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Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 47
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I had no idea the horse had actually died...it's cruel and ought to be stopped.
I watch the Palio di Siena every year (the race that is displayed in the latest 007 movie)...it's a race that is very hard on the horses, and has been run for centuries, but it's been ages now since the last horse actually died because of it.
I understand the traditional value of certain events, but if the safety is so poor, then really something should be done.
thanks for posting this. it helps my resolve to stay away from betting altogether.
I watch the Palio di Siena every year (the race that is displayed in the latest 007 movie)...it's a race that is very hard on the horses, and has been run for centuries, but it's been ages now since the last horse actually died because of it.
I understand the traditional value of certain events, but if the safety is so poor, then really something should be done.
thanks for posting this. it helps my resolve to stay away from betting altogether.
the cure, any good merengue song, skunk anansie, most classics from the 80's, lou reed (walk on the wild side, good for walking AND for the bedroom;) although there you might not want to use your ipod), anything light, with a decent rythm and that has a general feelgood vibe should do the trick
but if you plan to walk around town do call..because I want to see it :giggle:
but if you plan to walk around town do call..because I want to see it :giggle:
loves: Ipod...great for walking around town...hide the headphones under your hair, big smile on your face, take the first step and everybody else can stuff themselves. (they'll take you for a lunatic, but, who cares?)
satnav...wouldn't know my way out of my pj's without it (not that I wear any)
it helps on the job and if it wasn't for my tomtom I would never have get laid last night. (because I'm a gentleman and have yet to find a local girl)
hates: my iron...no matter how long I stand there ironing my clothes, my shirts look worse than before.
not sure it's the iron's fault though.
satnav...wouldn't know my way out of my pj's without it (not that I wear any)
it helps on the job and if it wasn't for my tomtom I would never have get laid last night. (because I'm a gentleman and have yet to find a local girl)
hates: my iron...no matter how long I stand there ironing my clothes, my shirts look worse than before.
not sure it's the iron's fault though.
Quote by Witchy
<something funny>
:shock:
a joke more or less in this direction:
On a little boys first day of kindergarden his grandpa was driving him to school. They passed a field of cows and the little boy said, "Look grandpa, moo moos." His grandpa said, "You're going to kindergarden now, you have to talk like a big boy. Those are cows." "Okay grandpa, cows."
A few minutes later they drove past a train and the little boy said, "Look grandpa choo choo." And the grandpa said, "What did I tell you. You have to talk like a big boy now. That's a train." "Okay grandpa, train."
Later that day when the little boy got home from school the grandpa asked, "What did you do in school today?" And the boy said, "Well we fingerpainted, played with the blocks, had nap and the teacher read us a story about Winnie The Shit."
moved here bit more than a year ago, the company I work for is in Italy..family is mostly there too..and my parents both know what I'm upto even if I didn't need to go into details.
in this time I've made precious little friends and most of them through this sort of websites.
I'm single, have no children...so all in all it's still pretty safe for me to put my ugly mug out there.
when things will start rolling, socially, and if I find myself a girlfriend..things may change..untill then, I ain't bovvered.
in this time I've made precious little friends and most of them through this sort of websites.
I'm single, have no children...so all in all it's still pretty safe for me to put my ugly mug out there.
when things will start rolling, socially, and if I find myself a girlfriend..things may change..untill then, I ain't bovvered.
Quote by benrums0n
I agree that SH is pretty dire at communication.
In terms of privacy though I always work on the basis that anything I send to a WEB site becomes public. Its not a terribly secure environment.
very true..but there is a difference between public and "at disposal of a money making company to do as they see fit with it"..especially if the company in question is paid by me in the first place to serve as a social network in wich to play in safety...it's a bit taking the piss
in fact, I guess we're all to blame, partially, in that probably 90% of us, including me, have just pressed the "I agree" button without actually reading the contract we were signing
I've been reading through the contract today and there are a few things that really make me laugh out loud..
the notion that a clause can be put in a contract, saying that one of the parties is free to modify said contract as they please and say fit is worthy of a prize for comedy.
If I were to unilaterally change the commercial conditions of any contract I have going with any of my customers, in whatever small detail, my company would get sued for all they're worth.
on the same principle, if, until today, the website has acted in one way about my pics, and now intends to change the way they act about it, the right thing to do would be to ask me to confirm my agreement with the new conditions under which the website operates.
now I'm of course sure that all of this is covered in some other half hidden clause..and that there are probably half a dozen legal arguments against what I just said..
but still..the possibility to opt out of new "improvements" and variations should be granted at every stage, and not entertain a loss of privileges.
actually, if someone of the mods or admins could tell me where in the contract I've signed over the rights to my personal image to them, I'd appreciate it, because I might have missed it (Serious question, I'm not trying to be funny)
as I see it, I've given this website my pic for them to custody, and to allow me to use it within the closed circuit of this website, through the "instruments" that this website is made of..
I've paid for them to store the immage..not for them to use it..the same way a photography studio is paid to print my holiday photographies, and is not allowed to put any of them in the shop-window.
come to think of it, they would be better off with professional pics anyway. if they want to lure members through pics, let them use their own..or have some made by someone willing, or paid for it.
that depends on what you write on the paper fish...
it's the same in Italy..I remember at school the most common thing would be a "smack me"-fish...
hardly original or funny...except when youre 10
I was actually surprised to find out that here in england it only goes on 'till midday.
different strokes..
it's the same in Italy..I remember at school the most common thing would be a "smack me"-fish...
hardly original or funny...except when youre 10
I was actually surprised to find out that here in england it only goes on 'till midday.
different strokes..
to me the question is very much reduced to a simple reasoning
AIDS is out there. is there a possibility, however small, that unprotected sex can expose me to it? yes there is.
random sex (or swinging) means I probably don't know the girl all that well, and on top of that she's probably promiscuous as well with other men and/or women.
is there a cure for AIDS? nope
I don't think I'll manage to find 300 girls in a year..but in the end, it only takes one.
statistics are all very well, but it's the individual that counts.
all in all I'll play it safe and use a condom.
AIDS is out there. is there a possibility, however small, that unprotected sex can expose me to it? yes there is.
random sex (or swinging) means I probably don't know the girl all that well, and on top of that she's probably promiscuous as well with other men and/or women.
is there a cure for AIDS? nope
I don't think I'll manage to find 300 girls in a year..but in the end, it only takes one.
statistics are all very well, but it's the individual that counts.
all in all I'll play it safe and use a condom.
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stuff
I'm very happy that the lady seems to be holding up quite well even though, in the long run she will eventually die of AIDS (unless a cure is finally found)..
I'm also quite happy that she wasn't a swinger and wasn't having unprotected sex...can you picture the devastation she could have brought about in 10 years of random sex?
Quote by brucie
for the avoidance of doubt. after i tested negative i thought to myself "hmm, youre lucky. maybe use a condom from now on ".
but that doesnt change the fact that my perception now is that the risks for straight men are overcooked. ofcourse there is a risk, but smaller than getting cancer.
and we all have to die someday. im mid 40s. ive had a vasectomy after 3 kids. i really dont want to live much past 60. so hiv is not at the top of my list of worries.
you sound like the man who decides to pass a red light, arguing that if it has to happen it's karma...and if he runs someone over, then that was his karma too.
as long as you're doing it to yourself, frankly, who cares..I'm just appaled at the fact that you seem to be perfectly fine with putting, or having put, others at letal risk
as for the whole dying at 60..you might die by then..but why risk a painful and long drawn way to go?
yes, you're not forcing anybody, but that doesn't take away the fact that you are not helping them either...you should know better, and if you do realize how lucky you've been you might as well "spread the word", or more simply, protect them from themselves if THEY don't know better
as for your perception..is flawed because it's based on personal experience..and unless the number of your shags are such that they are statistically relevant, that's a rather limited experience. if you look at the numbers, you'll see that the risk is still there, and specifically on the rise during heterosexual intercourse. if that doesn't alter the perception..then you just don't want to change them.
as a single straight guy who's just recently signed up for a proper membership, I feel the problem too, but I have a bit of experience from other websites and have learned patience.
sometimes I do contact people who are maybe looking for a bi guy...but that's mainly to pay homage to the pictures and vids I've been perving :P
I'm anything but pushy...
but I must say that it's true that even when on the profile there is no explicit "don't contact us if you're male", even if single straight males are amongst the "preference" stated on the profile, be it of single girls or couples...even when I only answer to those adds that actually ASK for single guys to get in touch...
so far I've had 3 answers in total, to mails I've sent..mails of the polite letshaveashag variety... (a couple off non sollicited welcome nods about posts in the forum, I have not counted)
of those, 2 from the same girl..girl I've chatted with in one of the chatrooms.
I haven't really approached all that many people, overall..but it's still a rate of 1 answer every 15-20 PMs sent
(which I realise is a "good" rate, but still not getting anywhere...since the answers where on the line of "thanks but no thanks"...which is still better than being ignored)
yes, it's true that there are an overwelming number of single men compared to any other "category" but that still doesn't make it polite to ignore point blank whoever contacts you, if he answers to the criteria of those you're looking for.
I know for a fact I'm not pushy, false, coarse or insistent..I also know that you can't just charme everybody
... and that most people will just not like my profile.. or my post will rub them the wrong way...still...
most of the people who get on the soapbox will say things like "we don't answer to you because you're a pain in the arse and you don't get a hint, or worse you're just gross"...but you don't really seem to make any distinction and just refuse any of us point blank..even those who aren't a pain in the ass, aren't pushy and only need to be told once.
and yes..I consider myself one of the latter..arrogance? maybe
it really comes down to education. I've stressed in my profile that I'm straight..if a bloke gets in touch I still read his post and answer.
the funny thing is that my posts appear to be read...so somebody has gone through the trouble of reading them..and then hasn't found the time to say "no thanks"
sometimes you really get the feeling that there are people who think that because they're very much sought after, this gives them the right to be rude (and this goes beyond the simple "not answering the mail"..and is a trend I've noticed on several websites)
right
sometimes I do contact people who are maybe looking for a bi guy...but that's mainly to pay homage to the pictures and vids I've been perving :P
I'm anything but pushy...
but I must say that it's true that even when on the profile there is no explicit "don't contact us if you're male", even if single straight males are amongst the "preference" stated on the profile, be it of single girls or couples...even when I only answer to those adds that actually ASK for single guys to get in touch...
so far I've had 3 answers in total, to mails I've sent..mails of the polite letshaveashag variety... (a couple off non sollicited welcome nods about posts in the forum, I have not counted)
of those, 2 from the same girl..girl I've chatted with in one of the chatrooms.
I haven't really approached all that many people, overall..but it's still a rate of 1 answer every 15-20 PMs sent
(which I realise is a "good" rate, but still not getting anywhere...since the answers where on the line of "thanks but no thanks"...which is still better than being ignored)
yes, it's true that there are an overwelming number of single men compared to any other "category" but that still doesn't make it polite to ignore point blank whoever contacts you, if he answers to the criteria of those you're looking for.
I know for a fact I'm not pushy, false, coarse or insistent..I also know that you can't just charme everybody
... and that most people will just not like my profile.. or my post will rub them the wrong way...still...most of the people who get on the soapbox will say things like "we don't answer to you because you're a pain in the arse and you don't get a hint, or worse you're just gross"...but you don't really seem to make any distinction and just refuse any of us point blank..even those who aren't a pain in the ass, aren't pushy and only need to be told once.
and yes..I consider myself one of the latter..arrogance? maybe
it really comes down to education. I've stressed in my profile that I'm straight..if a bloke gets in touch I still read his post and answer.
the funny thing is that my posts appear to be read...so somebody has gone through the trouble of reading them..and then hasn't found the time to say "no thanks"
sometimes you really get the feeling that there are people who think that because they're very much sought after, this gives them the right to be rude (and this goes beyond the simple "not answering the mail"..and is a trend I've noticed on several websites)
right
his post was intentionally provocative..said so himself
and the only reason I keep replying to it and to him in particular even though I know it's a windup (of course it still is even if he has replied..that's what trolls do to keep the fun rolling)...is that the subject does indeed neeed to be highlighted
and the only reason I keep replying to it and to him in particular even though I know it's a windup (of course it still is even if he has replied..that's what trolls do to keep the fun rolling)...is that the subject does indeed neeed to be highlighted
IF and I repeat IF the rating system is to identify and classify the different quality of the pictures...
(I think by now even the most retarded amongst us, which would probably be me, has understood that whatever the intent, probably it WILL be misused)..
can you please explain to me what purpose it serves, to know that there are x number of photos of quality 2, and y number of quality 7 or 10? who would ever go and look for pics of quality less than say, 5? and who in his right mind would ever rate his pic 1 or 2?
seriously..what is the practical application of having a series of pictures rated 2-3 or 4? who would benefit from it?
as I see it, not the profile holders, as they would never be "looked for"..not the pervers, because they'd not be interested..the website then? how?
something tells me we'll all end up with profiles selfrated at top levels..which defeats the purpose of rating.
(I think by now even the most retarded amongst us, which would probably be me, has understood that whatever the intent, probably it WILL be misused)..
can you please explain to me what purpose it serves, to know that there are x number of photos of quality 2, and y number of quality 7 or 10? who would ever go and look for pics of quality less than say, 5? and who in his right mind would ever rate his pic 1 or 2?
seriously..what is the practical application of having a series of pictures rated 2-3 or 4? who would benefit from it?
as I see it, not the profile holders, as they would never be "looked for"..not the pervers, because they'd not be interested..the website then? how?
something tells me we'll all end up with profiles selfrated at top levels..which defeats the purpose of rating.
I'll throw in one more...
since you make the assumption straight men have statistically less chances of getting HIV...(btw, the assumption is in fact wrong as is reported in the included links)
say you meet a perfectly healthy looking, non addicted girl
say that about a week before meeting you, she has had drunken sex with someone else..maybe someone she did not even know
and say that that person is bi..or in a partnership with a drugs addict or maybe a perfectly clean ex con, who's had a nasty encounter whilst in jail... and has had sex with whichever of the above options you choose
still so sure about your chances?
I don't want to scare anybody, but I suggest a thorough reading of the following links:
the main page
uk statistics.
it appears that since before the year 2000, the number of yearly HIV positive diagnoses resulted from straight intercourse is actually higher than that due to intercourse between men
yes, the mortality has fallen drastically, but that's only and simply because now we have better drugs that can delay, I repeat DELAY, the effects of HIV developing in full blown AIDS. it is still true that once you've got it you're fucked.
the above is also confirmed here:
furthermore, if you have a look at the other links you'll find in the homepage, you'll discover that the number of black males that have been diagnosed is equal to that of white males..even though about one male in 100 is black, and 90% of the male population is white. (sorry girls, apparently "going black" can be quite risky)
also, sadly, the number of HIV infected women is very much on the rise
right..now I'm depressed
still..better depressed with a condom in my pocket, than jolly and without.
since you make the assumption straight men have statistically less chances of getting HIV...(btw, the assumption is in fact wrong as is reported in the included links)
say you meet a perfectly healthy looking, non addicted girl
say that about a week before meeting you, she has had drunken sex with someone else..maybe someone she did not even know
and say that that person is bi..or in a partnership with a drugs addict or maybe a perfectly clean ex con, who's had a nasty encounter whilst in jail... and has had sex with whichever of the above options you choose
still so sure about your chances?
I don't want to scare anybody, but I suggest a thorough reading of the following links:
the main page
uk statistics.
it appears that since before the year 2000, the number of yearly HIV positive diagnoses resulted from straight intercourse is actually higher than that due to intercourse between men
yes, the mortality has fallen drastically, but that's only and simply because now we have better drugs that can delay, I repeat DELAY, the effects of HIV developing in full blown AIDS. it is still true that once you've got it you're fucked.
the above is also confirmed here:
furthermore, if you have a look at the other links you'll find in the homepage, you'll discover that the number of black males that have been diagnosed is equal to that of white males..even though about one male in 100 is black, and 90% of the male population is white. (sorry girls, apparently "going black" can be quite risky)
also, sadly, the number of HIV infected women is very much on the rise
right..now I'm depressed
still..better depressed with a condom in my pocket, than jolly and without.
Quote by Squiffsif there wasn't a stigma around it, everyone would go around having unprotected sex with whomever they pleased, and it WOULD become a problem. it's only NOT a problem because people are aware of the risk and most people take precautions to prevent it. if everyone behaved in the reckless way that you are, then it would be far more prevalent.
the reaction i expected.
yes my OP was intentionally provocative, but i think most of you are missing the point.
i ride a motorbike. that is far riskier than unprotected sex.
im not saying thereisnt a risk, but im saying teh stigma around that risk has blown it out of all proportion in society and especially in this environment.
very true..squiffs
brucie..tell me..do you go out on your bike pissed or stoned, in the rain, without a helmet and do you do wheelies at 70mph with the gale blowing?
or do you think that to do so you'd have to have a death wish and prefer to act as a sensible driver and play it safe?
I hope I don't have to spell out the analogy
Quote by brucie
even the doc said you would have had to have been very very unlucky even with your history...
actually this phrase should have made us all aware that is was indeed a wind up
what doctor would ever say such an idiotic thing and reassure a client who's having random unprotected sex that doing so is the right thing to do and quite low risk?
