Quote by manofmuchfun
sorry, arron, I am sceptical about your post, you want to go swinging and your wife just announced 2 years back to an affair? wasnt disscused ,you just got told? if a proper couple do you not talk an decide things together? and as to interfering in anothers marriage for yours an his gratification, well you is heading for trouble ! are you sure you are all not fantasising ?
this is only my opinion !
You're entitled to your opinon, but I give you my word that nobody is fantasising. I am pobably at a different wavelength form some of you guys, given by more conservative upbringing and that is probably why you feel sceptical. Please remember that both Jaye and I spent the first 25 years of our lives (22 in her case) in India where things are not discussed openly even these days, let alone 15 years ago. But Jaye and I have tried to adapt to western ways since we came to live in the UK.
We have been sexually liberated since 1999 when we indulged in wife swapping games for the first time. But that was with a couple we knew for many years (I have posted that story in the 'Swingers stories' section) and it was the 'first time' for all of us back then. Therefore, my wife knew quite well that I would not consider her affair with John as an infidelity. If you read my post again, you'll see that Jaye did tell me soon after she began her affair with John - which was 2 years ago. But it is this idea of bringing Annika in that is new.
In defence of John, he is quite happy to tell his wife himself about his affair with Jaye, but it is I who have so far stopped him from doing so, because it may spell an end to this idea of a foursome. To be honest, I quite fancy Annika myself and am very keen on taking her to bed, but am not too sure of her reaction to a proposition. She can be a bit tempermental at times and all 3 of us want to get the idea across right.
My own feeling is that I could perhaps express to Annika my own fancy to her without mentioning the affair at first. If she responds positively, the rest could be easy. But if she rejects my advances and tells John, then it is pointless.
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