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HornyLittleBlonde
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 51
Straight Female, 66
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BigBlonde
I have to agree you seem to have done everything right.
The site rules are regarding "organising events for profit" the issue is this is difficult to see who is covering costs and who is doing it for profit.
I think the ops were just trying to determine this when they were asking the question - not an easy task
I hope you enjoy the social night and have a great evening :thumbup:
I have to agree you seem to have done everything right.
The site rules are regarding "organising events for profit" the issue is this is difficult to see who is covering costs and who is doing it for profit.
I think the ops were just trying to determine this when they were asking the question - not an easy task
I hope you enjoy the social night and have a great evening :thumbup:
Quote by Shireen_Mids
and a 'function' in a private venue with private facilities with many people dressed to a 'theme' or provocative & sexy and snogging each other hello is a Social ?
Missed this one before...... If this is a NO PLAY function then it could be considered a Munch providing all were members of SH... If there were non SH members and NO PLAY then it would be a social.... If it was a function where there was going to be playing involved then it would be a party....
Am I seriously the only person to see how simple it really is??
I am going to attempt to get back to the point of the thread.
Shireen yes - it really shouldbe that simple
The problem is that wemay know the difference, but some of the people organisingthe events don't.
If a private party is being organised, but everyone is meeting in a pub for a drink before going to the house then this is a "Private Party". The fact that you are meeting for a quick drink first is not different to that of other private meets.
What Darkfire is trying to say is that the confusion occurs when these events are mis labelled as "Socials"
JockMurrayQuote by couple_ne2000
£5 a head could seem steep compared to the £1 or £2 for a Munch..........but a buffet was mentioned...........I know from organising my engagement and wedding do's, that some function rooms insist on you using their caterers and that the charge is approx to per head. Obviously I don't know if that is the case on this occasion, but buffets do cost an absolute fortune.
Les x
For a wedding yes. For a group of 20 strangers you've never met - no
I know myself and other people often look around to find good venues. There are lots of pubs and clubs that would charge a fortune and insist you have their buffet & their DJ. It's just a question of shopping around. Particularly if it's a small group.
We have had Mini Munches where pubs have sectioned off an area and have not charged.
Quote by Missy
Thing is, if there are the 20 or so people turn out - you don't really need the expense of hiring of a function room
Quite right. Usually if a munch organiser is charging £1 a head and the room holds 120 it's pretty reasonable to assume a room that size could cost £100 and give or take a few people dropping out, the excess can be given to charity or left as a tip for the bar staff.
£5 a head without knowing the number of attendees could easily be or at least be viewed at profit making. However if this is a smaller chatroom group (say 20 people) and they have agree to split the cost equally among them then maybe that would be more sensible. That way of more people go the cost is just reduced and there's no argument of what to do with the excess
Whilst it is against the rules to profit, there have been munches where there has been a £1 - charge to cover costs of room/buffet and this is acceptable.
Personally I think £5 a head does seem steep. Having said that there's on average 100 guests at a munch. If this is a chatroom function and there's only 20 people, then I suppose it could be seen as reasonable.
The post does explain that the amount is to cover costs and any left over will go to future socials or charity which again seems reasonable. Maybe this wasn't made as clear in the chatroom where the pace of chat is quicker and there's not a constant record of it.
Personally I think £5 a head does seem steep. Having said that there's on average 100 guests at a munch. If this is a chatroom function and there's only 20 people, then I suppose it could be seen as reasonable.
The post does explain that the amount is to cover costs and any left over will go to future socials or charity which again seems reasonable. Maybe this wasn't made as clear in the chatroom where the pace of chat is quicker and there's not a constant record of it.
Quote by Phoenix
Suprise me then, put the proposition forward to freely allow the posting of threads in LMU for "Open Munches", meaning those that are also advertised elsewhere and do not have to be "members of this site only".
Fred, banned members from any site are a completely different bag of worms.
Off to do some work and earn money....
Phoenix I understand the point you are raising here, but I do don't think that money or membership is an issue.
Munches have always been soley for site members only - here and over the road.
Socials are open to all (with the exception of banned members on this site). Hence why there are more Socials than munches being organised here at the moment.
The admin have never tried to step in and change the rules or stop events being advertised here if non members are invited.
The Munch guidelines have not been updated since the site changed hands.
Oooh dodgy ground hun.
Not sure if you've discussed the idea with her to any great extent. If you haven't I suggest you do because if you start trying to arrange meets without her knowledge she's gonna be pretty pissed off.
Add to that you'll be ruining a wonderful holiday break that she's probably been looking forward to for ages.
My advice would be to enjoy your holiday and maybe discuss some of your fantasies on a particularly romantic & sexy evening. If all goes well then pursue it when you get back.
Not sure if you've discussed the idea with her to any great extent. If you haven't I suggest you do because if you start trying to arrange meets without her knowledge she's gonna be pretty pissed off.
Add to that you'll be ruining a wonderful holiday break that she's probably been looking forward to for ages.
My advice would be to enjoy your holiday and maybe discuss some of your fantasies on a particularly romantic & sexy evening. If all goes well then pursue it when you get back.
Hiya
To be honest I don't think pic collectors are as common as they used to be - after all we have a gallery of pics for people to view now.
I imagine you're nervous as a couple as to whether someone is genuine or not - from a single female looking to meet a couple, security is going to be very important to them.
If you send some further pics to them with your faces blurred and you're clothed and then ask them to do the same, you can start to build up the trust between you all :thumbup:
To be honest I don't think pic collectors are as common as they used to be - after all we have a gallery of pics for people to view now.
I imagine you're nervous as a couple as to whether someone is genuine or not - from a single female looking to meet a couple, security is going to be very important to them.
If you send some further pics to them with your faces blurred and you're clothed and then ask them to do the same, you can start to build up the trust between you all :thumbup:
Quote by HornyBunny
Dambuster
Yep .. your exactly right.. HOWEVER.... would it be more wrong to have this account as a couples account and me say "i meet by myself" ... hmmm i'm sure i'd get MUCH more flak for that!!!
Many couples do meet separately - as long as both parties agree then that's there choice.
I'm thinking that you have 2 separate free accounts as I do from when I originally had one for the adds and one for the forum.
If you paid the £5-£6 to convert 1 to a couples account that could be used jointly by yourself and Immy and you could use the other account for your solo ventures.
Has anyone else noticed an unusually high number of silly posts today - locations, phone numbers, email addresses and general tosh?
Now I'm wondering if there's a conspiricy to overwork the mods and they've all infiltrated SH Towers on mass in an attempted coup :shock:
Either that or The Sarge and his troops have deserted their posts? :giggle:
Now I'm wondering if there's a conspiricy to overwork the mods and they've all infiltrated SH Towers on mass in an attempted coup :shock:
Either that or The Sarge and his troops have deserted their posts? :giggle:
Quote by firelizard
I belong to another forum, not a swingers forum, but one dedicated to a pastime usually associated with anoraks. The language, name-calling and general abuse flashing back and forth on this subject, is a wonder to behold. No, really it would shock you all to the core to see it, and would never be tolerated on this forum. Yet here they are, a bunch of stuffy old button counting history pedants, using the kind of language that would make a swinger blush and run for the mods.
Stormwalker
Really?
Maybe it's time for the Annual SH Tour :giggle:
What he said :thumbup:
During the first half of extra time I remember 1 of the commentators saying "The best thing we can do now is hold out for penalties" WTF?????
Not only have we got a terrible track record for penalty shoot outs, but we've not even got Rooney or Beckham taking them.
Before the start of the game and seeing how we'd played the previous 4 matches I thought we were going to be out played and out classed.
Within the first 10 minutes I actually saw a different side playing and actually started to think we had a chance.
I think the boys did themselves proud with the way they played and battled and I just hope that is reflected in the tabloids.
Oh and if the Portuguese don't win, they still have hope for success in the next Olympic Diving competition.
During the first half of extra time I remember 1 of the commentators saying "The best thing we can do now is hold out for penalties" WTF?????
Not only have we got a terrible track record for penalty shoot outs, but we've not even got Rooney or Beckham taking them.
Before the start of the game and seeing how we'd played the previous 4 matches I thought we were going to be out played and out classed.
Within the first 10 minutes I actually saw a different side playing and actually started to think we had a chance.
I think the boys did themselves proud with the way they played and battled and I just hope that is reflected in the tabloids.
Oh and if the Portuguese don't win, they still have hope for success in the next Olympic Diving competition.
Quote by Darkfire
I would be interested to hear the views of those who are voting 'no, it doesnt matter' in the poll.
Me too.
If anyone's worried about being "flamed" please don't. I am genuinely interested to read a balance of opinions on this topic and whilst I might not agree with them I will try & respect them.
Quote by PoloLady
. However.... the worrying thing is the amount of details openly discussed in there for all and sundry to note.
I have notice that in some of the Let's Meet Up threads, but luckily the Mods are quick to remove venue details etc.
The lack of thought does worry me sometimes. I know of a chatroom social that went a bit wrong when one couple decided to announce to the whole pub of vanillas that they were a group of swingers :shock:
Quote by dambuster
But atfer a few repaet occurences, I decided to check the bottle of lube and noticed it was called I.D. Pleaure - Lightning Sensation, Feel the ZING ! ! ! !
Oh - and btw. The girl in the shop told us it was also a good conditioner for girl's hair :shock:
Girls he's a bloke don't listen to him.
It's not conditioner, but it can be used as hair serum. See Here
Quote by lavabubble
Alternatively, is this genuinely just for privacy of the attendees???!
:thumbup:
That's precisely it. It isn't just separate toilet facilities it's a separate room, separate bar - a completely separate area.
The aim is just so that we are complete segregated from any vanillas - not because there's any sexual activity because there isn't. It's just so everyone can relax and talk and flirt without having to worry about prying eyes or feeling like they're in a goldfish bowl
:therethere: Goose
I'm not surprised you're confused. I'll try to simplify it.
Anything social is purely that - i.e. the venue choice and the behaviour at the event is totally vanilla. e.g. drinks in a pub.
A munch is a site sanctioned event and therefore is open to all site members (except complete newbies) i.e. the organiser cannot say "couples & Bi fems only" or "only for people living in the midlands"
A social is at the organisers discretion as to who they invite and they can invite none site member (as long as it's not people banned from this site).
A club meet is a club meet. Although SH may orgasnise a group going to a club, the club is still open to it's regular members and thus is not exclusive to those on the invite list and is also not purely social as people will be playing in the club.
A private party/house party/private meet is where swinging activity is involved and again it is the organisers choice as to who they invite
I'm not surprised you're confused. I'll try to simplify it.
Anything social is purely that - i.e. the venue choice and the behaviour at the event is totally vanilla. e.g. drinks in a pub.
A munch is a site sanctioned event and therefore is open to all site members (except complete newbies) i.e. the organiser cannot say "couples & Bi fems only" or "only for people living in the midlands"
A social is at the organisers discretion as to who they invite and they can invite none site member (as long as it's not people banned from this site).
A club meet is a club meet. Although SH may orgasnise a group going to a club, the club is still open to it's regular members and thus is not exclusive to those on the invite list and is also not purely social as people will be playing in the club.
A private party/house party/private meet is where swinging activity is involved and again it is the organisers choice as to who they invite
I'm not going to get into the individual definitions of munches, & socials, but more what they share. They are both oppurtunities for like minded to meet up in a purely social environment.
The essense of this thread is the difference between Socials and other meets - or to put it more simply....play or no play.
And this is where it does matter. It doesn't matter which someone chooses to organise - both should be abundant on a thriving swinging site, but it does matter that there's a distinction between the two.
Dambuster said earlier that he wouldn't like to travel 20 miles to a social event to find out it was actually a quick pint then a shag. Equally if you think that you're attending a meet where there's going to be sexual activity, you're going to be pretty miffed at travelling 20 miles for a diet coke!!!
And it's also for the benefit of the organiser. At the end of the day, if you're organising a sex fest, but adsvertise it as a Social, you're only going to be disappointed if half your guest want nothing more than a drink and a chat.
So to play or not to play that is the question - it doesn't matter which as long as you make it clear
The essense of this thread is the difference between Socials and other meets - or to put it more simply....play or no play.
And this is where it does matter. It doesn't matter which someone chooses to organise - both should be abundant on a thriving swinging site, but it does matter that there's a distinction between the two.
Dambuster said earlier that he wouldn't like to travel 20 miles to a social event to find out it was actually a quick pint then a shag. Equally if you think that you're attending a meet where there's going to be sexual activity, you're going to be pretty miffed at travelling 20 miles for a diet coke!!!
And it's also for the benefit of the organiser. At the end of the day, if you're organising a sex fest, but adsvertise it as a Social, you're only going to be disappointed if half your guest want nothing more than a drink and a chat.
So to play or not to play that is the question - it doesn't matter which as long as you make it clear
I think it depends on how your girlfriend feels about sex in general and only you can answer that one.
Have you tried discussing fantasies with her before?
It may be an idea to find out what her views are when discussing it as a fantasy and if she's open to it or excited by it, then move on to the possibility of making fantasy a reality.
Have you tried discussing fantasies with her before?
It may be an idea to find out what her views are when discussing it as a fantasy and if she's open to it or excited by it, then move on to the possibility of making fantasy a reality.
At the moment there's not many munches going on anywhere so it's nothing personal about Scotland or the Scottish.
I went to the last Glasgow munch and had a great time.
As has been said, because of the recent changes in the site a lot of the regular munch organisers are letting things settle before organising anything big - so watch this space.
Just out of interest, I would be interested to know what Robhambledon & Fifemale & other chatroom users think a munch is because I have noticed a lot of threads recently in let's meet up that aren't clear as to what's being organised:
Is it a munch?
Is it a Social?
Is it a private party?
I went to the last Glasgow munch and had a great time.
As has been said, because of the recent changes in the site a lot of the regular munch organisers are letting things settle before organising anything big - so watch this space.
Just out of interest, I would be interested to know what Robhambledon & Fifemale & other chatroom users think a munch is because I have noticed a lot of threads recently in let's meet up that aren't clear as to what's being organised:
Is it a munch?
Is it a Social?
Is it a private party?
