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McrBloke
Over 90 days ago
Male, 59
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Quote by Dawnie
McrM4M-pvtOK we are discussing opening these rooms again but we won't be forced into making a decision on them without considering all options.
What we don't want to happen is members giving out the wrong advice to newbies. So we are at the stage where some of the OPs would be happy to co-host as Sarge has done in the past.
However, none of us have yet decided when it would be possible.
Please don't feel like we are ignoring your comments but try and give us time to make arragements so that one OP can spend most of an evening in one room and there being other OPs to help on the rest of the servers :thumbup:

Hi Dawnie - sorry if my posts haven't come across as intended. I'm in favour of them, happy to help out, and understand that they have to be thought through carefully so they work well. Some forum users won't have been around when this was originally running and wouldn't be aware of previous requirements for an Op to be present.
Put me down if you're creating a list and want some volunteers to help out. More than happy to help if I can. wink
Quote by Mallock2006
Checked with another Op on this and newbie rooms can only be hosted by Ops at the mo.

Perhaps it ought to be written into the rules then dunno
Was never a problem when I was an Op confused
I agree on your first point - I've also suggested previously that a permanent room is setup (like the Pool etc) for this purpose.
Dunno how long it's been since you were an Op but this originally surfaced just after the take-over.
Checked with another Op on this and newbie rooms can only be hosted by Ops at the mo.
Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
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hopefully after seeing this post, another 'experienced' chat room user just might decide to do something.
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I suggested this some time ago and was advised that only ChatOps could host rooms like this.
I'm sure plenty of more experienced members would be willing to help (I co-hosted a few with Bilko's permission) but there is a risk that if a non-Op runs a room newbies might assume that standard members are acting in some official capacity.
Quote by Dawnie
I am trying McrM4M, very trying rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

And your boobies are still trying to escape that dress on your avatar
sillyhwoar:
Quote by splendid_
I'm a firm believer in the rights of the individual to participate in any consentual act providing it does no harm to anyone else (e.g. BDSM) but it is nevertheless illegal. This inconsistency causes confusion for members.

BDSM is not illegal. confused
I think that he was talking about Dogging... and although that isn't illegal, it is if someone viewing it (accidentally I presume) is offended and reports it.
splendid
Uhm nope, I was talking about some SM activities which are still illegal in the UK: "SM activity is an illegal assault if it results in marks or injuries which are more than transient and trifling" ( ).
Thanks for taking the time to respond (and quickly too) Dawnie....makes things a litle clearer I guess.
smile
A couple of other things I'd like to raise that I believe fit into this discussion:
The site rules are very clear on two things: no rooms that encourage illegal activities, and no references to minors in usernames.
The first has been the subject of much debate and resulted in a change to the rules for rooms referring to certain articles of clothing because of some of the types it attracts (who are in the minority). However there are established BDSM rooms hosted, and those for dogging and cruising. Whilst I agree with the reasoning behing preventing the former, the latter demonstrates the issue is not being handled consistently.
I'm a firm believer in the rights of the individual to participate in any consentual act providing it does no harm to anyone else (e.g. BDSM) but it is nevertheless illegal. This inconsistency causes confusion for members.
With regard to minors, this rule clearly isn't being enforced and there appears to be no simple way of unacceptable nicknames being dealt with. Just take a look in any chatroom and you'll find plenty of people with "boy", "lad", "girl" in their names (most of which are middle-aged).
My second point is regarding Ops. I believe the process for applications and acceptance criteria should be more transparent. There are plenty of people who appear to be suitable for the post and we are desparately short of them. Those who already hold this position do an excellent job for the most part and I hope would welcome additional help.
Having been through the application process twice without success I'm still at a loss as to exactly how it works. I have no desire to apply again but I'd hope that something better could be put in place to deal with applications.
Perhaps the site Admins should consider some sort of buddying scheme or monitored probation period to attract more people.
Ok ok already! pmsl
Signature changed but I'm hanging onto the penguin facelift for now.....
Quote by RedHot
it's about time someone else took a turn at being the dozy bint :lol2:

Thanks! pmsl
Quote by Sgt Bilko
...this is plain when they enter the cornwall room with a id such as lad in berks say (that is made up) and say anyone want to meet for a shag tonight...

Was slightly confused by this - people can't change their nicknames on an ad-hoc basis. They have to apply for a change and get it approved (and I believe there's a charge for this.

The "That is made up" bit is a name that fem made up to use in this example ............ I think!!
Ooooops - got it now....do I get an award for being prize numpty?
:silly:
Quote by Gothic-punk
I think if you are just curious and want to see what goes on and are after a gentler introduction to sex with people of your own gender, then cottaging, dogging or beaches full of naked men probably isn't the best way to go about finding out.
Those activities have thier own rules and codes and I would imagine to a new person they would seem pretty ntimidating. I certainly wouldn't go to them (or know where to find them) - but for a bit of hot boy on boy action I'd go to a gay club and cop off, or arrange a one on one meeting from here with someone I had got to know who I clicked with.

Well said that man :thumbup:
Brandon, it's a shame your experience wasn't all you expected it to be. I'm not sure (from what you've said) how they were to be expected to know you were curious, given that you were wanking. They probably took it as a come-on (which isn't unreasonable given the circumstances and location).
Bit unfortunate one of them followed you to your car - most take "no" for an answer and move onto the next person. Sounds like you were unfortunate with one of the few "can't take no for an answer" types.
If you have a problem with single men replying to your ads I believe there's a way of blocking messages from them. Perhaps a Mod or other experienced user could provide some advice on this.
Quote by fem_4_taboo
...this is plain when they enter the cornwall room with a id such as lad in berks say (that is made up) and say anyone want to meet for a shag tonight...

Was slightly confused by this - people can't change their nicknames on an ad-hoc basis. They have to apply for a change and get it approved (and I believe there's a charge for this.
Totally understand your frustration tho...and as has already been said before in this thread, the people who are most likely to cause the problems are least likely to read the forums.
Quote by RedHot
When the new chatroom arives, it will have the facility to restrict on who can host a room - so if anyone fails to adhere to the rules and guidelines of hosting a room (unfair booting or whatever), they can be blocked from doing so in the future.

This is excellent news - should make your jobs a little easier wink
Quote by RedHot
<snip>Trawling a message every now and then in a room may be a mild irritant to some members, but being whispered withour asking first, or constantly being directed is also an irritant to others.<snip>

I'm in agreement with you on this one and trawling a standard message is my preferred option. biggrin
I was trying to find a happy medium that would appeal to more people.
Yes I see that happening a lot too - perhaps the Create Room box could include a little bit of text reminding hosts that they have responsibilities too.
It would need to be kept short otherwise no-one will ever read it, but could link to the Chatroom Rules and AUP.
Quote by Mal
I have deleted the post with the workaround for the 5 minute rule (apologies to the poster).
There is no problem passing that sort of information by PM ,but to post it in the open forum means that those who are booted from a room for a reason, can get straight back in and start annoying everyone else in the room immediately without a break.
we know it's possible, but it's open to abuse when it's in the open forum.
Mal
lol

Whoops, sorry Mal - I posted it thinking this information had already been shared in previous posts though I must confess I didn't look as the Search button doesn't like me much.
Happy to pass the information onto individuals by PM if required.....but only to the nice ones tho biggrin
I think the idea about having standard messages attached to emoticon-type buttons has some merit. Here's another suggestion for the new chatroom that might help (taking onboard Ian's comments about people getting argumentative when it's posted by room hosts).
How about some static text that appears permanently at the top of the chat window, which is customisable by the room host when they start a room up? There could be (a) no whispering, (b) no directing, (c) directing allowed and others.
Here's a mock-up to give you an idea of what I mean - these options could be tick-boxes or radio buttons the room host selects when opening a room:

The existing message about not whispering uninvited and no posting of URLs or phone numbers is a good one, but it soon scrolls off the screen. A more visible and permanent reminder would be better.
Depends how they've been saved in the first place - if they're MP3, WAV or WMA you should be ok transferring them. If you've purchased songs from iTunes that are in AAC (Apple) format they may be locked and difficult to copy.
This is where iTunes is a real pain and Apple is being leant upon by the EC Courts for having restrictive practices.....if you pay for a song, why should you only be able to play it in iTunes or on your iPod?
There are numerous programmes around that remove the AAC copy protection so you can move your files just like any other media file. Have a search on Google or PM me if you want any further info.
Another one you may want to consider ie eMule - works for me, tho I generally only use it to download remixes and mashups that aren't available commercially
Correct me if I'm wrong Red biggrin
...users should adhere to "no directing" where it's listed in the room name.
Interestingly, we have the default of no whispering in all rooms. What's the view amongst Ops/Admin about the validity of "whispering ok" ones? It seems to work ok but I'm just curious.
Ta
...and a lot of other online indicators don't work at all. I've just checked mine (I'm only in the Forums, have been logged in for 10 minutes and haven't disabled it) and I'm showing as offine.
I've not managed to find a single person who shows as online recently....wasn't there another thread about this which seemed to indicate there's a general problem with the setting?
:uhoh:
Heard an article during the week on the local radio about Charlotte Church's wedding - apparently (so the rumour goes) she was looking at a castle in Wales and was keen to hire it until she was advised it's a well known dogging site.
Anyone else hear about this?
rotflmao
I've seen this topic come up with interest. Only had the chance to have a speed-read through some of the points put forward so far so I'll come back and digest it in detail during the week.
One initial observation I'd like to make is that the subject was raised as a result of an article published in the Lancet, contributed to by learned medical professionals. The Home Office are poo-poohing its content.
Which are you more likely to believe (particularly given recent exposes of incompetence): the medical profession or the Home Office?
Quote by Drewxcore

speaking of powerpoint, does anyone know how to unlock the hidden porn it has in it as ive forgotten sad

Hidden porn in powerpoint :shock:
yes mallock, im amazed you didnt know.
Theres an advent calendar with a naked lady behind each door, thats one of the things i remember.
Theres also a hidden game on excel
Ah - Easter Eggs. There's a few websites dedicated to these hidden gems found in software, DVDs and other places. Hidden pieces of code or film/audio that you have to hunt down and enable with a special code or specific keystroke....try here:

The Easter Eggs change with different versions of software though, so what you've found in one version of Excel won't necessarily feature in an earlier or later version. Didn't find your advent calendar listed.
From eBay's viewpoint, I'd presume it's also going to depend on the payment methods he quoted in his advert.
They say cash isn't recommended in their help screens (which I realise isn't much help to you either at this stage).
I'd think if someone at eBay has any common sense, they'd realise you couldn't have duped the bloke if you have the paperwork that goes with the bike. That's your main proof that he must have been satisfied with the transaction otherwise he wouldn't have handed it over.
Quote by sparkly_minx
you have to totally trust your partner.... it can take a few attempts..(and patience!)
we brought this lube called 'fisting gel' and its seriously good stuff.....(so it should be for £20!)i thought mr Minx would never get his fist in there...but this stuff works magic
and it didnt hurt at all (and i am very petite)
good luck!!! x ♥ x

If you want some recommendations on other good lubes to use for fisting (or other heavier insertion play), here's a few that come up regularly on sites dealing with this side of sex:
Eros/Pjuur - silicon based, odorless, colourless, never dries out
Jlube - originally developed as a vetinary lube. Buy it pre-mixed or as a powder you dissolve into water. Forms extended polymers that stay "wet" for ages. Easy to clean off
Crisco - yes the all-American cooking fat. Not suitable for use with condoms or latex gloves
Lots of shops sell other prioprietary lubes (usually at a considerably higher price). What you need to look for is something that is viscous and doesn't dry out.
If you're doing this (particularly if it's a new experience), you should try to avoid being faceless from drink or other imbibements. The fister and fistee need to be attuned to what is happening and alchohol etc can dull the senses so that you ignore any signals your body may be sending.
Take your time and relax - don't force things. Ensure you're comfortable (particularly important for the fistee). Don't start out for the first time being determined to take it all come what may - it takes most people some time to manage it and it won't happen easily (or at all) on every occasion. Be just as gentle coming out as going in. Make sure your nails are trimmed and filed. No sharp edges and no jewellery (even under gloves).
Taking a fist (vaginally or anally) is partially physical and partially psychological. A gyno friend of mine once remarked that every adult has the potential - both openings are basically muscle. It's about learning the technique and having patience that allows you to practice it successfully.
There are loads of very well informed sites online dedicated to this. Just google it (also trying "handballing" - the American term).
Quote by cu3b4ll
Mini-hijack here.... I often wonder why, when we have to put a user name and password into SH, the site is not running under secure HTTPS? Especially significant in light of another thread debating people's need for privacy and the recent warnings about identity theft on social networking sites. dunno

My guess would be that as we don't put our full names, addresses or financial information into the general pages (or is anyone giving away their life history on here?), there's probably not much need for that level of security.
Setting up secure pages is an admin overhead that they can probably do without.
Quote by jaymar
Blimey - what a load of good memories...I used to DJ at a Blitz/New Romantic club in the 80s so I've got loads of stuff from then.

Aaah the new romantic era, Adam and the Ants was the look wasn't it? correct me if I'm wrong, was it the long frilly sleeves and general attire that gave the new romantic it's name.
Can anyone remember "the Hitman and Her" usually on a Friday night back late 80's early 90's?? cool
Hitman and Her!! LOL - I used to watch this when I came back from clubbing, much the worse for wear and usually with a kebab in hand (or down my shirt)...what was that awful "on the pull" game they used to play? And the endless drivel talk from the girls loo as well? Michaela Strachan....whatever happened to her? Do you also remember Clive (the black dancer that used to wear the day-glo wigs)?
And yes, frilly shirts....lots of tartan (or black in the latter period), wedge blond haircuts with a crimson section underneath for blokes, fan earrings, the dance where you held hands and air-kissed as you lifted your knees across each other's waists, dancing on your own in front of the best mirror on the dancefloor whilst sucking your lips in....do I remember more than is considered healthy?
<sings> "Yes, ah remember eet well" </sings>
Quote by fabio
Isn't this the reason why they said for the internet use a credit card when you have fraud protection as opposed to a debit card where you don't???

Yes you're right - always use a credit card for internet purchases if you're not 100% satisfied you'll get the goods.
If there are any problems you can ask the credit card company to intervene in the dispute (and most will put the disputed item onto a suspense account if asked, so you don't need to pay for it whilst it's being investigated).
For purchases under a lot of the companies simply write off the cost of the transaction because it's cheaper than doing a full investigation; they'll ask you to sign an indemnity form tho - they monitor "serial transaction disputers" so you can't use it as a regular excuse in an attempt to get away with not paying for things you've actually received.
And always remember to look for the padlock in your browser window before entering any personal details. That guarantees the information is encrypted.
Coming up soon - I've started compiling the new questions. Keep an eye in here as I'll be advertising it in plenty of time to take part. The next one will probably be on a Sunday evening.