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Midlandsman1970

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26 Oct 2004

Quote by neilinleeds
You can't be a single person and a swinger, as you can go down town and sleep with different people each week but as a single would you call it swinging? And you can't swing singularily from a couple without your partner knowing cos thats just cheating.

i'm not sure i see the analogy. if a single male found himself in a room with say 5 or 6 other people all engaged in sexual activity, well surely that can only be described as swinging, by even the strictest definition! what if a single male had a swinging partner where they could not and would not describe themselves as a couple yet have decided to explore things together? i don't think it is possible to define swinging itself. it's too broad.
yet the fact remains, it is not primarily those sexual encounters that mean the most, for me.
i can't see why some are getting so defensive ((( and even offensive in fact! ))) about their position, when noone is challenging it? the question, as has already been pointed out, is what does swinging mean to you, not what is the absolute minimum definition of swinging?
neil x x x ;)
Sorry neil it wasn't intended to be either. redface

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26 Oct 2004

Quote by Reese
As a (now) single swinging to me is couples having sex with other couples where all of the parties are actively involved. You can't be a single person and a swinger, as you can go down town and sleep with different people each week but as a single would you call it swinging?

I do undertand what you're saying about singles "sleeping around" with other singles and not necessarily considering that to be swinging, but what about those who get involved with couples? As a couple, Vix & I have had quite a number of enjoyable encounters with single males. For us, that's as much "swinging" as when we're entertaining another couple. Is it all that different from our single partners' perspectives?
~Reese! surprised

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But is the single a swinger??? i don't think so, as you said the single sleeps around (not intended derogatorily) with different people. I am a single man, not a swinger in my own opinion.
I believe the couple is yes.
(I like couples, oops single guy mentality) biggrin

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26 Oct 2004

Its a crying shame there's been loads of good stuff on the radio today driving back from Halesowen. sad

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26 Oct 2004

Paint it black by the stones, i like the stones can u tell biggrin

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26 Oct 2004

Everyone will have a different opinion and everyone has different views,
As a (now) single swinging to me is couples having sex with other couples where all of the parties are actively involved.
You can't be a single person and a swinger, as you can go down town and sleep with different people each week but as a single would you call it swinging? And you can't swing singularily from a couple without your partner knowing cos thats just cheating.
Friendships may come from this site and swingers having munches and meets but i wouldn't think that anyone can honestly say they join a SWINGERS site soley to make friends.
If it was just friendship then there are other sites out there just for that, you have to be interested in the swinging scene if only to fuel a fantasy about swining that you may never act upon.
I already have good friends but i also want to make new friends that are able to share my interests and me theirs, iwon't lie, i want to have sex and if the two mingle into one as it were then all the better.
I want to try new things and push my boundaries, this site is a way for me to do that which is more easily attainable than going on the pull at the weekend down town.
As regards the lets meet up, i have a laugh at some of the "Fuck me now" posts and single men get few replies or insults, but single women get loads of replies and yes women do post the same requests too.
As long as a post doesn't break any of the site rules then i have a giggle and let it be, if they have the bollox to post such a thread and succeed then good luck to them!!
Personally i would love to put up a post in "the lets meet up" but having read other posts about single men and for fear of riddicule as a newbie so to speak, and not getting any favourable replies, i have not, should i feel like that as a member of SH?
Maybe some reading this will think "oh god he's just the same as all the others!", if i am then i am, thats me.
I think this is the longest reply ive ever written, time to get off my soapbox and hit the chatroom see ya peeps biggrin

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26 Oct 2004

My average age is 34 rotflmao

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26 Oct 2004

Well to get back on track i like "sympathy for the devil" by the stones. biggrin

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25 Oct 2004

defo

25 Oct 2004

wave

and :welcome: a female and damn i seen her in the chatroom and didn't know!
I'll be watching tomorrow though biggrin

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25 Oct 2004

No im not

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25 Oct 2004

:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:
Im surprised Tripod hasn't asked for a lorry load yet biggrin

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25 Oct 2004

HAPPY BIRTHDAY VICKY
Well have a nice time looks like a great place but it would probably cost me more to get in as a single than the petrol to get there ! biggrin

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25 Oct 2004

There's loads of sites out there, none that i can think of off hand, just do a search but you can be looking at 1000's it all depends what you are into.

just a couple i found for you to look at
(MM1970 takes no responsibility for pop ups or virus's)

25 Oct 2004

its not nice to say but my daughters are always infested eeuuuuwwww, im like claire sitting there like a mother monkey picking them out and biting their little heads off (not really)
They never seem to bother me tho, i think its cos i encase them in hairgell. biggrin

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25 Oct 2004

OR is that an extra hour at the munch, or an extra hour for the lucky ones at the after munch parties? biggrin

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25 Oct 2004

My jar goes down faster than up, my 7(nearly 30)year old keeps taking some out and going to the shop to buy sweets !
I feel sorry for her future husband he'll never have any money, it must be something taught at a very young age mother to daughter, now there's an idea for a thread !!
I feel the daggers and stones coming my way right now, tee hee biggrin

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24 Oct 2004

i bet i could drive home faster and without using a map biggrin

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24 Oct 2004

Maybe, i have been on meets (yes believe or not guys!) its nice to speak with someone on the phone beforehand to get to know them a little first.
Im sure everyone will have different thoughts and in the end its up to you and what you feel comfortable arranging.

24 Oct 2004

wave

and :welcome: to SH have lost of fun fun fun and giggles biggrin

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24 Oct 2004

i won't meet privately unless ive chatted on the phone. And boy can i talk for hours! yes ive had timewaster emails too.
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24 Oct 2004

here for you too.

24 Oct 2004

well done to you :happy:

24 Oct 2004

is this on SH or one from past n present? Think you should have put this in lets meet up maybe! biggrin

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24 Oct 2004

telephone sales get up my nose, i just hang up. My landline is ex dir but they still fecking find it! mad

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24 Oct 2004

sad i know, biggrin

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but i can still go out with 15quid in my pocket and come home with change.

24 Oct 2004

Go on rub it in BOOOO HOOOOOO, im stuck in with the tiddly peeps ! sad

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24 Oct 2004

wave

and :welcome: hayley biggrin

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24 Oct 2004

Waddy look under "terminology" on left hand side, a munch is a gathering in a vanilla environment, its a place to say hi and meet like minded people have a drink and a chat.

24 Oct 2004

YIPPEE JOB

24 Oct 2004

wave

and welcome gailen to :swingingchair: heaven stick with us and have fun biggrin

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