A work colleague wears a t-shirt saying:
"I can only please one person per day. Today is not your day. Tomorrow is not looking good either."
I've seen the site evolve over the years and it stopped serving it's purpose for me on the sex side. I tend to view this place as a more social thing really.
My guess is that new members don't really hang about long enough and obviously when you're paying for something, you want results. The other place is free so no harm in sticking around indefinitely. The hardcore base membership on here, I imagine, is made up of long-standing members and that kind of clique is very hard for anyone to get into.
Patience is a virtue, I s'pose.
I've had shitty news or gone through a bad time and dropped off the radar from real life friends not just people I've met off the internet for no-strings sex, so I can confirm this does happen and when it does, the last thing you can really be arsed to do is deal with other people. You've got enough on your plate and everything else has to go on the back burner. Granted, a simple text would have probably sufficed but realistically, for a lot of people, fuck-buddies are not a priority when it comes to family/friends/work/health issues. IMO, anyway but I am an arsehole.
I've also had the experience of someone else doing the same to me and I cursed him to anyone who would listen. turned out he was 100% genuine and his "excuse" was a very real and serious issue however, there was too much water under the bridge and I don't do second chances 'cos I'm a bitch like that.
if you liked him enough and he seemed genuine before then give him the benefit of the doubt but proceed with caution. One foot wrong and he's straight on the shit-list.
It's up to you but remember, not everyone's an arsehole.
I find the pokes on Facebook and winks and god knows what else on other sites all equally pointless. If there is no way to disable them, they just get ignored.
I understand it to be a quick and easy way to attempt to draw attention to yourself but then what? Ffs ... if you've got summat to say, just say it. Stop pissing about.
It seems a lot of people just don't know or can't be arsed to communicate properly anymore. Bad times.
I have a friend who is a total boob-man and even he can't explain it to me.
Maybe it's 'cos it's the first sign of sexual maturity that boys notice and for some, it just sticks in their mind? Yeah, sure Freud has some maternal thing going on, comfort, safety blah blah ... dunno ... it's all guesswork.
Personally, very happy with my lot. Don't want them any bigger or smaller but now I'm getting on a bit, I wouldn't mind if they were a bit more perky!
If you don't fancy the person you're fucking then what's the point? You might as well have a wank or shag a hole in the wall.
tbh, this just reinforces what I already thought ... a lot of men will just fuck owt just for the sake of fucking. Then they wonder why some of us are so fussy!
I imagine, like lots of names and words over the centuries, they have been adapted. If we are to assume that Jesus et al actually existed, then perhaps the disciples' names are versions of the originals that were more appealing to the book's target audience?
Naturally, for those that believe the book to be a work of fiction, then the characters' names are not much different to any other .... didn't Shakespeare make up loads of words that probably meant nowt at the time?
If there's any chance of last minute changes AND there's a space on the list AND I can still get a hotel then I really hope I can make it 'cos I was sooo looking forward to this.
First big social in blummin' ages and seeing all me old muckers and lots of new ones. Dammit!
Buggery! Can't believe I'm doing this already - I have to cancel, sorry!
Hope you all have the bestest time xx
Can I be considered for an invitation purlease, dependant on childcare, accom, usual bollocks.
Naturally, if the list fills up before I confirm then I understand I'll be delegated to the reserve pile!
Ta muchly x
Is it happening again?
A few people in chat reporting problems with crashing, cams not working and I was just logged out of the main site.
Going to bed soon anyway but thought I should let you know, if you didn't know already.
I appreciate this is probably not very important to most of you but I really, really, REALLY NEED the roll eyes emote back PLEASE!!!!
The alternative is you get shot of all the people that make me roll my eyes. The decision is yours.
Maybe I'm just a bit paranoid or something, but I don't like that people can still watch your cam from another room. It's a bit creepy.
I think Hot's comment about Teesside v Pink is very fair. I understand the events further North are generally popular and well-attended but too far/expensive for most of us down here.
I've organised a couple of events myself in the past and it's a thankless task not without a degree of hassle and frustration so I can appreciate why people are reticent in doing the same.
House parties are nice if you know the host/ess but it's a much more intimate environment and atmosphere so I think you'd be fool to expect a bunch of couples or single females to turn up at a stranger's house in some obscure Northumberland village.
As for membership, well we can't make people join up can we? People come and go as they please, maybe they choose to use other sites or just drop out altogether and find a real life? The site has attempted to draw more people in with the recent free chat trial but who knows how many have stayed since then?
I think this whole "swinging" malarkey is now much more mainstream and people are finding they can enjoy this kind of hobby without the need for joining sites like this. God knows how many times I've been approached on the likes of Facebook, for example, or even (gasp!) out in the real world!
The chatroom is dying 'cos people do nothing but fuckin whinge - FACT! They come in, whine about how quiet is it, contribute absolutely nothing yet expect to be entertained by the masses and get instant meets - then they leave again! What the hell do they expect really?
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from going from room to room when I log in I see all the online chat ops in a variety of rooms. It shouldn't matter what room a chat op is in when they are online because if a member reports a problem, either by pm or by the report button we will deal with that situation ASAP.