Those that have commented about the forum being a bit slow at the moment has also mentioned previous cycles.
Now to me that says that although they think it's slow at the moment, this has happened before when other members were here (including themselves).
So for any newer members - don't take it personally. It isn't personal.
Now personally speaking I don't post as much because I feel the forum is changing in a way that doesn't suit me or my personality.
I remember when I first joined the site I would be sat reading the forum and crying with laughter. I don't do that very often nowadays.
I don't mean that as a personal insult to anyone, and I think a lot of it is down to the number of people on the the forum now - you don't get the same level of banter/opinions with 30 people as you do with 300.
Again, that doesn't mean that the 30 people on line are not as good/funny/interesting as members of old - it just means there's less diversity and the threads don't move as quickly
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HornyLittleBlonde
Over 90 days ago
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Straight Female, 66
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Quote by Cherrytree
Would you like karaoke with that? :giggle:
You know what I think I might
Quote by redangel
Erm.... can I come, I'll just eat and then go away again!!! That sounds fabulous!!!
You can come and eat, but you have to stay and sing on the Karaoke as well now :giggle:
The other thing I've always wanted to do, but I think is a bit over budget for the £100 pound, would be to hire a log cabin for the weekend.
Similar sort of format, but a smaller group of friends all sitting round an open log fire in the winter eating, drinking and chatting.
I'd be doing the cooking for that one though as I don't think we'd be taking the BBQ with us and it might be a bit cold outside
Quote by Marya_Northeast
i think it's only common courtesy that should an ad be removed by admin/mods then they could send a short PM explaining why.
Have you put up a Support ticket or contacted a mod direct - with a copy of the ad specifics you intend to use?
I can see that it would be a lot more curteous in the case of a genuine misunderstanding, but I wonder how many ads a day the mods delete from the couples or women seeking sections that are actually single males?
And of those how many are doing it deliberately just to gain more exposure.
I do feel for Philstar, but I can kind of understand what the mods are up against and if they pm'd every person who put their ad in the wrong place and everyperson whose email they deleted from an ad, they'd never get anything done.
Quote by Darkfire
ooo good one HLB
would you cook? and what?
cor, full of questions me
Well I'd have to let him cook on the BarB
but I'd prepare t all.I'd like something quite tasty:
Mussels Mariniere
Tiger Prawns with lime & coriander
Piri Piri Chicken
Rib Eye Steak
Vegetable Kebabs
Cheese stuffed jalepenos
Served with:
Herby green salad
Mushrooms
Asparagus
Roasted cherry tomatoes
Fresh Fruit Desert:
Strawberries
Raspberries
Kiwi
Mango
Melon
Passionfruit
with Greek Yoghurt and a drizzle of honey
I'd like to have a BBQ in the summer.
I'd do it by private invite for the people we know well.
Starting off quite chilled out - nice food, fine wine & good conversation.
Then dancing around laughing and a giggling and onto who knows what.
I'd wouldn't label it as purely social or a play meet- just a gathering of good company and just let the evening progress naturally, whichever way that may be.
I'd do it by private invite for the people we know well.
Starting off quite chilled out - nice food, fine wine & good conversation.
Then dancing around laughing and a giggling and onto who knows what.
I'd wouldn't label it as purely social or a play meet- just a gathering of good company and just let the evening progress naturally, whichever way that may be.
Quote by Darkfire
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is this thread a bit too 'much' for the Cafe do you think?
It certainly shouldn't be.
I've been trying to think of some of the things that pop into my mind and the reasons for them.
As well as the intensity of the moment I think it also has alot to do with "Firsts".
For example
1 that sticks in my mind is being in a nightclub in Washington DC when I was club had an outdoor dancefloor.
It was a hot summers evening and all of a sudden the heavens opened.
As a few people started looking for shelter, the DJ started playing "Naked in the rain" by Blue Pearl.
Everyone started just dancing & getting drenched, I remember thinking how horny I felt, there we all these people their clothing going see through and clinging to every part of their bodies.
All dancing & grinding up against each other. I can still remember the rain running down my cheek and onto my lips.
At this stage in my life I hadn't really thought about bisexuality, but I remember being so aroused see erect nipples pushing through clingy wet clothing.
So I think the memory stays with me partly because it was such an intense spontaneous event and partly because it was a first, but everytime I hear "Naked in the rain" I have a little smile to myself
Quote by Darkfire
Ooo! as it happens....:lol2:
went out vanilla style with the girls last night, somewhere in the conversation with a mate I see loads of, have known for years but dont actually know that muchabout pops up the name of a couple we both know, independent of each other, who are swingers. Cue following conversation during which we both realised we were quietly admitting to knowing this couple in a not so vanilla way
:shock:
Funnily enough, there's a new girl at work I go for a coffee with.
In the last 2 weeks she's mentioned swinging, dogging, TVs and that she quite likes pain.
Quote by westerross
That's a pity, Choon.
One of the switches is the mere mention of a second cock :shock:
* I am in sooooo much trouble when she comes back in from the kitchen
Quote by westerross
<<<<<<< Choon vacates the domestic next door!!
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Quote by westerross
The question this post raises is 'What tests/questions do you apply, HLB, to determine which is which?'
There's no set questions, but there are things that people have said in general conversation that have put me off swinging with them.
Sometimes it's not even anything they've said it's just the way I've observed them interacting with people.
I'm not going to divulge what it is and it's only my opinion so others may see it differently, but it works for me.
It's always going to happen.
Best thing I suggest is you tell your friend to take the ad down altogether.
Put text in the profile area specifying want she wants/doesn't want and then reply to other people's ads that she's interested in.
I was on this site for a year and a half before I put an ad up myself.
Best thing I suggest is you tell your friend to take the ad down altogether.
Put text in the profile area specifying want she wants/doesn't want and then reply to other people's ads that she's interested in.
I was on this site for a year and a half before I put an ad up myself.
Quote by buckingfabe
Sorry if i'm maligning anybody, but from what I have observed since I have been a member of this site I think that a lot of the single guys are only here for the free shag aspect too. Therefore does that make them swingers in the making or vanillas in disguise?
Makes perfect sense to me :thumbup:
I've often said there's a difference between a single person looking for a shag and a Swingle.
I'm happy to invite Swingles to join us for a threesome.
I'm wouldn't be comfortable with a single person looking for a shag.
Quote by Angel_and_H
hiya all who read............
We got mails stating H is stopping Angel and spoiling for others.
:therethere: you two
No one should have to put up with that.
Don't let it stop you going in the chat rooms - you are obviously well liked in the rooms you go in and you should continue to enjoy yourselves. :thumbup:
The worst that could happen is they start getting nasty in chat and then the ops can do something about it.
As had been said, it's probably best to block their email addy and ignore it.
Although personally I'd be tempting to send them a email back first.
Something along the lines of:
Dear Stalkers
I suppose I should feel flattered by your persistence.
Someone who takes the time to send unwanted messages to people clearly not interested in them must be really desperate to meet them (or maybe just desperate).
And now you can't even bear my on line presence, such is your desperation.
I honestly started to pity you, but then realised this was silly as you're clearly incredibly happy (well they do say ignorance is bliss).
I'd love to write more, but fortunately I don't have the time - my husband and I are busy finding sexual adventure with kind, respectful, sexy people who meet our criteria.
xxx
Quote by fabio
we have in the past talking about seeing just cock pics in profiles and how people feel about that
I've highlighted a word from Fabio's original post as I think a few people have missed the point.
The question was related to whether we view female & male genital shots in the same way, but I think a few people missed the word I've highlighted.
Nobody has suggested that genitalia should be banned (although I understand where Staggy's coming from on the forum related issue to which I agree).
Suggesting that because some people don't want to JUSTsee genital shots, means we're on a slippery slope to vanilla is a tad extreme. :shock:
I'd be interested to know what kind of pics people like to see from other before you arrange a meet.
For instance, would you arrange to meet after:
a) seeing only genital shots?
b) Do you like to see face pics first?
c) Do you like to cam first?
d) Do you meet socially for the 1st meet
Quote by wild rose and the stag
No double standards here!
I don't like close up genital shots - male or female.
:thumbup:
That pretty much sums it up for me
but would you stop them appearing on the site?
Absolutely not. I said I don't particularly like them - I never said nobody else should
Yes this is a swinging site and people are here to have sex, but I'm not generally aroused by justkebab shots or justcock pics.
To me swinging is all about meeting sexy people, not just about jumping up and down on something erect - if it was I'd just stick to a vibrator
If a profile has a selection of pics such as, body shots in sexy underwear, breasts, Smiling sexy faces, I'd be much more turned on by it.
