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Lucifer
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 65
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Quote by norty_forty
im female i ride a bike , not sure just how bi i am
I've just re-checked my lottery tickets and hey !!!!!! I won the rollover on Saturday !!!!!!!!
Norty, we should meet up :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
GHS you pass on VD at your own peril
you know what an unforgiving, piss-taking community that is 
Liquidman_2k,
As a biker I'd suggest that you're really posting this in the wrong forum and can point you to many biker forums if you really want a rideout
As a single Swinging Heaven male I can only advise that the odds we face on here are about the same as us single blokes face on bikers forums. So the chances of meeting a single swinging female who's really into bikes is, in mathematical terms - sod all squared - and if she's bi it'd be better than winning the lottery. I live in hope :D
That being said, there's a lady on here who I recognise from a bike forum I use (Lucifer waves @ GHS )
Seriously, there's quite a few bikers here, and I've even had the pleasure of some company out on the bike with people from here. Both shagging and social and there's even the occasional lady who's knickers drop at the sight of a man in leathers.
Join in the banter and have fun.....
As a biker I'd suggest that you're really posting this in the wrong forum and can point you to many biker forums if you really want a rideout
As a single Swinging Heaven male I can only advise that the odds we face on here are about the same as us single blokes face on bikers forums. So the chances of meeting a single swinging female who's really into bikes is, in mathematical terms - sod all squared - and if she's bi it'd be better than winning the lottery. I live in hope :D
That being said, there's a lady on here who I recognise from a bike forum I use (Lucifer waves @ GHS )
Seriously, there's quite a few bikers here, and I've even had the pleasure of some company out on the bike with people from here. Both shagging and social and there's even the occasional lady who's knickers drop at the sight of a man in leathers.
Join in the banter and have fun.....
I feel it necessary to make some distinctions here....
I know people who've come here to SH for some reason other than swinging... and being quite open and honest that what they're looking for is a relationship. That's fine, even if they get some way down that path and figure out that's not what they wanted after all. As long they are open and honest in their dealings with others, then I see no problem with that.
I know people who've come here in the immediate aftermath of a relationship breakup and feel the need to "put themselves about a bit", to exorcise whatever demons are still hanging around in their emotional makeup. And that's fine too, I'm sure everyone would wish these people the best of luck in finding what they need to move onwards.
I also know people here that are genuine swingers, and are here because this is the best place to meet other swingers, and they never pretend to be anything else.
And then of course there's the married / attached people who come here to "cheat" without their partner's knowledge, but that's been done to death lol
What is unforgiveable, either here or "in real life", is being dishonest about who you are, what you're after or your level of emotional commitment to a relationship. Whether you want an engagement ring or the chance to get in someone's knickers it doesn't matter, that's deception plain and simple, and is unacceptable behaviour here, or in the real world for that matter.
This is what I think Corrie was getting at, and I agree with her 100%
I know people who've come here to SH for some reason other than swinging... and being quite open and honest that what they're looking for is a relationship. That's fine, even if they get some way down that path and figure out that's not what they wanted after all. As long they are open and honest in their dealings with others, then I see no problem with that.
I know people who've come here in the immediate aftermath of a relationship breakup and feel the need to "put themselves about a bit", to exorcise whatever demons are still hanging around in their emotional makeup. And that's fine too, I'm sure everyone would wish these people the best of luck in finding what they need to move onwards.
I also know people here that are genuine swingers, and are here because this is the best place to meet other swingers, and they never pretend to be anything else.
And then of course there's the married / attached people who come here to "cheat" without their partner's knowledge, but that's been done to death lol
What is unforgiveable, either here or "in real life", is being dishonest about who you are, what you're after or your level of emotional commitment to a relationship. Whether you want an engagement ring or the chance to get in someone's knickers it doesn't matter, that's deception plain and simple, and is unacceptable behaviour here, or in the real world for that matter.
This is what I think Corrie was getting at, and I agree with her 100%
by being included in this threadQuote by Calista
The chat room is not a general place to chat .. it's an extension of Lets Meet Up! We are not looking for anyone at the moment we don't have an ad. I used to go in the chat room occasionally and it's less chat and more about meeting up .. ie whats your ad no? can I pm you? Calista
/Hijack mode on
Sorry Calista, but you've really got the wrong impression of what the room's all about.
I don't doubt that every time you've been in there you've been inundated with "whats your ad no? can I pm you?". It happens to every person who comes in with a nickname that even remotely suggests being female. Hell I get it sometimes - maybe my nick means "Lucy's up fer it" ???
The truth is that there's a huge community of regulars that use the chatroom to chat about all sorts of shite, flirt, joke, tease and yup, talk about sex and swinging. I even know quite a few people that are regulars in the chatroom that don't swing at all but still enjoy being part of the community.
I've had meets with people where we've first made contact in the room, yes it does happen, but for me and I suspect most of the regulars, that's an added bonus, not the reason for being there.
The people that use it as an extension of lets meet up tend to get bored quite quick, complain about the cliqueyness of the place and flounce out.
/hijack mode
Back to the original subject - this is one of the most lightly moderated forums I use, and I wouldn't wish it any other way.
From a user's perspective (rather than that of the mods) it's quite easy to skip / avoid / skim read the posts that are "inane drivel". Everyone here has the ability to make the decision on whether or not to read a particular thread.
Quote by JGL
one of my friends (fem) is seing a nother one of my friends boyfirend.
JGL
Sounds like a ready-made foursome to me mate, if the girls are both bi then you're onto a winner.
Seriously you're between a rock and a hard place. To continue to be friends with both of them, it's all gotta come out in the open, so throwing a rant might help. The risk is you damage your relationship with both of them.
Alternatively, you could decide your loyalties lie with one friend or the other, and decide you won't continue to be put in a difficult position, by avoiding it in the first place.
HTH
Joe,
I know two people from SH who use wheelchairs and participate in the swinging scene with no problems other than the accessibility issues that Misschief mentioned.
One thing I have to say about the swinger community here is that it's, on the whole, sooooo much less judgemental most groups of people you'd meet outside the "scene".
All I can say is jump in, and fill yer boots !!!
Lucifer
I know two people from SH who use wheelchairs and participate in the swinging scene with no problems other than the accessibility issues that Misschief mentioned.
One thing I have to say about the swinger community here is that it's, on the whole, sooooo much less judgemental most groups of people you'd meet outside the "scene".
All I can say is jump in, and fill yer boots !!!
Lucifer
Quote by tallnhairy
More than this, a lot of the things we take for granted on the internet were created by the porn industry..........
Sex has driven the cutting edge of audio-visual technology ever since our distant ancestors first scraped a burnt stick across the walls of a cave...
The web is purely following the trends set by oil painting, sculpture, the printing press, photography, cine cameras, video cameras & VCRs and everything else that came before the internet....
As a species we're pretty obsessed
Quote by Marya
Can I just ask why the men were cut in the first place? My experience is only with someone who had it done as a young child for health reasons so I'm curious to know why adults go for it, especially given the leg-crossing pain factor. Guys, I feel for you!
I was circumcised at 19. Jeez that smarted :shock:
My foreskin lost its elasticity and which meant it would split when I was shagging. After a while, I got used to various doctors wanking my cock and saying "oh yes, you do have a problem, don't you?" I had a slice taken from it under a local anaesthetic, a group of medical students taking a good look and even ended up being photographed for a medical textbook.
After a protracted convalescence, during which I lived in fear of a hard-on due to the stitches, I got to road-test my new cock and was pleasantly surprised that it worked even better than before. I could thrust away without the fear of doing myself any damage
Marya - fancy a feel ???
EdinBBW,
Ultimately, you need to be honest with yourself about what you're after in life, and how having your lover in your life could figure in those ambitions. Your first priority is your well-being.
If you're happy to be his part-time lover and essentially live your life as a single woman the rest of the time, then yes, keep it going if that makes you happy. As it's been going on for 4 years, you probably already know about the downsides. There are people in this world who've lived like this for many years, and it is possible to live a perfectly fulfilled life this way.
On the other hand, I believe that people who can feel content and fulfilled in such circumstances are relatively few and far between. You may be one of these, in which case be sure you make your decision with your eyes wide open, and good luck.
For what it's worth, my suggestion would be to take some time out from seeing your lover, spend some time on your own, live as a single for a while. This is what worked for me, many years ago, when I finally brought a three and a half year relationship with a married woman to a close. I worked out that being with her was making me unhappy (even though we had the best of times when we were together) and I came out of it the other side a stronger and happier person. Over 10 years later, she's still one of my best friends and I'm one of the first people she calls when she needs help and support, so I'm happy with the outcome, although we did go through some shit at the time.
Ultimately, you need to be honest with yourself about what you're after in life, and how having your lover in your life could figure in those ambitions. Your first priority is your well-being.
If you're happy to be his part-time lover and essentially live your life as a single woman the rest of the time, then yes, keep it going if that makes you happy. As it's been going on for 4 years, you probably already know about the downsides. There are people in this world who've lived like this for many years, and it is possible to live a perfectly fulfilled life this way.
On the other hand, I believe that people who can feel content and fulfilled in such circumstances are relatively few and far between. You may be one of these, in which case be sure you make your decision with your eyes wide open, and good luck.
For what it's worth, my suggestion would be to take some time out from seeing your lover, spend some time on your own, live as a single for a while. This is what worked for me, many years ago, when I finally brought a three and a half year relationship with a married woman to a close. I worked out that being with her was making me unhappy (even though we had the best of times when we were together) and I came out of it the other side a stronger and happier person. Over 10 years later, she's still one of my best friends and I'm one of the first people she calls when she needs help and support, so I'm happy with the outcome, although we did go through some shit at the time.
Well Corrie I can't think of a better reason to don my posting boots again after my break. 
assionkiss: :passionkiss:
You're not alone in coming to this site for one reason ( 
) - but gaining other things entirely - meaningful friendships, new perspectives and impetus in making life changes that need to be made.
I send my best wishes to you my friend, and I'm here for you as you reach for the stars.
All my love,
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Luci
assionkiss: :passionkiss: You're not alone in coming to this site for one reason (
) - but gaining other things entirely - meaningful friendships, new perspectives and impetus in making life changes that need to be made. I send my best wishes to you my friend, and I'm here for you as you reach for the stars.
All my love,
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Luci
OMFG this came out wrong....
I'm not pissed off with Corrie, I'm just very pre-occupied and tense about some of the issues I'm facing... I'm pleased I can call her one of my friends.
And yes, we'll be keeping in touch....
Quote by Lucifer
Mixing a pissed off me with large quantities of alcohol .....
I'm not pissed off with Corrie, I'm just very pre-occupied and tense about some of the issues I'm facing... I'm pleased I can call her one of my friends.
And yes, we'll be keeping in touch....
Well blimey this leaving for a while thing is contagious.....
As Corrie said we're going our separate ways, and this makes me sadder than you can believe. I haven't been on here for a few days as like Corrie, I too have decided I need to take some time out and sort out some issues I have in my life. I hope to be back one day soon, as I've made a bunch of really good friends during my time here......
I must apologise to Clare and Steve for cancelling from the munch at such short notice. Mixing a pissed off me with large quantities of alcohol can be a particularly bad idea, so given the circumstances, it was best I stayed at home.
Besides, while you lot were all getting ready for a night of debauchery, I was holding my new baby nephew for the first time, which really put a whole bunch of stuff into perspective for me.
So take care, all you horny people, and I hope to see you all again one day soon....
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lucifer
As Corrie said we're going our separate ways, and this makes me sadder than you can believe. I haven't been on here for a few days as like Corrie, I too have decided I need to take some time out and sort out some issues I have in my life. I hope to be back one day soon, as I've made a bunch of really good friends during my time here......
I must apologise to Clare and Steve for cancelling from the munch at such short notice. Mixing a pissed off me with large quantities of alcohol can be a particularly bad idea, so given the circumstances, it was best I stayed at home.
Besides, while you lot were all getting ready for a night of debauchery, I was holding my new baby nephew for the first time, which really put a whole bunch of stuff into perspective for me.
So take care, all you horny people, and I hope to see you all again one day soon....
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lucifer
Quote by corriefem
I have made some really great friends in here. One special one is Lucifer who has made my confidence as a woman treble over the last couple of months and for that I thank him. Love Corriexxxxxx
Corrie you're such a kind, genuine, honest, gorgeous young lady it wouldn't be possible for me to treat you in any way other than how you deserve to be treated.
assionkiss: :passionkiss: Hoping for many many more months
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx Luci
