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HornyLittleBlonde
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 51
Straight Female, 66
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Oooh I love massages.
There's a place I go for aromatherapy massages (local) and they're great.
Never had one as part of a swinging/sexual experience (unless you count dammie giving me one).
I'm open to offers though :rascal:
Seriously it's not something I'd do if I was building up for a shagathon as to me the whole point is for it to relax me to the point where I fall asleep
There's a place I go for aromatherapy massages (local) and they're great.
Never had one as part of a swinging/sexual experience (unless you count dammie giving me one).
I'm open to offers though :rascal:
Seriously it's not something I'd do if I was building up for a shagathon as to me the whole point is for it to relax me to the point where I fall asleep
Quote by poshkate
yeah........we've definately got to get one of those........if only just to prove to dammie that we can fill it with shoes..............
:happy: :happy: :happy:
Oh he knows we could.
I went to get the last of my stuff from my house last week as I'm renting it out.
Another 2 X 4 row shoe racks, and bags full of shoes that he won't let me unpack yet because he's "got to find some space" for them :giggle:
I've just read a couple of really nice posts and it got me thinking.
We've had a lot of members join since the site got took over and some great new people in the forum.
So I thought I'd ressurect and old SH tradition and also give us all a chance to find out a little bit more about some of the people we chat to day to day.
Yes folks
I'm bringing back......
PM Victim of the week
For those that don't know, all you have to do is send a pm to the weekly victim asking a question.
and for the first victim I nominate........
Goose
and to make it easy you can pm him Here :giggle:
We've had a lot of members join since the site got took over and some great new people in the forum.
So I thought I'd ressurect and old SH tradition and also give us all a chance to find out a little bit more about some of the people we chat to day to day.
Yes folks
I'm bringing back......
PM Victim of the week
For those that don't know, all you have to do is send a pm to the weekly victim asking a question.
and for the first victim I nominate........
Goose
and to make it easy you can pm him Here :giggle:
I agree with Darkfire.
To be honest we have discussions about a wide range of topics in here - the Mods only teld to lock them if it's been done pretty recently/there's a similar one still running or it looks like it's going to turn into a slanging match.
It has been mentioned before that The Cafe isn't as good as it used to be and a lot of that is down to fewer users - less people to bounch off/debate with.
Setting up more forums just reduces those numbers more in any given forum.
I know I have a habit of resurrecting old threads, but as I've said before it's because I want the newer members to see some of the diversity we have here and what can actually be done.
I think it just needs a little bit of inspiration.
To be honest we have discussions about a wide range of topics in here - the Mods only teld to lock them if it's been done pretty recently/there's a similar one still running or it looks like it's going to turn into a slanging match.
It has been mentioned before that The Cafe isn't as good as it used to be and a lot of that is down to fewer users - less people to bounch off/debate with.
Setting up more forums just reduces those numbers more in any given forum.
I know I have a habit of resurrecting old threads, but as I've said before it's because I want the newer members to see some of the diversity we have here and what can actually be done.
I think it just needs a little bit of inspiration.
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Erm ..... what does premium membership mean???
Not particularly concerned about the charging question though as unless I give out my cred card details and i've no reason to do that, they can't charge anything to me.
Standard members are those who join the site after Dec 05 and don't pay.
They can view the site and put an ad up, but they can't post in the forum, use the chatroom or send pm's
The admin gave all users who joined the site prior to Dec 05 "Premium Membership" for 1 year to be reviewed this December.
If they hadn't made this decision, come December you would have to pay to use the site the way you do now.
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right then, thats that settled........i'm going tank shopping tomorrow......does anyone know where i can buy one.......and more importantly.........do they do them in pink.......?
......Probably due to the October rains, the paint mixed and ran better than we could have hoped for.
Next morning they looked as tho they had in fact been painted PINK :shock:
We were in soooooooooooo much trouble on the Monday
Well what are you doing still sat here?
If Kate can have a pink tank I want one too :happy:
I think you should go and find it for me :giggle:
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to the 4 tops (or however many of you there is now).It makes me feel more settled knowing that there's not going to be a "mass exodus" in December - I've got my feet firmly under the table now
And I feel much more comfortable about organising something as well - We just need to get you admin guys munching so we can buy you a drink to say thanks
Might even sort out one for down south so you've got no excuse not to come
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http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/67211.html
This thread might help
Again, i'm just throwing this idea into the open, but on the first page alone there are 5 or 6 threads which could go into a sub forum, that sticky is locked, therefore people can't ask these questions, it just seems that alot of good threads die an early death, by being bumped onto page 2, just IMHO but it wouldn't hurt to have a place solely for these questions to be answered away from the often fun chat and forum banter that can be had.
I'm thinking back to when the chatroom went down last week and we had dozens of threads all asking the same question.
It's good to get new people in here asking questions about how the site works etc, but I have commented in the past that The Cafe is often used as the "Chatroom Customer Services Centre".
It's for those kind of problems that I think Iceraider's idea merits discussion.
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MAybe not my place to say, but how about a sub forum or just another forum is created for problems etc etc.
Lately, here in the cafe there is nothing but threads asking for help with site based things, and it does bump the good threads to the bottom of the first page and often onto the 2nd page.
A simple support/suggestins/questions forum would mean that the cafe can actually be about topics not dedicated to tech problems or avatar help etc etc..
Just a suggestion, please don't shoot me.
Definitely not gonna shoot you for that one Iceraider :thumbup:
Bad bad bad Big GI'd also like to add another slant to ths thread:
reading your last post made me think of the role body language plays - something that isn't present on line.
In a situation where someone touched me inapropriately (IMO) in a club, all I did was grab their hand and remove it from where they'd placed it and turn my body away from them, which was enough to make it clear I wasn't interested without having to say a word.
reading your last post made me think of the role body language plays - something that isn't present on line.
In a situation where someone touched me inapropriately (IMO) in a club, all I did was grab their hand and remove it from where they'd placed it and turn my body away from them, which was enough to make it clear I wasn't interested without having to say a word.
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Does your experience of responses to PM's effect how you feel about declining people in the flesh?
Honestly? no.
As long as you don't get nasty or too personal when declining an offer, there's no reason for someone to send comments back like that - unless they're the type of person who can't take rejection. And if that's the case then they're going to struggle to be successful in this lifestyle IMO.
I think I've always been polite in my declines (other than the 1 line pms & similar) so I don't think I could change the way I say no to make it sound any nicer and I have a policy of not "mercy shagging" so I certainly wouldn't shag them just to spare their feelings.
What's your view Pololady?
