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Funlovers2009
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 51
Straight Female, 53
UK

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We lived abroad for years. We were with the forces so I guess that no matter how much you try, you never get a true 'living abroad' experience as you are living in a forces community, surrounded by Brits! I loved it though.
We came back to UK almost 6 years ago. I miss the sense of community that comes with forces life as you don't get that in the UK but I have to say, for me, there is no place like home!
I have a friend who transferred to the Aussie army about 3 years ago and she and her family are loving it. I really must go and pay her a visit!
Being a great lover of watching guys wank and the resulting man goo (even better if I'm covered in it), I thought that this really could be right up my street but when I've watched it, it's generally a girl/guy sat there surrounded by guys wanking and then when they shoot their bolt, they do it over her/him. What I don't get (each to their own of course) is how the girl/guy can sit there, surrounded by hard cocks and not do anything with them. I mean, I love to watch but if it's there in my face, I'm gonna have to do something with it! Also, what exactly are the guys finding so horny about a girl/guy who is just sitting there? I understand the dirtiness about being covered in it but she/he ain't gonna be covered in it until the job is done!
For it to work for me, I would have to be playing with all the guys and then they cum all over me.
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If its the site I think it is, we are on there. I guess there are fake profiles whichever site you join but also genuine people.
I did hear of people who would join, arrange meets and the address that they gave was that of an elderly couple who lived across the road from a pub. Some friends of ours were caught out. My guess is that these people got some kind of kick out of watching from the pub. These people would then leave the site and open another profile (using the same pictures) to do the same again. They were reported but the owners said they couldn't do much about it as they couldn't track the IP address or something like that (I'm not very techy). Suppose when it's a free site, these things can happen as you can open as many profiles you want.
There are some strange people out there!

No, this is far more sinister than a fake profile here and there which I agree is part and parcel of the whole experience. I have traced 72 fake profiles, 14 probable fakes and another 9 suspicious by association which I suspect all emanate from the one source. These are the ones I could establish with the data at my disposal, I would expect there would be more following hidden pointers. Only 16 of the fake profiles found have been suspended.
More than half of the suspect profiles have pictures with only 2 of them having common ones. It would follow that the miscreant has collected his picture stock from elsewhere. Deeply disturbing all round!
Wow! Some people have far too much time on their hands (them not you!). Why would anyone want to produce so many fake profiles? What's to gain?
If its the site I think it is, we are on there. I guess there are fake profiles whichever site you join but also genuine people.
I did hear of people who would join, arrange meets and the address that they gave was that of an elderly couple who lived across the road from a pub. Some friends of ours were caught out. My guess is that these people got some kind of kick out of watching from the pub. These people would then leave the site and open another profile (using the same pictures) to do the same again. They were reported but the owners said they couldn't do much about it as they couldn't track the IP address or something like that (I'm not very techy). Suppose when it's a free site, these things can happen as you can open as many profiles you want.
There are some strange people out there!
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I have heard so many horror stories regarding condoms over the years (pin holes, out of date, etc) that we always supply them. No matter who we play with, we use ours. Untrusting? Possibly! But better to be safe than sorry!

Ditto Funlovers. We too buy and supply without compromise
We'd have issues if we ever got together then! lol
I have heard so many horror stories regarding condoms over the years (pin holes, out of date, etc) that we always supply them. No matter who we play with, we use ours. Untrusting? Possibly! But better to be safe than sorry!
I like to see photos where it looks likes bit of thought and effort has gone into them.
Photos taken in mirrors and/or a cock hanging out over the top of their pants, probably taken quick sharpish before girlfriend/wife/mum* (delete as applicable) walks into the room. They are all quite off putting for me.
Totally agree about the untidy background. That would totally put me off meeting someone, as would socks! lol
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I can't stand Andy Murray or Philip Schofield.

I have always had a soft spot for Philip Schofield ... I would sit and letch at him in his broom cupboard with his gopher every day after school. Still wouldn't kick him out of bed for eating cream crackers!
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I'm pretty average I think, and I've been on cam quite a few times. Looking at the cam though when I am on, it can make it look a lot bigger! Maybe they aren't all quite as huge as we think lol

That's a bit like saying.....size does not matter. Oh yes it does. :lol:
I think that is very much down to personal opinion.
.... Andy Murray!
I'm quite an easy going person, there are not many people who I dislike. I don't know what it is about him, but he really irritates me! Maybe it's due to him coming across as really miserable that makes me want to slap him? dunno
Is there anyone who you don't like but you don't know why?
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I have one nipple pierced (and no you don't need perky nipples for them), and I have my clit hood pierced, and I love it ... I don't care what others think about them, if they don't like em, then I don't play with em ... simplez! lol

Sing! Sing! Or show us ya ring! bolt
As an avid cock cam watcher, I can confirm that it's not just big ones that people like to watch. For me I'd rather watch a wanker than a stroker so it doesn't matter how big it is, if he ain't knocking one out with enthusiasm, I'll get bored.
I suppose if you like to be watched then you're not going to worry about not having a mahoosive cock! There are some guys on here with really little ones who actually like people to the the piss out of their size. Not for me but each to their own.
I really don't mind either way (I think i can just about count to ten ... although it has been a long day!)
I can see why some people may see 'Godlike' as intimidating as stated in the other thread, however some people may like the tags as a bit of fun.
How about a compromise and add more tags with Godlike status being so high that it could never really be achieved and no one's bar ever being full?
I never thought that I could have a termination, which is a large factor in us having 3 kids (none of them planned). We decided after the second that we wouldn't have any more, but accidents happen. We discussed termination and I couldn't do it. 9 years later and we have a severely autistic little boy. I know that we could never have known, and no matter how much I absolutely dote on him, on really bad days I can't help but wonder how different our lives would have been if I'd made a different decision.
I would have to be seriously unlucky to get pregnant now and we always practice safe sex with others but I seriously wouldn't hesitate. I don't think I could cope with another one of ours, never mind bringing up someone else's!
For me, worst case swinging scenario (apart from catching something nasty and dying) would be if he fell for someone else and left me. The chances are remote, we are so in love, have complete honesty and trust in our relationship ... but you do hear of it. In reality, if we wanted to play away we would both have every opportunity as we both have to go away on business trips, so there would be more chance of it happening through work than swinging. However, we are so honest that I even tell him if someone's come onto me in the hotel bar, etc. (I think he quite likes that) wink
So now that I've made myself sound really insecure ..... bolt
(I'm really not!)
We took some time out and now that we're back we've decided to just do clubs and parties for the time being. We've been put in some quite difficult situations on house meets, and not just because some people don't look quite like the pictures that they sent!
It can be easier to get down and dirty at a house meet but it doesn't have to take too long at a club. I suppose it depends how up front you want to be.
We didn't have any problems. Maybe its the position you're trying? If she goes on top of one bloke, leans forward a bit and then the other bloke goes in from behind.
Good luck and enjoy!!
Hi and welcome!
Not being from the south I can't suggest anywhere but there are quite a few transsexual women on this site, pre and post op so hopefully one of them might pop into the forum and be able to offer you some advice.
I have seen a few transsexual women in clubs. Whether they are pre or post op, I don't know. It's something that I wouldn't ask.
The problem that people might have in answering your question is that your profile and post isn't clear as to what it is that you would want from a club or the person/people you would want to meet there.
Some clubs have bi nights, CD/TV/TS nights, etc. it might be worth calling clubs local to you to find out what goes on and when? They are usually very approachable and friendly.
I hope you find what you're looking for and have lots of fun when you do.
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My man is totally arse phobic sad As far as his arse goes anyway! He ain't got a problem with shoving things in mine!!!

Im sure if they invented a vagina shaped dildo he would come around!
Hmmmm ... Bit hard to shove up his arse though?? :confused2:
I have to admit ... I don't watch much TV but Downton is one of my guilty pleasures. I'd agree, costume drama.
We've been members for almost 4 years now. No where near as long as many of the regular forumites but long enough to rack up a fair few posts. I have to admit that even after over 3000 posts I still don't feel like a regular.
When I started using the forum there where the cafe, CA and JFF forums. I personally thought that worked well. You would get regulars and new posters in each and some people who dipped in and out of each. I rarely used the CA forum as it was constantly full of heated debates, arguments and quite a lot of bickering and quite personal comments. That's not what I go into a forum for. JFF and the cafe were much friendlier and inviting. You could have a laugh, a flirt and lots of friendly banter. In short, people were made to feel welcome. When the cafe and JFF merged, in my opinion, that's when the friendliness stopped. There were so many threads complaining about other threads and 'dullard' threads that people just stopped posting as much in the cafe .... About anything! Of course the heated threads in the CA continued.
With the recent restructure, all of the heat from the CA is now in the 'fancy a chat' forum. I honestly don't blame people for not posting. Especially those new to the forum. It is so uninviting, unfriendly and full of personal comments.
I check the forum every day but rarely post. The bitchiness is something that I personally don't want to get involved in. In my opinion, while people display such aggressive and personal behaviour the forum will continue to struggle.
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I'm inclined to agree with what TooHot has said actually. There are undoubtedly scroungers. The immigrant workers that you, Starlight, speak of, accept jobs and housing which many British nationals wouldn't.

The problem is people and some on here cannot differentiate between genuine claimants and the scroungers. It seems anyone who signs on now is fair game to be classed a scrounger. A scrounger I have never been as owning my home outright would prove, but my profession is in dire difficulties and to go into another profession cold as it were, would struggle to offer the kind of money to pay my bills.
There are plenty of immigrant workers who have the things most aspire too, like the cars and the gadgets you talk about, but invariably they share the most expensive outlay every month with many others, that is their rent and lodgings. How can a British worker with a young family possibly be able to match that?
I am really sorry to hear that you have hit hard times on the employment front star and that your profession is in difficulties, however I don't feel that that entering into another profession should be viewed as such an impossible option for you. You will have gained transferable skills from your life experience and employment so far.
When we returned to UK from Germany 5 years ago it was not the best time to be looking for jobs either. I had to start at the bottom of a profession and after 3 1/2 years of hard work, personal and professional development I was promoted above my peers, some who had been in the same role for over 10 years. Another year on, I am in line for another promotion. If successful, my wages will have almost doubled in less than 5 years!
On leaving the forces, my other half used his resettlement to learn a trade. He qualified as an electrician, which on reflection was not the best option with the state of the building trade. After 2 years he was made redundant as there just wasn't enough work. There is nothing more demoralising than redundancy and he was very low for a while and it was a real financial struggle. 4 months later he got a job. It was nothing that he had ever done before and only part time, but through hard work and development he too has been promoted. He is full time and couldn't be happier. In hindsight, being made redundant is probably the best thing that could have happened to him!
You have said that you are in the fortunate position of owning your own home outright. You are in a better position than we were, or still are in! Obviously I have no idea what other outgoings you have, but a mortgage or rent is generally the largest outlay that people have and you don't have that. As I see it, with the information you have provided, starting again wouldn't be as difficult for you as it would for some.
I don't think it is anything about luck. I am not a lucky person. I work hard and strive to better myself. I suppose in a way, I share the work ethics of the immigrant workers that you speak of. The problem that I see is that the immigrant workers will accept jobs that many Brits see as below them. However, they work hard, will and are being promoted! In my organisation, I have seen many Polish administrators who are now the office managers, etc and who will fill their shoes? ... more immigrants because again many Brits won't take the lowly jobs! Do we really have a right to complain about immigrant workers taking our jobs if Brits think the jobs are below them? I think not.
Don't close every door and turn away every opportunity. Good luck!
Personally I feel that child benefit should be paid to everyone with a child. Why should higher earners be less entitled than low earners? However, if it has to be means tested this should not be done by the wage of just one parent. To be fair they have to take the total household income into account. As it stands one person on a wage of £60k gets nothing but if 2 parents each earn £49k they would still be entitled despite having a combined income of £98k. That's just wrong!
Your point regarding paying child benefit to foreigners is debatable and we are not the only country to do this. I think it is circumstantial.
For example, I have 3 children, one born in Germany, one born in Belgium and one born in UK. We lived abroad with our children for a long time and still received UK child benefit for all 3 despite where they we're born. We were serving in the forces and so still paying UK tax. Despite being born abroad they all have only ever had a British passport. When we lived in Germany we were also entitled to German kindergeld (their equivalent of our child benefit) although we paid no tax to the Germans (except the usual paid on shopping). The children had to be resident in Germany though. I don't know if you can still claim for this as we returned to UK 5 years ago. I thought it was wrong but everyone claimed and it seemed a perk of the job. No one turns away free money!
I believe that if a person is contributing to our economy by paying their taxes and they have children living with them then they should be entitled to claim child benefit, no matter where the child is born. If the child is not resident in the UK then they shouldn't be entitled (with the exception of British forces families or the like who are still paying UK taxes). Why should we be paying for children that aren't even here?
Wow ... I've written an essay, and about politics!! I never saw that one coming! lol