Everyone's talking about Grey! I will read it when the fuss has died down a bit and the library or friends have spare copies.
I'm not in any rush 'cos I'm not that interested but as said above, it's about keeping up with popular culture, that's all.
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Marya_Northeast
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 51
0 miles · Stockton-on-Tees
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You have a friends list, comments and Shrep so maybe it's not about the quantity of the attention you receive but the quality?
I have previously found that less is more. I once had a pic on another site showing a fully clothed rear view of myself and it got more hits than any other profile pic! I don;t think it's anything to do with ME, just human nature ... people are intrigued by a bit of mystery, perhaps?
I have previously found that less is more. I once had a pic on another site showing a fully clothed rear view of myself and it got more hits than any other profile pic! I don;t think it's anything to do with ME, just human nature ... people are intrigued by a bit of mystery, perhaps?
I had this problem some time ago and it niggled me the same way as it did you. You know deep down it's not a massive problem, just a little glitch, but christ, does it bug you to death!
I submitted a low priority ticket and it was fixed within 48 hours. Can't fault that really.
I can sleep at night now, safe in the knowledge I have no bloody mail!
I submitted a low priority ticket and it was fixed within 48 hours. Can't fault that really.
I can sleep at night now, safe in the knowledge I have no bloody mail!
There are lots of things better than sex, but it's about feelings and emotions and that's summat else entirely.
Sex with feelings and emotions is, imo, always the best even when the sex isn't that great. The emotional will always over-ride the physical.
A cuddle with the right person can make you feel like nothing else matters. Maybe the sheer abandonment of good sex can feel the same, but for me ... I dunno ... I can get good sex like that anywhere but a good, proper cuddle with the right person just as you need it is something special.
Sex with feelings and emotions is, imo, always the best even when the sex isn't that great. The emotional will always over-ride the physical.
A cuddle with the right person can make you feel like nothing else matters. Maybe the sheer abandonment of good sex can feel the same, but for me ... I dunno ... I can get good sex like that anywhere but a good, proper cuddle with the right person just as you need it is something special.
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Being a timewaster to me is not just about failing to turn up for meets, timewasting also includes contacting people without reading thier profiles first to see if you are remotely compatible or worse reading and ignoring it, it takes time to read and reply to messages or winks etc.
THIS!!!
More often than not, when people approach me in the chatroom with the usual "hi how are you" mundaneness, I ask if they can read the profile please, to avoid wasting their time. What i really mean, of course is "read the fucking profile first, dickhead and then you won't waste MY time".
You can be as upfront and honest as you like, but they still waste your time but totally disregarding everything and pushing for more. I blame the people who lie on their profiles as clearly they have given in at some point and gone against their original intentions. If they're willing to do that, then people think you are too.
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I know it sounds like a right faff on and it is but I don't have much choice, my skin is too sensitive and dry. If I don't get my routine in order, I spend all day feeling uncomfortable. I'd prefer to just use ordinary soap but my skin won't tolerate it. The kindest stuff is aqueous cream but it doesn't smell too pretty.
I'd be interested to see how you fair with vinegar and no moisturiser. Perhaps try a forearm or somewhere not too sensitive to see if there is a difference?
what kind of vinegar? I dunno ... it's acidic so surely too harsh for sensitive, dry skin types?
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After reading a few threads on here recently I have decided I am a time waster.
How I have decided this is by answering a few simple questions in my head.
1. I used to meet but don't anymore must = A time waster
2. I chat and have a laugh with people and because of number 1 above = A time waster
3. I don't arrange meets anymore = A time waster
4. I like chatting to people with like minds = wasting their time.
So adding it all up I must be a time waster and proud to be one.
Would any other time wasters like to unite with me?
Do drop in and say hi
People like us are on the wrong site, so I'm told. I've decided to stick around just to piss people off.
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This is a pretty common theme and I stopped entertaining anyone who couldn't accom as it always worked out that they'd lied about their status. Now, I don't give two shits if you're married or not and you can lie to your wife all you like - that's your problem. But lie to me, especially when there's no reason to since I don't have an issue with meeting attached people, then I am not interested.
This followed an incident where I met a single male, who then admitted he was still married but separated, got to his house and not only was there his wedding photo on display but the dresser is full of perfume and make up and even her slippers are still next to the fucking bed!!
Oh C'mon Marya, the poor guy was still in shock....he was hoping she'd eventually see that he was a good honest straight up guy and return to him, hell he even has her slippers waitin' for her. Anyway, I hope you managed to comfort him somewhat......before the bingo finished.
:lol:
Yeah, she came back for slippers and we went to a hotel instead. :mrgreen:
Are we in danger of encouraging people to only interact with people in their own, or specific, age groups?
Not sure why that's a problem. I came on here to find specific types of people in a specific age range/location/mindset/whatever for specific activities. It's a bit of fun not a lifestyle choice so I don't really feel like I'm limiting myself or unfairly dismissing other people.
I'm not here to be politically correct, I get enough of that bullshit at work.
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OK one year later, still no fems or mixed couples are responding to me
I daresay that's nothing to do with your particular situation but rather to do with the way things work on sites like this. Makes no odds what your sexual persuasion may be, a lot of guys find it difficult to get responses from couples and single females.
Well ... so I gather from the amount of whining on here.
I rarely have baths. I get bored just sitting there in my own muck and I can't wash my hair in bath water so I end up having a shower afterwards anyway. :-?
I use exfoliating mitts every morning in the shower with whatever shower gel/cream is currently not making me itch, followed by gallons of moisturiser. I'm loving Garnier body lotion and Body Shop Shea body butter.
I wash my face before the shower with either T Zone or Nivea scrubs followed by Clarins pure melt cleansing gel to soothe and soften the skin, followed by Nivea Soft, followed by Nivea Q10.
I know it sounds like a right faff on and it is but I don't have much choice, my skin is too sensitive and dry. If I don't get my routine in order, I spend all day feeling uncomfortable. I'd prefer to just use ordinary soap but my skin won't tolerate it. The kindest stuff is aqueous cream but it doesn't smell too pretty.
I use exfoliating mitts every morning in the shower with whatever shower gel/cream is currently not making me itch, followed by gallons of moisturiser. I'm loving Garnier body lotion and Body Shop Shea body butter.
I wash my face before the shower with either T Zone or Nivea scrubs followed by Clarins pure melt cleansing gel to soothe and soften the skin, followed by Nivea Soft, followed by Nivea Q10.
I know it sounds like a right faff on and it is but I don't have much choice, my skin is too sensitive and dry. If I don't get my routine in order, I spend all day feeling uncomfortable. I'd prefer to just use ordinary soap but my skin won't tolerate it. The kindest stuff is aqueous cream but it doesn't smell too pretty.
I don't really fantasize about celebs but there's always one or two I wouldn't pass by. I like some of the aforementioned, Jack Sparrow, Christian Bale. There's something very sexy about being quirky and confident!
The ones I've liked for years ...
Robbie Williams .. might be settled down now but he's clearly a dirty fucker and would suck cock for me so it'd be rude not to
Dermot O'Leary .. for all that he is a little short, I'd just sit on his pretty face and we'd not notice the difference
David Tennant .. in DW mode. Generally don't go for skinny guys nowadays but that playful uber-geek thing still rocks my boat.
The rest are changeable but I've always liked a young cheeky chappy or a cool confident bad boy .. Joe Swash maybe for the first, Jeff Hordley for the latter ... I reckon they're both pretty filthy given the right circumstances.
Not remotely bi in any way but if I was to go with another woman, I'd be torn. Always had a major crush on Kylie but as much as I adore our lovely Holly Willoughbooby, I think she's too lovely to touch! I'd feel like I'd tainted her
Maybe I'd just watch Kylie and Holly together. :mrgreen:
The ones I've liked for years ...
Robbie Williams .. might be settled down now but he's clearly a dirty fucker and would suck cock for me so it'd be rude not to
Dermot O'Leary .. for all that he is a little short, I'd just sit on his pretty face and we'd not notice the difference
David Tennant .. in DW mode. Generally don't go for skinny guys nowadays but that playful uber-geek thing still rocks my boat.
The rest are changeable but I've always liked a young cheeky chappy or a cool confident bad boy .. Joe Swash maybe for the first, Jeff Hordley for the latter ... I reckon they're both pretty filthy given the right circumstances.
Not remotely bi in any way but if I was to go with another woman, I'd be torn. Always had a major crush on Kylie but as much as I adore our lovely Holly Willoughbooby, I think she's too lovely to touch! I'd feel like I'd tainted her
Maybe I'd just watch Kylie and Holly together. :mrgreen: Quote by Lost
Fuc*ing loads said here fuc*******ing loada!
I think Marya is ace and I'm so glad she's posting once more too - Ahhh she's witty good looking sardonic plus lots of other things too but must admit I wouldn't f*ck in essence I'm a nice guy and I wouldn't want to ruin her for anyone else coming after me.:)
Hahahahah! You're absolutely right, of course ;)
Are you mostly after "fit", good-looking people?
Mostly, yes. Personality and all the rest is important too but I'm not fucking someone just 'cos they're a nice person.
Do you ever vet prospective playmates on appearance alone?
No, it's part of a full package.
Do you get the hots for people that don't look so good to you but have an irresistible attitude/personality?
Ummmm ... Certainly a fantastic sense of humour, intelligence, an instant "click", all that makes an average-looking person more attractive to me but I wouldn't shag a total minger just 'cos they're witty.
Would you go with someone that was physically attractive but with whom you couldn't hold a simple conversation?
Only in a random one-off situation like a club. Not for one-to-one meets.
Does the appeal of someone's appearance go up or down as you get to know them?
Without a doubt, yes.
Can horniness/eagerness trump looks in the fancy stakes?
Only when I've been a bit tipsy which hasn't happened for years now.
Are there any physical traits that you find an instant turn-off?
Instant turn-on?
Yeah .. depends on the person though. What I find attractive in one person, I might despise in another. I do like little quirks ... a big nose or crooked teeth or an unusual scar - something like that might just nail it!
Any thoughts/anecdotes, all welcome.
I have taken full advantage of being a single female and being able to pick and choose. I know how much that pisses the guys off but ... well, tough. I can so I will. I'm known to be exceptionally fussy in my requirements. I have, in the past, had very detailed profiles and instantly dismissed potential meets on the tiniest thing.
I think it goes without saying I've been slated for this. Apparently, I'm nothing special and how dare I be so arrogant blah blah .. god knows, these men wouldn't give me a second glance out in the real world etc. Well, so what? I think I am summat special and I'll be as fussy as I like 'cos this isn't the "real world". In fact, it's the only world I know where women have any control so why the hell shouldn't I take advantage of it.
Besides, it can be a lot of aggravation trying to get to know someone and arrange a meet. I haven't got time to waste on people who might be alright; I need to feel like there's a very good chance they're gonna be awesome! I made a few mistakes in the beginning but I learned a lot along the way and this "system" worked for me - I generally got what I wanted. The were a few dry spells along the way but for me, it's definitely quality over quantity. My libido isn't quite at the level that I'll just have sex for the sake of having sex ... you know?
edit ... sorry ... can I just say, I know I come across a proper bitch but really, I'm just being honest. To me, this site was about fulfilling my fantasies so I always sought fantasy men. The thing about fantasy is that, if made reality it has to be perfect otherwise it's ruined. So, if I couldn't get exactly what I wanted, I'd rather do without. In many areas of my life, I've had to settle for second best. This was my fantasy life and I wanted the best. Otherwise, what's the point?
Appearances are massively important and anyone who says otherwise is a big fibber. No one really goes for personality alone, otherwise all the ugly people would be getting laid more. OK< I've said too much.
Mostly, yes. Personality and all the rest is important too but I'm not fucking someone just 'cos they're a nice person.
Do you ever vet prospective playmates on appearance alone?
No, it's part of a full package.
Do you get the hots for people that don't look so good to you but have an irresistible attitude/personality?
Ummmm ... Certainly a fantastic sense of humour, intelligence, an instant "click", all that makes an average-looking person more attractive to me but I wouldn't shag a total minger just 'cos they're witty.
Would you go with someone that was physically attractive but with whom you couldn't hold a simple conversation?
Only in a random one-off situation like a club. Not for one-to-one meets.
Does the appeal of someone's appearance go up or down as you get to know them?
Without a doubt, yes.
Can horniness/eagerness trump looks in the fancy stakes?
Only when I've been a bit tipsy which hasn't happened for years now.
Are there any physical traits that you find an instant turn-off?
Instant turn-on?
Yeah .. depends on the person though. What I find attractive in one person, I might despise in another. I do like little quirks ... a big nose or crooked teeth or an unusual scar - something like that might just nail it!
Any thoughts/anecdotes, all welcome.
I have taken full advantage of being a single female and being able to pick and choose. I know how much that pisses the guys off but ... well, tough. I can so I will. I'm known to be exceptionally fussy in my requirements. I have, in the past, had very detailed profiles and instantly dismissed potential meets on the tiniest thing.
I think it goes without saying I've been slated for this. Apparently, I'm nothing special and how dare I be so arrogant blah blah .. god knows, these men wouldn't give me a second glance out in the real world etc. Well, so what? I think I am summat special and I'll be as fussy as I like 'cos this isn't the "real world". In fact, it's the only world I know where women have any control so why the hell shouldn't I take advantage of it.
Besides, it can be a lot of aggravation trying to get to know someone and arrange a meet. I haven't got time to waste on people who might be alright; I need to feel like there's a very good chance they're gonna be awesome! I made a few mistakes in the beginning but I learned a lot along the way and this "system" worked for me - I generally got what I wanted. The were a few dry spells along the way but for me, it's definitely quality over quantity. My libido isn't quite at the level that I'll just have sex for the sake of having sex ... you know?
edit ... sorry ... can I just say, I know I come across a proper bitch but really, I'm just being honest. To me, this site was about fulfilling my fantasies so I always sought fantasy men. The thing about fantasy is that, if made reality it has to be perfect otherwise it's ruined. So, if I couldn't get exactly what I wanted, I'd rather do without. In many areas of my life, I've had to settle for second best. This was my fantasy life and I wanted the best. Otherwise, what's the point?
Appearances are massively important and anyone who says otherwise is a big fibber. No one really goes for personality alone, otherwise all the ugly people would be getting laid more. OK< I've said too much.
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all people without face pics on their profiles are ugly. :twisted:
Yep! The times when I had no picture on... judging from most people's reaction when they finally see me, they must have thought I had been trying to hide some serious deformity or something
DT73 :welcome:
I usually get accused of being a man.
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There is another way to look at it...which is neither right or wrong...you can decide.
Some people live in the past, some in the future. Things seem a lot clearer to me if you live in the moment...especially if that moment is 10minutes at a time
If you are a positive person then you'll be looking for good/fun times and if you are respectful then you'll aim not to hurt anyone.
I reckon if you add communication and honesty then anything is possible
that works for me, although some people might argue the case that you are indirectly hurting someone. The way I see it, if someone is going to cheat on their partner, they're gonna do it anyway, whether it's with you or AN Other, so if you wanna shag 'em, shag 'em.
Just don't get caught.
Nothing changes on here, does it? How many times people flounce 'cos they don't like what they hear.
I understand getting your back up if you think people are having a go but forums are about airing opinions and if you put yours on here, surely you're automatically accepting you are opening yourself up to all kinds of attention and criticism?
I dunno.
As a wise person once said - take a spoonful of cement and harden the fuck up.
The day I give a shit what you lot think of me is the day I will happily cut my own throat.
I understand getting your back up if you think people are having a go but forums are about airing opinions and if you put yours on here, surely you're automatically accepting you are opening yourself up to all kinds of attention and criticism?
I dunno.
As a wise person once said - take a spoonful of cement and harden the fuck up.The day I give a shit what you lot think of me is the day I will happily cut my own throat.
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Thanks, I knew it would be simple!
Mind you after 8 years there are a lot of people on the list, and this is the first one to be taken off
Thanks again.
I know what you mean!
i had to look at my ignore list to work it out and I don't even know who those people are or what they did to get on there. They're staying though, I trust my own judgement even if I don't remember it ... !
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As for single women meeting up with guys at their place? Come on the answers pretty obvious there. Fair it may not be but I'd feel safer in the knowledge that any single swinger* lady friend I knew wasn't meeting casually at her own home with anyone at least to start with. we maybe swingers but surely it doesn't preclude us from the usual safety protocols.
How is she any safer going to his?
It might seem a bit daft but I used to feel more comfortable going to other people's houses than mine. I've always been in the habit of passing on their details to a close friend should the worst happen, I'm in a position to leave whenever I feel like it (rather than hinting that their time is up and showing them the door!) and since they don't have my address, I avoid the whole stalker issue as much as possible. Plus, I have a child at home and while she would never be there while I was "entertaining", there's photos and stuff all over the house and it seems like common sense to me that random shags off the internet are not privy to that info.
Maybe I'm kidding myself ... hell, I could get and murdered walking through a car-park but we all take whatever precautions we need to make us feel happy. It's only through experience we learn.
I think the main reason might be that people are just trying to be discreet and protect themselves from being identified or pics falling in the wrong hands, etc.
I was pretty careless in the beginning. I had pics on here and sent several varieties by email or msn. Got a bit of a shock when one young gentleman sent back to me a montage of all my pics in one - everything from face pic to nether regions!
I have preferred not to have any pics on sites like this that might identify me to others. Tasteful body pics, yes. Explicit, no. Face pics, no. I've sent face pics by email but not with anything rude as I don't want my real identity associated with this site.
Granted, you don't need to be a rocket scientist but it made me feel a bit better.
I've not had pics on this site for a long time but don't they have the web address stamped on them anyway? Definitely wouldn't send those out if anyone could identify me from them.
Further to another thread regarding photos and intellectual property, I highly recommend you only let people take your photo with your phone/camera and you keep control of them! Learn from my mistakes
also ... just thought ... when I have had pics on here, people bug you to death asking to see them. Along with all the other shit they bug you to death with.
I was pretty careless in the beginning. I had pics on here and sent several varieties by email or msn. Got a bit of a shock when one young gentleman sent back to me a montage of all my pics in one - everything from face pic to nether regions!
I have preferred not to have any pics on sites like this that might identify me to others. Tasteful body pics, yes. Explicit, no. Face pics, no. I've sent face pics by email but not with anything rude as I don't want my real identity associated with this site.
Granted, you don't need to be a rocket scientist but it made me feel a bit better.
I've not had pics on this site for a long time but don't they have the web address stamped on them anyway? Definitely wouldn't send those out if anyone could identify me from them.
Further to another thread regarding photos and intellectual property, I highly recommend you only let people take your photo with your phone/camera and you keep control of them! Learn from my mistakes
also ... just thought ... when I have had pics on here, people bug you to death asking to see them. Along with all the other shit they bug you to death with.
This is a pretty common theme and I stopped entertaining anyone who couldn't accom as it always worked out that they'd lied about their status. Now, I don't give two shits if you're married or not and you can lie to your wife all you like - that's your problem. But lie to me, especially when there's no reason to since I don't have an issue with meeting attached people, then I am not interested.
This followed an incident where I met a single male, who then admitted he was still married but separated, got to his house and not only was there his wedding photo on display but the dresser is full of perfume and make up and even her slippers are still next to the fucking bed!!
This followed an incident where I met a single male, who then admitted he was still married but separated, got to his house and not only was there his wedding photo on display but the dresser is full of perfume and make up and even her slippers are still next to the fucking bed!!
