Quote by dambuster
Has anyone mentioned that there is already a FAQ ?
I only found it this afternoon, when I was looking for something else
And I can't actually remember now, where it is
As Markz would say
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Quote by Jas-Tim
I'm intrigued that this was allowed as specific naming and shaming isn't usually allowed on the forums. I wouldn't really be happy if that became the norm after these events.
I don't particularly like it as there are those with genuine reasons.
But again the problem is (and someone tell me if I'm wrong) it doesn't actually say you can't.
Historically it's just been an "unwritten rule" or something that forum users have previously not done, which doesn't make it right or wrong.
Quote by dambuster
i . . . . and there last thread after the event was a list of people who actually failed to show, some with valid excuses most with no apology thus naming and shaming in a also has benefits
I hope there wasn't, or it was deleted.
Naming and shaming is generally frowned upon and, imo, rarely does any good or justice.
Having said that most munch organisers keep lists in private of "No shows" and do make them available to other organisers to keep track of persistent offenders (there's only so many times your cat can die)
Quote by Sharif
Can I ask a question , What happens now when I munch is advertised here and it does not comply with the site guide lines?
It depends on why it doesn't comply. But there are rules to state what is and isn't allowed at a munch
If there are attendees who are not members, or it is not in a separate room (e.g. it's been called a munch, but it's 12 people going for a meal in an open pub) then it would not be allowed to be stickied and the organiser would have to change it to a "Social" as per the site rules.
If they knowingly invite a banned member to any event they would be subject to a site ban themselves
Jas
I think there's a place for socials as a no play event orther than a social or munch. I wouldn't like to see pages of rules and guidelines, just something in writing to refer users to that included:
For example:
House Warming Social
House Warming Party
It would be easy to ask people starting threads to label it as one or the other if they can see a reason for doing so.
In addition, I would like so see in writing:
No exact location given in the forum or open chatroom
No charges
I think there's a place for socials as a no play event orther than a social or munch. I wouldn't like to see pages of rules and guidelines, just something in writing to refer users to that included:
For example:
House Warming Social
House Warming Party
It would be easy to ask people starting threads to label it as one or the other if they can see a reason for doing so.
In addition, I would like so see in writing:
No exact location given in the forum or open chatroom
No charges
Quote by cockslut
we would love some of the forum users to pop along to one of our socials,
:doh: Wish you'd have posted that yesterday, we half discussed asking if we could come along.
Quote by cockslut
so at moment then best way forward is to maybe when placing our next ad would be to "go overboard" explaining the boundaries of our social, which is purely drinks / chat at a vanilla social. they should expect no diference to say a drink in town with his friends.
is that suffice?
Personally I wouldn't put it in you're ad at the moment, but if you do choose to (as there's nothing at the moment to say can't) I would just put "If anyone is interested in coming to a purely social meet with us and some other people, please see Here" and put a link to the thread.
Disclaimer The views above are my own personal ones and not a site suggestion
Quote by goose35
I'm still trying to catch up with Dammies social or munch thread
PMSL.
When I first joined the site the chatroom was in a different format, but I couldn't get in it.
Then someone got me in it and I found it difficult to keep up with the pace (as it was all in 1 room) and people kept "blinging" me so I couldn't type.
So I sort of got into the forum and I enjoy it for a lot of the reasons Chav boy mentioned.
I also like the fact that I can go wonder off and make myself a coffee then come back and not miss anything.
Quote by Sassy-Seren
Coffee for me please, I'm working again tonightI'll have a rinky dinky, super skinny, mocha locha, cappawotsit espresso latte, double cream doughnuts with............................oh bugger it, make that a tea please, milk no sugar :thumbup:
You sure we can't tempt you with one of dammie's "Mocha choca lattes?"
You make a few points there Cockslut, but I'm going to concentrate on what you said about mentors as an example.
If there are no clear guidelines anywhere then it is open to individual intepretation.
Although not everyone will read the guidelines at least we as members have something to refer to and to point out to others.
At the moment if someone is "scared to death" of attending a munch, we can refer to the guidelines and tell them confidently what a munch is and what the behaviour is at a munch.
At present if someone pm's me to ask "What goes on at a social" and there's threads running at chatroom discussions about Pub socials, Social BBQ, Social at someones house, I couldn't tell them what a social was and what would or wouldn't happen.
If there are no clear guidelines anywhere then it is open to individual intepretation.
Although not everyone will read the guidelines at least we as members have something to refer to and to point out to others.
At the moment if someone is "scared to death" of attending a munch, we can refer to the guidelines and tell them confidently what a munch is and what the behaviour is at a munch.
At present if someone pm's me to ask "What goes on at a social" and there's threads running at chatroom discussions about Pub socials, Social BBQ, Social at someones house, I couldn't tell them what a social was and what would or wouldn't happen.
Quote by fem_4_taboo
Again if someone is on buissness and they happen to already be in a hotel and invite company in for fun fro a few hours then i wouldnt see whythe company/guest should pay anything if the room was before the arrangement, if you get what i mean??
xx lou xxx
That's a really good point I hadn't actually thought of.
I know when I stay away on business and the room is on expenses I would dream of splitting the cost as I would view that as "for profit"
Quote by Sarah
Mike 48 asked Mal (by pm) to removed his last comment (which he did) as Mike48 says / feels he is big enough to deal with it.
Partially right.
But if we're going to post the truth, let's print the whole truth.
When Mike realised that the imformation given to him wasn't from this site, he wanted to put his own explanation in the thread.
Mal discouraged him from doing that and said it would be better if he did it. And he did.
The post was later removed by Mal, but the thread was still locked meaning Mike couldn't put his own explanation in.
Mike asked that he be allowed to put his own explanation in. Mal refused.
The thread is now left looking like Mike deliberately lied, which is incorrect.
Quote by Sarah
I'm sure Mike48 can start a new thread as to why he asked Mal to remove his comments, and to add any other comment he feels he needs to add.
And starting a thread on the back of a locked thread?
Quote by Mal
We can move whole threads from one forum to another and we can merge a thread into another, but we can't split posts out of a thread and place them elsewhere. We used to but cannot at the moment.
Thanks for the clarification :thumbup:
Quote by Mal
You would be surprised what people consider an abuse of position these days.
Really?
I haven't seen any evidence of that.
I think members of this site have a good understanding of that.
Quote by Mal
We don't have a button for that, HLB - and anyways, it's likely that I would be accused of abusing my position if I was to do that.
I'd assumed that as you have the ability to move posts into different forums and threads that you had the ability to move them into a new one.
If that's not the case I suppose I could start a new thread and you could then move the posts into it.
I don't see how moving it would in anyway implicate you as abusing your position. As long as the posts remain in tact in their original unedited state
a decent wage = playing out money! 
Quote by Mal
And having seen the appalling treatment, and "clever" editing after being locked dished out to mike48 in his suggestions thread, I'm reluctant.
What 'clever' editing would that be? you're making out that that thread was manipulated after locking by moderators, which it wasn't. the only 'clever edit' as you so called it was the removal of my last post as Mike felt he was big enough to make his own defence.
Mal
Excellent idea Mal
I personally believed that Mike writing his own defence/explanation in his own words was a far better idea.
I'm glad you're taking the decision to let him post in the thread. Good work by the Mods as always :thumbup:
At least I'm assuming that's the reason you deleted your post
Quote by davidandtracy
I have got a trapped nerve in my neck (the sorest thing ever) and was wondering if anyone had ever had acupunture for anything like this before and if it atucally worked. I have a football Trial in the morning for a new club and need to attend.
Tracy has booked me into a nearby clinic tonight and tomorrow morning to see if it will do anything for me.....
Anyone got any other helpful tips? Im in complete agony!!!!
D. :cry:
Yours hasn't gone away either? :therethere:
Well
for reasons I won't go into Dambuster thought he was being really clever by threatening to "Sex Starve" me for 2 whole days :shock:
So I felt compelled to post at silly 'o clock just so I could remind him and the other blokes that striking is a really really BAD idea
Don't worry girls. I'll have broken him by dawn (not you Dawnie) :giggle:
Let this be a lesson to you naughty menfolk :twisted:
for reasons I won't go into Dambuster thought he was being really clever by threatening to "Sex Starve" me for 2 whole days :shock:
So I felt compelled to post at silly 'o clock just so I could remind him and the other blokes that striking is a really really BAD idea
Don't worry girls. I'll have broken him by dawn (not you Dawnie) :giggle:
Let this be a lesson to you naughty menfolk :twisted:
