa and you do just have time to do the optional jabs. Flight to Goa around 9-10 hours. Also a bit further afield I would suggest various Caribbean destinations if you are willing to do the 8-10 hour flight but not sure if your budget will cover that over New Year as they tend to put the prices up at that time.
Areas nearer to home but not quite as warm as the others would include Cyprus, Malta, Madeira (Nice weather but hardly any beach...great bird watching though and good for nature enthusiasts).
xxxxx

26 Nov 2008

Awww but Sam...you look lufly on cam.... :cry:

26 Nov 2008

Oi Cuby! the others are weird...I'm normal :smug:

26 Nov 2008

Don't let others dictate to you what to do hun.....
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24 Nov 2008

I've thought about this some more and although it's hypothetical with Stormy as he can't have children now....I think that a big reason why I would'nt be comfortable with him donating his sperm is that a child out there would be his and I would'nt be it's mother sad

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does that make sense or does that make me extremely selfish confused

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: ...or am I in fact,just being an idiot :?:

24 Nov 2008

Happy to answer Steve smile

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I have finished having my family. Along the way I lost two boys who are still loved dearly even though they are not here. If I could help another woman achieve her dream of a child, in whatever way I could, then I would do it.
I would go into the pregnancy knowing I was, as Dawnie put it "an incubator" and know that I would be handing over a baby to the woman who may never have otherwise had the chance to know motherhood.
I know I could do it. :)

24 Nov 2008

Quote by Peanut
Given that much more is known about dyslexia these days and most (if not all schools) have protocols to deal with pupils suffering from it I'm amazed that your kid's school hasn't taken the possibility onboard and has started implementing some form of protocol to deal with it.
Personally I'd be in there kicking some headmaster/headmistress ass to find out why they aren't doing their best for Ms Firefox Jnr.

I was doing that most of last week Peanut...kicking ass I mean....so we will see wink

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24 Nov 2008

Quote by kentswingers777
Fire reading between the lines here and I may be wrong, but the bullying seems a major issue in your decisions?
Absolutely not Kenty it was dealt with swiftly and I was impressed with her Tutor Teacher for her perceptiveness.
Your issues above are valid to a point. I would not be interested in the ammount of time it took to get to lessons, or the journey to and from school, or even about holiday times.
In my daughters case these little bits of time add up to about 3.5 hours a day. As you say though it would not be a reason for me to say yes to homeschooling on it's own though.
My main concerns would be....do I have the aptitude and the patience and the general knowledge, to give my child the education he or she needs. For me it would be a big fat NO. I could never have given her the opportunities a " proper " school could.
For me it would be a yes but we are different people obviously.
The bullying is a problem of course, but they could get bullied down the local shopping centre. I would have deep issues with the school if my child was being bullied, and would make more noises than a pack of lions. They would know I was in their school if my child was being bullied, as I hate bullies with a passion.
We live in the sticks so don't have the problem of the local shopping centre. If we did have one she would'nt be there anyway. I was'nt allowed to do the hanging about thing and I have carried that on with my own children. I agree with you though about the bullying...it's like a red rag to a bull with me as I was bullied at school too. Although as I said earlier this is not an issue in this thread...just an aside.
I know you are looking into every avenue for your child, and want what is best for them. Consider what the options are as to moving to another school, sort out the bullying...it can be sorted trust me.
There is no other school in our area unless she goes private. We don't have that option I'm afraid.
Good luck though Fire and if you make a decision I would appreciate a pm, as to what way you have gone....Good luck.

xx

23 Nov 2008

Boney....
If Stormy were able....I could'nt let him do it. Making love to someone to produce a baby is an emotional thing and I am jealous of his emotions. I will happily share him for sex as long as I am with him and I admit we both get attached to ladies we swing with..but thats ok we are both attached.
However I could and would if able carry a child for someone else. I would even use one of my own eggs to achieve this if needed.
xxx

23 Nov 2008

Quote by Stormwalker
No... it's a can of worms....er...tadpoles....either way....no.

You wouldn't want Stormy's anyway...there's none in it flipa

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23 Nov 2008

Quote by Dawnie
Fire, have you thought about paying private to get your daughter tested for dyslexia? I don't even know if it is an option
The other suggestion is why can't she stay in school but have home tutoring as an extra, either from you or an expert?
Would allow you to carry on with your work and studies and keep your daughter in school like she would prefer?

Hi Dawnie
Yes I am giving the school one more week to get the (10 minute :? ) test done and if they don't I have just found out that I can get it done outside of school.
Home tutoring on top of school I feel would be too much for her. She leaves here at 8am and is not back until 4pm and then there is sometimes homework on top. It's too much of a long day.
I will still be carrying on with my work and studies as Stormy and I will be in this together.
At this minute in time she is staying in school and we would'nt drag her out unless it becomes necessary to do that.
I really hope that it can be sorted and that they can help her :?

23 Nov 2008

Quote by kentswingers777
I still am having trouble understanding how a parent with limited educational knowledge, can offer anywhere near what a school can.
Our local school whilst not being the highest in the exam tables has a fantastic array of benefits for the kids. I am finding the whole subject rather baffling. Still it is only my opinion. :shock:

Hiya Kenty smile

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Your first sentence all boils down to one thing....THE SCHOOL.
You have said that your local school has loads of benefits and that is brilliant. However not all schools are as good as others. My eldest is now an adult and even though he was not the best student in the world was given lots of opportunities at his school and did come out with his GCSE's intact. My daughter is not at his school as we don't now live in the same area.
My youngest son of 6 is going to a fantastic little school (and I mean little...60 children in the whole school) and is doing fabulously. He gets loads of attention and the school behaves like a family. The other two did not get that in their primary schools...there were about 30 pupils in their primary classes.
Without going into all the in's and out's my daughter has found life much harder so far than either of my boys both socially and in her learning. So as a person she has different needs than they do and I may have to take that on board when the decision is made.
In answer to your first paragraph Kenty...here is a list of things that might help you see what benefits homeschooling could bring.
One to one attention.
More hours in the day to study instead of a long bus journey there and back and all the wasted time during school hours due to going back and forth to different classrooms and break and lunchtimes.
0% chance of her being bullied (and yes that has been an issue this year)
Complete flexibility in the times of day and the actual days she works and also holiday times too.
As much support as you need or want from the LEA with visits and homeschooling groups.
This sounds like I have already made my mind up I know...but I have'nt. I'm just showing that there is another way and that for SOME children it could be the answer and the life boat they need.
xx

23 Nov 2008

The aim is for her to get the basics of the core subjects until she starts GCSE work, which is next year. She may or may not at this stage have dyslexia and if she has, it will have been after 4 years of me pushing for tests and being ignored by her primary school and then her Secondary school. Her head of Maths is now agreeing with me that we may have a problem.
I may not be the best there is to cover her learning needs Maz but I may still be better than the existing arrangements. dunno

dunno

xxx

23 Nov 2008

This is the definition of adultery according to Wiki:
Adultery is the voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and another person who is not his or her spouse.
So one of the ten commandments would not be very happy wink

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23 Nov 2008

Quote by mazandden
I think if your daughter is happy where she is, then you should be thinking more along the lines of what the school should be doing to help the situation.
m xx

I've taken all those points on board Maz and thank you smile

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The one above is the one I am following for the time being. However if I don't get help from the school, I don't have a choice of schools to send her to and homeschooling may well be my only other option.
I am finding out though that there are loads of children who it is working for and has worked for so I'm definitely keeping a very open mind.
xxxx

23 Nov 2008

Can't remember what he did yesterday :giggle:

23 Nov 2008

Just to refresh the memories of folk old enough smile

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and no Random not unless you can do it by candlelight confused

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23 Nov 2008

I don't know Random....but if it is..will you buy me it for Christmas?!?!

23 Nov 2008

Random I remember that series and I like you was absolutely fascinated and scared by it.
Without a doubt Stormy and I would head for the hills...Well we hav'nt been sitting here watching Ray Mears and River Cottage and the like :notes: for nothing you know!!!

23 Nov 2008

Thank you so much for all the input into this thread. I truly appreciate it and the different views and opinions are exactly what we need to help us think it through.
I wish I could answer every post but I would be here all night so I'll just respond to a couple of things that I have read and that have stuck out for me.
Socially I would make sure that she made up for it in other ways. Local Am Dram club, trips out with friends who have children the same age, MSN (when she learns to use it more appropriately). She has been at her school for 14 months and so far there has been 1 disco and 1 trip so at the moment I'm not too concerned about what she would be missing there.
Someone said that the best way for her to learn would be to learn from her peers or something similar. There are some of her peers I would far rather she did NOT learn anything from.
Thank you for your post Sam. I am embarking on that task as we speak ;)
Mar..I am not planning on getting a home tutor..although I would if I could afford it.
I don't have a degree Kenty and am at the moment studying at GCSE level myself. What I do have though is a huge capacity for learning and researching and determination. I also have a desire for my daughter to do well and if it's my responsibily to make sure she has an education...then she will have one, no if's and no buts. I'm not as well equipt as a teacher to deliver an English/Maths etc lesson but what I am equipt with is a good understanding of my daughter and the knowledge of how to get the information and resources I will need to teach her. I will learn along with her.
At the moment she really does'nt want to leave the school system (or rather her friends) so we are letting it ride for a while to see how it goes. We will wait for the test results and see how the report card thing pans out and stay in close contact with the school. The more I am thinking and hearing about homeschooling though, the more I like what I hear about the benefits. In fact if she said she wanted to leave school and do it, I'm 99% certain that this is the way I would choose.
Once again thank you to everyone...you're all great smile

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22 Nov 2008

Sadly not Fem lol

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I so wish they were though...or at least that I would be allowed to kiss them :twisted:

22 Nov 2008

How about these.....

22 Nov 2008

I'm not sure I can do it either Nola.
What I am sure of though is that if the situation carries on the way it is doing, I can't sit by and watch it happen without trying to help her in a different way.
Unfortunately so far her school are not being the most receptive to my attempts to keep in contact with them. She has been on report, yet quite a few times the report card is not coming home signed, or they may sign it with a cross instead of a tick and then not make any comment in the box as to why she has a cross. Not returning my calls and then when they do they are not really up to speed with what is going on etc.
I'm studying at home myself for the next couple of years at least and I work from home also. It might mean I have to put an odd dream or two on hold for a while so that she can come first but hey ho...thats being a Mum for you...and she's worth it!
xxx

22 Nov 2008

Quote by fem_4_taboo
has your child mentioned this? what are their views on it?
i couldnt do it, for one i couldnt afford to, im a lone mum and woudld have to give up my job. i love my job,i love my space im not educated enough, im not motivated enough.
i think alot of education comes from the experiences of others, im lucky that my kids have a fantastic school.
xxx fem xx

Hi Fem xx
Yes she did mention it to me a while ago and wanted to do it. We are at a stage at the moment though where she is having a very tough time at school. She is having difficulty learning certain things and also fitting in to the structure of school life. She is extremely disorganised and forgetful and finally after two years of me asking, is going to be tested for dyslexia. She has been getting into trouble for things she should have done and has'nt. She won't ask if she does'nt understand something. She can be both distracted easily and also be the distractor sad

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Despite all this though she does, at the moment like going to school...for the social side alone. She, like all 13 year olds is glued to her friends. This is great but at the moment it is to the detriment of her learning and since her education is my responsibility and not the school's I am taking this seriously.
xxx

22 Nov 2008

Thank you very much for all your responses so far...very thought provoking. I'm doing quite alot of self searching at the moment as I'm not sure that I have the right temperament to homeschool but hearing other views on it is very helpful :thumbup:

22 Nov 2008

Hi there fellow forumites.
We're thinking about homeschooling one of our children and are very interested in hearing the for and against points on it.
Have any of you lovely folk got experience or views you would'nt mind sharing???

16 Nov 2008

Quote by blonde

In truth they just needed more staff to keep an eye on Blonde!
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Can I a Mod without being banned?
p.s. flower, Firelizard & Tune :smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom: you are naughty people too! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Can I just have gentle strokes instead of smacks please redface

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and maybe a kiss...or two?? Oh and a hug :P