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Quote by Cherrytree
As someone who works with children with varying degrees of disability i find only one sentence in the whole piece to be disturbing
'I would like to see him with a girlfriend. I would prefer to see him with a girlfriend who doesn't have Downs.

Yes it was a strange comment - I wonder why she would have that preference?
possibly because she was thinking about the future, where she wouldn't be around anymore and wanted somebody to be ther in case he needed help/assistance?
yes, it was an odd thing to say, but probably more so because taken into the context of this article..who knows what way the information or indeed the interview has been touched up by the press...
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Quote by Bonedigger
a)mum shouldnt be involved in pimping him out like that.
b)Hes admitting hes looking for a girl....any girl just to pop his cherry, which is a sad way to be at 21 (IMHO for which im allowed lol)

A)I've worked with people affected by down syndrome for a year. during that time, I've found that most of them are quite childlish and defenceless, almost innocent you could say. of course this varies huguely with different levels of education, proper "follow up", different levels of "mental ability" etcetera.. I know also that the younger generation of those affected by this syndrome are quite more self assured and knowledgeable than their predecessors, mostly because they're much better followed, but I believe they still are quite dependant on those who care for them.
I am not surprised that the mother (adopted mother btw, and we don't know at what age) is part of this "issue". it's quite likely that the man has turned to her himself for help and, to some extent, protection.
b)quite frankly, I suspect that any man, in his heart of hearts, finding himself a virgin at 21, would have exactly the same feelings about the issue... somewhere in the line of "as long as she breathes" :lol: ... that the man is affected by Down syndrome does not make a difference.
as for the rest, yes, I agree, they should not have taken it to the press..and more so, I blame the press for actually running the story. it's a cheap bit of sensationalism that does no good to anybody...
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I reckon living a thousand miles away has something to do with it.. lol
that and the fact he's a pathetic fuck of 70, but still the father of a brother and sister of mine
If I had the money I'd give him a dose of his own medicine and take him for every penny he's worth..but it's a lost cause...
sadly not even him dying will make much of a difference, as his other daughter will start feuding over the inheritance before he's in the ground..
anyway, to get back on topic, I must agree with what most of you have said, but feel we should not forget that every case is a different one.
there are just too many factors involved in violence inside a couple, to stand here trying to find a general rule by which to "judge"..if judge we must.
I'm quite miffed about the fact that we all seem to be appalled by the statistics but most of us seem to have some history of the same kind in our immediate surroundings.
the world is a harsh place.
edit: if I may trow some more salt into the debate..
since some of us, I'm sure, indulge in BDSM practices where a certain ammount of violence and "psycological domination" comes into play..
where are the limits, and how do these tie in this debate? how do you distinguish "healty sexy fun" from domestics, when the line can be this blurred?
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somehow I believe a number of the ladies in this forum don't follow half of the rules in this post lol
on the other hand, one time my mother asked me and my sister to put the trash out...my sister turned towards me and told me she couldn't do it because she wasn't wearing the right shoes
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violence can assume many disguises.
my mother's second important relation (read the father of 2 of her children) only struck her once, apparently by mistake. he is not a violent man.
even so, she stayed with him for 10 years. why? he made her feel guilty, weak and needing. she had 2 little children to take care off, and her income depended on him. her closest relative (if you take my father her previous partner out of the equation) live 800miles away, and she would be alone.
so she remained in a psycologically abusive relationship. one that has scarred 3 of my brothers and sisters and herself forever.
one day 15 years ago she upped and left with her children, choosing to live a life of hardship rather than subjecting the children to the situation any longer.
to this day, she's working odd jobs, he's sitting on a pile of cash, and every year she receives a new injunction by the court, when he accuses her of the most ludicrous of things over and over again, just so he can keep her down and financially unstable..to make her pay for leaving him.
legally, there is no way to stop him from doing so.
I'm not a violent man and what violence I had in me, the martial arts training I received during my school years took out of me...
but sometimes I wish I were.
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I call :bs: on that
key cards have enough trouble as it is trying to retain the roomnumber..
I've been told by relatives that work in hotels that all there is on the key is a code which determines if the door should be opened or locked..
in fact all the personal data of hotel clients are recorded by the hotel management at the front desk. this is a legal requirement in most european countries. (anti terrorism, etc etc)..I remember filling that sort of info myself when I did a brief stint as a reception clerk.
since we already had that info, why put it in cards? there's absolutely no reason to do that, and to make it happen would require more expensive tecnology than the basic tecnology used for hotel keys.
Edit: I ought to learn to read other people's posts before answering by repeating the same info for the umphteenth time lol
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yup...but that requires we do so every single topic
I was hoping in something more automated...a default setting related to the topics we've actually answered to.
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so it really can't be done.
then yes, I kindly ask the code-monkeys and wizards in the backroom to work their magic and, to put it in the words of captain Picard, "make it so"
also, from the munch/walflower topic:
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
Further to the request for icons denoting sex and marital status, cou€ld we have extras icons everywhere instead of just in the chatrooms please? At least then we'd know if people knew we were perving their profile redface

more than once I've been perving (and been perved by)repeatedly a profile that had a sexually ambiguous name (not that mine is any better) banghead .
icons please.... worship :worship: all over the place please
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very true on all accounts except one:
Quote by Theladyisaminx
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

he definitely needed them, as he was aiming for china and ended up somewhere else entirely..lol
...he just didn't need them from a woman lol
edit: drat, got ninja'd by ..:giggle:
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tipically me...my first OP and it had to be of an enquiring/tecnical nature...
I find myself forgetting more often than not to flag the appropriate "Notify me when a reply is posted" thingy when I'm posting a reply to a forum topic.
as for me getting involved in a topic means I'm interested in further answers or possible replies to my post, I would like it to be possible to flag the option of being notified in case of further replies in automatic, much the same as happens with the signature, always flagged (unless you change it in your account settings, if I'm not mistaken).
is this something that is already possible, or could it be made possible?
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Quote by fluff_n_stuff
OMG I thought you were female! redface
Or at least part of a couple.
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles
I must remember to perve profiles....
In edit: although, apart from the single male icon, your profile doesn't actually say what you are so I may have read it before and not noticed confused

single male icon?? where, who?
seriously..is there a way to tell who's behind a nickname without going and perve the profile? I more often than not am unable to make the distinction except in the chatroom where it's kinda obvious.
could "sex identifying icons" be brought all over the place and used everywhere please?
or are they already and am I too daft to notice them?
/OTEND
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Quote by niceguysdoexist
I tend to find someone I know and latch on to them for dear life looking I guess more of a wall nettle I guess would describe me.I do love badge watching though and putting faces to icons.
My hearing is also none too brilliant and I can't actually hear very much when there is background music so struggle to hear what people are saying and although I can lip read I am only really good at it if I know the person well. (accents and things throw me)quote]
I am so glad there's someone else that has the same problem as poor hearing comes from lots of ear infections when I was a kid and being beaten up once which perforated my ear drum. Whenever there's lots of background noise I struggle to hear general conversation and I feel embarrased when I say pardon for the 5th time or ask the person next to me what was sai. It's a real social well I'll just have to feel my way around smile

Thirded. biggrin
I have trouble as well because of years abusing my hearing (weekends of clubbing 'til 6 in the morning next to a 2kw speaker tends to make you slightly mutton sad )
we ought to start a club...lol
am a bit better than that, in that my hearing problems aren't really critical (but yes, eye-mouth contact helps)..
ear infections as a child, perforated eardrums..been there, done the lot...in my case it was an effin' wasp that did it, at age 6..that and flying with an ear infection as a baby didn't help either.
anyhoo..back on topic...definitely wallflower. when I meet people I know I can be very lively..but otherwise, taking that first step is going to be a problem for me, as I'm a flower of the sulking variety...I even come over as standoffish, when truth is that I'm simply shy..duh
haven't been to a munch, 'till now..
will consider the option
actually I'm making friends with a girl..and we'd come together...which means we could always chat the night away/get bladdered/bugger off and have fun in the bushes :giggle:
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really strong espresso with equal parts of lemon. I've been told it works miracles
had my first 3some with a married couple :happy: :thrilled: am now officially a swinger
(unless you also count sex with single ladies..in which case, I already was)
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never been to one, as they don't happen that often where I come from..
would love though, but...where in cambs do they hold bootsales?
any suggestions on how to find out? don't seem to find anything sensible on google.
A.
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Quote by BIoke
OK, nice pic but I opened your profile and switched off before even starting to read the content - the WAY you've laid out the text makes it really hard to read easily - maybe change the layout, use of paragraphs etc?
Oh, and your penis is smaller than his wink

right...I've taken on board what you said, reshuffled the text and split it up a bit, in order to make it sorta readable..still too long, but..whatever...this will have to do.
thanks for the imput.
as for the penis...well..good for him lol
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I guess it's too much to hope for at least one victory for the italian team?
grumblegrubmlesweargrumble...
good thing at least here I can cheer them without starting a political debate...not that it won't be a waste of breath
Forza Italia!!
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the legal disclaimer thingy is indeed a good idea and I'm adding it to my profile as I write..
your profile seems sensible and does comfort me, as I thought mine was probably too longwinded.. I see now that people aren't scared by a few words more than average..which is good.
I still think I'm doing something wrong though, in fact..if I don't offend anybody, I'd love to hijack the topic and ask for similar feedback on the quality of my profile as well.
am I going wrong somewhere?
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I just hope it wasn't my reaction on the purpoted suppremacy of english cheese, that caused the deletion rotflmao :grin: :evil2:
english cheese indeed! :giggle:
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well..it started out as a serious remark, but merely about myself (I do prefer to kiss a girl that hasn't just had a fag, but that's just me)
...then I changed my mind and turned it into a general statement/assumption... basically taking the piss(hence the smiley)..but yeah..I do understand in hindsight, how you could take it for a serious remark.
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duh!...that was meant as a joke...lol lol
I'm surprised people took it seriously :giggle:
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I know..a bit of an assumption there..lol
truth is, I've seen them talk like that on this very subject in 3 different countries now...I guess I'm getting a bit sarky
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you're right..it is arrogant..but politicians are arrogant...that wasn't me speaking as I wouldn't be so smug about it..I was merely relaying what they would probably say in the face of who told them "we have a right to smoke"..
from a purely factual point of view, they are, when banning smoking, acting for the greater good...even though this will come at the cost for those who would like to smoke
and they'll rub your face in it all the way through..
arrogant? yep..it is.
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No one is saying that non smokers should not have the legally protected right to clean air, that I completely and totally agree with. I'm not even saying that smokers should be afforded an equal share of establishments that allow smoking, merely a percentage that reflects the amount of smokers in society (about 25% of adults I believe?)
So 1 in every 4 pubs is a smoking pub, staffed by smokers who agree to work there, run by smokers and frequented by smokers and any non smoker who wishes too, the other 3 are strictly non smoking establishments with stiff penalties for those flouting the rule.
So there's your law which protects your health, but wonder of wonder, everyones choice is respected.
Not so hard is it?

true, and I agree broadly with what you're saying..I was just nitpicking on that very argument, which I found illogical
I don't think however your solution would be applicable on a practical level..who is going to control that people actually are aware of the "smoking situation" in said pubs?
but more importantly, what if the village is small and there is only one pub? I'd rather have a smoking room in restaurants and pubs..adequately equipped with air filters and such.
I think however that blaming the smoking ban for causing the closing down of pubs is a bit like blaming the government for causing the bankrupcy of asbestos related industry.
I believe is that the fleeting benefit of the "nice first puff of the day", as much as one might like smoking, simply is outweighted by the benefits not smoking gives, to personal health, the health of those who surrounds us and our pockets..(my aunt is a heavy smoker..she worked out that every two years she could go on holiday to the bahamas, if she quit and put the money towards that instead)
this alone should be enough to any person of common sense, to choose not to smoke..but the simple truth is that the "pleasure smoking gives" is hiding a more disturbing fact..nicotine is addictive, and that's the main reason why otherwise strongminded people choose to damage themselves.
"I like smoking", some will say...well..why not find something else that you might like or enjoy more, but which is not detrimental to your health and more importantly to that of those you care about?
how many mothers have quit smoking during pregnancy "because it's bad for the baby" only to start smoking around their newborns as soon as they could? does that not strike as a waste of effort?
I've smoked myself for one full year, started for the wrong reasons, and quit when those reasons faded away..wrong all the way through, but I'm not a hardcore "smokefighter"..in fact most of my friends are smokers and I will tag along when they go out of the pub for a smoke. but I appreciate the fact that I'm not forced anymore, that I can decide to stay in the pub and not have to breathe their fags if I so choose to do..after all, they/you're doing their bit regardless of the fact it might cause me harm..then the least I feel to have the right to ask of them is that they do so outside, without blowing the smoke in my pint/dish/face.
after all, we all know that the government witholding the total ban on tobacco, for only one reason:
as of today they're still making more money from taxes in the tobacco industry than they loose from research on smoking related diseases, cancer, nhs funding for people admitted with said diseases..
the moment that scale tips over the other way, smoking is going to become a memory...and for any politician it's better to take the moral highground and say "I'm tipping the scale a little" than do it all in one go and being responsable for people going out of work or broke AND loosing the government a steady flow of cash..hence the slow pace at which they're doing it, but they WILL do it nevertheless...and no matter how much smokers might gripe and murmur in the process, in the end, it WILL be better for their health and pockets too.
(come to think of it, that's the beauty of the process..because no matter how strong the opposition of the smokers, whoever puts these bans into effect, can always say "I'm doing it for their own good" and he'd be right all the way through lol)
then again..there is another IMPORTANT reason wherefore it's better not to smoke
most people today are non smokers...and most of the non smokers, if asked, will tell you that kissing a non smoker is better than snogging somebody who's just had a fag :evil2:
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