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M1ssVery
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 43
0 miles · Greater London

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Quote by Trevaunance
Missvery asked:
If the partner doesn't know about it, how is it swinging? unless to you the definition of swinging is simply recreational sex with consenting adults...?

If you think about it, a person who is cheating is I would argue acting as if they are single when they are meeting others.
Sorry Trev, not sure I got your point here.. Do you mean if you "act" single then you "are" single? So there is no such thing as cheating?
Quote by Trevaunance

By looking at "swinging" as more than just a sex act. Swinging to me is an openness and attitude towards sex and sexuality that doesn't require you to be attached in order to embrace it. And certainly doesn't change when you're partnered up(whether you meet others for sex or not)..
Unless Ofcourse you go by the old school version of wife-swapping. ;)
Quote by Paul80
Don’t like using the word “cheat” but our thoughts are different now, to 15 years ago when we started meeting other people to spice our sex life up. We have met all types for all reasons and each one had a different reason for swinging. Some say wife have gone off sex, some say got no wife/husband, some lie some tell the truth. In general its not up to us to judge. But the one thing that is important to us is that we don’t want to be messed around. if people have something to hide than it best keep it to themselves. We are not looking for a relationship some other people might be, never understood why that do that on this site mind. old swinging saying, “we go together and we come home together”. “no means no” and genuine swingers are looking for fun not for a crowed marriage.
Just be honest to yourselves the rest follows...

if the partner doesn't know about it, how is it swinging? unless to you the definition of swinging is simply recreational sex with consenting adults...? So then, if your partner is not getting enough from you or not happy with how they're getting it, are they forgiven for going behind your back?..
It's not about judging others, for me, it's about judging myself- I do not want to KNOWINGLY play with attached people when their partners don't know about. Otherwise, what's so special about being on a swinging site? dunno
Had a peek and looks like a good profile to me. You have a reasonable amount written about who you are and what you're looking for. As for pictures, just remember, there are thousands of cock pics, genuine people will care more about the person and the head that's on your shoulder ;)
Personally, I would not engage with someone who keeps this (site/lifestyle) as a secret from their partner although I completely appreciate you not lying about being single on your profile. That MAY be one reason you get less responses..but then I know people who find that a non-issue.
Best of luck!!!
Tip: enjoy the social and make sure you don't organise dates then cancel and sometimes just not even bother telling the person you cancelled..that would help you come across as genuine and improve your image on the site.
Just speaking from my experience..with other men obviously..
Goodluck
Quote by flower411
I don`t like lol
If I want to chat to somebody, I`ll meet them in person or talk on the phone. Obviously texting rears it`s ugly head for short messages.
My sister loves :lol:
We went to hers for dinner last night and she sets up the laptop on the dining table so that we can with her eldest daughter while we are eating !!!
Both my 16 year old daughter and I find this rude, a bit like watching the telly when you have guests or chatting on the phone . I can see that it`s not quite the same but still ! rolleyes
Is this the future ? Will we all sit around eating while absent friends and relatives are other wise located ?

maybe it's an english thing??..
bolt
I love ! It allows me to speak to my mum and "see" her regularly in the week (she's living in New Zealand). And my dad and other relatives..And there have been times when she's called me on while all my other aunties and cousins were there visiting so I can be part of the gathering..priceless.
my family at the dinner table talking over each other:
"you're dumb","where's the slag?" "nom nom it's too salty", "bring some fruit","your rice is horrible today" "where are you going can i come?", "shut up", "pass the bread", "hahahahehehe", "your sister is a *beeeeep*" "arrrghhh", "whatever", "yes", "it's too windy", "hate it when it's hot and stuffy" "no","mum can go out?" "go make the tea" "no you go make the tea" " "let's go".............aaah
Atleast I still get a taste of that thanks to . :lol:
Show my best friend the filthy fun time of her life!!
We've been best friends for 27yrs, she is coming over from Dubai on the 22nd of Dec, she wants to experience a club visit and I want to introduce her to some of my delicious friends on here!
Saturday 29th is the best option I guess (she is only here till the 2nd sad ).. Hellfireclub perhaps??? Suggestions? Ideas? Invites?
Quote by anais
Rather get a pet lol

you pretend to be a Northerner and i`ll be pet :grin:
I don't have to pretend pet wink
meaow purrrr..
I once tried balancing some Transformers on his ass but I found that the Autobots would roll off when in car mode.
Cubes, again, I feel the need to state that this was a rushed job and I am normally more attentive..(the cake people the cake!!)..But glad you liked it!!
Right..*sits back and waits for filthy cake orders*... :smoke:
Thank you everyone!!!!!! I'm very pleased and have never enjoyed a trip to B&Q as much as I did today!!
Will definitely have a flatwarming when all done up. Must warn you though, the flat is very small we might end up on top of each other..
:giggle:
Quote by Trevaunance
Congratulations; Its a big achievement getting your first mortgage in this day and age, so celebrate in style smile

Thank you!! Celebrating with a Naked Plastering and Painting party, you in? :lol2:
Quote by Paddy
Bills, bills, bills - Hopes all is happy in your new purchase and you get nice "House Warming" presents.
Paddy x

refer to my list on the Xmas Wish List thread..what was my new tag line erm.. "get me a bed and you'll get me in it" lol
Quote by Cubes
PS.... stick the kettle on. ;)
bolt

I will as soon as I buy one!!! wink
:bounce::happy::bounce::happy::bounce::happy::bounce::happy::bounce::happy::bounce::happy:
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:thrilled:
Quote by Lizaleanrob
watching these shows doesn't make you brain dead..mine is working perfectly fine..in all 3 languages..:jagsatwork:
Does it really matter if they're contrived or fixed? Watching these programs is like watching a bit of panto..or flicking through a trashy magazine..a bit of easy entertainment (after having exhausted your brain all day!)

and im glad you agree bolt
for the record i also have three languges english french and foul
I'm still Entry Level Foul. Do you do private tuition? :lol2:
private lessons are indeed available
the only down side is its best taught during filthy gratuitous sex :rascal::rascal:
I seem to retain information better when on all fours but shhh don't tell my employers :rascal:
Quote by Cubes

Sweet Dream Arquette Bed Frame

I recently bought one of those for my daughter. It comes flat-packed so you might want to order an experienced man to assemble it for you. innocent
;)
"get me a bed and you'll get me in it".. my new motto hopefully not for long :rascal:
Quote by M1ssVery
Dear Santa (here's hoping you're a member on here and yes happy to play with Mrs Claus if need be innocent)
Fridge
Oven
Bosch Exxcel Washer/dryer
Sweet Dream Arquette Bed Frame
Mattress
(small) hoover
Toaster
Kettle
Bin
Wardrobe
Dresser
Paint
Carpet
Bottle of rose wine and a bar of Twirl.
Thank you xxx

OH MY GOSH I FORGOT... SOFA!!! pray it's not too late and he's not loaded up the sleigh.. :doh:
Dear Santa (here's hoping you're a member on here and yes happy to play with Mrs Claus if need be innocent)
Fridge
Oven
Bosch Exxcel Washer/dryer
Sweet Dream Arquette Bed Frame
Mattress
(small) hoover
Toaster
Kettle
Bin
Wardrobe
Dresser
Paint
Carpet
Bottle of rose wine and a bar of Twirl.
Thank you xxx
Quote by Lizaleanrob
watching these shows doesn't make you brain dead..mine is working perfectly fine..in all 3 languages..:jagsatwork:
Does it really matter if they're contrived or fixed? Watching these programs is like watching a bit of panto..or flicking through a trashy magazine..a bit of easy entertainment (after having exhausted your brain all day!)

and im glad you agree bolt
for the record i also have three languges english french and foul
I'm still Entry Level Foul. Do you do private tuition? :lol2:
watching these shows doesn't make you brain dead..mine is working perfectly fine..in all 3 languages..:jagsatwork:
Does it really matter if they're contrived or fixed? Watching these programs is like watching a bit of panto..or flicking through a trashy magazine..a bit of easy entertainment (after having exhausted your brain all day!)
Yes please don't make judgements about people in chatrooms!! I'm a nosey bugger and go into all rooms, the more hardcore or over the top the name, the more I want to have a peek and see what's going on!! lol
As for bareback, I've done it quite a few times when I was younger and my dad swore it was good for me and would up my skills!
God I miss horseriding....
Quote by MidsCouple24
What to do in Stoke
Skiing at the dry ski slope
Waterworld
Pottery museums
Trentham Gardens
Alton Towers
and that is all I can come up with that is not available everywhere else and some of that list is wink
I am really struggling to find reasons to come here, we love it here and we have two excellent swingers clubs at the weekend but other than that it is just another small city.
You could visit Sasha in Hospital lol She would appreciate it :wink:

Hmm The above require a longer length of stay..So I think I may go with the sausage suggestion. I do love a good quality meat :twisted:
I'm up there to sign contract on my first flat (in London yes) :notes:. Reason the broker and solicitor are up there is thanks to SH really.. he he
Sasha in hospital?? Hope it's because she works there and it's nothing else!
Could always do coffee :lol:
Sorry boys, but nothing is more appealing at the moment then going to Stoke on Wednesday! :bounce:
Quote by NNNF
What can one do there?

See how many times people mispronounce things like phone (ferrn)....
Get the train somewhere more interesting?
Marvel at the way that the shops are just like everywhere else?
wave Not seen your name for ages smile
nice to be missed kiss or atleast remembered lol
Next SH get-together I'll bring the cake then wink and umm.. hmm what shape should it be lol
by the way, a few have asked me..no this not real popcorn! Hand made from marshmallows!! Yeah I'm good with my hands ya know what I mean :twisted:
Quote by London_Olympian
I'm impressed! You have some pretty mean cake making skills.
What do you think of mine?

Jammie Dodgers wheels- epic!! ;)
...in the kitchen! What do you think? :lickface: Give up the day job??
in this instance, applying the lebanese saying "stir your yoghurts and they will be sold" was not necessary me thinks :jagsatwork:
Cubes- ya get me? :dry: