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HornyLittleBlonde
Over 90 days ago
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Quote by Lissa
No, I think it's too open to abuse.
People could give you 'negative' ratings for all sorts of reasons, including petty ones..or even lies.................and it would be very difficult for you to prove otherwise.
I see this is a hotbed i have laid out for you today.
some of you are missing the point and thinking far tooooo much about it , i know its open to abuse but how do you think ebay got up n running , ITS ALL ABOUT TRUST PEEPS!!!
and when that trust is broken its up to you on how to deal and respond to that.
and as for the confidention business !!!nothing has been broken...i cant quite see how.
as i said its just a think tank thingy and as for this new cust old cust thingy , well....if you had only had 1 meet and it was good , you would be of a very high average , fantastic for you!!! !If you were full of lies and blackness then its your problem to deal with.
Its very rare for a person to be outright vindictive if you have only had one previous bad meeting , if its two or three then your going to get a bad review , thats just logic. just think about how many truly vindictive people there are , they are mostly just movie stereotypes.
as johnny ball once said , think again!! (and open you mind)ame reason why there is no 'name and shame' system.
The thing about ebay is you can only leave feedback if you've bought or sold something e.g. if I buy something I can leave feedback on that item.
Here there's nothing to stop you giving feedback to anyone and whilst I'll agree with you that the truly vindictive people are going to be a minority, there's also an issue of what people class as "not genuine".
For example, I've been in pms with guys and they've stated that they've come across a lot of timewasters and people who aren't genuine. Now I took this to mean people who haven't turned up and not bothered to phone.
Turns out 1 guys view of "non genuine" was people who didn't reply to his winks :shock:
He'd seen a couple advertising for large cocks, sent a wink and because they didn't immediately reply inviting him round his view was they weren't genuine.
That isn't the only instance I've seen of that type of view. We see threads on here moaning all the time about not getting replies and I don't see how you could stop people giving negative feedback in these circumstances
Quote by kinkypete31
IE:i come to you r house , we have great fun but my cock was slightly smaller than i said , this would perhaps be an 8 on the scale , which is damned fine. Or perhaps i agree to meet you and all i want to do is collect pix and keep stalling until you get bored , this would be perhaps a 3 as you never know , i might be then there is the agree to meet 2 or 3 times and never show , hmmmmmmm a big fat 0 on that one.
I know this would never happen , but do you agree that this would be a good thing<
let me know what you think xxxxxxxx
all the best in your search for pleasure!!
Hiya Kinkypete
I understand why you've raised the topic and I do think it's worthy of discussion, but like others have said it would only work if everyone was completely honest. But if everyone was completely honest there'd be no need for it anyway.
Also to use the examples you've given:
let's imagine I arrange to meet a male. We've swapped pics, cammed together, decided we're both up for it and arrange a meet.
We both turn up and he has the most horrendous BO and looks like he hasn't had a wash in over a month :shock:
At this point I tell him it's not going to happen and leave.
What kind of rating to you think I'd get?
Quote by dambuster
Ooops
I meant to say and David too:uhoh:
PMSL
Does anyone think I might be able to get a day pass ?
Would a few nights out on the town with her vanilla friends and family be a good bargaining tool
:uhoh:
Err No.
A good bargaining tool would have to include at least 1 pair of new shoes :giggle:
Quote by lysistrata
I didn't say that was in reference to you - I was answering the thread as a whole.
Sorry that you saw it as a personal attack
Peace and love to all
Lysistrata
I think you were spot on.
For me I think a lot of it is "knowing I can".
Like you said having the option and both being completely happy and comfortable with that is a wonderful thing.
Quote by PoloLady
I had a think about this and decided before I could answer I had to ask something...
define 'straight' ?
That the female only plays with males - not sexual activity with females
Would the wifey using a hand-held toy on the fem whilst fem sucked off hubby count as staright or bi?
In reality that would be down to the individual, but for the purpose of this discussion I'll say that it's classed as sexual activity between the two females and therefore is not included
Quote by Darkfire
...but I just saw another brand called Trojan - which i'm familiar with but cant recommend....... and thought this was worth a mention : Trojan Naturalamb is the perfect condom for couples who want a latex-free condom with heightened sensitivity. It contains no latex and is made from a natural membrane that delivers its unique sensitivity. Does not protect against STDs.
:shock:
Now I may be missing something here, but what exactly is the point of that
Do they actually sell any?
Quote by dambuster
I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female
This one comes quite close, don't you think ?
for the "Look at me" post Just to elaborate on how this thread came about:
dammie's perving the ads and comes across a single straight female looking to meet straight males & straight couples.
He's looking rather confused and asks "Why would a single straight female want to meet with a couple? I don't get it. What would she get out of it?"
Me "Well when you were a single straight bloke, what did you get out of it?"
dammie "It was the buzz of knowing the woman's enjoying 2 men"
Then (after me explaining a little further) the penny drops
We then started to discuss this further as I think there's sometimes an expectation for the female to be bi if she swings.
I think that's why so many bi females feel the need to put "Bi with the right person" in their profile.
And that got me thinking even more:
Is it harder for a straight single female to swing than it is for a single straight male?
I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female
dammie's perving the ads and comes across a single straight female looking to meet straight males & straight couples.
He's looking rather confused and asks "Why would a single straight female want to meet with a couple? I don't get it. What would she get out of it?"
Me "Well when you were a single straight bloke, what did you get out of it?"
dammie "It was the buzz of knowing the woman's enjoying 2 men"
Then (after me explaining a little further) the penny drops
We then started to discuss this further as I think there's sometimes an expectation for the female to be bi if she swings.
I think that's why so many bi females feel the need to put "Bi with the right person" in their profile.
And that got me thinking even more:
Is it harder for a straight single female to swing than it is for a single straight male?
I can honestly say I've never seen an advert for a couple looking for a straight single female
Quote by H-x
You can reply with standard membership, you can aslo include e-mail addys within a private pm. What you can't do is put it in an ad or on the forum.
H.x
If you put your email address in a pm to someone who's not a full member the system takes it out.
Upgrading to the Extras package won't make any difference to who can reply to you - it's whether or not they are paid up members that determines what they can do :thumbup:
Quote by angieyorkshire
Reading this again I wonder if it is a lack of attraction, or that he just isn't your 'type'.
I am often pleasantly surprised when i go with a man who isn't my usual type..... there's a moral here somewhere
Personally I don't think it's either. I think it's what my vanilla friends and I call "Trophy Shags/Trophy Boyfriends"
I know a female who does this. She meets a guy she likes (whether in terms of a relationship or a 1 night stand), but she'll ask everyone else what they think of him. If her mates don't find him attractive, she won't go out with him/shag him.
I've always found is a bit superficial.
I'm sure I have when I was younger, but I can't actually remember a time.
Honestly, I don't feel the need.
I find it pretty easy to climax so if a guy's not doing it right then I'll just get on top and "do it myself".
There are times when I can't orgasm (usually when I'm not well, have something on my mind or had too much to drink). In this case I have been known to blurt out quite blunty "look don't try to make me cum because I'm not going to".
I don't want the person (people) I'm with to be wondering what they're doing wrong when it's nothing that they're doing (or not doing)
Honestly, I don't feel the need.
I find it pretty easy to climax so if a guy's not doing it right then I'll just get on top and "do it myself".
There are times when I can't orgasm (usually when I'm not well, have something on my mind or had too much to drink). In this case I have been known to blurt out quite blunty "look don't try to make me cum because I'm not going to".
I don't want the person (people) I'm with to be wondering what they're doing wrong when it's nothing that they're doing (or not doing)
Quote by lostboysandgirls
[ We payed for extras and what do we get? A silly little tag for the chatroom, a lounge as popular as death row (though have chatted to a few really decent people in it on 2 occasions- since March!!!!) Is it thirty winks (oh! what a joy they are!) a day we all need a thousand winks a year don't we. A little extra time on the video thing too -god i try to contain myself-oh and of course a choice of how many colours for our profile to make it stand ou!!!t(only to those who choose to look) i feel like i have been truly selected as 'extra special'. An honour I guess??
Sorry about this ranting i must be hormonal!
Sorry if this sounds a little simplistic, but The extras package is an optionalpackage
As far as I'm aware the description of what you get in the extras package in quite accurate i.e. you get exactly what it says you're going to get.
If you're not happy with what you're getting for your money or you don't think it's worth the money, why not just cancel your extras subscription
Quote by varca
Wish they had listened to you!! At one point I had 500+ mails in my inbox and a huge percentage were Winks. Removing my ad has cut that down dramatically but if the option to opt not to receive them was there, I would definitely have ticked the box.
Varca you still have the option to set the auto responder so that you don't receive wink messages, but you only have the 2 options of wording given by the admin at present
Quote by varca
What's 4T please Dambuster? To be honest, if I can be bothered to reply to a wink (my profile says that they will always be deleted but sometimes I do bother) I just send my own edited wink and then hit the Ignored option in Mail. Problem solved
The 4T is the nick name originally given (by Blonde) to the admin i.e. the site owners.
I did suggest at the time that we have an option that just said "This user has opted not to receive wink messages"
In a nutshell I don't think the admin wanted this as an option as it gives the impression that people don't actually like them and that doesn't generate revenue.
